I think your trying to break up with some one right?

My first line of advice,
DON'T BEAT AROUND THE BUSH. Seriously. Just tell the person how you feel. I know it sounds kind of rude, but personally i hate it when someone tries to add in all these gooshy words and they try to not say the words 'breal-up'.

But, you should say is nicely. Just tell the person whats on your mind and really how you feel.

Don't try to write and memorize a speech, because when you get to talking to the person, you will sound like you rehearsed something, and that can be really akward and rude.

When the moment comes, just say what your heart is feeling, it will all work out when you start talking, i promise!

And one last thing, talk with confidence. Nothing is worse than being shaky and stuttering when trying to break up with someone.

Good luck, and let me know how it goes!

~April

Since yall are friends, i dont see anything wrong in calling him. Go for it!
Or just try communicating with him over facebook. Talk to him there, and then if you want to call him, casually bring it up.
Yes, there is a possibility that he could be thinking the same thoughts as yourself, but you'll never know if you dont talk to him!
Good Luck!!
~April

Im sure he ISNT taking you out to a nice place just to prove he can give a better present, he is doing it because he cares for you. I think that anything you give him would be wonderful and he should appreciate that you DID get him something.
Have a GREAT Valentines day!!

Try reading this site.. it may help
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wrestling

try using this if you need more..

only search advicenators.com

hope this helps ya!
~April

This was an exact quote from LeAnn, i found it on her fan club page.
says LeAnn, who has been married to husband, Dean Sheremet for five years.

This IS a NEW article, and i found she is 25 right now.

So she got married at the age of 20.

♥ April~

Of course it's normal. You hurt his feelings. Just because you don't want him as a boyfriend doesn't mean you don't still care about him.
The guilty feeling will go away though. He will get over the fact you ended the relationship. So try not to worry about it.

Hey there!
I remember being 14, and trust me, you and i had the exact same problem with guys. But the truth is, you probably wont want to be dating guys right now. Im sure there is a whole group of guys wishing they could go out with you, but truthfully, guys are to imature to be dating at 14. Plus what will yall accomplish in your relationship?
I know it might be hard now, but trust me, it will be sooo much better to just have a whole bunch of guy friends. Flirt up a storm with them, but wait till high school before you start dating!
Just trust me on this one!
♥
~April

um, well im sorry but im not quite sure who panda is..=[
If you could give me some more information i would love to answer your question, but i have no background info to go by..
thanks!=]
♥ April

Hey,
First off, congratz on beating your Bf in 2 wrestling matches! I give you props!=] And I would have done the same- challenging him..
Ok, so obviously, you beat him fair and square, twice, so there is NOTHING left for you to prove, you have already made the point clear to him, that girls CAN beat boys at most anything. And you were a better wrestler.
Since (most) guys have HUGE mojos-or whatever you want to call them-, he is probably still in awe that you beat him. And he will probably keep pestering you. I know it sucks. But thats guys for ya, they believe that guys were made to wrestle, and beat girls, especially pretty, blonde girls. In a guys mind, we girls are made for showing off, not competing against them, and especially not beating them.
Im not saying that all guys are like that, dont get me wrong, but my ex, and your bf have a lot in common.
I beat my ex in a one -on- one volleyball match and he cried about it for weeks, trying to get me at a re-match. Whether I was lucky or not, I had beaten him, and that day was done and over with. Sadly, the only way I have found for peace to be restored is to compete with him again, or hope with all your heart that this passes over. I wouldnt challenge him to wrestling, or a martial arts type thing, but something that you and he can both be good at like ping-pong, video-games, something small. Try your hardest. Im not saying that you should lose, but guys need their label to say 'Im a big strong guy, who can beat a girl', so he will need something to prove to himself that he is that label. I wouldnt start off by challenging him to a 'small' match yet, try and see if this can pass buy. Tell him that you beat him fair and square. You might have been lucky, or you might not have been lucky, but you proved to be better than him already, and you dont need to prove it again. That might not be necessarily the best advice, but its something that I know works.

Ok, so answering your question, yes, I have beaten a few guys in arm wrestling. I have beaten plenty of guys in one- on -one volleyball, soccer, swimming, and basketball. Im not the martial arts kind of girl, and I dont typically enjoy wrestling, so I havent beaten a boy in wrestling before. I do have friends who go all out martial arts, and can beat almost any guy that challenges them, but outside of the ring they are the cover of an Abercrombie and Fitch commercial.

Guys dont run the world, although they sometimes think they do. On the big picture, you see men doing a lot of things, and barley any women are alongside with them, but if you open up the world, you'll see women working behind the scenes. Women keep the world spinning, and at any point in time, one could jump out and run amongst the guys. Its not the most common thing, but it does happen, all the time. When a girl beats a guy, I guess you could say it scares them. It goes against all they believe, about girls being pretty and sweet- and not rough.

Guys- cant live with them cant live without them! And thanks for the comment about me being pretty.
Hope all works out, and thanks for the question!

