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hello! i'm abby. october is my birth month! i am a cheerleader on competition this year. i got hurt at one of the camps over the summer and now i am in a leg brace because of it. i tore a ligament and chipped a bone, all because i twisted my ankle. haha, i'm a klutz. and i am also a self-proclaimed helpless romantic, i've read too many fairytales. i am a non-cusser, and i hate hearing cuss words. love me or hate me, it's your choice.

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I want to keep more things to myself. I complain about everything all the time, and I always talk about people, good or bad. I hate it, how do I learn not to tell people everything, like when to stop? thanks!

I know this is really stupid but take time to listen to what your friends have to say, maybe they have some secrets that they want to tell you cause you are always in the spot light...Oh, and you know you have gone to far if someone says "Oooo, Im telling" or "Eww". If you want more advice mail me! I will talk about anything!

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okay something has really been bugging me lately. i always, always feel like i'm invisible. it's like this .. whenever i'm hanging with one of my friends and other people come along, i turn invisible. people leave me out of their conversations all the time. i feel like i'm just a substitute person or something; like, i feel that most people hang out with me until someone "better" comes along. and you wouldn't believe how many times people have said to me "omg i'm so sorry i forgot about you!" people i've met either forget my name or forget me altogether and when i say hi they're like "do i know you?" it seems to happen alot. and guys always ignore me, even though people say i'm pretty, and i know i'm really not unattractive. i really don't see what's going on, i'm nice to everyone and i would never do that to anyone, but it seems like the mean people who ditch other people have more people talking to them and everyone wants to hang around with them. and i have a lot of friends, but i wonder why it always seems to happen to me. maybe i'm just not agressive enough, who knows? but i really need help on this one, like advice on how to become more noticed and less invisible. thnx.

Either ditch the friends or become noticable! When someone forgets your name go " DUH IT'S ME, __________" Shout it like really loud. I am sure they won't forget you. And when people ditch you, but right back in and say " UH! YOU FORGOT ME!!! " ....I thnk they forget you cause you don't talk enough. Talk more, share jokes...talk about girly stuff! Be the best you can be if this advice doesn't work. Mail me privately...

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Female. I used to have a lot of best guy friends, we had this huge group. One guy got all of them in to drugs, now they spend their days getting stoned. They're so perverted now, they expect since I have big boobs that I`ll do things with them. I've fallen really hard for one guy, he's totally sweet and respects me, but I hear from everybody he does drugs too and he's not a virgin. (Keep in mind, were 13)

What should I do? Is this guy totally unsafe and wrong to be around?

He is not totally unsafe...but he is a little dangerous, but maybe you like the ruff type. I think you should talk to him and say " Look sdrugs arn't cool...See what he says. Get back to me, Advice Abby!

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there is this girl that i've liked since 2nd grade and i like her even more.i am now in 9th grade and i think she is the one but i am afraid to ask her out because i am afraid she will say no. so what should i do?i am a male.

Just go for it! Guys make the calls. Girls usually say yes, but only if you have 1 or more of these qualities:

♥ If you tell jokes and make people laugh, but not too much.
♥ Are cute
♥ Are nice.
♥ Would get her a birthday present for her birthday
♥ Are popular.
If you aren't any of these. I still wish you luck!

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I recently just started dating someone that I like soooo much but my friend is pissed off at me!i did tell her that if he asked me out then id say no bc of how he acts but when he asked me out i just couldnt say no!shes now saying..."how could you choose him over me?"when i never did that!shes acting like i ditched her but i would never do that!!!what do i do?

It is simple. Hang out with both of them. You don't want to ditch your friend so hang out with her and you don't want to break up with is "HOTTIE", so hang out with them together. Make them friends. Show her how nice he is. BuhBye!

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Well i have this friend lets call him albert.. well okay (SORRY IF THIS IS LONG ILL RATE 5s FOR SERIOUS ANSWERS) so i have known albert since 2nd grade.. and well i need opinions on this.. okay so

1.) Albert is always flirty, touchy, smiley, etc. around me

2.) I asked his friend how he was around people he liked and he said that list above (but thats how he always is around me so im not sure)

3.) Me albert and melinda (other friend not really important) were playing in the snow.. and he always kept tackling me and throwing me in the snow and jumping one me and not letting me get up.

4.) Once i was saying about how no one liked me and stuff and he said thaat i was wrong and i told him he couldnt argue and he said he could etc.

5.) One day albert was preforming in some kind of club and he came over and was talking to me for most of the time and poking me etc. and then hugged me later on.

6.) One morning before school he came up to me and he put his arm around me (lower back not shoulder) and just stood there.

7.) Once when i was mad at him he asked all of my friends why and my one friend told me that he "flipped" out and was asking why he was mad and stuff like that

8.) He complimented me on my earings at my friends party

9.) He kind of kept moving towards me at my friends party and kept poking me and when he was sitting down he kept telling me to sit next to him.

10.) He told me that i should go to my friends party (more than once)

11.) I told him that some kid said to me i hate you you suck and he was like his life and face suck and that he hated him..

12.) He once told me if anything was seriously wrong i would be one of the first to know

13.) Once i asked him who he liked and he told me he couldnt tell me and he said his friend would tell me the next morning and his friend was like can i tell her can i tell her and he was like no.. and then he said something to him and he was like okay.. and he said some girl and then i found out he liked someone else too.. but he wouldnt tell me who that was.

WHAT IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK? DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME AS MORE THAN FRIENDS OR JUST AS FRIENDS?

thnx 4 your help

It sounds as if this "Albert guy" likes you. Even though he likes this "other girl" Stick with him Albert. He may be what you are looking for later in life.

