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I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them. (link)
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first of all he's disgusting!! he's 8 years older than you?!! omg that is so wrong. at 16 i understand that you can be in love i was definitely in love at 16 but this is not ok. he is a sex offender and should be reported. I think if he hasnt left her now to be with you that would give you a clear indication that he's never going to leave her, and that he's ashamed to admit that he is with someone so much younger. if he can't come out with it now he won't ever.
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So long story short, right now I'm engaged to somebody and though we love each other very much things have been rough lately. We live together in our own place and balance all of our own bills, ect. We both work full time and he works longer and more hours than I do.
This often leaves me with a lot of alone time and every Saturday to myself which makes me very lonely. We often disagree over little things and a lot of the time I feel like even though we're best friends that he's not mature enough for me to want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. He still does so many childish things like playing hours of video games, not wanting to shower every night, leaving his clothes all over the place, dishes left out, ect. We make okay money but most of the time we end up with just enough to cover the bills and maybe a little bit on the side. I'm sick of always freaking out over bills though and being scared of every little thing I buy extra. I've always wanted to try my hand at a more luxurious life with an older man and I figured having a Sugar Daddy is a good option.
I've been talking to my fiance about having a Sugar Daddy on the side and after a few days consideration he told me if I can keep the two separate and promise not to cheat on him that he's okay with it.
Not really knowing what to expect I signed up for a site and paid a month's subscription. I poured my heart out in the bio and put up a few photos. I got lots of responses as I'm a fairly attractive and intelligent woman. After filtering out all of the men that were obviously just looking for an escort or somebody to have sex with I settled on speaking to three men, but I'm only seriously considering one of them. Annually he makes 250,000-500,000 a year which seems absolutely amazing and he comes off like a really sweet genuine guy. We also seem to have a lot in common and he's coming up for our first "date" on Saturday. We're going out for dinner at a little posh place that I've always wanted to go to but never had the money for (and none of my family could ever afford even for a birthday gift). Afterwards I figure we'll walk around the square and talk.
The thing is with this guy is it seems like he might want a real relationship not something that is strictly SD/SB.
I mean I'm okay with that right now because I'm definitely not going to have sex with him anytime soon and who knows maybe we'll get along really well and things will blossom?
How can I balance the two though if I start having feelings for my SD and wanting a life with him instead of with my current fiance? I love my fiance so very much but sometimes it's really hard to see things working out. We're very close but like I said before I almost see us more as best friends than a potential husband and wife...
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I feel like you can't balance them both and keep them separate. I'm pretty sure that a SD is someone you do things with like have sex with... and go on dates with. possibly you're looking for someone else to take care of you rather you take care of someone.also you said not have sex with at this moment? you said you wouldn't cheat, but i think you might. not to say you will or you have to just saying to me reading this sounds as if you don't want your current boyfriend and would want something else and i think that might be the best idea. if you truly loved him you wouldn't want another guy on the side.
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I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here? (link)
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hi there... you have quite a lot going on it seems... i personally never been in a situation like this and it's very serious and only you can make a change only if you want to. sounds like to me you dont want to be with this guy anymore. which is fine and ok. I can't imagine not having a single friend or family member to rely on. I have nothing but ppl in my life so i feel your situation is quite difficult. if you haven't already talk to your husband tell him how you feel, maybe ask if getting a part time job for yourself would be ok? or better yet just tell him you're getting a part time job. you need to be social it's not normal to just see kids all the time and your husband. maybe your close with his family if so talk to them talk to anyone you can a doctor? that can help try there and go from there try to strive to be independent so if you still feel like you need to leave then you have people and money!
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My boyfriend is moving to a new school next year and will probably won't be able to see him again! We're so damn close together that I cry everyday knowing that! Might there be some advice to prep for this and what to before he leaves? :( (link)
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i had a boyfriend all through out highschool and he moved away when we finished we were so close but ended up breaking up. sometimes long distance doesnt work, but it only doesn't work if you both aren't willing to make it work. that was our problem. make times to facebook chat or skype or phone calls. also make plans to meet up it gives you something to look foward to and have honesty and trust with each other thats how relationships work. its really hard when someone you love leaves coping with it is something you need to figure out that works for you just talk and prepare.
