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Q: hi i work in retail and he is my manager. He's always kind to me. He pops out everywhere. When he passes by and i look at him, he always comes back to ask me if i'm alright or do i need any help. He always offers me a ride home but i refuse all the time because i'm so shy. He always look my way and smiles at me.. And that smile could bring me to cloud9..:)) Recently, he told me he knows i can do everything because i'm awesome.. What does it mean? Does He likes me too? I'm afraid to fall for him coz he's old but i can't stop my feelings anymore. It's too strong.. help please!:(( how will i know if he does likes me?
Thank you.

Honestly... I don't think you should do anything.
It's great that you have a reason to smile or feel good about going to work; you have a crush and that's perfectly harmless. I really don't suggest looking into it as anything more, though. You're only 20 and it's not in your best interest to pursue an infatuation with your much older manager. 13 years is a really big age gap, and it most likely wouldn't lead to anything anyway. You could of course argue that age is just a number, but apart from being in completely different stages in your lives, he's your MANAGER... pretty much every workplace has rules against relationships among coworkers, particularly ones with subordinates, so telling him about your feelings or asking him for his would most likely just complicate things and create a bad or awkward situation.

Plus to be honest it sounds like he's just being nice... it doesn't mean he's necessarily into you. I don't mean to burst your bubble or anything but being helpful and asking if an employee needs help is part of his job as a manager...and the fact that he happens to also be kind to you is a trait of a GOOD manager. Nothing more, nothing less.

I could be wrong, but that's just my two cents. I wish you the best.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months. Whenever we go out he ''doesn't bring his wallet.'' So I have to pay for his stuff every time. He never asks how I'm feeling and I feel like he only likes talking about himself. I love him and I love being with him. But every little thing can annoy me. Like he cancelled two of our plans this week at last moment. That annoyed me so much since it left me with nothing to do both days. Ever since he sexually assaulted me I don't always trust him. He can text me how much I mean to him but doesn't do it in person. I guess I'm trying to ask is it normal for me to get annoyed with him about these things? 15/female

Is it normal to get annoyed with boyfriends sometimes? Yes. Is it normal that a boyfriend behaves that way? No. He's the problem, not you.

There is so much wrong with what you described that I really don't know where to start. Honestly, you shouldn't even be with this guy anymore, he sounds like a TOTAL jerk. The fact that you're seeking advice on how to make the relationship work and analyze how you feel about the situation clearly shows that you're trying to be a good girlfriend, which is more than I can say for him.

The fact that the guy SEXUALLY ASSAULTED you is more than enough to DUMP his ass. It sounds like you think it's a problem that you "don't always trust him", but after that, he's not someone to trust at all! Like I said, HE'S the problem. I'm assuming that because you're young you're not really sure what's normal for relationships or what to do about bad ones, but trust me, this isn't normal and he isn't a good boyfriend.

Normally, I would say something like, "But if you really want to work things out you can talk to him..." but honestly? He shouldn't need to be told that he's a jerk. It doesn't matter what he says over text if he doesn't SHOW those feelings in person.

Q: Hey im 14 i need advice!
My ex asked me if I wanted to make out with me and he is one of my best guy friends. and i aked him why and he said that cause I didnt do it when we were going out so now i wanna. My friends tell me I should. But I find it werid thats all but he doesnt find it werid i Havent answered him yet...
WHAT SHOULD I DO????

He's using you.

You shouldn't do it. He just wants to mess around. If he liked you or respected you or wanted to be with you or any of that, he'd ask to get back with you rather than to just make out. And I mean, if you didn't do it when you were going out, why do it as friends? What would that even make you guys?

There's the whole "friends with benefits" thing but... Just the fact that you find it weird shows you're not really comfortable with it, so if you go along with it, you'll just let yourself be used. You'll be confused, and on top of that, there's no telling how it could twist your relationship with him. Plus I just think you're too young to be dealing with that kind of messy, unnecessary drama (trust me, you'll have allll the time in the world ahead of you for that.)

