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How to I get my Guy to open up more?
I am 19/f and my bf is 17. I graduated high school this past year and had no choice but to move (another long story) and so we are in a long-distance relationship. We are both very faithful and much in love but I have been Having this problem lately... He has a crappy phone so I can't talk to him ear to ear on the phone, all we can do is text. Well when he finally texts me we don't talk much. I try extremely hard to carry conversations with him but the majority of his responses are yea, idk, what, why?, lol, or smiley face. It's like he doesn't know what to talk to me about and I have brought up the subject and we will have a understanding and he will change for maybe a day or two but then just goes back to texting me one worded messages. I just don't know what I can do or say to keep him talking and making sure our relationship isn't going dull???
Thank you, One Word Annoyance
P.S. Would like to not only have advice from girls, but also if any guys can answer please do!
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From my experience, long distance relationships cannot work without good communication. Your boyfriend should make an effort to get/borrow a phone so you guys can talk, or maybe once a week meet up on the internet and have a webcam session. His behavior leads me to believe that he's getting bored.. Hope I helped..DiA
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Dont waste your life being in a long distance relationship with a guy you can not speak to and who will not communicate with you. You tried, and it failed. End it. Sorry.
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u need to speak to him on the phone clear the air a bit.
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Sorry kid, but guys don't rewarded by society for being as verbal as girls. We get rewarded for what we do, not how we communicate to our significant others. I personally hate talking on the phone and so does just about every guy I've ever known (unless they're gay).
Guys tend to have a very mechanical way of looking at things (because that is how we are raised) and, to be frank, it's weird trying to have an intimate conversation while holding a phone. We would rather be there with you instead.
Now let's go to the other problem here: you guys are way too young to be getting tied down. You need to date around, explore life, learn how people operate, maybe live overseas for a while after college and then once you have really grown up (which is generally after you turn 25) then you can begin making decisions as to who you want for a lifetime partner. At your present ages, though, making that decision would be entirely premature.
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Hi im also 19/f and my boyfriend has just turned 18 in august, i understand what you mean when you say the conversation goes dry and you try your best to carry it on its happend to me before i used to say its maybe because thers a year and a bit of an age gap between me and my boyfriend and boys are supposed to be 2 years younrger in the head than girls :/ i could understand if you wer together all the time because then ther would be nothing to talk about , but you are having a long distance relationship and ther should a 100% be allways something to talk about.Maybe he misses you so much that he goes shy and silent when you talk , or maybe it would help if you consider meeting up on a weekend to talk about it becauseit would make me wonder i would personaly feel ther was something the matter but maybe its just us girls who think too much in to things.I realy hope i have helped and i appoligise for the bad spelling Try not to wory LF xx
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20/m
I used to be like that (your boyfriend). But if i'm being quite honest with you, it was because I was bored in the relationship, and I didn't really like the girl I was with any more.
I'm not necessarily saying that, that is what is going on, but you should definitely talk to him about it.
And also try to have conversations about things where the answer can be open. e.g. 'how was school?' instead of 'was school good?'
Good luck, and I hope I helped :)
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