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heres the thing me my friend shawn the guy i like david and this girl sharon went and hung out at mulligains it was all cool but then later that night i found out sharon was the ex of the guy i like david and my heart just fell how could he bring his ex on a date with me and not tell me about her well me and the ex had a talk and she said she wanted me to be happy and she knew that being with david would make me happy so i told david this and his heart fell he said he was gonna give up trying to get back with her and that he need time to get over it now i felt so bad cause of telling him this but he said hes happy i did and that after time that he needs he will then hook up with me what do you think? (link)
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a) Don't spam questions just because they got deleted from the main pages.
b) Use at least some punctuation and grammer. A few capital letters and periods to separate sentences go a long way towards coherent questions.
c) As long as you've done your best to treat David decently, don't worry so much about whether he'll like you. If it works out, it works out.
d) There are plenty of fish in the sea. If this doesn't work out, the next guy will come along soon enough.
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ok me & my gf has beenin planing to go out for a long time now. i was wondering where a good place to take her would be?
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Hmm... well, considering you didn't describe anything about you or your girlfriend's personalities, it's hard to know what would be a "good" date for you.
However, I will put in my two cents to say that going to a restaurant isn't always the best. Yes, it's the typical stereotype date. But going out, just the two of you, to a restaurant can put on a lot of pressure, especially if it's a fancier place.
Movies are also a stereotypical date. Sure, a movie can be fun. But keep in mind that you don't really get to know a person by sitting next to them in a dark crowded theater. And what if it's a bad movie?
Anyways, if you decide to do dinner- go somewhere casual and familiar. If you decide to do a movie- make sure it's a good one that you'll both enjoy, and plan to go for ice cream or something afterwards.
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I met a boy at a battle of the bands 2 months ago. We didn't really talk then, but he was really cute. Recently I found his MySpace & LiveJournal and he accepted my add. He told me I looked familiar and the conversation just went from there. He told me my picture was 'insanely hot' and it was like he was lithium and I was chlorine, if you know what I mean..okay I'm a nerd.
But anyways, my favorite song of all time, he can play on the guitar. He owns a leather jacket. He likes the Libertines and numerous other bands I adore as well. He LIVES for music and is really intelligent and random, just like me. We began talking about how we'd live together in a one room apartment with a big sofa, drinking and smoking and sleeping to pass time and prowling the nyc scene at night and living off cheese and coffee and making beautiful art together....it was intense. He told me out of the blue he thought I was really cute.
Now I have never had this happen. He is my dream guy and he wants to hang out or go any rock show I say. It might actually work out for once with a guy, and believe me, I'm not lucky. My question is...where do I go from here? And what do I do when I finally hang out with him? (link)
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It all sounds wonderful, but I have to say my gut reaction was be careful. Before you fall hard, make sure you know what you're getting into. You've basically formed your relationship with this guy over the internet, and you must remember that it's possible to be whoever you want online. When you meet up with him again, make sure it's a public place. As you're getting to know each other, keep your guard up a little. As you get to know him better in person, and if it's still feeling wonderful, which I hope it does, then all will be good.
And I must say I found the lithium/chlorine line so adorable!
Now, how close do you live to each other? Can you meet up for coffee sometime? Or at a mall? Or like he suggested, a rock show. If he invites you to do any of these, I say go for it. But maybe bring along a friend the first time.
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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while now but he hasnt told his parents at all so they dont know about us but i think they know something because all of a sudden me and him started hanging out a lot more and so the other day at our track meet his mom was spying on him and since it was cold outside we were sitting pretty close and he was holding me and his mom got all upset and was yelling at him i dont know what to do because i dont want him to keep gettin in trouble for being with me he says he doesnt care because all he wants is to be with me and his parents dont want him to date until he is 16 but he is already and has had girlfriends before me but none have been as serious as ours is now and i think he should tell his parents but i dont want his parents to make us break up because we really love eachother please help -- should he tell his parents about us-- sorry its so long!! x0o (link)
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Well, considering the seriousness of your relationship, being on good terms with his parents is probably a good idea. And if they're going to be mad if/when they find out you've been dating despite the fact that they don't let him date, it could make for problems. So yes, I do think he should seriously consider telling them.
However, you're probably right in thinking that his parents may very well tell him he can't date you. Maybe you could compromise? Like set parameters for your dates- just group dates, or hanging out at his house when they're home, stuff like that- yes, it isn't ideal, but you wouldn't have to end the relationship. And who knows, you may still be together when you're 16, and then you'll be glad you can still date.
