I am a 19 years young outgoing female im honest,oppinionative and a realy good listener/Readrer :).I hope one day to have my own column in a mag or even my own website wer i can help and give advice to anyone.If its just someone to open up to or even just some one to tell ther feelings to im here, but i will be honest and i will not appoligise for any of my oppinions.I hope i dont in any way offend or make anyone feel uncumfartable & i will appoligise for my terrible spelling and grammer ,im not a grade A english student infact i did not get one A in my G.C.S.E's but im very wise and i been through a lot to understand any differnnt type of problem.Im a qualified levle 1 2 & 3 hairstylist allthoough i hate all things girly .If anyone wants to cary on asking my advice and help u can simply inbox me privatley.Thats a bit about me and i hope anyone who asks my advice benifits from it .LoveForever C xxx
Gender: Female
Occupation: qualified hair stylist
Age: 19
AIM: To have my own column & web page
Member Since: November 30, 2011
Answers: 9
Last Update: December 6, 2011
Visitors: 1323
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19/f
Hey. I'm just an ordinary girl at college, and well I have a lot on my mind. My roommate is never around and we don't get along really well. I have a lot on my mind regarding life, love, and struggles that I'm going through. The one thing I really want is just someone to really talk to about these things. I do consider myself social :) but none of my friends really help me out, or I just kinda feel like a burden to them and guilty for always coming to them for help. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed? Oh and I don't have a lot of money so I can't get a counselor or anything. Plus I think that would be awkward. (link)
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Hi,im also 19/f and i no exactly what your going through,im a really outgoing and social person and even though im surrounded by friends i find it hard to talk about certain things, maybe its because i dont actually think they will want to listen or they simply just dont understand me, to be honest i love meeting new people but its hard to do that were im from.Im allways free & here to talk about anything, i dont judge & im realy honest :)if you feel you need advice or just someone to open up to you can e.mail me privately if it helps.
LF xx
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me & my boyfriend brian have been dating for a month. My parents met him, and i've met his parents, and everything is good and well. before we started dating, i was a new friend of his, sense quite frankly he almost kinda scared me in his appearence. Soon i grew attracted to him as the beautiful person he really is.
anyway, as we were getting to know each other, he told me he was a virgin. And for some reason i found that totally adorable and cute and it made me blush.
And although is till find it so cute, i;m starting to worry the tiniest bit. Because i want to keep him a virgin for as long as i possibly can, when and if the moment comes to having sex, would i be in charge of that? i was mever a dominant person, im actually quite shy. so what am i supposed to do in this situation??
16/f 17/m
im not a virgin. (link)
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Hi,my current boyfriend had only had one sexual partner before me were as i had 2 serious relationships before so i obviously had 2 other sexual partners & i also felt a bit scared and worried when it came down to sex.I was kind of embarrassed to be honest because i also didn't actually not what my role was weather i should take control or not but i figured after it it actually was nothing to worry about as long as you both are comfortable,relaxed & both want it i personally wouldn't say there was anything to worry about.
LF xxx
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why can't a guy text a girl without being a total creep? Every guy that texts me either want to have phone sex with me or talks about sex in general and asks me personal questions about my sex life. I'm a virgin. I plan on waiting atleast until I find the right person. I don't want to have phone sex with some random. I know the guys that are texting me, like they go to my school but I never talk to them in person. Why can't a guy just be friends with a girl? I'm 17 btw if that matter. I know that's all guys think about at that age but seriously how can they expect to get any if they're that creepy? I want a guy best friend, why is that so hard to find?!?! (link)
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I compleetly disagree with HAPPY-PILLS i have a lot of best guy friends and only one out of them is gay :/ also not every guy is like this maybe ur just attracting the wrong type of guys , or maybe the guy is just talking to you for one thing, tell him strate and dont listen to perthetic guys with bad advice. Hope i helped LF xxxxx
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I'm 15 and male, my partner is 15 and female. We are both virgins. Is it impossible for us to contract STD's? (link)
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If you are sexually active at any age you can contact std's or sti's (sexually transmited infection)but if you no for sure you both have never had sex before aslong as you use a condom you can not contact any std's ,just incase either of you have a oraly contacted std's or st's (from the mouth through saliver) to feel safe go to your local g.p or health centre and dont be affraid to ask about this,even consider asking a older brother or sister or cousin if u feel embarised.sory for the bad spelling Hope i heped be safe :).Lf xxx
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This is going to be a long story, and I can't believe how I got to this point, but I feel like I have a huge metal problem on my hands.
I started dating my boyfriend last year. He was my first for everything of course, i lost my virginity to him, I opened up to him, told him I loved him. We're still dating to this day;
I remember myself last year, I was happy, random, confident, funny, always making people smile, I was the one giving everyone advice, inspiring everyone. I'm sure he was attracted to my personality,because I felt comfortable with myself.