Bottom line, don't give in to something you're not comfortable with just to please someone else.

Q: ok well when my bf uses a condom i am only 12 so how much would sex hurt ???????

... A LOT. so don't do it. with or without a condom. you're 12 for crying out loud; at that age girls should be worrying about what to do with their tongues and hands when they kiss, not worrying about how much SEX will hurt with their boyfriends. you just have no need for that right now.
i'm sorry but for once i don't care if i'm giving the kind of answer the asker was looking for. just trust me on this.

Q: Alright before I tell you anything you should know that the guy I'm in love with can be beyond a complete total asshole when he wants to be. Well I broke up with him about two weeks ago because I heard he was cheating on me. Four hours after I did I realized I had made a mistake. So we have been talking about getting back together and he is coming to my house for a week. Well today a girl messaged me on myspace and asked me if we were dating. I told her no we werent but we were gonna get back together. He texted me and asked me what I had told her and then called me a cockblock. He said that since he's single he could do whatever he wanted and that he was just looking to get laid while he was single. There are two questions I have. One. What should I say to him. And two. Since he's goin to do that would it be alright for me to mess around with another guy to see how he likes it?

ONE: Say "Go screw yourself."

TWO: Sorry, but it doesn't seem like he'll care much. Even if he does get a little jealous, what do you xpect? Do you think he'll suddenly realize how much of a jerk he's been and he feels like his heart's been ripped apart & he never wants to lose you & he wants to staart all over & be together forever? NOT gonna happen, sorry. Not only that, but you'd just be making a slut of yourself by doing that for a guy who's NOT worht your time (harsh? sorry, it had t be said). I say it's time to get over him. You say you're in love with him, but for God's sake, the guy admitted to being a douche RIGHT to your face; he DOESN'T want to be with you, at least not have a real relationship. He's NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. And you know what? The fact that you'd even consider messing around with another guy makes it clear you're not even in love with him either. Break things off COMPLETELY with this asshole.

Unless of course you wanna go ahead & let yourself be used & humiliated & let him step all over you & do whatever he damn well pleases. If that doesn't hurt you, or if you're just willing to get used like that, then go for it. It's a matter of self-respect, mostly.

Q: I don't want to be just friends with this person I want to be more. So that's what I'm doing I emailed him it's just I can't pretend I don't have these feelings I don't want us to catch up as friends more like catch up and get to know each other as more than friends I mean we use to hold hands hug all that stuff we spoke about being with each other so many times I know he must care more than a friend but I just don't want to be only his friend I love this guy its hard to accept him as just a friend. He told me he keeps the messages because it makes him happy when he reads it its so confusing lol

...So tell him? Sorry, it would help if you gave some more background info other than just saying you wanna be more than friends. Doesn't sound like you have anything to be confused about, if you talk about being together, hug, hold hand, etc. he might be thinking the same thing. Unless he's actually straightup TOLD you he JUST wants to stay friends, I don't see any reason not to go for it. Talk to him about it, & chances are he'll feel the same way.

Q: im 13 ive been single 4 about 3 weeks, and its been ok i guess should i go after someone or not?

No, what for? You just said you were ok, there's no need to go chasing after some different guy. No one really "needs" a boyfriend (I'm assuming you're a girl), especially when you're only been single for 3 weeks. Take a little break for yourself, there's nothing wrong with looking around I guess, but there's no reason worry yourself going after guys. Maybe some guy will go after you.