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Hi there
This question is off the back of a bigger dilemma I'm in which I will address at a different time but one thing I need help with right now is the following-(also just for this question I'm going to refer to these two men as guy 1 and guy 2)
Ok guy 1 I love deeply its a love that's got deeper over time he is caring loving fun etc all round great guy, it's had ups and downs like any love does but it is strong, he's never given me any reason to doubt him I trust him and never worry that he would stray. However the one thing that is a concern for me which is sex, I don't mean this to sound shallow in anyway because I do love him dearly but sex is only average, I pleasure him very well he is more than happy as he has communicated this but for me things just don't quite get there and I find it hard to address this due to trying before and he took it really to heart and now I'm scared to hurt his feelings so I just go with it but I worry that this will pose long term troubles for me because I know what I want and crave it and I worry I will need to act up in this urge.
Guy 2 I fell in love with fast and this is a new relationship he is wonderful and romantic and honest (sometimes too honest lol) sometimes I have had small doubts on how truthful some of the things he tells me are but then I think is it because he is wanting to impress me so much, I have questioned his sincerity (in a positive way) and his answers are clear and honest but he doesn't realise he sometimes makes me jealous by telling me about girls that have been hitting on him. I don't know if he's doing this because he's insecure and wants to test how much I care or whether he is a player and I'm been a fool. I wonder though if its due to the strain of a LDR and this would change if we was together but its a big risk to take. however the sex here is mind blowing for him and me, we connect so well and it is so passionate we know what each other wants without even having to ask but then when we do it just gets even better.
Basically what it comes down to is a choice of love, trust and average sex OR love, potential trust issues and incredible sex.
so I'm hoping that by getting neutral advice from others will help me see the clear picture.
All advice and answers are welcome and appreciate
Thanks for reading.
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I think there is a lot of thinking here to do, i feel like the sex issue with number 1 is just the communicating part. If you tell him what you like or move his hand the way you like things with out having to speak maybe the sex will become better for you guys. now I know you said that the last time his feelings were hurt, you should tell him that what you're telling him is not to hurt his feelings, but to make what you guys have better. not everyone is going to know what to do right away or what she likes people need to talk about it show eachother and sometimes showing is just as much fun and exciting. Now on guy number 2 he may just be telling you about those other women yes to get you to be jealous or to be 100% honest with you he wants to tell you whats up with his life. sex is a huge part in a healthy relationship in my opinion its frusterating if you cant enjoy it with the one you love. although trust is also a huge part in a relationship if you dont have trust you have nothing so if you cant or forsee yourself not tursting guy number 2 then sex wont even be amazing everything would just be blah. good luck i know this probally didnt help so much, but you are the one in these relationships and i think these are both minor issues and if you want to settle down you need to talk to both of them about with guy number 1 the sex issue and guy number 2 the trust issue
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My boyfriend is very rude to me. He always calls me a weirdo and judging everything I do. He doesn't like to cuddle or be affectionate. He hurts my feelings. He says he loves me but it doesn't seem like it & doesn't feel like it. Part of me is telling me to leave but the other part is telling me to stay. Which direction should I go? (link)
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Most likely when anyone is acting like this towards there boyfriend or girlfriend they are ready to end things too. If he has always been like this towards you and it sounds like you dont like it so you are already telling yourself that you want things to end between you two. if you dont like the way you are being treated then you need to be strong and leave the person who is bringing you down. he might realize after you have dumped him and ignored him for a long period of time what he is missing and try to get back with you.
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So...suppose you met a guy, and this guy has a girlfriend...but he seems kind of flirty with you...he finds that you both have a lot in common, makes sure he gives you a big hug before you say goodbye, he calls you on the phone often...and then he asks you to go get coffee with him...okay, this is where it may become an incredibly stupid question...does that necessarily mean that he's attracted to you? Or is he just a very friendly guy? I have absolutely no clue how his current relationship is going...and I don't want to ruin it either. I would be very jealous if I had a boyfriend and this was happening. But the really bad thing is that I am extremely attracted to him, and I do catch myself wanting to be with him. But the last thing I want to be is a 'homewrecker'...and then I ask myself, 'is he just being really friendly'? Uuugh, my heads a mess! Helllppp!!!! (link)
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this guy seems like hes a little more friendly then the average person. you need to be honest with him you know he has a girlfriend and you dont want to ruin things. so tell him i dont want to get in the way of you and your girlfriend i want to make sure that meeting up with you isnt something your doing behind your back and that when we meet its only as a friend kind of meeting
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can i get pregnant if my boyfriend fuck me from back side ?not to my front hole?
