I'm Victoria. I haven't been on this site in a while. If you have received advice from me before and liked it, please feel free to ask more questions.
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A father finds his son praying at night. 'God bless Mommy, Daddy, and Grandma. Ta ta Grandpa.' The father finds this odd, but doesn't think too much of it. The next morning the grandfather dies. The father remembers the night before, but doesn't say anything. That night, the son prays, 'God bless Mommy and Daddy. Ta ta, Grandma.' The father hopes that nothing happens to the grandmother. Sure enough, the next morning the grandmother dies. At this point the father gets really scared. That night, the son prays "God bless Mommy. Ta ta, Daddy". The father stays up all night long, frightened. Early in the morning he goes to the doctor to make sure everything is fine. When he comes home, his wife is waiting frantically in the driveway and yells "Honey, come quick! The milkman just dropped dead on the porch!"
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"Cowards die many times before their deaths: the valiant never taste death but once. Of all the wonders that I have yet heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that Death,a necessary end, will come when it will come."
-Caesar Act II line 31-37
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" So our stories have made you sad, you tell me. Yes, this I can understand...but tears are not the right response. For every painful story there is one of beauty, one to learn from...You must never forget the art of enjoyment, otherwise the pain of survival will crush you."
-Gasper, a guerilla with the Guatemalan National Revolutionary union.
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Why do atheists believe there is no God? I hear a lot of arguments against organized religion but I don’t hear many actual ‘reasons’ that there is not or cannot possibly be a God? So what are thier reasons? (link)
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I'm not exactly an athiest, but I can undersatnd the point of view. One of the reasons that some of my friends are atheists is because, wellYou can't prove that there is a God or Higher Power. You cannot prove that anything in the Holy Books actually happened. Science really dissproves things such as creationism and whatnot. I mean, with science you can see and prove what's there but, but usually believing in God requires a lot of blind faith, things that can't be proven. I aplogize if I offended you, but thats one point of view.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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ok so here is the deal everyone knows i am Bisexual like everyone at my school knows. and i knew i was gunna get crap from people. But it has gone to far people are startin to make fun of me like way more and it gets more intense everyday. Not to mention people make fun of me because i watch wierd movies like "Hook" or "Aladdin" I mean sure i am male. but still why does it give people the right to say mean stuff i am also colored and people are being racial talking to adults doesn't help very much. what can they do. and i am out of ideas ignoring them doesn't help.
I know that being Bisexual is bad and i am trying to be straight and i am gettin close to just likeing females. and it seems that god isn't here for me i pray everynight hoping for a better life. and for god to send somone to know who i am. al i need is a friend. my dad lives in switzerland. and i never get to see him only in the summer. and it feels like my life is going down hill. my dog died we had to put him down. that still gives me tears. and all my friends seem to be going against me. because of rumors going around that i am dishonest. and what not i only have 2 friends. and i just don't know what to do it seems like i have run out of options.
can you help me like to find someway to get noy only my mind off but at least pray for me.
thnx a bunch
Monn (link)
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I don't know what your religous views are, but being bisexual isn't bad, not in my eyes. Those kids have no right to make fun of you. You have done nothing wrong, those kids are being ignorant and immature. You should never have to apologize for who you are, as long as you feel comfortable with it and thats who you truly are. All those friends who left you because of the rumors aren't very good friends or they aren't friends at all, more so the latter of the two. You shouldn't have to put up with that.
I don't know the situation with your dad living in Switzerland, but if you really want to talk to him, I suggest that you buy a phone card or somehtign and call him up, it may not be the same, but its a start, at least you'll be talking to him. As for finding new friends...try searching for gay, bi, and lesbian communities in your area. That way, you'll be around people like you and you don't have to worry about any slurs being yelled at you for being who you are.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Hi, what I will address won't mainly be asking for advice, but for the input of the columnists on advicenators on a very controversial issue of morals against faith in the latter of sex.
I know that among some religions that premarital sex is sinful and highly prohibited without any exceptions, but what are your opinions?
I myself am a Catholic-Christan, and believed in the "sex until marriage" thing when I was together with my boyfriend. But as we got to know each other over the years, we got into intellectual conversations about this topic and if it's argument is valid and reasonable. I'm not saying that our relationship prompted a shift in mindset on this issue, but knowing him and being with him for so many years along with witnessing other married couples made me think about this a little more thoroughly.
