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Almost Out of Time
I am in 11th grade in high school and I like this girl who’s in 12th grade. She’s both smart and very beautiful, and I’m not actually just saying that. Last year during school she would try to get my attention by doing a lot of things for like 8 months. However I never reacted to her and then she started to date her friend’s brother from another school. I really regret that I didn’t do anything to show her that I liked her. Eventually I called her right before school ended. She told me she had a bf, but that we should still talk sometime. She said she had dated her bf for a month, and I remember that every time she saw me she looked really sad. Especially on the day she bought prom tickets for the both of them. I called her back again and we talked for a bit since it was late. Eventually I had to go on an international vacation, so I called her but her mom picked up the phone instead. I just told her mom to tell her that I called.
When I got back from vacation I wanted to call her but decided to try to talk to her in school. When school did start I found that I didn’t have the courage to talk to her. We met in the halls in the mornings but we just look at each other. There was one time she said hi to me and asked me how my vacation was but all I could say to her was "hello" and "good". There was also another time when she actually said the words, “I like him” just as I showed up in the hallway. However she said it behind my back and I didn’t confront her about this. This was probably the most stupid thing I have ever done. I still like her a lot but I’m not sure what to do. In fact I think I’ve fallen in love with her.
Since this is her last year in high school I really want to try to date her. Even though she never told me that she liked me I can tell that she does by the way she acts when I’m near her. I've joined some clubs in school for college application help and sometimes she's in some of them. She would also do things to get my attention during club meetings. Anyways, besides our very brief talk in school we haven’t continued to talk. One reason that I was afraid is b/c if we do talk I’ll ask her if she still has a bf, and of course she’ll reply “yes”. Then I would probably do something stupid like hang up on her. If I did do this I probably would ruin any chances with her. I mean I’ve let her down so many times and have probably hurt her a lot. Her current bf was there for her when I wasn’t. I know it’s probably a lot to ask for, but I just want one chance to be with her. I’ve never felt this way about a girl before. Anyways I have a lot of questions:
1. After everything I’ve screwed up, is there a chance that she could have any feelings left for me? I mean she still drops subtle hints and stuff, but I’m constantly worried everyday whether she still likes me or not. I mean doesn’t the fact that she drops hint whiling having a bf suggests she doesn’t have 100% loyalty to him?
2. How should I try to establish a connection to her again? I mean it’s been like a month since we last talked (counting the brief talk) and like 4 months since our last conversation. Its way too awkward for me to call her, I mean I know I’ve said she’s important to me and that this suggests I would do anything to try and reach her, but its because of how important she is to me that I’m afraid I’ll screw up again. Should I like just ‘wave’ to her while we walk past each other in school? I’ll be going to a soup kitchen next Wednesday for a club that we’re both in and I really hope that she comes, I feel as it would be easier to talk to her alone while having something to talk about right away.
3. I don't understand why she wants me to know that I like her even when she has a bf, does she want me to try and steal her away or something?
4. Is there any way I can ease my jealousy over her bf? I mean I know they’ve probably kissed and made out, but I hope nothing more has happened. Also there’s a party this week for Halloween and she’ll probably go with her bf.
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1. I'd say you still have a chance with her. I don't think she's "dropping hints" to make you jealous or anything, it's probably just natural (imaine being with someone while you like someone else... you probably couldn't help it, right?). Just give it time, since I don't think "stealing her away" would be the best thing to do right now, especially since it was a "your loss" kinda thing.
2. Don't worry about screwing up. Just keep talking to her like you would a friend you haven't seen in a long time. Why make things awkward for yourself without having to?
3. I'd have to know her, but if she still really likes you, she might, but I don't suggest doing that. Like I said, it's just natural.
4. Umm, you can try... but when a person likes someone who's with someone else, it's not just s easy as saying, "Just get over it." Unfortunately, though, that's exactly what you have to do.
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1. You still have a chance with her. It could be that she is trying to make you jealouse. I had a person do that to me.
2.Try to come up with a converstaion or is you are walking down the hall say hi or just go up to her when she is alone talk to her.
3. Yes you can ease your jealousy over her bf.
Ignore him.Dont let him get to you.
hope i helped
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