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Sloppy kissing
My bf didn't kiss me for a long time because he was nervous and didn't want to do anything wrong. We finally did, and it was great since I care about him but otherwise, I didn't really like it. I don't really know how to describe what I didn't like. He opens mouths mouth too much and it's slobbery and wet. Kind of passionate, but wiping off my mouth afterward is definetly not. It reminds he of getting licked by a dog or something. Yuck... I don't know what to do because we've kissed several times since that and they all seem the same. Should I say anything? I don't want to hurt his feelings because I know how scared he is of doing "wrong". Please help!!! I care about him so I don't want kissing, a display of affection, to be what gives us problems. That just seems silly to me.
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girl...you gotta sit him down and ya know juss explain to him "hey,hunny,i love you,but you slobber on me" make it kinda light hearted so he doesnt feel attacked. Sit him down and then explain to him how you want your kisses to be!
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Take control. If he is doing something you aren't so happy with, you can stop him. Try pausing and smiling at him and if you are laying down (or sitting up) try maneuvering on top of him. Kiss him the way you want to be kissed. Or, just stop and look at him funny. Then say something to the effect of..."I like it better this way..."
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Uh.. haha you don't want to tell him that he is a bad kisser, that would totally blow his self assurance...Just when your kissing sometime just mention hey don't open your mouth that big Lol and laugh a little but don't make it obvious yor telling him Lol..
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Hi There,
Don't be afraid of your shyness, it's only natural to feel self-aware when it comes to something like kissing. And chances are this is what's holding your boyfriend back as well. You've been together for a long time, after all, and so if this feels like a natural step then it's important you let him know.
There are two ways for you to approach this. Firstly, you could try speaking up at a good time. If you're not happy about taking a direct approach, it's worth turning the question away from a 'snog me!' to mentioning it might be fun to explore a different kind of kiss. This way, you're stating a wish without putting him under pressure. If he's keen, you'll soon know about it.
Alternatively, however, you might find it's easier to simply expand your current kissing technique. If you're limited to a lip nuzzle, try gently probing with your tongue and just see how he responds. Hopefully, you'll get the snog you want in no time, and if not then use the opportunity to talk about your feelings for each other.
Sometimes, it can take a toe-curling moment such as this to establish honesty in a relationship. It's something that takes a little courage, but whatever happens you're guaranteed to look back knowing you did the right thing.
Goodluck
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Tell him you want to play a game. Make him close his eyes and do whatever you do as exact as possible. Kiss him the way you want him to kiss you, if he does it his sloppy way tell him thats not how you did it. He'll be more conscious about it there after.
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Hey i can relate to this..
Well my boyfriend use to be a really sloppy kisser as well.. I think it was mainly because he has bigger lips then me but i mean i still liked kissen him even tho i did have to wipe my face afterwards.. This is how i get his kissing to change..Well one night we was kissin on his bed and i kinda was like baby slow it down and lets not open our mouths so wide then after we kissed like that he complimented me an said thats better.. and then ever since then we have kissed like that.. i mean i don`t think i was mean about it or anything but see it might be harder for you cuz he was scared of doing something wrong anyways.. so just after you tell him be like you do fine i`d just like to keep our mouths closed a lil bit more.. *not like completely closed but a lil bit would help you and tell him to swallow his spit..* ♥ Dez
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Instead of out right telling him that what he's doing isn't affecting you, why don't you just show him what you'd rather want. With my boyfriend I like to change 'tempos' randomly. It kinda let's the GIRL have control over the kiss. Whenever he's opening his mouth too big go a closed mouth kiss for a bit and then try the opened mouth one again. During the kiss just try different styles and techniques YOU like and hopefully he'll catch on. This might take a few times for him to get used to and hopefully follow the flow.
Conclusion:
I know that a lot of girls they 'let the boy take the lead and you just follow' if you want his kissing style to be different you need to help him by showing him what you want. Otherwise he's left in the dark.
-tekcoreht
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hey hun, i went threw the some thing with my boyfriend he was THE WORST kisser i ever dated. but i brok up with him, and im sure u dont want to do that so if you talk to him nicely just say i dont want to be mean or anything, but you're a sloppy kisser. and just keep talking to him about it like what not do and what to do.
if you need anything else drop it in my inbox*
hope i helped.
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