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your ass hole? and not your vagina? no you can not get pregnant.... you should know more about sex before you go ahead and start doing it.
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My brother and father have a problem with my boyfriend.I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 18, I don't see the problem here.My boyfriend is best friends with my brother, but my brother doesn't like the fact were dating.My dad doesn't think that i'm old enough for him.Me and my boyfriend aren't into anything sexual.What's the problem with us dating? (link)
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your not into anything sexual yet! thats the problem guys at 18 want more than just a cute romantic relationship. they want freedom and to do what they want when they want. your 13 you dont know half the things he does yet. its a big age difference right now when your older and out of highschool it would be ok to date someone who is 5 years plus older than you. your not ready for things he is now and your dad and brother know that and if your brotheres friends with him then he knows the intentions this kid has with you.
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My best friend and I have known each other for years now, I think that she might be dating my boyfriend behind my back, lately he's been acting weird, and not texting or calling me back. My best friend has also been quite busy all of sudden with homework,family,etc. I have heard people tell me that my boyfriend is cheating on me,but i don't want to lose my best friend, and i don't believe in what people say, how do i ask my best friend without hurting her feelings? (link)
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go to ur boyfriend and bestfriend and talk to them ask why are people telling me your cheating on me? and talk to your friend ask the same question if she seems weird then i guess you know your answer
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My boyfriend always ignores me. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days over it. And then made up. But still, I felt weird when we hung out, scared almost. I was scared to say or do certain things in case I came off as clingy. We went through the day just fine. And afterwards he didn't even call or text and every time I give him space he doesn't bother to answer.
I mean first the relationship was perfect. And then it just went downhill... He said we'll fix it but he isn't doing his part and whenever I text or call to talk about it, he ignores me. My mom said to ignore him even if he ends up contacting me, but I just wanna get it over with. Should I break up with him or go with my mom's plan? (link)
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mothers know best!
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so my boyfriend of 2 and a half years cheated on me.first with my cousin and then with his best friend who happens to be a girl.he blamed me for him cheating.i told him it was over and i broke up with him but he stood there and cried and said he was sorry.what do i do?..2 and half years is a really long time.im LOST. (link)
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he cheated on you twice and blamed you? really he wants you to feel guilty about his actions. dump him yah you had great two years with him and some cheating going on and he wont stop there think about how you found out about this and how he reacted if its not what you like dump him you will never forget this the trust is almost gone you will go phyco trying to keep him on a tight leashe. if you think you can trust him again and stay with him but once you take him back you cant bring this stuff up or youll fall apart get over it and trust him if you want him
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I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him staring at their butt but i didn't think much of it since i really liked him and he would stare at mine too. We stopped going out with them as much due to we all work and go to school so now we don't have time.But i always notice him looking at their butts when we go to their house they wear really short tight shorts
(sometimes part of their butt even comes out a little when they walk) all the time and their butts are like amazingly big, like kim kardashian im not kidding haha. Mine is just normal size and it has recently starting to bother me, because i noticed he never stares at mine anymore but always checks out theirs, is this normal, and what should i do? sometimes i let us walk in front of them purposely but feel foolish its starting to make me feel insecure. (link)
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well if i was you i would ask him straight up if hes checking out his sisters because if he is that is just wrong and gross like they are realated its not right.