Q: so i started school this year at a big highschool, and i've been making a lot of new friends and stuff. and i usually add people on myspace that i've seen at school to extend the circle.
so i added this one guy kevin, because a few of my friends are friends with him and i figured "why not". but we've been talking a lot and now i think that i might like him. the only problem is we're both REALLY shy so we barely ever talk in person. we flirt alot and stuff, but just on myspace. i know, gay.
and if i ever told my friends who know him they'd automatically tell him and make it really awkward, even if they promise they won't.
so now, my friend katie added him and now she's flirting with him A TON and it's so annoying. but if i say anything to her i KNOW for a fact, even if i tell her not to, she's going to tell kevin that i told her to stop flirting with him and then he'll get freaked out.
i want to hurry up and become really good friends with him so i kind of have an advantage over katie, but since we're both really shy, i'm not sure how fast or easily that's going to happen.
i'm just afraid that katie is going to try to steal him from me, which some how she does REALLY easily with a ton of guys.
what do i do? :[

This sucks, since you're both shy, but if you just wanna get on with it, you can kinda poke fun at the situation and message him one day saying something like "Gosh, have you noticed we never talk to each other at school?" or something like that (yea, gay, but you wanna get over it or not?). Tell him that you think you should start talking in person (in a not-so-obvious-you-wanna-get-close-to-him kinda way). I know you're shy, but if you see him, smile and wave at him, then start actually SAYING something, maybe mention something from myspace (again without making it obvious) and little by little get comfortable with each other to START conversations. In the mean time, you should still tell your friend to stop flirting with him. I know, there's probably some reason you're SURE she'll tell Kevin, but if it annoys you THAT badly, just tell her seriously and be like "PLEEEEEEEAAAASSSSSSSSEEee don't tell him it'll ruin EVERYTHING for me." Friends can't say no to that=/

Q: I am in 11th grade in high school and I like this girl who’s in 12th grade. She’s both smart and very beautiful, and I’m not actually just saying that. Last year during school she would try to get my attention by doing a lot of things for like 8 months. However I never reacted to her and then she started to date her friend’s brother from another school. I really regret that I didn’t do anything to show her that I liked her. Eventually I called her right before school ended. She told me she had a bf, but that we should still talk sometime. She said she had dated her bf for a month, and I remember that every time she saw me she looked really sad. Especially on the day she bought prom tickets for the both of them. I called her back again and we talked for a bit since it was late. Eventually I had to go on an international vacation, so I called her but her mom picked up the phone instead. I just told her mom to tell her that I called.
When I got back from vacation I wanted to call her but decided to try to talk to her in school. When school did start I found that I didn’t have the courage to talk to her. We met in the halls in the mornings but we just look at each other. There was one time she said hi to me and asked me how my vacation was but all I could say to her was "hello" and "good". There was also another time when she actually said the words, “I like him” just as I showed up in the hallway. However she said it behind my back and I didn’t confront her about this. This was probably the most stupid thing I have ever done. I still like her a lot but I’m not sure what to do. In fact I think I’ve fallen in love with her.
Since this is her last year in high school I really want to try to date her. Even though she never told me that she liked me I can tell that she does by the way she acts when I’m near her. I've joined some clubs in school for college application help and sometimes she's in some of them. She would also do things to get my attention during club meetings. Anyways, besides our very brief talk in school we haven’t continued to talk. One reason that I was afraid is b/c if we do talk I’ll ask her if she still has a bf, and of course she’ll reply “yes”. Then I would probably do something stupid like hang up on her. If I did do this I probably would ruin any chances with her. I mean I’ve let her down so many times and have probably hurt her a lot. Her current bf was there for her when I wasn’t. I know it’s probably a lot to ask for, but I just want one chance to be with her. I’ve never felt this way about a girl before. Anyways I have a lot of questions:

1. After everything I’ve screwed up, is there a chance that she could have any feelings left for me? I mean she still drops subtle hints and stuff, but I’m constantly worried everyday whether she still likes me or not. I mean doesn’t the fact that she drops hint whiling having a bf suggests she doesn’t have 100% loyalty to him?

