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There is a guy who i've just recently became really good friends with this year. Last year he was in one of my classes and we barely talked, but this year we ended up being in four classes together and became really good friends. Plus I found out he lived three houses away from me and we hung out once in a while.
He has a crush on one of my friends, a cheerleader who told me she wasn't interested in him at all and thought he was annoying. He told me she was sending mixed signals, flirting with him then ignoring him. She wanted to hook him up with someone else so he would leave her alone. But she was too nice to tell him that, so she wanted me to hook up with him or at least find someone else to. I was like, wtf? I thought that she was being a little rude when she said that, especially trying to push my friend on me just because she didn't want him liking her.
The next day, he was asking me whether or not he had a chance with her and i debated between telling the truth or saying I had no idea, because on one hand, if i told the truth, he might move on and she wouldnt complain so much , but then I might hurt his feelings. But I finally told him to "get over it" because she thought his actions were annoying and she wanted to hook him up with someone else.
Is what I did right? He seemed a little upset when he heard that she wanted him to go out with someone else, but got over it quickly. I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings though he didn't say it. Was what i did right? Or was I just meddling in someone else's business? Because if I didn't do anything about it, she would have been too nice to tell him to his face that she didnt like him and keep leading him on.
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I think you could've told him a little nicer... I mean, "Telling the truth without telling all of the truth" kinda thing. "But I finally told him to "get over it" because she thought his actions were annoying and she wanted to hook him up with someone else." Is a little harsh, maybe if you had said she really wasnt intrested, or she was into someone else or something, but i wouldnt worry about it anyway, i mean, boys get over things fast.. most of the time, lol.
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You did the right thing and no you weren't meddling cause he came to you and asked you what you thought you just simply told him what you knew. he'll get over it, and hopefully move on. don't beat your self up for it. the next time you see him don't mention about what you said pretend everything is normal, and if he brings it up just act casual try not make it seem like he's a loser say something like " don't worry about (the girls name) she's crazy she doesn't know what she wants" maybe even say something like "she doesn't know what she missing out on" you know try to make him feel a little better about himself and not embarrassed. then just change the subject.
Anyway if anything else happens and you need more advice on what to do just ask me!
syireen!
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You did the right thing, this way he doesn't get even more hurt if you just lead him to believe he still had a chance, now he can move on and to like someone who likes him back I hope I helped message me if you need me
<3 Rae
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you did the right thing.. and besides you cant go back. the presure shouldnt have been put on you anyway. you did all you could
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Sometimes the truth hurts. I think you did the right thing.
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No, you did the right thing. Men like to hear the truth; the worst thing you can do to a guy is jerk him around.
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if you want my honest opinion i think you did the right thing and your friend was wrong your friend should not have been leading him on only to let him down. in my opinion you were being a true friend since you didnt want to see your friend get hurt.
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You may have hurt his feelings, but at least he realizes that the girl he thinks he's 'in love with' doesn't feel the same way. You are sort of meddling in their business, though I would have done the same thing if it were my friend. So you did what you thought was right and it's too late to change it anyway.
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