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so this is a complicated story, but try to understand, where im coming from. So im in middle school this popular girl, sarah has been dating this guy james for like some monthes maybe 5 the max.? but anyways he doesnt like her anymore, and they broke up like back in dec, and she is still emotionally attached, and acts like they are still together. and i am friends with this girl i sit at her table, and talk. he is just good friends with her. he has i think more classes with me. he is rly nice, at least to me. and she is so the melodramatic and jealous type, and that is so not me, that is also why they broke up at least not in a relationship. So we talk like evryday and in every class because we sit next to each other in every class...and we didnt pick our seats (weird right?) he is always poking me, we have a friendly handshake, etc. right now we are friends, but all im saying is that i could see us as a happy couple. and i could easily say i dont care about sarah, and im going to flirt with him. but i dont becuase i dont want to hurt her, and the last thing i want to do is start drama, i know your problly like "how is that starting drama?" but it is becuase shes gonna start crying and what not and i really dont want that to happen, if only she was with someone else it would be a lot easier, and if she didnt like him. i like him we see each other alot, and idk it want to be happy at the same time, but dont want to stir shit up. and i just came out of depression, so its really important for me to go after what i want. and if i were to flirt with him im sure he will like me back, its just her standing in the way. what do i do?? thankss (link)
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well you said yourself that they are broken up if your friends with this girl which kinda sounds like it keeping in mind that you said you guys talk and sit at the same table everyday you should probally let her know if you and this guy want to date. she probally wont realize for a while that you two are talking so do what you want right now and if you guys are going to date then tell her. me and james want to date and i wanted to let you know because i know you guys dated in the past and i hope that we dont have a problem with eachother.
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im 16 years old girl. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and 2 months. we used to be the best boyfriend ever! but here lately, it feels like things are changing. hes just been so rude to me. when he asks were i am, hes like were the fu*k are you and stuff. i love him so much and dont want to end it. i just dont know if being with him is worth it anymore. i dont know what to do if i should just end it or not (link)
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the next time hes rude to you either walk away from him and go home and dont talk to him or when he calls u or texts u that ignore him and when he keeps asking be like i wont asnwer you when you talk to me that way if you want to know something you can ask nicely and probally be nice about it other wise we are through.
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I am 21 and my boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years now is moving interstate coz he got offered a job. He will be about 12 hours driving away and we already had a year apart when he was traveling overseas last year. It is so hard on us and I don't think I can do this again since he will be away for 3 years and by then we will be 24 and that is a massive part of our lives if we don't end up staying together anyway. I always thought we would end up married and having babies in a few years time. He is leaving in a month and I love him so so much like he loves me but I can't wait around for 3 years for him. It's just too hard. When do I tell him and what do I say? I don't want to break up with him but I think I'll have to I have no choice. I don't want him to not go because I will break up with him either. I have no idea what to say. It's our 3 year anniversary in 10 days as well :( please help me. (link)
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situations like this are never easy i myself is in a similar one my boyfriend of three years is moving and after we are done with school whoknows if we still want to be together. the thing is i have to take life as it comes to me if we are meant to be together it will be. all i can do now is do whats best for myself. yah i want to go with him but thats a huge step for a "maybe we will stay together" i need to be a 100% sure that this is a forver deal and putting forth all of me into this and for maybe him to give up. your still young and its hard really hard and i dont know what to do myself. ill have to visit him once or twice a year if he decides to come over where i live. hey if it works then im happy love is supposed to be strong and i want him forever and if he feels the same way this will work out, maybe not all good times but it will. if your willing to be with him then you will find a way for this to work out. this could be an excellent time to find yourself youve been with this man for three years make sure you want to be with him find other ppl to date but thats it. its your decision and no one can make it for you.
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My boyfriend of 2 years has been accusing me of cheating since the beginning. I have more guy friends than girls because they back stab. He gets jealous if I talk or look at a guy that I help at work for their schooling in placement tests. It all started when a friend that I have known a year and a half before him was changed to a girls name in the phone because I noticed he was deleting guys off my phone. I completely forgot that I changed him to a girls name because I give my boyfriend the phone while I'm at work. The guy called 8 months later and asked me for money. He lives in another state and my boyfriend got angry over it. After that I deleted it. Now he won't let me use my own cell phone that I pay for. I can't drive to work, he has to drop me off from my own car. He calls me at work to make sure I'm not cheating at the college while working. He thinks our 1 yr old is not his and that I'm secretly having sex with the neighbors. I don't know wat to do anymore. Counseling is not working (link)
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okay wow he is so abusive hes controlling and i gotta tell you i would not put up with that tell him listen if you cant trust me and if you think you need to control me then we are over and go from there its not ok for you to deal with this hes phyco over you cheating and if you have not cheated on him before then why is he so paranoid? you need to end it so that he knows he needs to stop and if he starts stalking you then you need a restraining order this is serious and he needs more then councling he needs to go more often.
