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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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Should I be worried that my husband still talks to his ex-girlfriend? I am trying to be okay with it but it still bothers me knowing that he talks with his ex. Mostly because she tends to call when I am at work and recently I woke up in the middle of the night and he was talking to her. It was almost 3 in the morning. There is a time change so it wasnt that late where she lives but still. My husband assures me that he is doing nothing wrong and that i need to be more understanding. Am I wrong for worrying or getting upset with him everytime he talks with her? He tells me what their conversation was about and tells me when he talks to her.
It certainly would raise suspicion, I understand that you are trying to be okay with the fact that he is in contact with his ex, However there should be a limitation to how much and why on heavens earth is he talking with his ex girlfriend at 3 in the morning!?! Something is suspicious here, Sounds like he may be hiding something from you and isn't telling the full truth. As I always said, Never have contact with the ex not only is it a load of drama but half the time it leads to cheating and lies. This is the part where you step up the plate, It's you or the ex, Don't be that woman that gets stuck in the middle. You are not as stupid as you look and don't let him play mind games with you. No, You are not being controlling you are laying down the ground rules, Ex is out of the picture. Listen, The fact is he is in a relationship and he is committed to you, Here is where your husband is wrong he is talking to his ex girlfriend, He is talking to her late at night. Talk to him, Let him know how it's making you feel and let him know that you are not going to tolerate any sneakiness and that if he wants to play mind games with you then he needs to make up his mind it's her or you.
i'm a little upset right now. when my little sister had speech problems/delay, we knew something might be wrong with her brain development or functioning of the brain, or whatever. we thought she had autism. but we found out recently it wasn't autism, she has aspergers. she's 14 now, turning 15 in november, but i'm really worried about her future. she's really bright and is the absolute nicest person in the world, she'd never do anything wrong or hurt anyone on purpose. she's very sensitive and cries easily. at school she has friends, but she's homeschooled and goes to school only on fridays. she has no friends in the neighborhood. in her free time, she sits on the computer and watches shows and videos on youtube or paces around in her room. she NEVER LEAVES THE HOUSE unless its for school or church. and everyone at her school knows something is wrong with her, but they all think shes just weird, they dont know whats going on with her mind. basically, the best i can explain it, she has the mind of a 5-7 year old. you can hear it in the way she talks and walks and her body language, she's very different. it upsets me like no other when someone tells me that my sister is weird or she acts "strange" or that she's stalking some boy because she thinks he's cute. she doesnt realize that when she has a crush, she cant make it very obvious, so shes never had a boyfriend and from what i can tell, shes not going to get one anytime soon.
so after all this inside information on my sister, can anyone tell me if they know that her brain will eventually catch up to her, or if she's going to be like this for the rest of her life? she wants to get married and have children, but our whole family can't ever see her moving out on her own since she thrives on family and security. what can i do?
Aspergers is a form of Autism. I have dated someone for 5 years who also had it.
The good news, There are medications that the doctor can prescribe to help with the disorder.
The bad news, Aspergers is a mental disorder which can be treated but will never fully go away.
I don't know too much about Aspergers but I can say there are alternatives that can help your sister to have a better future. Counseling, Medications and even a Life Coach may be a good alternative for her. People who have aspergers are sensitive to light, noises (especially loud noises) and also tend to be more emotional. As far as living arrangements come for her future you could suggest to your parents that a group home for people with mental disabilities could be a good option for her but there are always ways, Another good alternative may be a living assistant environment.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndro
I'm going to try to keep this from getting too long, but I don't know if that is possible! I'm 20 years old, in school and working while living with my mom. My parents just got divorced in January. My dad cheated on my mom with two different women- both were ongoing affairs and he is still seeing the last woman. My mom has been with him since she was 16 and is devistated. My dad was not involved in my life while I was growing up. He didn't show any interest in me and was very verbally abusive. Now that he is divorced, he sees what he lost and now is trying to be a part of my life. I appreciate it... however, I'm just so incredibly disgusted by him and seeing my mom so upset and depressed really makes me resent him. I don't know how to move forward with this and how far into my life I should let him. It's a tough situation. Thoughts?
Forgiveness is a word that has a million meanings.