2. How should I try to establish a connection to her again? I mean it’s been like a month since we last talked (counting the brief talk) and like 4 months since our last conversation. Its way too awkward for me to call her, I mean I know I’ve said she’s important to me and that this suggests I would do anything to try and reach her, but its because of how important she is to me that I’m afraid I’ll screw up again. Should I like just ‘wave’ to her while we walk past each other in school? I’ll be going to a soup kitchen next Wednesday for a club that we’re both in and I really hope that she comes, I feel as it would be easier to talk to her alone while having something to talk about right away.

3. I don't understand why she wants me to know that I like her even when she has a bf, does she want me to try and steal her away or something?

4. Is there any way I can ease my jealousy over her bf? I mean I know they’ve probably kissed and made out, but I hope nothing more has happened. Also there’s a party this week for Halloween and she’ll probably go with her bf.

1. I'd say you still have a chance with her. I don't think she's "dropping hints" to make you jealous or anything, it's probably just natural (imaine being with someone while you like someone else... you probably couldn't help it, right?). Just give it time, since I don't think "stealing her away" would be the best thing to do right now, especially since it was a "your loss" kinda thing.
2. Don't worry about screwing up. Just keep talking to her like you would a friend you haven't seen in a long time. Why make things awkward for yourself without having to?
3. I'd have to know her, but if she still really likes you, she might, but I don't suggest doing that. Like I said, it's just natural.
4. Umm, you can try... but when a person likes someone who's with someone else, it's not just s easy as saying, "Just get over it." Unfortunately, though, that's exactly what you have to do.

Q: For the past month or two I have liked this guy. His name is Riley and he is very sweet. We talk all the time and we always flirt and joke around and compliment eachother. He always tells me how awesome I am and how he thinks I am one of the nicest girls ever and how I am alot of fun. I think he is really sweet, funny and understands me. He is a grade older than me and he goes to another school.

My best friend is really good friends with him so she talks to him alot. She found out he really likes me, but there is one problem. He also likes 4 other girls. Hes not sure who he likes more so he doesnt want a girlfriend right now cause he doesnt want to end up hurting anyone. Im not supposed to know any of this. Ive never told him straight out I like him but I want to. I was going to last night but I chickened out because I was afraid of being hurt. Should I tell him how I feel? Or try to move on and the girls at his school have him? Any ideas? Thanks

I think you should tell him. Better to just get it out of the way, right? After all, the way things are now: He likes you, and you like him, but he doesn't know, so obvoiusly you're not going out.
If you tell him, he'll probably be glad because he likes you too, and he might ask you out. The worst that can happen is that he doesn't ask you out because he doesn't wanna hurt anyone, but would that REALLY be that bad? You guys aren't going out anyway, so might as well take a chance, and it's better to take that chance than let those other girls have it, don't you think?

Q: this guy has a gf but he likes me 2. I lke him back and he wants to hookup and stuff and cheat on her with me. yah i no its wrong but i really lke him and were gonna go out anyway after they break up . BUt they might not breakup for a while. shes also a "friend of mine" but i dont rlly like her. idk what to do bc i like him alot and dont want to wait but if anyne finds out my life is ruined.thanks!

Yeah, no.
This guy sounds like a total jerk. If he really liked you, he'd break up with your "friend" already. Otherwise, you're really just "the girl on the side". I know it may sound harsh, but think about it. It's true. besides, even if you ignore YOUR role in this little mess, think about HIM: is this really the kinda guy you wanna be with?
If you don't care about that girl he's messing with, and you like him too much to see what a jerk he is, at least take a look at what you think about yourself. And if you STILL wanna get yourslef into this, go for it. But i think you already have an idea of how things would go, otherwise you'd've done it already=/

Q: My boyfriend is getting me really mad, becauze me him and a couple of frendz are supposed to go to a teen club on saturday, and when i told him about it he sed " oh im gunna go wiht my ex girlfriend " now im not gonna hav a fun time and im gunna worry about them, he mite even ignore me that nite. what should i do, and i need advice quik because saturday is coming up and i need to know wuht to do ahead of time, thanx

Tell him you don't feel comfotrable with him being with his ex... AT ALL. If he doesn't care, then act mad at him. I know it sounds immature or whatever, but don't stress yourself out about him. Let him know how you feel, but if he doesn't care, act like you don't either. And if he ignores you... you SHOULDN'T be taking that from him. He acts like a jerk, you don't have to be mr. nice guy (girl, whatev).

