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it's not the pretty girls that get the guys
I read this really good piece of advice on someone else's question.
Part of it is: "The truth is, it's not the pretty girls that get the guys, but the girls that are the most approachable."
Can anyone expand on that or give examples? Thanks in advance!
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Basically I meant that it doesn't matter how amazing a person you are in this guy snagging business unless the guy can see it. You could be the best conversationalist in the history of the universe but the guy won't know this if you've never held a conversation with him. It even goes with looks. Yes, you can see them, but a guy isn't really willing to risk that vulnerable part of him to date a girl who he doesn't even know and who hasn't shown that she's interested in him. Even if he did like her, if he's getting nothing in return, he's just going to feel awkward for a little while or unsure of what to do, and chances are before anything happens he'll fall for the girl that he's gotten to know as a person, instead of as this far away, untouchable object.
Which makes sense. Because in a relationship, the attributes of the people involved don't really matter as long as they are compatible, and enjoy time with each other, which naturally comes from a girl who looks like she'll spend time with the guy in question. Most of us have had some sort of object of infatuation, but honestly, how often does anything come of that? Now picture yourself in the guy's shoes.
To get a guy, to get even a guy friend, you have to show that you are a warm, interesting person to talk to. Even if one is to go with the whole hard to get route, you'll have to drop enough hints to show the guy that "chasing" you will be worth his time. It's not that difficult. Just talk to people, be warm and friendly, treat people in a way that makes you think of someone that you personally would want to spend time with. And when you are around the guy you like, look like you are interested in him, be polite, care about what he is saying. Tease him, or be flirtatious. If you are like this, or basically if you are approachable, you will be much more noticed than if you are pretty but don't do anything about it.
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Have you ever heard the term Ice Queen? It's usually referred to a really pretty girl who's either really mean, or just really quiet and considered unapproachable.
What they're saying is that sometimes guys (well, non-shallow guys) look for girls who are more outgoing and easy to talk to, rather then a girl who's goegeous but doesn't have a very nice personality, or a really shy girl. (Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly okay to be shy, but some guys may think you're unapproachable)
Most guys prefer a girl with a good personality who's smart over a girl who's looks are suited for the cover of Vogue...unless they're just jerks, and there are plenty of those in the world.
::Jasmine::
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it means the more outgoing girls get the guys. if your pretty and shy your more likely to be shy when you get the guy and guys like when girls talk and have fun around them. being shy is a big problem most people have. girls who are approachable are confident and guys like that.
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