I started to think about it as I grew older, and I began to feel differently. The divorce rate in the U.S. is at an amazingly high rate, and more couples are breaking it off even after saving the sex until marriage "policy". On some occasions I even think that these breakoffs are due to the quality of the sex. If the sex isn't good, usually lovers leave and commit infidelity. Unless the couple is really committed to one another, they will keep trying to make the sex work out.
The way I think about this scenario now is that I believe that it is acceptable to have sex before marriage, under certain circumstances. Because a couple must establish that intellectual intimate bond with commitment, devotion, loyalty, etc. Even then does that take years to accomplish, and the time spent shows respect to each other that both partners are willing to stick it out this long and wait for each other to take action that is of great importance. Also after all that is done, the relationship goes to the next level in the stage of sex. Having sex before marriage lets the couple know how how much they really love each other and how much they are willing to commit to each other. In a sense it tests us on how much we value sex and what factor it plays in our life. And if we don't pass the test in avoiding adultery, it was never meant to be with that person, so how can a couple get married if sex and passion got the best of them to steer them toward someone else?
To conclude, although you could say I'm going against my religion, it doesn't mean that I don't have faith. A lot of the "rules" that we have to abide by sometimes do seem unreasonable, in order to understand love and all the goodness that it brings, I really don't think marriage is enough to keep someone faithful.
In no ways am I encouraging premarital sex, especially on advicenators with teeny-boppers running around having sex with their semi-erect penises, but what I am saying is that before sex comes commitment, loyalty, devotion, understanding, civility, and vice versa. But I do believe that before marriage comes sex. Why because marriage is the highest level that a couple can go through to show their love toward one another for all of eternity, and how can you reach the highest level without sharing everything of yourself to your soulmate, including your most prized possession?
I apologize if I come off a little bias, but that isn't my intention at all. I'm not promoting anything, nor am I objectifying "sex before marriage." Those couples who are able to succeed through this lifestyle, I admire you, I really do. Especially in a society that is centered around sex nowadays. But I would like to know the opinions of others to better understand this controversial subject.
Thanks and sorry for the long read! I hope to hear a lot of responses! (link)
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Hmmm, you posed a very intelligent question, one of the best ones since I've been on this site. Let me start off by telling you when I think a couple should have sex. I people should have sex when both people respect each other and themselves, and there is some strong and deep feeling between the two of them. I don't believe in having sex with the first person you see, no matter how..."compelled" you may be. But, not having sex until you're married *sigh!* oh, boy! Its kinda like mind over matter, huh? I've never had relations of any sort, but I know that I'm going to have pre-marital sex. By the way, i'm not Christian, if you're wondering. It depends on the person. For example, I know that I'm either never going to get married or I'm going to get married a number of times, thats because of my personality, I'm not skanky or anything, but sometimes I grow weary of people, even those I love. True, this society does push sex on even the youngest of children, but people need to understand the difference between having sex and making love. Having sex is just, well having sex, but making love, there is emotion between the people involved, passion, something that many relationships nowadays lack. In todays society, if you're a virgin, you're equivalent to being a loser, which isn't true. But I feel that modern religions are well...outdated. I'm not looking to offend anyone, but please, hear me out. You have to look at when many of these Holy Books were written and also consider who wrote them. Mainly men, and in Biblical days, having a married a wife who was a virgin was a prize, I guess it showed it was virtuos. But many women who were not virgins were taken outside of the city and stoned to death...doesn't that sound primitive? In spite of some of the things I have said, I feel that sometimes virginity is pushed too hard in religion, I mean theres nothing wrong with chastity, but...I can't seem to find the words to explain to say what I mean... oh, tarter sauce! I hope you got something from my useless babbling.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Is it neccesary, in Witchcraft,or Wicca, To cast a cirlce even while doing a simple spell??Please answer, i need help. (link)
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Even though I've been a Witch for 2 years, I've never casted a circle, prayer usually works for me, honestly, but depending on the spell, I would use a cirlce, if you want to do it properly. You should try these sites for more info:
-spirit online.com
-wiccan-refuge.com
-witches-brew.com
-gothic-rain.com
-themystica.com
-lunarshadows.net
-spiritsearch.com
-wiccasearch.com
-avatasearch.com
awakenedwoman.com
-thebeltanepapers.net
-sagewoman.com
-candleandcauldron.com
-whitedragon.org.uk/
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i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=) (link)
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I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. Try putting yourself in someone elses shoes, it may work. Thats something that doesn't happen overnight, either, you have to work at it, and I think its awesome that you want to change, I really respect that. Start off small, like letting someone have your seat on a crowded bus, or talking to and being friends with a person that doesn't have many friends, but most of all be sincere.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I'm really confused, and surprised. I talked to my friend today, and we were talking about how I'm interested in Witchcraft, and then she said "Are you telling me you're a witch?"and I got kinda uncomfortable and Was like,"not really"cause I'm interested in it but I'm not one..yet. And then I asked what she thinks a witch is, and she rattled off all the storytale things, and I was really surprised. I'm trying to explain to her what modern "white"witches are, but I'm doing the best I can, but I dont know if thats good enough, I cnt eactly tell her to go look it up online. (link)
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Get some some books by Silver Ravenwolf, and Scott Cunningham, and try to explain it to her, I'm a witch, I know how it is, just try to sit her down and explain it to her, but I must warn you, the 2 things you should never argue about are politics and religion, it could really bring a rift into things.