I'm looking at myself and am finding that I've become completely lost, and on this website asking for some kind of help.
When we first met, I thought he was so handsome, and he was very artistic. Though I've always been confident on the surface, I was paranoid to be myself because I've always been shy with guys i'm into, and hated having my guard down. I liked to keep things light and fun, but every odd and crazy thing I said he didn't really respond to. This only made me try harder, and he did say some things and over time I felt successful in having conversation with him.
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This is very important : He said I reminded him of his ex (who was one of my good friends) But they technically didn't date. they dated for about 2 weeks and she wasn't into him, probably for the same reason as I stated above (he wasn't very..random..interesting..or whatever) **
When we met, he had 2 months until he went off to college to go to art school across the states. In those 2 months we had sex and were very close. Then, we broke up when he moved away.
Throughout the whole time he was across the country, he'd call me every night and we'd continue talking, opening up to each other (so technically,we considered it still dating. more like,on and off) and just becoming really good friends. Of course I wasn't over him,and when he was away I was in a state of deep depression.
He came back winter break, and we were more-so "friends with benefits". This ruined me more, but I would've rather been that than nothing (and I was also friends with his friends- so being together was kind of natural)
Then this time, he left without saying goodbye. I was heartbroken,but I still stayed strong, because I know this wasn't part of my mentality to break down- especially in front of my friends, though I know they could tell I was very much upset.
I finally regained my dignity and cut ties (unanswered phone calls, if there were even any at all).. until he came back this summer and we just "naturally" again, connected.
I told him off the bat that I didn't want to do the whole "benefit" thing again, and he said he wanted to "get to know" me more before we got into a relationship. I agreed, but needless to say that next week we were official again (A lot of my friends didn't approve).
(I'm trying to cut this as short as I can, I really hope you can stick through this!)
Then..some wave came over me. Slowly, I lost contact with all my friends. I became paranoid that I wasn't as good as his ex (my friend-- mind you I hadn't talked to her in awhile). And then his other ex (who is very also friends with his ex. Basically, the two ex's were best friends. They both broke up with him for the same reason)
So what I did was..become friends with his ex's this whole summer. Because I thought- if I hung around them, I'd be like them,and thus he'd like me more. But also- we did become really, really good friends because we were so alike! The catch, is - my boyfriend didn't know I was hanging out with them (he hated one of the girls). He doesn't know I was ever friends with them this whole summer. We went on crazy adventures, had amazing times.
He told me he loved me in the midst of the summer, and I fell more deeply for him and said I loved him as well(of course). Then, I started getting those feelings of ill confidence again. I felt like the ex he compared me to would always be better than me, and that's where I am now. I beat myself up about it from time to time, and I feel like I'm lesser of a person. This is clearly a confidence issue, and I'm afraid he's going just get bored of me because I'm not good enough.
I wish I could give every detail, because I feel like I'm in such a hole of psychotic behavior that I can't get out. I realize what I've done hasn't been normal or right or moral in anyway, and yet- I don't know how fix the way I feel anymore. I feel disconnected with reality, and different from who I used to be. I want to be back to who I was, and I feel like I'm close but something's stifling me. I love my boyfriend very much,and he's never done anything like what I've done (from what I've known). And he lights me up in ways no one else can. He knows more about me now than anyone in my life. Which is valuable, but makes me feel vulnerable. We still get along, but I don't know how to conquer this feeling.