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'kay so basically I live with my boyfriend, R. we've been together for a year and have lived together for 6 months. we've been having a hard time for at least the last 4 months.. fighting ALOT. we honestly just can't seem to help ourselves. but I got pregnant by him, about 3 months ago. at that point we were trying really hard to stay together and make things work, for the sake of the baby which we wanted to keep. while I was pregnant, I found a bunch of things in his e-mail between him and his ex-girlfriend. nothing TOO overtly sexual, and she lives a world away in Australia (we live in Canada). But she was his first love and last girlfriend. They were together for 2 yrs. There were lots of messages between them where he said he 'loved' her, they always would finish there messages to eachother with xoxox, they talked about their sex and love lives to eachother regularly, had pet names for eachother, ect. I was furious, just given the way he conducts himself with me and the fact that he really isn't half affectionate in the way he talks to me. he hadn't even said 'I love you' yet to me, and here he was saying it to some other girl like it was the most natural thing in the world. gross. at first I freaked out, and he wouldn't even admit that there was something wrong with it. he took the stance of she was part of his life, he was doing nothing wrong and I was just going to have to deal. I should have left then but like I said, I was pregnant. eventually he switched his attitude completely around and said that he was willing to stop talking to her, and that he could see how it would make me uncomfortable. but the whole time he maintained that he never ever flirted with her, and if anything had a sibling-like relationship to her. so I accepted his apology and everything went back to normal, until I found a fairly recent message (although he HAS NOT spoken to told me he would stop) where he called her 'sweetcheeks'. I just didn't think that was a typical non-sexual thing to say to your 'little sister', no longer believed what he had said and again was furious. one has to keep in mind that they primarily talked on instant messanger and whatever he said in an e-mail, I'm sure he'd said a thousand times over in chat. when I had agreed to forgive him and let it go, the last thing I asked him before agreeing, was "but it was a sexual thing, right? please, please just be honest with me." he fully denied it. anways so when I spazzed on him the second time, he did cave, he said it was flirting and he was sorry, but I definately had to fish for him to say that alot and basically force the question. he did not want to discuss it and it seemed just wanted it to be over and for me to shut up about it. it's hard to believe he meant anything he said, and he really didn't say much anyways. but he was definately just of the mindset of wanting the fighting to stop, I know that much.
anyways since then I have supposedly 'forgiven' him, I don't bring her up anymore and everything is normal. we are working on fighting less, and have been doing a little better.. for the last couple weeks anyways. it comes and goes. but when I'm away from him, I DO still sometimes brood about all this. I DO feel second choice. there was a long, long time where we were arguing about this (a period of weeks) where he refused to quit talking to her or admit any wrong doing and it seems entirely possible he was just sucking it up and doing what he had to in order to calm me down. we have argued about this tirelessly and I know bringing it up again would end our relationship, but even now when I type about it, I'm crying. I do feel like I mean less then her. I have never really gotten the kind of attention from him that he was giving her. talking to her in that cutesy goddamn way. and talking to her about all her problems, her family life, her sex life, and all his intimate feelings and thoughts. like that's normal. he never opened up to me like that, or asked me intimate questions like that. But I mean he DID quit talking to her, she's no threat anymore, he said everything I wanted him to say. although the day after he blocked and deleted her, which was about a week after I actually asked him to, he flipped his decision again and tried to talk me into letting him add her back but just having him watch what he says. and we had both agreed at that point that it was a trial run and not to fight for two more weeks.. and obviously we did fight about him asking that. maybe I should have just given in but I honestly don't think I would have been okay with it ever. it would be easier to move on now that we've lost the baby but.. should I? or do I just need to learn to be more forgiving? he's a wonderful guy, I love him, when we aren't fighting he makes me deleriously happy. but when I met him he did kind of try to project this image of being a 'good guy', like he was on moral high-grounds compared to most of the guys I might have known. and I did fall for it, he has a mormon upbringing, and when you meet him he comes across as this incredably polite, friendly, likable person. polite above all else. he had me convinced me that he was very uniquely dependable and always did the right thing. I really did think he was like completely innocent of