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Q: I am a 7th grade girl and i have never gone out with a guy. There is this guy at my school that I really like and I know he likes me too because he always flirts with me and my friend asked if he likes me and he said yes. The problem is my friends and everyone else in my school thinks he is a nerd. I'm embarrassed if I tell my friends I like him and I don't know what to do.

In your life there is going to people who always disapprove of your choices, but what really matters is what you think and feel. If you like this guy talk to him and talk to your friends. If your friends care about you then they should just want you to be happy. You should just try it yourself and see how things go, but just because someone dosen't approve dosen't always mean you should listen to them. Your a growing girl and you need to make your own mistakes and your own choices and don't let anyone elses opinion change the way you feel. You like this guy so follow your heart.

Q: I'm a fourteen year old girl with a rather large problem. I met this sixteen year old guy at one of my softball games. We exchanged numbers and what not, and talked non stop for the first week. I opened up to him about my past which isn't often that I do that. I told him trust was everything to me. Well things got serious, and it seemed like everything was perfect. Until he went back up north. He texted me and told me we couldn't talk anymore and that was it. His younger brother ended up texting me and telling me he had a girlfriend and thats why he said we had to stop talking. So three days later, he randomly texted me and said he wanted to talk so I listened. He basically just apoligized for lying, and said he still wanted to be friends. With my hurt feelings, I said sure and asked why he lied to me. He told me I changed his feelings about everything and that he would break up with her. A week has gone by, and nothing. i don't want to be pushy but I'm getting sick of this. Should I confront him about it? Or just stop talking to him, because after all he did lie. I need help!

-Volleygurl21

i think you should forgive him. obviously he feels bad about it. people mess up so you should always forgive people. some of the best people in the world can do hurtful things but you just got to know when to forgive them. =)

Q: okay so i like this kid in my grade && he likes one of my best friends. i dont want to tell her i still like him because she likes him too but she just wants to be friends with bennifts.. should i tell him i like him?

I think you should tell your friend how you feel because you liked him first. If she was truly your friend she would understand. If she gets mad then she is not a good friend because good friends don't go after guys they knew you liked. Yea you should tell him. the worst he could do is turn you down. and if he does so what. you could find another. guys come and go.

Q: K, so sometimes I just feel invisible. I feel like people don't notice me and it makes me feel bad. I don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in like 2 years and people always forget what my name is. Sure, I'm not the loudest person ever but it's not like I sit in a corner and don't talk to anyone. I don't get it, I mean people always tell me I'm pretty and nice, etc. but it always seems like when I get along really well with a guy and I think things arer gonna work out, he goes out with one of my friends, even if we talk more and get along better. I'm just wondering: what can I do to make guys and other people notice me ? I always feel so left out when my friends are all talking about their boyfriends and guys that like them, and I'm just like, "Um, yeah." I'm sick of it. So, yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

umm i agree with the advice below. quiet people are easy to ignore. heres what to do. stop being so quiet. try talking to everyone. don't be afraid to be yourself. build up your confidence. believe it or not guys love girls with confidence. if your always shy and don't talk, they think if they ever date you that it will be a dull relationship. i mean i'm kind of shy around guys but i have learned to go for it. the worst they can do is say no. same with other people. don't be shy. try to be more outgoing. you don't have to change your personality. just make sure people know you have one. go for it and you won't regret it. i promise. hope i helped. =)

Q: Basically, me and this girl have been talking off and on for a few months, but recently it's really picked up. Like texts, chat, or facebook status comments nearly every day now. I'm starting to really like her, and I'm curious if she likes me back. First question. She starts a lot of these conversations, so my first instinct is that she wouldn't be talking to me so much if she didn't kind of like me. Is that a good assumption? Second off, how do I even bring this up. Like do I just tell her that I like her? Or how could I do it subtly to kind of feel out what she's thinking too? Can you give me specific conversation starters please? Thanks a million!

I think SHE LIKES YOU...you know there is a difference on she just wants to be friend or if she likes you...heres how to tell...if she likes you she tries to impress you a lot...heres how to go about this...try to get her alone then tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels...girls usually don't come right out and tell you if they like you...they really want the guys to tell them first...hope i helped

Q: I have a crush on a boy that live in my nieghtbor hood his 12 and I'm 13 help

Go for it...just a year or you could just be a few months older...try it...it never hurts anything. live in the moment.

hope i helped

Q: 16/f
i want to be more outgoing when it comes to making the first move and telling guys i like them. there's nobody in perticular that im talking about right now but just in general. when i had a boyfriend i made the first move as far as kissing him but that took 3 months for me to do that. going out for someone for 3 months without kissing them was getting to be rediculous. the thing is that im normally really shy. i don't like to draw attention to myself and i don't like when random people talk to me. i don't want to be outgoing in a whoreish way just more adventurous i guess. help?!

thanks in advanced
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being outgoing isn't such a hard thing to do. just talk more and random people can become some of the bestest friends you will ever have. your right to wait 3 months because if he can wait that long he surely likes you. but if you want to make the first move like on kissing wait about 3 weeks and it won't seem whorish. but sometimes guys like to make the first move so you'll know when the feeling is rightl. just be your self around guys. being out going shows confidence and guys love confident girls. Hope i helped.

