So I met this guy at a party and we chatted for 30 minutes. We had a lot in common and he really seemed to be interested in me. I had to leave so he gave me his number and told me to text or call him up so we could hang out. Two days later I text him, and texts back saying: whats up? How are you? I answered back and he never replied after that. I texted him today (4 days later) saying hey whats up? He hasnt replied. Should I give up?
Yeah, I'd just say give it up.
Totally not worth it. Parties generally aren't the best place to meet a quality person anyway, from my experience. I mean, you can have a good time and what not, but nothing worthwhile.
You probably dodged a bullet.
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Hey!I’m a 16 year old girl from New Jersey and I AM SO LONELY. Like I’ve been in relationships before but for not more than a couple months. I really would not want anything more than to be in a relationship with a guy for like a year or longer! However I’ve talked to guys in my town and who go to my school before, and I do not like anyone of them, they all do not know how to treat girl’s right and respectively. And any guy who does is already taken. I’m seriously so sick of being single and really want to meet some nice cute guys. I’ve tried some online dating sites, and all I found were horny males. That is defiantly the opposite of what I’m looking for. I have tried to have my friends from out of town hook me up with some of their friends, didn’t work. I try to be outgoing and fun in public, doesn’t work. I’m really not that picky, and I am told I’m really pretty and nice, I’m not prude, I don’t know what else to do,I just can’t find anyone, and waiting is just making me feel lonely as ever. Do you have any ideas as to how or where I could meet someone I can actually be in a relationship with??
Here's the harsh reality.
You are 16. Being single is not the end of your life.
You should have other priorities.
I am almost 21 and I have never had a boyfriend.
I know I am not forever alone. Yes, I get lonely; yes it would be nice to have a boyfriend; yes, it gets depressing sometimes to see absolutely everyone around me in cuddly happy relationships.
I understand that it's really frustrating. But, shift your focus elsewhere. There are seriously way more important things.
And it's a lot easier said than done to just "stop looking and they will find you."
Especially when all you want is to be in a relationship. I know this firsthand. It is really, really hard.
But she's right, stop trying so hard.
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I love my boyfriend alot but sometimes he wants to move too fast in our relationship if you know what i mean... I dont want to hurt his feelings but i always tell him no when i feel too uncomfortable and then he gets either really upset or mad. I don't know what to do, please help me.
-Takeitslowbabe
I completely disagree with the person before me (Istalio, I think?).
It isn't about hurting his feelings. It is about your feelings and your comfort level. YOUR body.
The relationship goes two ways and you need to tell him that he should be respecting how you feel and your boundaries and that you don't feel ready. Stand your ground and don't let him talk you into anything.
I moved too quickly into something and I loathed myself for a long time because of it.
If you love each other and he respects you, he will understand how you feel and wait.
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what qualities does girls like in men?
A lot of what I have to say will mimic what flare said, but I'm going to say what I have to say anyway to add to the pot.
I don't think I have ever met a girl who didn't like a good sense of humor... but it has to come naturally. And, unfortunately, everyone has a different sense of humor, so "good" is subjective, so take that for what it's worth.
Girls like guys who don't try too hard.
Guys who are honest and genuine. Caring.
CONFIDENCE. Probably the biggest thing of all. That is true of both men and women, I've learned, and many people struggle with it.
But, like flare said, it all varies depending on the girl. I have odd taste in guys, like, really, my friends are usually confused.
Just being yourself and true and open to who you are and you'll generally attract the right people. :)
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I was with this guy last night and like he showed a little interest with me before this night. He is a player for sure but a few nights ago he said that he is a player but wants love and is only a player to keep his reputaion up. we were telling eachother stuff nobody knows about us. so anyway we hung out and he was like really drunk and i took a tramadol so i was feeling good and we kinda started talking than making out well we did it like all night he would put his hand up my shirt but never tried to go further he said not untill you like me and we would talk and make out like on and off. He kept saying that we were meant for eachother and all this like sweet stuff and said he wanted me to be his and i kept saying i dont believe you. but anyway i took it for what it was but not going to lie i cant get it off my mind so do you think this was just drunk talk or like it meant something? Im okay with both just confused.
I say don't give into it at all.
I fell for this act before. They're hardly ever genuine, especially while drinking.