And I apologize about having to wait so long for my answer.. Sorry!=]
♥ April

heyy,
well i guess your hoping that someone will come up with an awesome plan for you, sadly i dont have that. My thought is, why devote the next couple weeks of your life to him, and creating a plan to get revenge on HIM. I mean, i would just move on and not even talk about him, or look at him, because he isnt even worth your time!
If you havent seen the movie John Tucker Must Die, i would watch it. The basic line from that movie that im trying to get at is trying to get revenge/payback on this guy, is still causing you to think about him.
sorry he was a jerk, and that i couldnt come up with a master mind plan to destroy him, but he is sooo not worth your time and thoughts!
~April

Well i would say try your relationship for a little longer. Make specific days that you guys will call and talk with each other. Really try your hardest to make it work out. Then see how much he puts into it, if he is all for it, and does everything humanly possible to talk with you kinda of a thing, then you should totally keep him. If he starts to fade, and isnt all for it, like he only calls after to 1000 time youve reminded him, then youll know its time to move on. And remember your 14, youll probably want to experience a lot of guys, so try dating some one new, go on a break with him, but if you cant stand not being with him give it another try..
hope things work out! =]
♥ April

heyyy u can always chat with me on aim.. luvchocolatelove.. im here to help =]
~April

haha.. Some people are born with an awesome 'making out' ability(lol) so thats great for them. Others... not so much, like practice makes perfect.. But I really dont know if people really relise it that much, like im sure if you had hooked up w/ someone before and you were making out with some who hadnt ever, it might cross your mind, but for me id be caught up in the moment.. lol
but yea i think that it really just depends..
xoxo

ok,
So you love it when your friends with this boy, but when your dating him you cant stand him. I think that this should support a decisiion to be friends with him. I know how hard it can be to have a guy that you really like when your friends, but dating him can be a pain. it will be kinda hard to accept that fact that he isnt the guy for you, but keep him close as a friend. maybe later on if yall are still close, you could consider dating him again, and he wont act wierd, he might mature out of it. So if i were you i would much rather be friends with a boy that i can have the time of my life with, than date him and not enjoy it at all.
Hope it all works out!!
xoxo ~April

anna,
well im glad that yall at least signed eachothers yearbooks... did you talk at all or just say hey sign my book??? well i think that he just signed it xoxo like girls sign love ya.. get what im saying?? i think he wrote xoxo because you guys are going out and he was trying to be sweet because he didnt have any other inside jokes or comments to write in your yearbook because yall never talked the whole 3 months that yall have been going out.. i wouldnt get too worked up over just that simple little xoxo... oh and josh?? why did you use the name josh?? do ya like him or something??
oh and i signed walkers yearbook.. thx for finally asking anna out.. keep on talking to her!!...
yep i really wrote that!! he was all i dont get it, and i was like it has meaning to me and anna!!
♥ April

people right that you love josh??(do you like him now 2?) thats very intresting anna... my advice for you has and will always be TALK WITH HIM!!! you guys never talk, so why on earth would he want to kiss you if yall never even say hi... TALK TALK TALK!! i think that your bestest move would to be to talk to him and move on from there, because your relationship with him is kinda on the line because you NEVER EVER TALK WITH HIM!! try it..
love ya much~
♥ April~

ok, well i know excatly how you feel, i was in the same place you were in a couple of years ago.. i relised that 12 is way way to young to date anyone, so i would focus on being the bestest friend possible to the guys. You will enjoy having guys as friends in the long run insted of them as your bfs. As for your friends.. well how many relationships last longer than uh.. 2 months?? not very many.. and its not like your thinking about spending the rest of your life with these guys, so wouldnt you rather have these guys as your freinds in the long run, so when the time comes for you to be able to date, you could have some close guy freinds to choose?? If you were to go out with them now, you might loose them as a friend or as anything forever! i would totally start off the day with a smile knowing that i will have nice and longlasting friendships instead of a relationship with someone that could be gone in an instant. Dont be sad or depressed!! Remember guys arent worth your tears!!!
hope this helps!!

Okk, well just liking someone is like having a crush.. flirting is like expressing that you have a crush on that person.. if that makes any sence! lol... How do ya know if ya like someone? well i personally think that its when someone is stuck in your head, and you cant get them out, and you want to spend a whole lot if not all of your time with that someone. Flirting is often described as casual conversation with a romantic touch, but there doesnt to be any speaking involved.. but there of coarse can and most likely will at some point..
hope this is what you wanted!!

Okk, i no i havent talked to you in forever, but i had no idea that you were moving this year!! I think that this is a great and very kind way to break up with _ _ _ _ _ _. Im sure that he wont be hurt by it at all, and im glad that your finally taking my advice and breaking up with him!! but not dealing with this, we need to talk, so when ya get this could you please call me??

but i definantly think that you wrote him a very nice, sweet and kind note that says everything!!
luv ya much,
♥ April~

Well one way is you could ask one of your friends to go up to him and say... hey, so i herd that you liked ... then based on how he replies to that you could make many choices..
but then there is the always hard way of just going up to him and asking him, hey do you want to go see a movie friday night?
I know that it might sound hard to do, just walking up to him and all and you will probably be totaly freaking out, but trust me, i went through the same thing. I just walked up to him and said 'hey want to go to the mall saturday with a couple of friends?' and things turned out great!
the worst that could happed would be for him to say no, and if he does, then he is not the right guy for you, and you should move on and not waste any more of your time on him....
so i hope things work out fine, im sure they will!!
hope i helped ya out~

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