May I ask how old you are now? You didn't say, and I was wondering how many years away your bf is from 16.
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i like this girl at my church but im not sure if she likes me she has called me clingy before but idk. and if we ever broke up then it would probably seem alittle wierd seeing each other at church and i would still want to be her friend even if we did break up. i kissed her on the cheek on this trip with my church and everyone was around because it was true or dare and i think she got alittle mad even though she said that i could.. so im not sure what to do. oh and did i mention that she lives 30 to 45 minutes away from me.. should i go out with her? or what could i do to get her to like me alittle bit more? thanks ill rate 5's for good stuff. (link)
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Hmmm... with the distance, and the fact that she doesn't seem to be very open to the idea of dating you, I think you'd be better off trying to get over your crush and just pursue a friendship with this girl.
Be her friend, and maybe with time, it will develop into more- you ever know, love works in mysterious ways. For now, just focus on getting to know her better, show interest in her hobbies/interests, grow in God together (I assume since you know her from church, you're both Christian, if not, I apologize for my assumption).
To get her to like you more- just be yourself. That means instead of concentrating on trying to woo her, you just have fun and concentrate instead on getting to know her as a person, instead of as a potential girlfriend. The girlfriend thing will either happen or it won't- there is such a thing as trying too hard.
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I have acrush on this boy and he doesn't know it! My friend is supposed to tell him tommorow... but i dunno if he will!!! Im worried cause i dont really wanna know his reaction... i really dont think he likes me and i dunno wat to do!!!!!!! (link)
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Ummm... call up your friend and tell them not to tell this boy you like him.
Crushes come and go... I know it probably seems like this one will be the end of all things, but someday you might look back and laugh and think, "OMG, was I really like that?"
For now, just try to love life. Have fun with your friends, laugh a lot, be silly and spontaneous every once in a while, explore hobbies/interests that you love...
And eventually, the right boy will come along. The boy who likes you and you like him back. The boy that you'll be able to have fun with, walk along the beach or in the park holding hands with, the boy you can snuggle with watching movies or gazing at stars.
This boy might not be him... but I promise, eventually you'll find the right boy for you.
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I like this guy and we are already friends. I don't have many classes with him but I sit right behind him in the one class we do have. He always turns aroud at me and tries to make me laugh. I told one of my friends who hasn't told anyone. He's really cute but i don't want to tell him. It might ruin our friendship and i don't want anything like that to happen. I just really like him. Help, i'll rate low if you tell me to tell him because that won't get me anywhere (link)
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Okay, so talking in class is a good start... but a real friendship (or any sort of relationship) isn't going to happen until you take it beyond school. Do you ever see him in the halls? Do you know where his locker is? Do you have the same lunch? Try to make a point of talking to him (or at least smiling and saying hi to start) outside of class.
You could also ask for his phone number or sn as a way to talk to him outside of school.
Do you know any of his friends? Getting to know them might be a good idea- being friends with his friends is a great way to get closer to him.
Now I know most of this is the same sort of tips you might expect for just forming a friendship... and they are. I'm a big believer in the "friends first" theory- in my opinion, pursuing a relationship the same way you would a friendship, instead of just jumping in with the awkward "I like you, will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is much more likely to work. Good luck!
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What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more? (link)
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Don't compromise your standards. Guys come and go... God is forever.
That being said, my advice for you is pray. Pray hard, Pray often. Ask God to take the reins and steer you on the right path. Talk to someone about this- a friend, youth pastor, etc.- talk to another Christian who can give you advice, support you through this, and pray with you.
I guess everything I've read (like in Brio magazine, teen devotionals, etc.) has said that while yes, it's important to be friends with non-Christians and share Jesus' love with them, it's not a good idea to date a non-Christian. The Bible says (sorry I don't know the verse number here) "Don't be yoked with un-believers." Pray for a Godly man to come into this guy's life, a Christian guy who can disciple this guy into the light. Pray that he finds Jesus. Continue to be his friend.
Having a crush is okay. But make sure that you don't lower yourself to worldly expectations. Be God's girl first, and some guy's girlfriend second.
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my girlfriends bday is coming up and im clueless on what to get her i already got her a bracelet a necklace and i dont know what to get now we have been going out 1 year and 2 months (link)
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Gifts don't have to be expensive or romantic... jewelry isn't the only option for a guy to buy his girlfriend.
Get her something that she'll like and that she'll use.
What's she into? Hobbies, favorites, what does she like?