Mad love,
Victoria
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I am jewish, people tell me all the time that in their religion there is a trinity of some sort. My question is how can Jesus, The Holy Ghost, and _________ make up G-d? I dont know the third one either.
I'm just a little confused.
~Nokomis~ (link)
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The third is the Father, but I don't understand the concept, its really odd to me, but then again, I'm a witch...
MAd lOve,
Victoria
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I'd love to hear your proof,but thats so not true in the BIBLE no mosaic books or w/e which ive never herd of, does not say ne of that stuff that you sed.i just want you to no that hell and heaven and God are very real,and if yu decline that Jesus died for you,then you will go to hell. (link)
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Read Isaih chapters 13 and 14. Tell me what you think. How dare you come to me and hassle me about religion. I don't mind dabating about it, but thats something that you email me personally about. I'm very open about religion, and discussing it, but who are you to tell me I'm going to Hell? And if you're gonna argue with me, you need to keep up with proof I can put my hands on. Don't just tell me that some guy died for my sins. I don't mean to offend you, but you don't hold up a very good argument. First of all, most of the christian holidays originated from pagan sources. You need to do your research a bit more. I advise you to check out this website, don't worry, its a christian website: http://www.nisbett.com/holidays/pagan_holidays.htm
Until you come up with a better argument, stop putting messages in my inbox. Give me some actual proof. Its Christians like you who give good christians like my friends bad name. I wish you would stop putting your religion on me. I never ever went to anyones page and said "Christianity is wrong become an atheist or a wiccan."
MAd Love,
Victoria
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ur wiccan???that's actually really bad,i have so much proof to tell you that all of what u sed is wrong and that God DOES exist..just give me the chance!wats ur sn? (link)
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Yes, I am Wiccan. I know alot about the Bible, not to toot my own horn, but...The reaon I'm wiccan is because I don't believe in any of the Abrahamic books, i don't mean to offend, you, but hear me out. The way I believe in God is different. I think we have it all wrong. I also believe that you don't need God to be a good person. I don't believe in Hell, I don't beleive in creationism, I don't believe that Jesus was
"The Son of God". If you have actually read your Bible,or Holy book, you would see that its degrading to women. I am not a piece of property. If you read your Bible, you will find that it tells you to do such things as bash the heads of bebiesin and rape women and kill all the men of the village. if you don't believe me, do some reading in the Mosaic books, when I get the time, I'll give you the exact scriptures. I think that people should uphold morals, not this "God" we can't see. I'm not saying I don't believe in God, but i think God wants us to figure out things for ourselves, and not put everything on It. And if you think thats bad, I'm sorry, I can't change that, I think it was wrong of you to come and force your religion upon me. I may not be grown, but I'm level-heade and very mature, and I'll ask you in the nicest way possible; Don't harass me about religion. I'm not trying to be rude, but I get that alot. I think that maybe, I could show you proof instead. You'll get the same response from others like me, I don't mind answering your questions, but don't shove religion down my throat.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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In the aftermath of the tsunami, the eternal theological question is again posed: what sort of God permits the slaughter of blameless humanity on such a scale?
On the abundant available evidence does it not seem that, if there is or was a God, it is now malevolent, mad or dead?
