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Well I'm an honest, down to earth girl who like's to have fun! currently I'm attending college and hope to graduate as a nurse in four years. I love helping people with any issue, giving advice to people who really need it makes me feel good and nice inside. I guess i would say that i can more relate to love/relationship, education, and family issues since I've gone through allot. so if you have any problem or just a quick question dont hesitate I'm here to help!
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So I have this boyfriend I love with all my heart. We've been going out for a little over a year. But like lately Uve been meeting other guys and I don't like them or anything but I always think of like what would happen if I cheated on my boyfriend with one of them. One of these guys, I will be seeing this weekend and I know it's possible something couldl happen. And I don't know. I don't want to cheat, but I might. Helppp!
If your even thinking of cheating you dont love you boyfriend its simple infatuation being mistaken for love. Im mean i know what your saying but i really wouldn't do anything with this guy this weekend its not fair to your boyfriend. If anything maybe you should take a break and then fool around with these guys then after you'll see what you feel then, and whether you liked being in a real relationship or fooling around dont get me wrong sometimes people need to fool around to see what they truly feel is important to them in the end. just dont cheat its unfair plus you'll feel guilty afterwards not to mention people will somhow find out trust me things like that dont stay secret
syireen
I have guy issues. Every guy I like, never seems to like me in that way. All the guys I like are my friends, and I don't know what is wrong with me. I'm kinda pretty, realtively thin, atletic, I got boobs and a butt, so I don't understand. I'm smart, and I don't think I have a dull personality, I like to flirt and joke around. Anyone have any ideas to why this might be happening?
Maybe its cause your coming on to strong, guys dont like girls that are like that they want a chase, if you act to intrested then they'll be turned off by you. you need to play hard to get then guys will want to figure it out more and be around you more, even ask you out. As for looks go it sometimes doesnt matter if your the prettiest girl in the world if you come on to strong guys will be running from you cause they dont want a controlling girlfriend.
syireen
i'm 15 and my ex boyfriend is 16.. we broke up back in july.. we'd been going out for 9 months and 2 weeks prior.. we were both of each others longest relationships.. we broke up alot before but this time it was for good.. well in october i found out i was 5 1/2 months pregnant.. ya i know.. he was alittle supportive but not until he found out i was going with adoption because i don't want to be a mom and there's no way i could handle that change right now.. finally in late december he started to call & come over -- it was a big change becuase he wanted nothing to do with me all summer & i hate to admit it but i was even told by 2 counselors & my mother that he was honestly my "first true love" & when he left i hit rock bottom & of course i'm still not over him.. but my problem is -- one of the times he came over we were hanging out as friends & the next thing i know we were making out & doing things we used to like we were going out again but when i asked him later on why we can't just go back out he said he can't just jump back into a relationship but that he truely did love me & i believe it because i'm pretty positive i was his "first true love" too.. so now when we hang out (which is not alot at all maybe 1 time every 2 weeks) we act like we're going out.. we hold hands & kiss & tell each other we love each other but there's 2 girls in my grade he flirts with soooo much & they want him all of a sudden & they are definitely competition material & i know he likes them but don't know if he wants them.. yet he tells me he hasn't done anything with any other girl since we broke up & he just misses what we had.. yet he doesn't act like he plans on having us get back together.. so do you think i honestly have a chance & just need to wait & MAKE him fall back in love with me or is he possibly just using me when no one's around to get what he wants & once the adoption's final he'll just leave again for good..? i'm still madly in love with him & i don't want anyone else - yet i don't want to play friends with benefits if thats all it's going to be but i'd do anything with him if it'd make that spark come back for me.. what should i do??