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ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me...

Don't do it. BAD! I know it sounds like fun but it is not worth it. Trust me.

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Ok well this is gonna need ot be answered really quick. There is a popular girl on AIM right now and sheis nice to me, should i say hi? She doesnt know I have her sn, I got it iff her myspace...

Sure, you should always be up for new things!

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Okay, I'm having this Halloween party and I don't know what to do, I told them to ware their costumes, and to bring some warm clothes incase it is cold, but I don't know what to do! There are going to boys and girls, along with my parents, little sis, and my boyfriend;) I don't know what we should do that would be fun for kids our age. We are all 13/14 and we want to just have fun, do you know what we could do? ( please don't make it expensive, my family doesn't have verymuch money right now.) thanks!

You could always get a boombox. Play scary or party music. Have a table of food like snacks, chex mix, chips, celery and carrots with ranch, ect. Ask me for more info!

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Hey hey hye My dad hates my hair waht do I do?
♥

Hi.
Well if you jsut got it cut then there is nothing you can do about. My advice it to tell him you are old enough to make thoughs desisions. Heart ---> ♥

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last year i was new to my school i i met my best friend there. but now this year she dosent tellme anyhthing and dosent trust me she ignores me sometimes andwe get into alot of fight, she has new friends and she telles them her secrests but to me she dosent even tell me who her crush is i feel we cant be frineds anymore but me and her are realy close when we are getting along. what should i do? female 13

I think this friend of yours isn't really your friend. Try slowly breaking away from her. ♥

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Well i have this really good friend lets call him george.. well george and i have known each other for a long time.. and he is one of my best friends.. so anyways my other friends have been saying they think george likes me but im not so sure. how can you tell if one of your good friends likes you more as just friends? PLEASE HELP I WILL RATE HIGH!

You should just ask him. ( Are you shaking your head no? ) If you are you probably not ready to ask him. Have one of your friends ask him. If he says yes you should ( if you like him ) go on to the next step. Talking to him closer. ♥

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my friends' mother isn't the nicest person in the world, she's verbally abusive and just slapped her across the face..now my friend is considering running away and i think she's overreacting..but i really don't know. is she overreacting? what should i say to convince her to stay? ..or what?

Always have an open home. If she wants to run away let her come to your house or one of her other friends. She is not overreacting. This would probably be very scary for her. Put yourself in her shoes. What would it be like? Talk to her all the time. Hope this helps!♥

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My friend is turning 16 next week and she just found out that shes pregnant.. her boy friend isnt tlaking to her right now and she thinks hes an asshole now. Her mom kinda has a feeling that she is btu doesnt exactly know. Shes coming over in a couple hours and i have no clue what to do how do i comfort her what do i do? please help...

I know that you might have heard this in other answers but I think you should be very sensative and ask how she feels. Be gentle right now she could be feeling very weak.
AdviceAbby

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My friend is sleeping over tonight. What are some fun things to do? P.S. We cant go out OR outside - :)

Board games, movies (at home), gossip, and TV. That is all the stuff I did last night. It is fun. Once you and your friend have started talking the fun won't end.

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My best friend is movin to florida and i wont be able to see her and she wont be movin near me because i'm movin to Italy in 1 more year. wat should i do?

I think you should be very positive because everyone can keep in touch no matter what! Unless you are Greman and can't talk english! Teehehe!

Happy Holidays!
Abby

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my friend has had this off and on relationship with this guy.hes fingered her and made out alot and stuff but he goes off and does stuff like that with other people.shes like my best friend EVER and she calls me crying sayin hes makin out with some girl.it breaks my heart and i think she should leave him.all he does is break her hearrt.she deserves so much better but she claims she loves him so much.other times she hates him.can someone help me?im afraid im in the middle.
Signed,
Concerned Friend

Tell your friend to tell him that he needs to stop! That is bad! Or if she doesn't like that option...It's break-up time!

Happy Holidays!
Abby

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I have this boyfriend...I just got him. I am moving soon and we aren't really hanging out. He asked me out in the first place! What should we do before I move?

Try going out! Duh!

Happy Holidays!
Abby

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i've known my best friend,kelly, for 4 years now. and since we started high school she has changed, she doesn't tell me anything anymore. we still talk and hang out together and she gives me ride to school and i drop her off at her house after school. there is another girl ,jill, and she stays over her house all the time. and she tells jill everything. but jill says that some other girl,chris, is her best friend not kelly. so i don't know what to do. i feel so left out. kelly doesn't talk to online or on the phone she doesn't tell me personal stuff or anything. oh also kelly talks s**t about jill when she isn't there so i don't know whats up with her!

Usuall I would say friends aren't everything but this is an interesting case. She talks behind Jill's back but hands out with her all the time. I had something like this happen to me in 5th grade. Your freind ,Kelly, either has something wrong with her our just needs a good friend. I think you can be that good friend!

Happy Holidays!
Abby

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I used to be best friends with this girl but we fell out because I spent too much time with a new group of friends and my boyfriend. Now I just hang out with my boyfriend and the new group but my ex friend has started taking over. She's poisoning my friend's minds against, flirts with my boyfriend and is just generally taking my place. There is no way that we can ever be friends again but she's destroying what I have with my other friends too. What should I do?

Well first of all tell your friends that your exfriend is being extremly rude to you. When ever she comes into your group "We need to leave...now" and then start walking away and if they don't come i guess they aren't your friends anymore and find some new friends. I know that it is hard to do but I havd to do it once.

Happy Holidays!
Abby

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