No, religious nutters please - this is a serious question I'm posing.
Dr Kesha (link)
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I have many friends who are atheists who ask questions like this all the time. I myself, am not an atheist...I'm more of a nature worshipper, I'm Wiccan if you want to get technical. But my view of the Higher Power is a bit different from everyone elses. I believe there is a Higher Power, but I don't believe in creationism or anything. I believe that science is the God and Godesses' blueprint for everything, and even though I have chosen to believe in a Deity(ies), I often ask that question as well. I believe that the Deities don't really control anything. We are responsible for our own destiny. I alos believe that there is scientific reasoning for everything that goes on around us, we just have to explore it. I'm also a bit of a Marxist. Nothing happens out of "God's Wrath" no, there is a scientific explanation. Now, why the Deities would let things like this go on...perhaps to test our strength as a people...A horrible test true, but...There are nos uch things as coincidencesa and there are no such things as accidents, depending on what you're a Doctor of, you may agree with me.
MAd love,
Victoria
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I give up. I dont deserve gods love. I am not worthy enough for it. He gives me a gift and i dont use it. I fail one class, i am a porn addict. I give up i dont deserve god anymore. I dont even deserve to live, i, i really dont care. i am not good enough. I am not as loyal to him as i should be. i dont deserve him at all. im done. Please give advice or a way to end it all (link)
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I believe that every one serves a purpose in life. Everyone is worthy of living, if you weren't you wouldn't be here. Its our faults that make us human. You recognized yours, and its ok to be ashamed, but don't end it all. You go back and fix those faults and try to become a better person. You know the Higher Power loves of us all regardless. I know that you want to redeem yourself because you asked for help, which a step loser to becoming a better person. Please, don't hurt yourself, thats not the way to do it in this case. I think its time for you to put your gift to use; the gift of being you and get that thought out of your head that you are not worthy of the Higher Power's love. I hope you make it through.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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i'm thinking about becoming wiccan. does anyone know of any good websites or books i can look at?
thank you in advance. :) (link)
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Forget what everyone else says about wicca being in association with the devil. I, myself am a wiccan, and so are a few other people on this site. I have some sites posted below for you.
-spirit online.com
-wiccan-refuge.com
-witches-brew.com
-gothic-rain.com
-themystica.com
-lunarshadows.net
-spiritsearch.com
-wiccasearch.com
-avatasearch.com
awakenedwoman.com
-thebeltanepapers.net
-sagewoman.com
-candleandcauldron.com
-whitedragon.org.uk/
I hope that helps you, and if you have anymore questions, let me know, I'll be happy to help.
Mad Love,
Victoria
P.S. Don't be discouraged in your search to find out who you are. Do what you feel is right, not what other people may label you as.
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I just recently moved out of my house and into my uncles house and he is a hardcore Christian man and believes that anything not christian is "of the devil", I myself am a follower of the old pagan type religions and he kind of found out and alwayz makes little jabs at me for not believing in god and tells me im going to hell and i dont know how to deal with it..if i tell him that i dont believe in god, he might kick me out of his house....what should i do...pretend not to believe what i do or tell him to stop? (link)
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Us pagans ahve the hardest times, don't we? In Victoria speak, he's an "uber-christian" in other words super christian. You, yourself, being a pagan, should know that many of the elements of the Christian religion are based upon pagan rituals. Maybe you should give him some history on his religion, instead of him trying to label yours. And if that doesn't work, and things get worse, you may have to live with someone else. Or instead of teaching him about his own religion, try talking to him, but it seems like hes a butt-hole so that may not work. Tell him that you do believe in a higher power, but you worship in a different way. Most pagans don't even belive in Satan, but you should leave that fact out. And if he kicks you out of the house, you can come live with me.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Do you all think that you are responsible for what you dream about? Like, lets say for example, you don't cuss or something...Well, are you responsible for that kind of stuff? (link)
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I don't think you're responsible over what you dream over, unless maybe you have a lucid dream, but in general, no. To me, dreams are your subconcious speaking to you. Dreams let you know when you're stressed and don't realize it, or they can give you the solution to a problem, or even let you know when you have to pee in the middle of the night.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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what are you guys opion of christians and other sprital stuff???>?? (link)
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I, personally, have issues with christianity, for various reasons, but what works for one person, may not work for the next, and besides who am i to judge? I'm just a person with human faults. But I often feel that religion can bring out the worst in people,and can inspire such evil things, yet at the same time bring out the best in people, and inspire such wonderful things, no matter what religion.
