about

Hi, I'm Kristin..

I'm sixteen
I love to read the directions on everything.. Shampoo, cake, you name it..
I'm a pretty laid back person, in general.
I don't like annoying people, or things, but then again-- who does?
It really bothers me when people walk slow.
I'm really into photography and my camera is my pride and joy.
It's about the only thing I'm known to take care of in my life.
I'm on drumline.
Austin and Tarra are my Best friends
I'm in band, which goes along with the drumline.
i love just standing in the rain.
I'm easy to get to know.
Easy to lose my trust
Hard to get it back.
Obbessive people really aggrivate me

advice

hey iam sally 15yrs iam just confused about this what should i do to keep a longlife relationship.is it tru that showing him that ur not intrested much makes him get closer and want u more??? thanks anyway

With some guys, yes acting as if you're not interested AT FIRST will want to chase you more. It's instint- we want what we can't have, & if he can't you, he'll want you. Make sense? You only want to play that card for a little bit. Three days at the most. Flirt a little bit so he know's you're interested. Guys know all the tricks about dating there is to know, so he'll know what you're trying to do, but it wont make him want you less.
Like the person before said, after the 'game' of cat and mouse- it's about communication. Clearly.

So communicate often and that's a sure fire way to start off a nice relationship.

-tekcoreht

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I'm dating this girl. I'm really happy, and I love her very much. but theres this other girl that likes me, and she happens to be a close friend. She has a b/f and she's wants to dump this b/f for me. But how do I tell her I don't wanna be with her? I don't want her to get mad and stop being my friend.....idk....

Well, first off, let me applaud you on your decision. Do you know how many guys would dump their current girlfriend just for a change? That was very wise of you. If you have been leading the second girl on and making her feel like you'd dump your girlfriend for her, then no, she probably wont be your friend anymore. If you just acknowledged that she liked you and she took it into her own hands to point out she's going to dump her boyfriend, then she might understand why you feel the way you feel. Tell her that you love your girlfriend. That should be enough, but if this girl is persistent then let her know that you wouldn't be able to date someone else for a while after you dumped your current girlfriend. I mean, because in my mind dumping someone for someone else is as close to cheating besides cheating.

-tekcoreht

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 weeks. He asked me to the Christmas Dance. I was thinking of mabye at the end of the dance I would go up to him and say, "I want to give you your Christmas present a little early." Then tell him to close his eyes and when he does then kiss him. We haven't kissed yet. Do you think he would like this?

14/f

That would be really cute, but there's a few things you want to take into consideration.
- If he's kind of a 'contrl freak' he might be a little upset that HE didn't get to make the first move. It might make him feel less 'manly'
- If he's kind of shy then this might embarass he. Are you sure he's ready?

These are just a few things to look at. I doubt that those are something you should worry about. Overall I think it's a cute idea!

-tekcoreht

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. I want to get him something great for xmas and I want to make him some stuff to. What can I do (take him somewhere or something), give him, and make him? Give me as many ideas that you can! *by the way he is a musician (guitar bass and keyboards) and he loves video games and stuff for PSP and DS if that helps* Thanks in advance!

I don't know how old you are, so I don't know if taking him out for dinner is an opion, but if it is-

Taking him somewhere: Take him to a nice restaurant and maybe go back to your house for a movie. That'd be nice.
Making him something: Since he's into guitars and stuff why don't you make a picture frame and glue guitar picks around the edges and put a nice picture of you two in it. Keyboard- If you have several pictures of you two together why don't you make a keyboard out of pictures.
(IE: The white keys are pictures of you two, and the black keys just stay black so he knows that it's a keyboard.) -- You can make this out of cardboard and construction paper. Very Simple
You also could get him a guitar pick and take rubbing alchol to it if it has any writing on it to get it off and write in Sharpie or a paint pin 'I love you' or the day yall started dating. -- Also, very simple.
For buying him something: Buy him a video game of some sort: Final Fantasy? Grand Theft Auto? Anything he likes. Ask him what game 'he's just dying for'

-tekcoreht

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Me and my b/f have been dating almost 3 months...I have NO clue what to get him for Christmas. I plan on talking to his mom about it eventually too, but he likes jazz and country music, we're both in band at school, and he's a big gamer. I don't have a whole lot of money, but any guys got any ideas or girls that have been in this position before...ideas would be greatly appreciated! Thx!