You might of been his first love but its obviouse he's using you now. he tells you he loves you but dosent wanna get back together with you thats the weiredst thing ive ever heard when guy truly loves a girl he wants her to be his and only his,if he really "LOVED" you like he says he does he'd have already asked you to be his girl and been really romantic about it, thats what love really is.other wise its just lust and infatuation. i can tell that you love him and want him back, what you need to do now is act diffrently towards him and test his true feelings for you. i know you might lose him in the process but its better then in the position your in now, and remeber this is only to see if he really wants you in the end.
what you need to do
1. Dont say you love him any more, when he says he loves you just smile and say i know you do dont say it back unless he asks if you love him back then just nod. the point is to stop reeasuring him of you love and commitment to him
2. Decrease all the cuddling holding hands and start making excuses to decrease seeing him
3. Dont tell him everything that goes on in your life have a sense of mystery, if he asks whats going on in your life just saying nothing and change the subject.
4. Last but not least make up some story of a guy hitting on you but laugh about it and say something like "i still got it". he'll defiently get jelouse and feel like his he needs to do something to make sure your not moving on
*do this for a week and hopefully if he does feel that stronlgy towards you he'll do something about it, the key here is to get your man wanting and falling for you again, and remeber guys all ways like it when you play hard to get, or if you seem un intrested he'll chase after you again*
hope things go well and this works
syireen
Hey, i really need some advice. me and my boyfriend and really serious and have been for a long time. we love eachother so much and plan on getting married someday. the only problem is we fight alot, and its becoming a problem. whenever i try to talk to him about it we just end up fighting more. we know he has depression but he wont talk to anyone about it which is also a problem. any advice on what to do? thank you
Get someone else he's close to like his bestfriend, sibling, or even parent to talk to him about it. best bet sometimes guys lisen to the third person better. so just get for ex his bestfriend to talk to him about his depression then hopefully he'll do something about. i personally dont belive in councelling. i just think simple things like taking afternoon naps, changing diet, or just changing your lifestyle can help depression. maybe get him to join a gym,or even meditaion works. anyway hope this helped.
syireen
There is this guy at school that is really smart and really nice and really... cute!!I don't think he even knows I exist though. I was wondering besides being myself, how to get his attention without the whole school finding out I like him. I want to talk to him but I don't know how or what to talk about since I don't even know him.
It would be a great advantage if this guy was in your class or you had at least one class with him that way you can easily come up with an excuse to talk to him. ok so if he's in a class with you you can do this be absent for one class then come the next day and sit by him and simpley ask him if he was here the previouse day when he says yes ask him what you guys did in class that day and maybe even ask for his notes if you guys took any tell him you werent there yesterday and you wanna get caught up. he'll view it as just a normal conversation between you guys then you can start a conversation with him ask him if he could explain what the teacher was lecturing about and i think from there the conversation will keep going.
If he's not in your class best bet is to make friends with someone he knows, or better yet hangs out with and then eventually you guys will end up meeting each other during a luch break or something. you need to understand it's a lot harder to just get to know someone out of the blue if your guys arent some how connected by school,or work or something s it will take time but yea just get to know someone he knows then make excuses to talk to that person when he/ or she is around the guy you like chances are he'll notice you if say you stop and talk to someone he knows.plus! you never he might end up talking to you while your talking to his friend.
well yea thats best advice i could give for now hope things work out for you and him!
syireen
i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now when we first got together he said he does not want a relationship and that and his best mate even said not to do anything with him he will just get what he wants then leave but he did not and it did not bother me before but not i think that it may turn it to a realtionship and that but every time i see him i cant help but think that he is sleeping around with other lasses how can i tell if he realy likes me or not and if he is sleeping with other lasses one min he is close to me the next he acts distant please help i will rate
Its hard to tell, maybe he's just one of those guys who are scared of starting a relationship cause they dont want to be kinda tied down, i dont but what i do know is you have to talk to him about it. just sit with him one day and bring it up ask him what he wants from this relationship tell him your confused cause of what he said to you the first time.
How do I impress the girl I like very much?
How do I ask her on a date? Please, I need help with the whole girl thing.