Much love,
Victoria
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My mom and dad are jewish. my parents want me to be like them and do what they do. my best friend is christian and she took me to church with her once and i recieved Jesus into my life. i really want to be like my friend and be christian but my parents wont accept it! what do i say to them? i am my own person right? (link)
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Was your decision to accept Jesus peer pressure, because you said you wanted to be like your friend, right? i'm not saying your decision was wrong, but did you make that decision because you honestly felt it in your heart? i'm sure you've tried talking to your parents, and if you haven't you should try, and explain christianity to them, though i'm pretty sure they know. by the way, how old are you? that also plays a big role in this, and are you mature enough to make a decision like this? i, personally do not alot about Judaism, but i know there are some misconceptions about it that are no true, often made by christians. invite your parents to church, and have them meet some of the church people ( and i hope your church isn't spreading misconceptions about Judaism or Jewish people, i've been to churches like that. Aaaaargh!)But most of all, make sure you accepted Jesus because YOU wanted to, not just to make your friends happy, but because you felt it was the right thing to do. sorry this was so long!
Much Love,
Victoria
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I have a friend who's about to be initiated into Wicca. I know what Wicca's about, and that's mainly why I've been hoping he wouldn't. He's getting initiated on Saturday, and I'm really worried. Is there anything I can do to talk him out of it in five days?!? (link)
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HEY! i feel offneded! I'm a wiccan! *lol* but seriously, who explained to you what the craft was about? b4 you try and stop him, read up on the craft and the catholic church, the ceremonies between the 2 aren't so different, i don't mean to offend you, and if you are offended, i'm deeply sorry, i don't mean to, but the craft is one of the oldest religions, older than christianity, so its easy to misunderstand it. we are not satanists, and whatever you've seen in the movie, "The Craft", forget about, that ain't true. but you also have to respect your friends wishes, you don't have to agree, but if thats what he really wants, don't interfere, and i'm not just taking his side, but hes your friend and you have to love him and be there for him.
Much Love,
Victoria
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Every time I go to my friend she always jokes with me saying that "Oh here comes lil miss christian girl" and "Oh great your going to preach to us are'nt you." I know she is just playing but I wish I could witness to her without being made fun of. (link)
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Not everyone wants to be witnessed to.or isn't ready to be witnessed to. it also depends on how you go about it, if ur forcing it upon her, shes not gonna want to listen trust me, but if thats not the case, maybe you should tell her, that you feel hurt. i mean religion is a serious thing, but it shouldn't interfere in a friendship. there are 2 things that you should never discuss with friends and that is religion and politics, those 2 things can really break a friendship apart, because the views may be so different.
much love,
Victoria
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hey I have a question. What is the diference between a christain or a cathloc? I always thought that they were the same in general. but sence being on this site I have noticed people say they are in fact diferent.
and one more thing can somebody tell me what a pagan is? not to be rude or anything. i know that that is a religion but do magic or something.
so answering my question would really be helpful.
signed
confused Christain (link)
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well, from the view of a pagan, cathlocism and christianity are the same, but catholocism is just like a nother sect in christianity, like baptist, lutherns, etc. all the other sects were created when they broke away from the catholic church, and started the protestant reformation, which martin luther, and choice others started, because they felt that the catholic church was either too overbearing, or was corrupted. sorry for the little history lesson, i felt it was important to get my point across*lol*. but catholicism, as i see it, is just another sect of christianity; they have the same core beliefs (i think), but handle mass differntly, and i believe they read a different version of the Bible, not the King James Version. I hope i helped, and if i confused you even more i'm sorry.
Much Love,
Victoria
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Hey,
is there anyone that is pagan on here that i could talk to?because i am pagan and i dont really know any other pagan people.(by the way for anyone who doesnt know what paganism is its a religion or you can ask me about it,gc__gerl224) (link)
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Do you practice the craft, as i do? and if not thats cool, i'll still talk to you and be ur friend! *lol* i know a few pagans, but it depends on what religion you practice, if you tell me more, i could really help you, and no i'm not trying to be nosy. but if you do practice wicca, go to www.childrenofartemis.com well, happy pagan hunting!
Victoria
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