I know people say "drunk words are sober thoughts," but when a guy who is admittedly a player is trying to get with a drunk girl, that is not the case. They will do what they can to see how far they can get. I'm glad you told him that you didn't believe him, though, because if you did fall for it right away that could have led to some bad decisions on your part.
My advice is just to avoid it all together, especially if he ADMITS that he is a player. If he is honestly looking for love, he wouldn't care about "keeping is reputation up."
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Basically ive been seeing my boyfriend since august 2010 and well we got together finally in december we got together, but the thing is he's muslim but im so cool with that i dont care haha , only problem is my parents dont think its right if i date a muslim they think he is like them dominent men. But their wrong i want to introduce him to them , but i'm scared that they wouldnt let me see him. Im 18 this year i know its my feelings only thing is that hes a muslim guy, hes turkish. Honestly i fell in love with him, im also his first love aswell and it feels so amazing and well its come to the point where i wanna take things further on with my partner i want to be able to make love with him because i lost my virginity at 15 and well it was horrible didnt like it, wanna make this so special with him but im also nervous cause its the first time im gonna do something with love. PLEASE HELPPPP xx
Well, I'm a firm believer in complete honesty. So, I think it is only right that you tell your parents.
However, you have to go about it very delicately and don't put your boyfriend in an awkward position in case anything unpleasant happens.
You have to respect your parents, their views and opinions, but you also have to stand your ground. They're not always right, contrary to popular belief (hah).
As for sex. Hm. Well, I'm certainly not going to tell you not to do it, that would be silly. You say you love him, I believe you.
No one can tell you how to make it "special" because it's your relationship - we're not inside it, we don't know what is special between the two of you.
All I can say is be safe for God's sake.
Use a condom. Every time. The whole time. Even if you are on the pill, I don't care. Better safe than sorry. Seriously, don't believe any myths.
You don't want to get pregnant or and STD (I dk, just saying, don't take that the wrong way).
Even if it "doesn't feel good," which is utter crap anyway, giving birth feels worse.
Sorry, end rant.
My point is, I think you need to tell your parents but you need to choose your words wisely and do NOT get in an argument about it; no yelling, accusing, etc.
And just have safe sex, please, please, please.
Good luck.
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So there's this boy. He's a sophomore in high school and I'm a senior. (he's 16 im 18) I really really am starting to like him, but I think he might be too young for me? I don't know. Another problem, I used to like his older brother, but things got complicated and he went to college this year not wanting a girlfriend. I was ok and now we're just friends. But is that weird too? Could I be confused about my feelings for the sophomore and his older brother? I really do like matt (sophomore) I just think people may see us as too differnt in age. And I want to ask him to prom!! He always tells people how gorgeous he think I am and he's so sweet and funny. I'm basically really confused.
Honestly, I am in the middle of the same thing right now, and I don't consider the age to be a big deal. The only difference is that I'm a freshman in college and he's a junior in high school.
I know it's hard now, but seriously, try not to worry about other people. It's something that I've been working on FOREVER, and still struggle with sometimes, but it's your life and you have to make decisions for yourself and no one else. So what if they do have an opinion about it. The ones who matter will support you regardless of what other people think.
Bottom line is that you can't help how you feel. You are struggling with your head saying one thing and your heart saying another, another thing I, too, am dealing with right now. But, I am one who generally chooses to go with my heart. You have feelings and you can't deny them or try to suppress them, it doesn't work very well.
Best of luck :) If you have any specific questions, feel free to send them to my inbox!
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so 5 months ago after my botfriend (adam) and i have broken up i meet this other guy (brandon). and he is the sweetest guy you will ever meet. i went out with him before i was all the way over my ex. and i treated brandon like shit. i called it off and havn't seen or heard of him in 5 months. after i did that i gat back with adam, and now i called it off with us one month ago because he was doing things with other girl and i didn't know. now that i really am over adam, last weekend brandon shows up at my door. i was so happy to see him, i missed him. he asked me back out the next day, and i didn't know what to say. i want to go back out with him, but i don't want to hurt him again. i told him that, and he said that 'if you give me another shot i will make up for everything that adam has done wroug to you, and you will see me as me and for that there will be no way you can hurt me.' i think i'm going to say yes today or tomorrow, but i wanna know from you, what should i do?
personally, i dont have the most experience here, but my advice is just to go with brandon. i mean if the worst that happens is it doesnt work out, thats alright.
its better than not knowing.
if you really want to be with him and he really wants to be with you i think you should give it a shot. it sounds pretty good to me.