Q: well i liked my friend for like the longest time now. we dont go to the same school anymore but hopefully ill go to school with him next year. the thing is i saw him yesterday and its like i didnt like him anymore. that should be a good thing because we cant be more that friends but at the same time it kinda hurts me. its just that without my feelings for him i feel empty. he was the one that kept me going and taught me so much about myself and now i feel like i lost that. we're still friends and all but i cant control these feelings and i wish that there was someone i could trust but i cant...

That's kind of a weird feeling but i think i get what you mean. The only thing i'm thinking might make you feel better is talking to him. Give him a call or something & you can catch up on what's been going on since the whole "school" thing separated you guys. To me, it just sounds like you miss him, whether you like him or not, so that's all i can think of right now=]
~MG

Q: if a boy says he likes you and wants to be with you does he usually mean it?

It depends on:
what your definition of "usually" is, it depends on the situation, and it depends on what kind of guy he is. So you need to give more details for a better answer.

BUT if he's NOT the kinda guy who goes around telling that to everyone (John Tucker...), and if he sounds sincere, AND you know him well enough to know he doesn't mess with your mind, then chances are he might mean it.

Q: So theres this guy Im talking to.He says hes likes me but hes soooo shy. He puts his arms around me, we cuddle and he kisses my forehead. but hes so shy to kiss me...we talk like everyday, but he hasnt called or texted me in like three days, and i feel weird. dont know why. I know hes really shy, and i want HIM to make the move, but im guessing i have too. Im confused cause weve been friends for like a year, but he knows ive liked him for like 6 months and so has he...should i make the first move...but the problem is, is that hes really shy and might hold back his feelings.

You'd be surprised how many guys say they'd actually prefer for the girl to ask them out, so if you're confident enough, go for it (it sounds pretty necessary). But, if you're like me (and I wouldn't ask a guy out... i just wouldn't) then just use your friends. Childish, i know, but it could work... just an idea. Anyway, good luck with that. either way, i have a feeling you two will be going out pretty soon;)

Q: so basically one of my friends told me that this guy named joey liked me, he is extremeley smart, good looking and a year older than me (im 16) and my friend told me that he wants to ask me out for two reasons 1. he kinda likes me 2. there is this girl named bridget same age as he who also likes him and wants joey to ask her out but joey does not want to go out with her and so he wants to ask me out so maybe bridget would back off. I like joey but i also like this guy 18 m phil. He is incredibly good looking and he is a girl magnet, i thought he liked me because he kept on flirting with me last year and this year but my sister told me he does that to all girls and he also smokes a lot (for me thats a turnoff). I want to go out with joey but i don't want to get in a fight with bridget about it because my friend told me that he wants me to go with the plan that if joey asks me out i would say yes, but i actually do like him but i just dont want bridget to get mad at me, i don't want to talk to bridget because im not that close with her shes just in a couple of my classes, but i dont want to say no to the offer either and then theres phil... what should i do?

if i were you, i'd go with joey. if he likes you, bridget shouldn't be a problem, and since you like him too, you should give him a chance. it desn't sound so much like he's using you to get rid of bridget, but more like it just happens to be a bonus if you went out with him.
as for phil, it sounds like you're mainly just attracted to him physically. being a "player" & smoking... that's not cool. that just screams "HEARTBREAK, JUST WAITING TO HAPPEN!"
still, i don't know any of you, so i can't judge. just saying it the way it sounds to me, but do what you feel is right.
~Mari^_^

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