Well, since we all don't know him this is tough.
Try something he NEEDS-
(IE: Wallet, Belt, Hat, Watch)
Think of things he really likes-
(IE: Games- Final Fantasy? Grand Theft Auto?)
Or try making something from the heart
(IE: Picture frame, '100 things I love about you')

Just be creative. I know without a doubt that he'll love anything that you give him, because of course, it came from you!

-tekcoreht

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My bf didn't kiss me for a long time because he was nervous and didn't want to do anything wrong. We finally did, and it was great since I care about him but otherwise, I didn't really like it. I don't really know how to describe what I didn't like. He opens mouths mouth too much and it's slobbery and wet. Kind of passionate, but wiping off my mouth afterward is definetly not. It reminds he of getting licked by a dog or something. Yuck... I don't know what to do because we've kissed several times since that and they all seem the same. Should I say anything? I don't want to hurt his feelings because I know how scared he is of doing "wrong". Please help!!! I care about him so I don't want kissing, a display of affection, to be what gives us problems. That just seems silly to me.

Instead of out right telling him that what he's doing isn't affecting you, why don't you just show him what you'd rather want. With my boyfriend I like to change 'tempos' randomly. It kinda let's the GIRL have control over the kiss. Whenever he's opening his mouth too big go a closed mouth kiss for a bit and then try the opened mouth one again. During the kiss just try different styles and techniques YOU like and hopefully he'll catch on. This might take a few times for him to get used to and hopefully follow the flow.

Conclusion:
I know that a lot of girls they 'let the boy take the lead and you just follow' if you want his kissing style to be different you need to help him by showing him what you want. Otherwise he's left in the dark.

-tekcoreht

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hey- ok my parents sre aginast me dating balck guys but i see no problem with it and i like a this guy and all but my parents have told me that they would disowne me and i dont want that!!!! but i like this guy and dont know what to do ! thats so much!!!!!



Signed,
Confused lover

Even thought this might be hard, try and find another guy. If your parents are against this chances are they'd do what they said they would to you. Try and search other places for someone special. I know he's out there.

-tekcoreht

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I met this guy, and I had a one night stand with him. I am 19 and he is 23. The problem is, I did not want to have sex at all. I just wanted to kiss, but he kept pressuring me to go further and further, and I eventually gave in to everything.

While we were having sex, it hurt so much. I was crying and telling him to stop but he kept going. I tried shoving him away but he didn't stop. I could have probably easily punched him in the face and made him stop, but for some reason, I didn't. I lied and told him it was hurting because I had been raped as a last attempt to get him to stop. He still didn't, and I eventually just sucked it up and let him finish.

Throughout the whole ordeal, he said some pretty mean things to me, the worse being that he had to pretend like the sex we just had was the best he'd ever experienced, just so he'd be able to finish himself off. And you know what I said? NOTHING. After I laid on the bathroom floor crying for awhile, I laid in bed with him, staring at the ceiling for 3 hours while he slept.

I do not have the slightest idea why I let him use me. I usually am smarter than this, love myself more than this, have more integrity than this. I am numb all over and wonder what the heck happened, how did I let it happen. Please, any insight would be appreciated.

I'm not going to sit here and tell you what you SHOULD have done, because what is done is done. Nothing can change.

In the situation you were you in, you did as much as you could possibly do to stop him, correct? Well, since at first you did finally tell him you'd have sex with him, so filing 'rape' might not work on the account that he might bring up the fact that you did say yes.

On the other hand, when it started to hurt you, you asked him to stop and he didn't. This guy was a selfish jerk who just wanted to pleasure himself even if it hurt you. Which in the end you found out that he had to pretend it was good. Which goes back to my first opinion about him- he's a selfish jerk. No one in their right mind would finish KNOWING it's hurting a woman. That's horrible.