Q: I read this really good piece of advice on someone else's question.

Part of it is: "The truth is, it's not the pretty girls that get the guys, but the girls that are the most approachable."

Can anyone expand on that or give examples? Thanks in advance!

it means the more outgoing girls get the guys. if your pretty and shy your more likely to be shy when you get the guy and guys like when girls talk and have fun around them. being shy is a big problem most people have. girls who are approachable are confident and guys like that.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?

of course things can be back to the way they are. if your depressed for no reason just go see a doctor and they can give you some medicine. maybe your depressed because of the whole family issues. maybe the problem is, your not communicating enough. tell him about your problems and he can comfort you through them. you guys really haven't changed just your going through some stages. and you surely don't want a 3 year relationship gone with the wind. Just talk to him, it might help. Hope i helped.

Q: Okay, so for the better part of a year I've been messaging/texting this guy who I met through a mutual friend. He lives in North Carolina, so even though we've been talking for almost a year, we've never met face to face. He's hysterically funny, and we have the same taste in music and movies. He's really smart, and all around, he's the kind of guy I'd really go for. But because of the distance (I live in Illinois), I never really thought pursuing anything would be worth it.

But then::: He texts me the other day and he's passing through my town on his way to his sister's. So he and I and some of my friends are going to be actually hanging out for the first time ever, for an entire day!! I'm really nervous.

So here's what I need:: I need a way to impress him the moment we meet with something really funny/clever to say or do. He's always making me laugh, and he once told me that a girl who can be goofy and not care about what others think is a major turn-on.

Also, any tips you can give me on how to just be cool and funny and remind me to be myself around him would be great. thanks!

-Nervously Waiting

just be yourself. he says he likes girls who don't care what other people think, DO Just that. be yourself guys hate when girls fake. if he is really wanting to meet you than be yourself cause he wants to meet you and not some fake person. If he didn't like your personality when you talked and messaged he would have probably ended it a long time ago so just be yourself. HOPE i helped.

Q: So I broke up with my boyfriend, kinda. We're 'taking a break'. He says he'll wait for me but I don't have much time. I just... don't know what to do because I don't know how I feel about him and it's not fair to leave him hanging. He's a great guy but he's hurt a lot of girls before, and he has cheated on me but 'he didn't go far'. I might have feelings for this other guy but it could never work because he's always high and in trouble. So fuck. I'm confused. What should i do?

ok first of all if your boyfriend is a great guy than stick with him. just give it time and things will fall into place. stay away from the high guy. people aren't in there right minds when they are high so if he is high all the time then why do you even want him? maybe he is cute. but if he is getting high all the time he won't be pretty much longer. talk to your boyfriend about the cheating thing. maybe you just need too spend a little time with him. I say you probably really love him. Hope I helped.

Q: Ok there is this boy that i like and he likes me so wen i am at my locker he always hits me on my butt and i wear a lot of sex bracelets so he is always breaking them but wen me and my friends are walking 2 lunch 2 gether they are always telling him 2 move and that i dont like him even though i do but now 1 of my friends telling me i need 2 go wit him but one of his friends like me and i dont want 2 hurt his feelings but i think i really need 2 go wit the one i really like and not lead his friend on so wat should i do

just tell your friends how your feel about him and that they should understand and be a little more nice to him. Then tell him how you feel about him, if your for sure he likes you then what is the big issue about telling him you like him. Also about his friend just flirt with the one you do like and he will eventually get the hint. Hope i helped =] any more questions just go to my advice column and ask.

Tabby

Q: 15/m
ive been trough many relationships, im a nice guy siriously, well every girl ive gone out with well they all ended up being bitches or something like that and they all broke up with me for dumb reasons like we wern't french kissing by our third day of going out and stuff like that, but this year i met this girl i thought she was different she told me she liked me but that she couldnt have a boyfreind till shes 16 so i told her i would wait, a few weeks later she told me she rather be freinds i told her it was alright but the other day i found out she has a boyfreind already, my point is, it there any girls out there who arent like that who are nice, pretty smart, and have a great personality? or why is it so hard to find someone like that?

I am a 14/f and i know alot about girls and not all of them are b----. you just got to get to know girls a little better before jumping into relationships. And relationships don't happen over night so give it time. Hope I Helped. =] any more questions just go to my advice column and ask

Q: okay this is long and complicated, but if youre reading this. THANKS :)
its really really stupid, and youve probably read like a MILLION problems like this, but if you help me id be really grateful.

