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No bridge over these troubled waters...
This is my second time posting here on Advicenators. Well, I could really use some good advice here. I am 14 years old, never been kissed, hugged, dated..etc. I like older boys better because I know they tend to make the first moves and spoil you more, but I never thought I would end up like my best friends older brother. He's just two years older, not even. He's cute and he's funny, but he's really shallow. He's making me want to just die with the harsh things he says. He's always telling my friend Marissa* you should hang out with hot friends because all your friends are ugly. Right when I am sitting there. Now I can't stop hating myself.
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The guy is obviously a jerk. He obviously does'nt care about a girls personality. If he's just looking for looks, then he's not good for you. Alot of guys from the ages 13 to about 18 only care about your body features. Not all of them are like that, but most of them are. If this guy likes you soo much, he would watch his mouth. Well i'll ttyl. Hope i helped.
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well just foget about him there are mani guys out there. you`re onli 14(well so am i) but what im tryin to sai is he aint worthed to be with if he makes you feel bad. hes a jerk.
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Okay first thing.. just don't listen to the jerk. Next time he makes a comment tell him just to shut the "heck" up. You can't let people talk about you like that.. especially in your face! I know how most people care about what others say..I mean I do care about what others say, but not all the time. They think I'm ugly? So? I think they're a *beotch*. They think I'm stupid? So? I think they're rude and obnoxious and have no life and they only follow what other people do because they don't have a mind of their own. Even though he may be cute and stuff that doesn't mean he can just go around and call people ugly. I mean I don't think I'm ugly.. but I've never been kissed and stuff neither. Well I've been hugged but that's a bout it. I dated someone for a week and a day, so that's really nothing to brag about ( he was weird )..anyways, just think about the positive things about yourself. My friend always goes on about how she thinks she's ugly, fat, etc. And I do at times think," Ugh I hate my hair", " ugh Im ugly" but I just keep it out of my mind. So next time he says something like that, just ignore him ( and hopefully he'll get the hint that you don't care anymore and shut up ). Or try saying something back to him. ( I can't think of anything right now haha sorry ). Maybe go to his friend next time they're there and just be like," You should hang out with nice friends because your friend here is a a big "freakin" jerk who has no consideration for people's feelings which really won't get him far in the girl's department if he keeps calling girls and stuff ugly.. not that he got far before." ( oooh diss lol sorry ) I don't know ; something like that. But the big moral: Just ignore him ; who cares what he thinks.. someday you'll get a guy, who likes YOU and won't insult you and stuff.. I hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
p.s. Sorry this might not make much sense.. whenever I type long advices, sometimes I tend to zone out and not think and I just start typing so I might have said something that might not make snese, or I repeated things.. lol once again, sorry!! =P
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Don't listen to him. First off, who says there is anything wrong with being 14 and not ever beeing kissed, hugged, dated, etc. Yeah sure, there are people who have at like 12, but who wants to see that, and anyways how long do any of those relationships last? Not very long. You might look back and thank yourself for not having doing all those things yet. Why? Because you would want all of that to mean something to you, especially all of your firsts. You should be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
As for looks, don't give it another thought. When a guy likes you, he should like you for who you are, and not what you look like right? Looks are not as important as personality is in a relationship. Yes they do have importance, but should not be used as a deciding factor as to like a person or not. What if you went blind? Would you care at that point what your boyfriend or husband or anything looked like? Do you see what I mean? So don't let anything he says get to you, because even if he does mean it, doesn't make it true. Feel better and good luck.
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Okay doll. Im sure your beautiful just the way you are, and you dont need any shallow guy to think your hot. Why would you want someone shallow to even think that. Just dont let it get you down. Guys can be shallow and insensitive but it isnt worth gettin your pride or feelings hurt over. If all they want is someone hot, then their not worth your time. =) and untill then, love yourself for who you are - not for what you want guys to think you are.
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The right answer to this would be not to listen to him or care about what he says. But.. I know its hard not to because jerks like him do put you down. He is being ignorant and most older guys are. I dont know why but it just seems that way. Who cares what he thinks! Seriously.. you are not ugly so dont let him put you down like that. Ugly is not how a person looks its people's personalities that can get ugly and you dont seem to have that! You seem nice and everything and if you let a guy like him talk to you like that.. then that is really not good. Be confident in the way you look. I`m sure you're gorgeous! If he says something like that again tell him so stfu and hes soo lame! He is acting like hes in middle school! Gosh its making me angry!! But dont worry about it hun!
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dump him.
girl you can do SO much better.
you need a boy to show that he cares and makes u feel good not bad!
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Girl! you need to speak up tell that bitch that u aint ugly and he needs to get a fuckin life dont be so negative to yourself its what matters inside not out
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Do you lyk the way you r? n do your frends except you 4 the way you r? if so y r you hatin urself. you should except urself 4 the way you r. n ur frends brotha.. wut does he know.... he doesn't know you the way ur frends do. you should git ova him bc he's obviouly not ryt 4 you.
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You should try to find someone that would treat you right.....I am in the same boat as you are.... But you should want someone good for you and this guy does not seem to be the right one for you.... You should try to hang out with him more and see if he is like this or is just putting up a shield..... I hope that I have helped you
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You shouldn't care what people think or say about you. Plus this is no guy to like if he says mean things to you. I'd say get over him and find someone that you know would treat you like a real person and not call you ugly.
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I'm sorry, but I don't exactly see a question in there.. Please next time try and make your question more clear.
-therocket
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Don't listen to him. Some guys are just fucking jerks. Just remember that you're not ugly, he is for saying that. Anyways it shouldn't matter what other people think of you, even though it seems like it does. But really just rememeber that hes just a jerk that doesn't deserve you hating yourself over.
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