Have confidence but not too much or you'll come across as cockey, and trust me girls dont like cocky guys. being a girl myself i like it when a guy just straight out gets to the point and ask me out. call this girl you like or go to her and ask out for dinner. taking a girl out to dinner tells her you like her and want to see if things could get seriouse, girls love that kind of impression. once you get her to say yes then just act your self on the date dont act to nervouse take control of the situation, pay for the dinner and if you really wanna kiss this girl, after dinner would be the perfect time. girls like it when a guy takes contol and makes the first move it's very bold, and girls get turned on by that or at least i do lol! any way good luck!
syireen
I really like this boy,
And my best friend dose too.
I know I shouldent beacuse she's my best friend but I cant stop thinking about him. I told her but she doesent seem to care. But then I asked her how to get his attention b/c they are friends. she told me to wear boy cloths like she was. So I did i dont know if he really has noticed me.But my Best friend can get a little jealous and stubern somtimes, so I dont know if my friend is lying not to get his attention or if she is telling the truth. b/c u know she likes him and a rumer is going around that he likes gymnast's and prepy girls. but my friend barly ever lie's to me.
who should I belive? What should I do????
-Lanie Day underhill
aka-lanie_the_advicer
she's lying to you! even though you say she barly lyes to your, there a guy involved and girls can be very jelouse competative, deceptive to get what they want especially when it comes to guys. trust me on this. if you were originally prepy then go back to that, cause you heard he likes preppy girls. i think you should for a few days observe him and then you'll know what he's into.
goodluck
syireen
I'm 18 year old and a tourism student.. I met this guy who's the same course as me when we went on tour last week. He's really flirtatious, he has a girlfriend but he still flirted with my bestfriend because he thought that i'm snobbish.. But we talk with each other once in a while.. But at the end of the tour, he sat beside me on the bus.. He slept on my lap, held my hands etc. He started flirting with me.. He didn't mind that the friends of his girlfriend were also there.. Foolish of me, I flirted back.. I gave him my number.. After few hours, he called me and picked me up in my house to go to his house.. That's the time he told me that i'm the one he likes, but he first flirted with my bestfriend because she already smiled at him but I didn't.. I mean, why should i smile with him? I didn't even know him.. We drank some beers, and because i was tired because of the tour, i just slept in his house.. And we had sex..(i just know him 4 3 days before we did it)
Yeah i'm stupid because at the first place, he has a gf, we don't love each other but i do like him because he was sweet.. On the next day, i visited him in his house and it happened again.. He told me not to go there without telling him because maybe his gf is also there. My friend told me that he likes me the way he treated me and he protects me.. like he holds my hand, he holds me when we needed to cross the street, feed me, and something like that.. That made me really like him..
But, when we saw each other at school again after like 2 days, he ignored me.. I don't know what to think.. He didn't even came to me, he just smiled a bit, that's all.. What should i think now? He doesn't call me anymore.. Did he realized that he really love his gf or he just wanted me for sex?
I will tell you something that you dont want to hear but its the truth. first of all this guy is what you call a 'PLAYER' plain and simple. he has a girlfriend yet he flirts openly, and holds hands with other girls??? also he acts like the sweetest guy when he's with you by holding your hand when walking, feeding you ect... but then tells you not to go to his house when his girlfriends is there, come on thats a red flag right there that he's just playing you. the sad thing is you fell for it cause he got want he was after in the end and that was sex. now he's ignoring you, and you might feel a little hurt cause of it I just hope you didn't lose your virginity to him cause when it's a girls first time It can be very emotional, you need to understand how worthless this guy is. I bet you this guy doesn't even love his own girl, which begs the question why is she still with him if he's so flirty with other girls? well any way what you need to do is ignore this guy back, don't smile at him any more, don't even make eye contact. you should act like you don't care. Move on and start being around other guys. Since you had sex with this guy there a good chance he'll feel a little jealous if he sees you with other guys but serves him right for being such a jerk. Any way never have sex with him again it will just be another mistake guys like him don't learn the true meaning of love and relationship until there grey and old.