I've cut contact with those two friends, and am trying to get myself back. But I need another perspective, if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it. I hope this wasn't too much torture to read :o thank you! so much (link)
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Hello i just read ur post and thought i would be a help to you as i have been in a simmalar situation,though you will have to excuse my bad spelling. A similar thing happend to me it was about 2 or maybe 3 years ago , i fell in love with a guy i had been speaking to he took me out and we automaticly connected, everything was going fine and even though ther was alot of people who hated us being together for jelousy reason we pushed through evryting with eachother.He was my 1st for evrything my first love first sexual partner wich made evrything even more valuble, he made me happy & even coped with my weird & randmo personality ,i have allways been the type of girl to stand out but not like the attention so when we were together i was not realy used to the way he treated me then things changed.He went on holiday and promised he would call me at least 4 times out of the 2 weeks he was ther wich i was okay about but thought it wasn't enuf (being parranoid) .He was away for 4 days and i didnt get one phone call it broke my heart he told me not to ring or txt his phone because it was a contract phone and it would charge him so strate away i had no way of getting in contact with him cut a long story short i spoke to a girl he used to like a few actually just because they wer friends of mine but didnt ever date and they told me alot more about him than i thought i even new myself it was shocking it was like my boyfriend was not the person i thought he was. Basicly he planned to break up with me and thats another story , before i get carried away with my own story i would jus like to say to you i have compared myself to other girls alot and it hurts becuase im not the size 8 theese girls are i am a healthy 12 and i like it, but when you know the guy you love is attracted to a certain type you automaticly want to mold your self to be like them .I change my whole personality and appearance to plase him he didnt see the differnce ,i lost contact with all my close friends and basicly felt like i was on another planted(similar to you) i think people like us put ourselfes down to much and dont actually understand are own values, this guy you love or loved would of been a very lucky guy because he probly never had or will have the love and conection you 2 have, if you have not allready i would try talking just be yourself tell him everything you want and feel make sure he knows exactly what you feel , i tried this and unfortunatly for me he did not like the truth and we split up i relised i was better than that and even though i thought i would never find a guy like him , i have and now i value myself a lot more and i have the perfect boyfriend who loves me inside and out.i realy hope i helped sory i went on a wile, LF xxxx
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So there's this guy that is a good friend and we're really close. Some people have told me that the age difference wasn't good. We kinda had a thing going on for awhile. Just making out and touching kind of stuff. I'm not having sex. Anyways, I'm 17 and he's 19. In March he'll be 20. So it's like a 2 1/2 year difference. We're waiting till I'm out of high school to get more serious but I was wondering if the age difference is bad even if we're not having sex. (link)
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Hello im 19/f and my boyfriend has just turned 18 so i understand what you mean by age differnce but for me it is the other way around. I personaly dont thing age matters if you care about eachother and you both agree on when to have sex i dont see it in any way bad, aslong as you dont feel forced or pushed in to doing something i dont think ther is anything to wory about.Boys can be realy pushy sometimes and times before ive gave into sex just to please my partner. I would suggest you make sure its a 100 % joint dissision when you finally do sleep together becase being cumfartable and relaxed is the main thing.Hope i helped & i appoligise for the bad spelling LFxx
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I am 19/f and my bf is 17. I graduated high school this past year and had no choice but to move (another long story) and so we are in a long-distance relationship. We are both very faithful and much in love but I have been Having this problem lately... He has a crappy phone so I can't talk to him ear to ear on the phone, all we can do is text. Well when he finally texts me we don't talk much. I try extremely hard to carry conversations with him but the majority of his responses are yea, idk, what, why?, lol, or smiley face. It's like he doesn't know what to talk to me about and I have brought up the subject and we will have a understanding and he will change for maybe a day or two but then just goes back to texting me one worded messages. I just don't know what I can do or say to keep him talking and making sure our relationship isn't going dull???
Thank you, One Word Annoyance
P.S. Would like to not only have advice from girls, but also if any guys can answer please do! (link)
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Hi im also 19/f and my boyfriend has just turned 18 in august, i understand what you mean when you say the conversation goes dry and you try your best to carry it on its happend to me before i used to say its maybe because thers a year and a bit of an age gap between me and my boyfriend and boys are supposed to be 2 years younrger in the head than girls :/ i could understand if you wer together all the time because then ther would be nothing to talk about , but you are having a long distance relationship and ther should a 100% be allways something to talk about.Maybe he misses you so much that he goes shy and silent when you talk , or maybe it would help if you consider meeting up on a weekend to talk about it becauseit would make me wonder i would personaly feel ther was something the matter but maybe its just us girls who think too much in to things.I realy hope i have helped and i appoligise for the bad spelling Try not to wory LF xx
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so i shaved my arms and i think it looks good but i dont know if it was a good idea
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I shaved my arms at first i thought it was a bad idea, luckley im blonde so you crt tell so much when they grow back, i dont think its anything to wory about its up to you the way you want to look :) LFxxx
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Ummm hi its me again, my boyfriend broke up with me and he says that my family problems and my personality adds on to his anxiety! I said what the hell does that mean?! He said that a month and a half into our relationship he was thinking about breaking up with me. He told his beeeesssttttt friend and my ex beessssstttt friend that he wanted nothing to do with me and i hate her and when he says things to her like that, it gives her the advantage to call me a "slut" and that im worthless! She is hitting on my exes and she says that she is devoted to her boyfriend Nick and she calls me a whore! I don't know what to do! Please I need help!!! Thnx for everything you guys are trying to do! Love you guys!!! :'( (link)
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only just joind this site and i saw your question.i know how you feel alot of people probley say that but im havig the same problem with family & boyfriends, the best thing for you to do i think is to stay away from the x friend because she/he crt have been much of a good friend if ther acting the way they are as for your x boyfriend i would personaly delete his number/f.b anything that tempted me to call or tx or msg him he seems realy immature and unsure of what he wants and feels about you,ive had this happend to me i would stick to your real friends and the people who love you and try your best to get through it,it seems brutal but ive been through alot and most of the time the common sense is allways the best. my spelling is not very good i appoligise for that but i hope ive helped you LF xxx
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