This is a choice only YOU can make, Sometimes people do things in life that we can never forget. However, Remember you have one father and whatever choice you make in life he will always be your dad. Resenting your father is understandable considering all that has happened. A question you need to ask yourself is...Are you able to forgive him? One thing I've always told everyone who has a problem with someone is "Whatever choice you make, Make sure you don't go to your grave with regrets." Life is short, It is what we make it and sometimes choices we make in life become ones that have consequences. If you decide to burn the bridge with your father know that apart of you may always feel "empty". On the other hand if you decide to cut ties, Are you able to live with the consequences? I ask because I myself do not have a father due to a similar situation. Some say a person is perfectly capable of forgiveness. I say, We all have our limitations to how many times our feelings will be stepped on. YOU know your father better than us advicenators, Only you know if your father will choose his wife, If he is serious about being a role model from here on out. This is a choice you need to make. Are you able to deal with the fact that your father is with the woman that he was seeing while he was married to your mother? Are you able to except her? These are questions you need to ask yourself and when you have the answers you have yet to decide.
Icaught my dad cheating on my mom almost three years ago. walked down stairs saw him on a web cam with another women.... we stopped talking all summer, i never told my mom, i could never ever let my parents split and ruin my life, i was 15, now im almost 18. we finally kinda have a relationship, i mean.. i guess we talk. it kills me everyday, we hardly saw hi, and i never do anything with him. i caught him on weird chat sites.... all the time. and tonight, i found it again, on yahoo. i found his user name, a reallyy fuckin weird one for him, i luv9999... what the hel am i supposed to do. ive been depressedover this shit, for the fact my dad is a fake, im the only one that knows, and my mom is my best friend and im hiding this from her. its killing me. i go to collehge in a year so i cant wait to get out but to know im leaving her here with him. lately two people my parents knew husbands have been arrested for sexual predators with lil kids. it kills me, what if its that? god what am i supposed to do. i cant handle this, i cant see my family part, and i dont even know
3 years is a long time to cheat on a spouse. I personally think you should have a talk with Mom and let her know what is really going on. As heartbreaking as it will be to you and your mother solid proof is always good to have. Make sure when you talk to Mom you let her know that if she needs support she can talk to you. I know it's hard..but it helps to lean on one another than to fall of a cliff head on...
my family has never really had problems, but lately, it's just been like one thing after the other. at the beginning of last year, my cousin and grandmother had cancer. i was so stressed with everything happening in my life that i was doing horrible in school and i became anorexic, because it was just the only thing that was resulting from all the stress. Thank God that my cousin and grandmother were cured by a miracle and are both doing perfectly fine. I recovered from my eating disorder. I ended school well, graduated, and started college this year. I still live at home, but I go to a state school, I was working, but I stopped because right now, my schedule was a little too hectic and hopefully when it changes, it will be easier to earn a little extra cash on the side.
I feel terrible about this, but the day of graduation I had a huge fight with my mom. We woke up the next morning and were still fighting. Those who know my mom understand that she doesn't let go of things. She'll say something is okay, and make up with you, and the next day, she'll give you dirty looks and won't talk to you. So, that's exactly what happened the day after. I remember I woke up at like 1 in the afternoon because i had a long night. She kept on with her looks, but i ignored her because I knew better. Until she started screaming and throwing her tantrum where she throws herself to the floor and screams. I was so angry that I just cried and told her I hated her and that she wasn't my mother and that i wanted my mother. I know it sounds mean and all, but you weren't there and everyone says things they dont mean every once in a while.
well anyway, by that i meant that she wasn't acting like herself. that she was being impossible, and that wasn't the same person I knew. Then she told me "you're right, i'm not you're mother." and that's how she decided to tell me that i was adopted. Ever since that day, I get these sparatic bursts of anger. It's like I get really mad and if anyone comes near me, i scream. I burst into tears, throw myself on the floor,cry like a madwoman. Then, when it's all over, I don't remember what happened. My mom asked me why it is that I get so angry. I told her I think it's because I felt lied to. Everyone in my life knew about it: aside from my parents/grandparents and other obvious family members, my best friend knew, her parents knew, my boyfriend knew, his parents knew, my cousins, who have been like brothers/sisters to me knew. They all knew! So it's just that I feel like everyone kept all these secrets from me... i think it's normal to feel angry.. not necessarily that they didn't tell me I was adopted, just the fact that everyone in my life has been keeping secrets from me. I understand and am grateful and everything like that. But imagine, that for 18 years, all those people knew, and NO ONE said ANYTHING! It was so well kept, i didn't even SUSPECT! i even look just like my mom. And I'm angry that she didn't tell me in a loving way. She told me in a fight.
Needless to say, she got mad, hasn't spoken to me all day. She doesn't deal with things or feelings of others,s he just gets mad and doesn't speak to anyone. So, I don't know what to do. My family has never had so many problems, and I don't know why it's starting now. i don't know why I get those sudden bursts of anger, but I don't like it. It scares me and I can't control it, it's like I just can't stop crying.... and loud cries. And when anyone tries to console me, I push everyone away. I'm about to lose my whole family to a mental issue I can't control..... what can i do? i've never been this type of person. This isn't me and I"m scared. I'm a nice girl: honor roll, cheerleader, dean's list, go to college, same friends since i was 6. Same boyfriend since i was 16. I'm not a trouble-maker. I just don't know what's wrong!