There's nothing more you can do about this guy. Plain and simple, but you can prevent yourself from ever being used like that again. You might have already gone through this in your mind, but I'm here to stay it out loud- If you meet a 'nice guy' try to not let him take you to his, or your house/apartment right away. I mean, a nice quiet coffee shop is okay for getting to know people. If this guy gets all mad that you're not going to go to his house, now you know he just wanted to get some.

In conclusion:
Meet the guy, know the guy, love the guy.
Then you know that you're ready for sex with him and he's ready for it with you.

-tekcoreht

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i have this little probelem, i am afraid to make out with anyone because i think i will be bad at it. i have never made out with anyone before, and my old bf was a little weirded out by the whole not making out thing. what do i do?

It's just a thing you're going to end up doing at least one time in your life, why not start now? I remember when I was so embarrassed by saying that I hadn't made out with anyone, but I wanted to so bad.
Your first kiss:
You want it to be something special and something you'll never forget. Mine wasn't. It was under a tree in my friend's yard. Romantic? No. Weird? Yes. So don't go just kiss any guy, make sure you really like this guy, because the truth of it is; is if you're bad, he wont care the fact that you like and trust him enough to kiss him with pasion like that should be enough to knock him off his feet.
Fact: Everyone's first time they think that they are going to do bad because they've never done something like this before. Just don't think about it. Just do it. Close your eyes and let the boy take the lead. Just remember to not let it turn into a slobber fest.

Just remember you're not as bad as you think you are. I promise you this. It's just a mental thing that everyone goes through. Don't worry, it goes away once you have made out a couple of times. It's probably going to happen with each new guy. It did with me at least. I freaked out thinking 'what if my old boyfriend thought I was a good kisser, but this one doesn't?!' I've learned to just be cool about it. If he doesn't think you're a good kisser; you can only get better with practice. For, practice makes perfect.

-tekcoreht

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how do you know that your in love?

i rate all 5's.

When you are at a complete loss of words that could possibly explain how you feel for that one person.

-tekcoreht

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but we gone out 4 9months and where never done nothing sep kiss and hug he told me that we should wait 2 we now every thing about each other that way we will really every thing about each other so we wouldnt wanna break up and dis been my longest relashoin ship 9months

Look at it this way:

If you truely loved him as much as you say you do, you wouldn't want to get him in even more trouble by being with you.

-tekcoreht

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is it unusial for a guy 2 cry over his girl

No! Not at all. It's quite normal for more open, sensitive guys that aren't afraid to show their feelings toward a girl.
That's attractive to me. I mean, who doesn't want a guy who's not afraid to show his feelings.

Not I said the fly.

-tekcoreht

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im a younge girl turning 16 in march the 1 and i been going out whith this guy for 9months now but the only diffrence is hes 21 a five year gape i dont see nothing wronge whith it but some people do im really in love whith him and he says he loves me and wants me 2 be hes 4 a enternity hes in jail at a moment but 4 somthing his friend done and i dont want eny one else to be his girl sep me can i hear what yous got to say plz

It's kind of wrong for a couple of resons.

1. If you two were to perform any sexual acts it would be considered rape, even if you did agree to it considering you're a minor.
2. you're a minor! He could go back to jail if he was caught doing anything that the police consider inappropriate.
3. He's in jail. That should be enough of a reason. Even if his friend did the crime, the fact that he's in jail should be a turn off as it is.
4. It's a five year difference. Most likely he's looking for sex. That's more than illegal.
5. He might not truely love you like a boy in the same age group as you might.

Try to just find a nice guy around the same age you are. It shouldn't be too hard.

-tekcoreht

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i met a cute guy this weekend, at a rebel paintball cuarse - he works there - my house is jus a few blocks away from it - we started chattin right away - well - long story short - i was playin with his phone, and he told me 2 put my number on - i asked him why, and he told me its so he can call me when hes there again - i dont know if he likes me - but it sure looks that way - i jus wanna know - does he like me - or doesnt he - cause i sure-as-hell like him.

I assume he's probably looking for some type of relationship if he's asking for your number. That's how my boyfriend asked for mine. I guess that some guys just don't want to make it such a big deal when they ask for your number. it's safe to say I think he likes you.