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Would a 15 year old guy even look at a 13 year old girl?? Cuz I like a 15 yr old boy and hes just like me because we're both on the same levels of puberty (don't ask how I know cuz my mom is best friends with his mom and i know these things). He's about 1-2 inches taller than me and he is going to be 5.2 when he's done growing and I'm going to be 4.11. So yeah!! Hes about the the maturity as me too!
I think it would be just fine for a 15 year old guys to go out with a 13 year old girl. I know a bunch of people that go out with people 2 years older than them. hope I helped :)
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Well. There's this guy I really really adore. I used to be close friends with him but I'm not anymore...:(. Anyways I wanna find some old blogs of his and I was wondering if you all could help me! :D Please, if you can, list all the diary/journal/blog sites that you know of. Thanks! :D (Yes, I do rate!)
www.livejournal.com
www.xanga.com
sometimes even www.myspace.com too
those are the only ones i can think of right now though :P
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** = state 1
* = state 2
ohk for the last 4 years i lived in ** but then i moved to * when i moved the only thing i wanted was to go back to **. the only reason i wanted to go back is cause the love of my life is there and i really miss him but ever since i left he hasnt talked to me but like 3 times in like 6months its so sad and i nedd him to live seriously. but hes not there and another reason is all my friends yea we were awesome friends but when i left ive only talked to 2 of them and thats. only a little bit. like maybe ill be going back in a year im wondering do i really have a reason to go back? i don't really have my lover anymore and he was the most important person in my life he was always there for me and everything.. i know hes not here for me now but do you think he will be when i go back that way he can actaully see and hold me? ok to get to the point like put yourself in my shoes would u go back? do u think he will ever come back to me? or is it really just a waste of my time??
17/f
ThAnx alot In advanCe
I think, before you decide to move back, you should call or get in contact with him & see how he feels about the situation. If he doesnt still feel the way he used to for you, then he probably wont come back to you. But, there is more back home where you used to live. especially if you havent been gone that long. I have moved a few times, & I really miss those places. So think about what you have in each place & compare, & see where you are or have been happier!! I really hope I helped! :) ok well if you need anything, feel free to IM me or e-mail!
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Ok I have really really thin lips. Like my ring finger covers my lips if I put it on them. I've never actually kissed a boy before except in a truth or dare game and that was just a quick peck, so I'm not that experienced. The boy that I'm getting close to now has really big lips, maybe the size of your middle+index finger put together. I really want to kiss him but I'm self-consious about how small my lips are. Does anybody have any tips on what I should do?
*remember...ring finger+index & middle finger=???
thanx...
i rate high....
honestly, I dont think you should worry that much about it! I mean, it shouldnt matter the size of your lips. He could be self concious about something else about himself too! so just relax! dont sweat it! :)
♥shesaidwhat
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So there's this guy at school and I like him a LOT. I mean like I like him so much that he's all I ever think about. I want to ask him out but I don't really know how. I mean I don't want to walk up to him and be like, "Hey Peter do you want to go out with me?" I want to actually like have a conversation with him before I ask him out. And I don't want to write a note. I want to ask him in person. How would I do this without totally embarrasing myself? I rate 5's on good answers.
well, it just so happens that I was in the same situation! At first just start talking to him casually. Once it seems less wierd to talk to him, just bring it up to him, I know it may be hard @ first, but you have to work up the courage. trust me one this one. & the worst that could happen is that he says no. & thats what happened in my case, but the good part is that I gained a friend! I talk to him more & more now. & you never know, maybe soon you will hang out more or talk more & he will start to like you back! Trust me on this one. Even if he says no, & it seems like the whole world is crumbling, its not. life goes on, & it really does get better! I am in the same situation as you, & things seem to get better between us.. slowly & casually, but not everything can happen right away! :)
I hope I could help. If you want to talk more, IM me @ Diam0nd xOx Eyes, or e-mail me @ chilligrl357@hotmail.com. I really wouldnt mind!
♥ Rachel :D ((shesaidwhat)) :P
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