Any comforting words are appreciated.
Thanks.
You mentioned that you just graduated High School, It could be that you are growing up and becoming an adult and your mother does not know how to handle it. The whole adoption thing well it wasn't exactly the nicest way to come out and tell you that you were adopted no, but we can't change what happened. I myself was adopted also and I did also did not find out until I was about 17 years old. We all have mixed feelings when we are told that we come from another family but that doesn't mean we were lied too. The fact is it is probably best not to know until you have reached the age of 18 when you become an adult. Why? because adoption is supposed to be kept private and information is supposed to also be kept private for your protection. You should not be mad at your mother for not telling you you were adopted because she kept it private for your sake. Don't forget blood related or not she raised you, was there for you, and put a roof over your head. You can try to talk to your mother in a calm manner as that is the way to solve and fix things. Tell her how you feel and most of all tell her you love her. You becoming an adult can't be the easiest thing for her to handle and sometimes the words "I love you Mom" are exactly what a mom needs to hear.
Hi folks, looking for any and all advice. My question pertains to my web site. http://www.shannoncassidy.co.uk All the information I have is contained within three main pages, story pt1, pt 2 and latest. My question, is after you have read the site what do you think I should do? What options do I have? How much effort should I put in? Should I leave it till she's older? lol, loads of questions, guess I'm just looking for advice. Anything will be appreciated and thanks for your time in getting this far.
ADDED INFORMATION: Again, I think you need to realize your actions, You made a website for your daughter to see. I get that...BUT your daughter is only 9 years old she is a minor and by you posting a website about her personal information you are violating her privacy possibly exploiting her to perverts like Mangy had said below me. If you really want a relationship with your daughter than I think you really need to handle the situation PRIVATELY. God only knows what she will think when she gets older...finding out that her own father had posted a website with intentions to finding her. "In my opinion, Creepy" Not only would I probably NOT want to get to know you but I certainly wouldn't be happy with you making a public website containing information for EVERYONE to see. I said it once I'll say it again grow up and start acting like a parent.
If I remember right this post sounds familiar and DN had suggested that this question should be taken to court?
Anyway,
I think you need to stop asking the question because this is a matter that really is out of our hands and should be resolved between you and the father as well as a lawyer and a court. Right now from the website you have posted your daughter is a minor and underage therefore if you want to wait until she gets older that is up to you. You ARE the parent and it is your job to make choices and raise your child. However, I think you need to stop exploiting your child on the internet because that IS what you last complained about in your last question that was posted a few months back. This matter needs to be handled privately between you and her father you are the parents start acting like it.
So.. me and my ex broke up. he fucked up a ton, but its been 7months since we broke up, and its been three months of him non stop trying with no mistakes to get me back.. My parents dislike him. they do, and right now for thre months ive been hiding that ive been hanging out with him. One time i got caught at a party with him, about 4 months ago, they FLIPPPED. like hardcore. My moms i hope your not talking to him, and back then i really hardly was. Now this time hes trying realll hard, and im thinkin about maybe giving it another try. My mom and dad do not know weve been hanigng out, and when we were together, they never let me go out or do anything and were strict cause they didnt want me going to parties or staying with him. ILl be 18 in a couple months, and hes 19. Ive been hiding us hanging out for awhile, and i dont like lying i have bad anxiety and when they do find out it'll be way worse. First off. cause now he has his own apartment.. so they'll think ive been styaing there. How do i ever tell them... once they know were talking though, my life will be cut off again, and i just dont want that, but i dont wanan lie to them
i just need advice really bad, and from any parents or kids whove been through this, itd help a lot.
You can sneak hanging out with him but when they do find out concidering the fact that they have already once flipped out it will probably be much worse the second time. In this case I suggest you to let them know ahead of time. Right now you live under their roof which means you need to follow their rules. Until you turn 18 in a few months you will then become an adult and you are free to do whatever you want as they no longer can and cannot tell you whom you can hangout with. If you want to move in with him that is your choice but I certainly wouldn't do it before you turn 18 because right now at this time you are still concidered a minor. Make sure you also think long and hard about moving in with this guy the last thing you want to do is make a irrashional decision. The questions you should ask yourself..
1. WHY do your parents not like this guy? There must be a reason
2. WHY did you two break up already once before? Will it happen again?
3. Do you two have a bond strong enough to live with each other?
Mom and Dad are just looking out for your best interest