Okay so my best friend laura used to go out with this kid jake. jake and i would talk all the time on aim, and he'd tell me like "ohh i kissed laura todayy" and id be like "haha cute" or whatever. but he'd always say "i love you" to me. and i would never say it back, because then laura might take it seriously and hate me, or jake would use it against me. so then they broke up cause laura just didnt like him anymore, and i was still talking to jake. then he started becoming good friends with these two girls i really dont like, meg and michelle. they were really into him and stuff, and theyd talk ALLLLLL the time. i got so jealous. jake was giving them more attention than me. we didnt really talk as much. then one day he randomly imed me, and we were talked for a while. i really started liking him again, but i think he likes meg or michelle. jalksjdfsjld i DONT know what to do. im a shy person, you wouldnt think that cause im funny and pretty outgoing, but i could nver tell jake how i feel, its just not me. i dont know what i should do! i flirt with him a little, and he does back usually, but other than that, what can i do to get his attention?
sorry its really stupid, but thanks

ok first of all you need to tell laura how you feel about jake just to see if it's ok. then if it is tell him how you feel. If everything goes as plan talk to him about when he was going out with laura. How he would IM you saying he loves you. Maybe if you go out with him he will do the same to meg and michelle so talk to him about that stuff. Hope I helped. =]

Q: I am 16/m/uk..
My girlfriend of 15 months i have found out has lied to me again about the same thing..

When we first started going out and throughout our relationship i have tried very hard to get her to stop smoking.. there were various points where i was sure she had stopped but it turned out that she had done it a few times behind my back and tried to cover it up but i found out..
She is currently on holiday and my close friend has told me she smoked with him and she asked him to not tell me... Naturally as we are close he did tell me..

I love my girlfriend to bits but her constantly lying makes me feel like i can trust her.. and trust is very important to me..
This is around the fourth time she has lied about smoking and it has come to a point where i feel like our whole relationship is at stake because i cannot stand being lied to anymore...

What shall i do? is it best to end things? Will i be able to trust her yet again..

Thanks for any help

Sanj..

Tell her how you feel. Make her make a promise that she will not lie to you again. Then if she does break it off. [All the help I can give]

Hope I helped

Q: Ok, i dress cute of school and everything hoping that any guy would like to date me but no. I haven't ever really had a boyfriend and all my friends have them all the time. I think im pretty sometimes but no guys like me and i dont know why....i mean, i always act myself and so do my friends but they get all the guys and i just dont know why. I cant figure out the reason why. All my friends say "Well we r in high school, theres gotta be a guy that likes you." But there isnt...i just dont understand.

boys r weird. Most of them don't like to put theirselves out there in the case of rejection. Is there a certain guy you like. If so get to know him a little better. Guys won't date girls they barely know Unless she is absolutly perfect and we all know nobody is perfect. Once you get to know him better and you feel chemistry then go for it and ask him out. Hope I helped =).

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14/f

Q: okay well how do you let a guy kno you dont want to go out with himm if he likes you a lot and you dont like him at all?!

gosh this is a tough one...if you guys are friends tell him you just like him as a friend and that would be like dating your brother...if he is not your friend then just say you don't know him that well. That's all the advice i have for you.

Hope I helped!

Q: school started like a week or so ago, and there is this guy who sits next to me in one of my classes, and i think he is so nice and irrisistable. I want to get his attention and be able to talk to him, and him want to talk to me. I have started one conversation about his favorate sport football, and it went well, but the thing is is that he is one of the really nice popular boys, and he probably gets this attention all the time. so i want to know how can i be that special girl? how can i be that one girl that he cant resist?

OMG i have the same problem. I'm 14 and a freshman and the guy i like is a junior and a football player...I see your problem(they are irrisistable)just start becoming friends with him then gradually it might build into something. Be outgoing (guys like that)

Hope I helped

Q: so theres this new guy at my school thats super cute but i dont have any classes with him and i hardly see him during the day although he does play soccer and i play volleyball so he comes through the gym everday! but anyway theres this dance coming up this friday and i want to ask him if he wants to go with me to the dance. i dont know much about him because i hardly see him but my friends that have classes with him say hes really down to earth, funny,and nice and thats excactly what i want in a bf! i say hi to him in the hall ways and i talked to him a couple of times and he does seem like all the things my friends said he was. its jus i really wanna go to the dance with him so i can get a chance to know him better.i also dont want to wait to long that someone that knows him better decides to ask him and he says yes! i really dont want that to happen becuase he is really attractive and sweet and funny!i just wanna know how i can ask him out to the dance. i hav something in my head but i wanna hear some other suggestions!!thanx!

ok first of all you need to build up your corouge and ask him...what could it hurt? what kind of world is this if you can't get out there and fight for what you want? and if it don't go as planed then you got to get back up on that peddistool and say "Maybe next time" so don't throw a pittyparty if indeed he says no...maybe he has reasons beyond explanation...guys are weird we never know what's gonna happen...just ask and see...oh and if he's hot tell me if he has a brother(just kidding)GOOD LUCK! Hope he says YES!

Hope my advice helped!