anything and placed him on a pedestal, and fell in love with that image. now I'm just dealing with the reality and the fact that he could have never lived up to the image I had for him. Is this just part of the process when it comes to making a relationship last? will it get better? even when we aren't fighting, like the past few weeks, I still feel upset when he isn't here. I cry. I distract myself so I won't cry by blazing alot, but I'm quitting today, so we'll so how that works out for me lol. am I eventually going to stop feeling this bad? do I just need to focus on the positive and work through it? I've been through alot with this guy and I wanna keep him around if possible. one thing I learned from my pregnancy, is that he is the kind of man who I would want to raise a family with because he does live up to his responsibilities. and he was really supportive and great throughout the whole pregnancy and miscarriage, other than this particular fight which seems to keep coming back. I dunno. What do you think I should do? (link)
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this all sounds like its not a good relationship to be in he continued to talk to this girl after you said that it makes you uncomfortable. so will this relationship last problly not, not the way its going. its better to leave someone then keep up with the fighting. if you guys break up he may find that he does actually love you and that he needs you and thigs will be better or hell just do what he wants. i would want better and if you guys keep fighting about the same things then maybe you should call it quits. loosing a baby is very traumatic and maybe you should seek help. into talking to someone its probally for the best your in a stressful time in your life and very confused really think to yourself alone if you should be with this guy or not you know the answer.
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18/f.
Okay, so there's this girl Sara that my boyfriend used to have a RIDICULOUS crush on a couple years back. It didn't work out for him; they have been and are still just friends. He claims he's over her and stuff, but who knows. That's not what bothers me, though.
Apparently one day, he and Sara were hanging out and she was wrong abotu something/lost a bet/ etc. and now owes him a blowjob. Note that this (apparently) isn't something she agreed to; he just declared it. And now, every so often, he brings it up and nags her that she "promised".
How do I know about this? Obviously he never mentions this to me; I once saw him say it to her on Facebook on my news feed, and another time I read a VERY lengthy aim convo about it (I was bored, on his computer, and creeped on his conversations). I know the AIM thing was an invasion of privacy on my part, but I was bored. I didn't read it out of suspicion or anything.
My problem is that I feel EXTREMELY jealous and hurt. But I don't know if I have the right to. First of all, Sara's my friend, too (we're not good friends, we haven't talked in a while, but we're friends nonetheless). I know for a fact she wouldn't ACTUALLY agree to it for that reason (and also because she never saw him as more than a friend). And my boyfriend's the type of person who jokes about sex 24/7. But there's just something different about telling your best guy friend "don't worry about it. you'll just suck my dick later" vs. sayign to a girl you've had a huge crush on for over a year that you want a blowjob from her. No?
Anyway, what do I do? Should I do anything at all? I feel like I should tell him how uncomfortable this makes me, but how can I even bring it up without admitting to reading his messages? I feel like the second I bring up my problem he's going to turn the privacy thing around and make me the bad guy. (link)
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okay this is not okay if you are feeling not okay about something from what your boyfriend is saying then you need to talk to him about it maybe you shouldnt mention that you went through his aim conversations if you know he was going to be very mad at you about it just say hey i saw this conversation on facebook that you guys had a bet on her giving you a blow job and it concerns me a bit because i know you liked her before and im feeling a tad jealous and i dont like it i just need to know that this is nothing but a joke and you would appreciate it if this stoped! there is flirting and joking and then thats where he went wrong and went a little bit over board if you know she wouldnt do anyting then dont bother talking to her but more your boyfriend and tell him if you find that he doesnt stop with this overboard flirting and joking then its no longer healthy for you to be together.
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how do i trust my boyfrienda around other grils i really love him and i dont wont to lost him (link)
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if there is no trust you guys have nothing. just think anytime your boyfriend goes out and you nag him about being with other girls and you call him constantly its annoying and it drives people apart. if he did that to you wouldnt you want him to trust you to be good. have faith and unless he gives you reason to not be trusted
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