Good luck!
syireen
Ok I am a 17 year old female from nova scotia, and there is this guy i work with and i kinda like but hes new to the business but hes really nice to me and we friendly flirt. Everythings great, but the problem is i think he may be 2 years younger then me (not 100% sure) haven't asked him lol, but is it weird that i like a younger guy? Is this wrong, kinda confuzed cause i just got crushed from this other guy i liked so i dunno what to think. Thanks, i rate all 5's
depends is he taller then you? if he is and he seems mature for his age then i dont see a problem with dating him, if your that much attracted to him. dont let age get in the way of what can happen! lol go for it girl you never know he could be the one lol! jk!
There is a guy who i've just recently became really good friends with this year. Last year he was in one of my classes and we barely talked, but this year we ended up being in four classes together and became really good friends. Plus I found out he lived three houses away from me and we hung out once in a while.
He has a crush on one of my friends, a cheerleader who told me she wasn't interested in him at all and thought he was annoying. He told me she was sending mixed signals, flirting with him then ignoring him. She wanted to hook him up with someone else so he would leave her alone. But she was too nice to tell him that, so she wanted me to hook up with him or at least find someone else to. I was like, wtf? I thought that she was being a little rude when she said that, especially trying to push my friend on me just because she didn't want him liking her.
The next day, he was asking me whether or not he had a chance with her and i debated between telling the truth or saying I had no idea, because on one hand, if i told the truth, he might move on and she wouldnt complain so much , but then I might hurt his feelings. But I finally told him to "get over it" because she thought his actions were annoying and she wanted to hook him up with someone else.
Is what I did right? He seemed a little upset when he heard that she wanted him to go out with someone else, but got over it quickly. I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings though he didn't say it. Was what i did right? Or was I just meddling in someone else's business? Because if I didn't do anything about it, she would have been too nice to tell him to his face that she didnt like him and keep leading him on.
You did the right thing and no you weren't meddling cause he came to you and asked you what you thought you just simply told him what you knew. he'll get over it, and hopefully move on. don't beat your self up for it. the next time you see him don't mention about what you said pretend everything is normal, and if he brings it up just act casual try not make it seem like he's a loser say something like " don't worry about (the girls name) she's crazy she doesn't know what she wants" maybe even say something like "she doesn't know what she missing out on" you know try to make him feel a little better about himself and not embarrassed. then just change the subject.
Anyway if anything else happens and you need more advice on what to do just ask me!
syireen!
My boyfriend is 24 and I'm 22 and we've been dating for at least 2 years. We love eachother dearly and are serious about one another. The only issue he and I occasionally discuss is religion. We do have a lot of the same morals however he's Christian and I was born into a sect of Hinduism, which I do believe in. Although we do respect and appreciate eachothers beliefs, I kinda get the feeling he wants me to convert. I really don't want to label myself something I'm not comepletely. Is it possible to have a healthy 'interfatih' relationship that works in the long run?!
Well for now no, but in the future and the longer you guys are together I'm sure the religion issue will come up. I mean I don't know if your thinking of marriage but usually Christians get married in a church and if you and your boyfriend love each other a lot you never know he might be thinking of the what if's of marring you. there are some people out there that get married in spite of religious differences but it depends differently on everyone. If say raising kids in a Christian type religion is important to him then you guys need to sit and talk ( this is only if you see you guys getting married) and talk about it. Other then that you cant do much else can you.
I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. Since about the week of our break up, I've been hanging out with one of his best friends, and we've become extremely close. I'm beginning to fall for him, and likewise... but whenever this happens, I change my mind. I like the challenge, but once the other person starts to have feelings for me too, I'm bored and don't like them anymore. I really don't want to do that this time... because I really care about him.
I'm afraid to have a relationship, because I know that, being the way I am, I'm going to ruin it and lose an amazing friend.
Help?
Then dont get into a relationship. there are plenty of girls out there that just date, but not get into a relationship. after a while of this you'll change and you'll wanta a real relationship, maybe even long term.
17/female.
