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im losing my best friend:(
ok well theres this new girl named kristen that came to our school like 4 months ago and she acts all popular and shes really mean.anyways one day our teacher was picking partners for a project and she picked my best friend diana and kristen:(then they started playing with each other and doing everything together.kristen is just taking diana away from me:(so what should i do?i want my best friend diana back!
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I have been there before. I'm sure a lot of people have.
The only thing you can do to keep from losing your friend is to talk to her. Tell Diana what you told us. It probably won't fix the problem 100%, but at least she'll know how you feel and if she's a good friend, she'll start trying to spend more time with you and fix the problem. Sit down with her somewhere and have a long talk. Perhaps even with Diana's new friend, Kristen, so that you can let everyone know how you feel. Don't feel bad about feeling jealous and replaced because we have all experienced that when a bestfriend starts spending more time with someone else.
You could also try becoming better friends with Kristen. Maybe you'll even like her more than you thought you did. That would be a good thing because the three of you will hang out and you'll have TWO bestfriends. There's nothing wrong with having more than one bestfriend.
And if all else fails, I'll tell you the truth. Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out.
Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you were friends with your bestfriend and you made some good memories together.
Even if you were still friends with your bestfriend, that doesn't mean it will last forever. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc.
Try fix your friendship, but if it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
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You should talk to Diana and tell her that you are beginning to feel left out. If she is a good friend, then she will understand and try to include you more and reassure you that you are not losing her as a friend. Do not be jealous of the new girl though. Jealousy will get you nowhere. Maybe you could become her friend and then yall can all hang out together. If the new girl is still mean after you give her a chance, then just worry about keeping your friendship with Diana. If she ditches you, then she was not a good friend to begin with. Make sure you are prepared to be there for Diana when Kristin upsets her by who knows...gossiping about her...or finding someone new to hang out with and ditching her. What you should do is talk with your friend, continue to be a good friend to her, and remember if she is a good friend then she will not ditch you for this new girl. Good-luck babe! <3 A & A
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Aww, i could really relate to what your talking about. I have had MANY friends taken away as well. What you should do is, talk to your friend diana. Tell her you don't want to lose her, and tell her how you really feel. If shes a true friend, she will listen. Take Care.
♥ Alli*
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