-tekcoreht

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ok this girl likes me. and i like her. but im in 9th and she is in 7th. is that kool ? should i go out with her. also she is hot lol all myu friends thing she is hot 2.

It's fine, it's about a 2-3 year difference. My boyfriend is a grade and a year ahead of me, but the only difference is we're in the same school. I don't know when you switch from middle school to High school, but we go to High School in 9th grade. If that's the same for you, she'd be in middle school and you'd be in high school. That might be a little hard, but other than that it's perfectly fine. =]

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What guys look for in a girl?? Thanx

Eye color?
Hair color
Do you want her to kiss you on the first date?
If not when?
When is it alright to take it to second base
How soon do you want her to put it out (sex wise)
athletic, preppy or girly girl?
Skinny,muscular,chubby or fat
shorter or taller than you?
experienced or unexperienced?
Do looks matter?
Whats a major turn off?
Whats a major turn on?
Feature you like the most on girls?
Do you like it when a girl makes the first move?
If your girlfriend gains 20lbs will you stay with her?
Do you like it when girls play hard to get?
Dou you like
Would you date a girl who has slept around just for sex?
Would you date an ugly girl just for sex?
Ass or boobs?
Pretty face or hot body
Do you mind if a girl beats you while playing sports?
Make-up or no make-up?
dressed up girl or sweat pants/casual jeans and a sweatshirt
First thing you notice about a girl?

My boyfriend answered them for you, enjoy.

Eye color? -----blue/green?
Hair color ? ----- brown
Do you want her to kiss you on the first date?-----no
If not when? -----when shes ready
athletic, preppy or girly girl? -----any of the above
Skinny,muscular,chubby or fat ... -----non of the above:-) i like in the middle. lol
shorter or taller than you? shorter
experienced or unexperienced?----- doesnt make a difference
Do looks matter? -----in a way
Whats a major turn off? ----- changing the subject when its something important
Whats a major turn on? ----- making the first move
Feature you like the most on girls? ----- eyes and smile
Do you like it when a girl makes the first move? ----- duh i just said that. yes:-)
If your girlfriend gains 20lbs will you stay with her? ----- oof course. just not 21lbs!
Do you like it when girls play hard to get? ----- depends
Ass or boobs? ----- seriously? (i dont think you wanna know that one. but let me know if you do ill tell you)
Pretty face or hot body ----- both would be nice:-P8-) either one though
Do you mind if a girl beats you while playing sports? ----- no,
Make-up or no make-up? -----whichever she prefers. i prefer none
dressed up girl or sweat pants/casual jeans and a sweatshirt? doesnt make a difference
First thing you notice about a girl? ----- their smile

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This is my second time posting here on Advicenators. Well, I could really use some good advice here. I am 14 years old, never been kissed, hugged, dated..etc. I like older boys better because I know they tend to make the first moves and spoil you more, but I never thought I would end up like my best friends older brother. He's just two years older, not even. He's cute and he's funny, but he's really shallow. He's making me want to just die with the harsh things he says. He's always telling my friend Marissa* you should hang out with hot friends because all your friends are ugly. Right when I am sitting there. Now I can't stop hating myself.

I'm sorry, but I don't exactly see a question in there.. Please next time try and make your question more clear.

-therocket

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Hi, I'm the one who wrote about my boyfriend who so rudely dumped me without as much as even TELLING me, and then saying that I didn't have feelings and desserved my heart broken as much as people wanted too. Now I am a generally nice person, but this got me so upset. :( Well now hes going out with this other girl, and they keep iming me to tell me what a "loser" I am and how I can't "get" any boys. I blocked them but I still have to see them at school. By the way, their screennames are pyroboy9977 and XoCheerQtXo3222, if anyone would like to talk some sense into them.

Sorry for wasting your time, but I'm really stuck here. And I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. :(

hey! I'm talking to them again. that pyropboy blocked my yesterday. wahoo

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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."

I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.

I can't believe this. :(

I'm making his life wonderful. ehh that's really rude. I'm IMing him. no worries.. man this is going to be fun

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what is spooning?

basically cuddleing.

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