I've been in two relationships, and they've been great except there's always been something really tiny and pointless that I've dwelled on and thus never been able to be fully happy. I don't know what's wrong with me. For example, I'm with a wonderful guy right now but it really, really bothers me that he's not a virgin. I know this is really stupid because the past shouldn't matter, but I dwell on things. What can I do to stop thinking about these things and enjoy myself? Does anyone else find that stupid little things concern them in a relationship? I hate feeling this way!!
Thanks
I'm guessing your a virgin then, things like that probably are bothering you because you think in this context.
He's not a virgin=
-He's been with another woman intimately.
-Another woman had him first.
Try to think this way.
He's not a virgin=
-He'll know what he's doing when you guys do the deed.
- He's hot enough to want to be with you even though your a virgin( again I'm just guessing here).
The point is if this still bothers you tell him about it. you never know he might reassure you he wants you only or he might even say something cute like " baby I regret it cause your the only one I want to lose my virginity to" lol
Alright I'm 15 and I'm a male. My girlfriends birthday is comming up really soon & she won't tell me what she wants for her birthday. I have no idea what I should get her. She's going to be 14. If anyone can give me some ideas it'd be greatly appreciated. I'll rate you on it too. I really need some help. Thanks
if your rich an ipod nano lol!! or some jewellery, or massage gift certificate
over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me
All I have to say is secrets always get exposed eventually in the end. its not worth it, even if she's so hot, think of your wife, kids (if applicable), and your self. you'll not only start to feel guilty everyday, but things will get complicated in your life, and when people usually decide to have a fling it sometimes leads to something more. don’t put your life, and dignity at stake, and don’t risk hurting your wife. besides you must only be feeling this because your sex life might not be where you want it to be. discuss it with your wife. get some spice into your own marriage and you maybe wont be interested in the other woman after.
good luck
syireen
Hi! I just finished my shift at my job today. This married lady that I work with is trying to set me up with a guy that knows her husband. They met him at a New Years party and he asked her if she knew any cute, nice girls from her work that would want to go out with him She said he is 32 and owns his own computer business. She said he is a really nice guy and wants to date a nice girl who has no kids. He's had problems with on line dating (and so have I)
I am 28 and have never been married or have had children. I told her I am quite shy and havent dated anyone in a long time. She said he is shy too. She is going to phone him and we (me, this guy, her and her huband) are going to meet for coffee.
Do you think he sounds like a nice guy that won't just try to sleep with me?
I rate high!
thanks
p.s it was my new years resolution to get a bf this year!
well you cant really tell much can you. just go to coffee with them see how he's like and if you wanna go out more with him then do it. if he did just want sex then you'd know fast also dont give it to him untill you think you know him well enough! thats all i can say for now anyway
15/f
Ok... this really is for guys only but if girls want to give an opinion. I just have a question... why do guys not like me. I mean... every girl in my class that is so annoying and so holding a leash on their boyfriends has a boyfriend but not me. And you're probably thinking that i just want to go out because everyone else is. Um... no. I just want that special relationship with the right guy is that too much to ask? Guys just don't like me for some reason, though. I'm not that bad looking.. im not that skinny but not that huge. I have an awesome let loose personality. I'm into stuff like action, comedy, a few chick flick but it's limited... and I love going to games and stuff... idk.. why am i still single?
I think its because its just not your time yet. stuff like this happens to lots of attractive girls. dont worry so much about it. it will happen when you least expect it, maybe even sooner, you never know? also guys get intimidated fast by an attractive girl they might think they cant get you. i guess try to be more outgoing and flirty!!!
OKay so I'm going to this dance coming up this weekend and the guy I reallly really like is coming with me!! Any tips on how to make the night awesome?? He's like a senior and I'm a freshman and I have no idea what to do.. haha
Act very intrested about him they like that! ask about his work and intrests i know guys like talking about them selves then if your not totally against it give him a kiss at the end of the night!! and act mysterias it will have him wanting more of you *wink*
p.s. oh and definatly dance with him, dont be shy get very close to him with fast songs!
Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)
I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.
thanks loves!
me*
I think your on the process of falling in love not really there yet. I can tell your very infatuated with him that can sometimes be mistaken for love. Wait another year then you'll know for sure!