A few cute ideas I've seen:
- dvd of the first movie you saw together
- scrapbook of pictures of you two, or frame with a favorite picture
- mix cd of romantic songs
- teddy bear or fleece blanket for cuddling
Pay attention to her the next couple weeks... does she ever mention something she'd like, something she thinks is cool, etc. Maybe she only mentions it once, but the fact that you remember and get it- she'll find it unexpected and your thoughtfullness sweet.
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ok there's this guy at my skool whos been there since the begining of skool, but he started out as one of "the big guys on campus" like kinda cocky and stuff. but like now that its gettin close to summer, it seems like when i see him or hear about him, he's changed. Like from really preppy to skater guy and cocky to nice and he stands up for christ and i respect that alot from a guy! but me, im just like, people know me, im kinda popular, but not like a mean girl u know wat i mean? im not the one all the guys go crazy for. the guy im talkin bout doesnt really pay much attention to me, but i think he's really sweet. wat shood i do? (i rate 5s!) :-) thanks yall (link)
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Wow. that's a pretty big change...
Do you know what church he goes to? You could consider inviting him to a youth group event with you- like if your youth group ever has field trips, bands, game nights- stuff like that.
You said he doesn't pay much attention to you- well, pay more attention to him. Start a conversation with him. Show interest in his hobbies/interests. Get your friends to talk to him.
Don't get discouraged if he doesn't automatically start to like you- or that when you start talking to him, you find he's not all that you think he is. Image isn't always everything.
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well i need help really fast! Me and This kid (well call him MaX) well we like each other alot.. but his ex girlffriend still lykes him.. and me and his ex are friends.. no one knows we like each other.. but i am not sure what to do.. stay friends with him.. or go out wit him and possibly loose a friendship ( i think she still likes him 2) ErR.. just helLp really fast (and Him and This girl he went out wit only went out for a weEk)
HELP!
sincerely,
in need of him! (link)
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Okay, do you *know* she likes him or do you just *think* she likes him? Because you said both in your question...
Either way, I suggest talking to her before making a move on Max.
How close of friends are you with her? Yes, you could lose this friendship by dating Max, but if you're not that close of friends, it's not as big of a loss. AND, if she's a true friend, and did only date Max for a week, she should be able to let you date him. She'll probably be hurt and disappointed, but hopefully she'll be able to act maturely in the situation and be happy for you.
Whatever you do, do your best to save the friendship, but I don't think you need to turn your back on any possibility of dating Max just because you're friends with his ex.
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Hi everyone, I'm 14/f and I was j/w if it would be bad if I eventually went out with a 19 year old guy. I'm going to be 15 in May. I've been talking to this guy for a year now. He seems really really sweet, but we haven't met yet. I just feel like I'm starting to like him now. We were going to go see a movie one time, but we didn't end up going because it was really late. I decided not to go. He always used to say I'm too young and everything, so he was afraid to meet me, but then all of a sudden that one time he was going to go somewhere with me. He doesn't seem to care about my age all that much now. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, but I'm just saying if we met and everything, would it be wrong for me to be going out with a 19 year old? In my opinion, it's not that bad. I know we could both get in trouble, but he's really sweet. I've talked to a lot of people that I don't know on the internet, and he doesn't seem like one of those guys that only cares about sex. He never tries to talk about it with me like other gross guys do. I was also wondering how I could maybe hint to him when I'm talking to him on the internet again that I like him. I'll probably be talking to him tomorrow night. If we ever met also, what are some suggestions as to where we could meet and hang out since it'll be the first time. If anyone can, please answer! I just want a few suggestions. I'm soo very sorry that this question is so long. And I also know that you'll probably tell me it's a big age difference, but age shouldn't matter if you really like someone right? You could always keep the relationship a secret, and not do anything illegal with that person until your old enough and you know you won't get in trouble. If your nice when you answer, and you give good advice I'll rate you a 5!!!! Thank you so much again, and sorry about the length. :-) (link)
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A person can be whoever they want online... that's the beauty and the danger. So if you do choose to meet this older guy, go about it with caution.
Make sure your parents know about it, and are okay with it. Bring a friend or a trusted adult along when you go to meet him, and meet in a public place. Leave at the first sign of trouble, or if he makes you feel uncomfortable in any way.
Now just to clarify, it is not illegal for a 14 year old to date a 19 year old, but it is illegal for a 14 year old and a 19 year old to have sex. That's called statuatory rape. So if you do end up dating an older guy, just don't have sex, and you're not breaking the law.
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One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do? (link)
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Be honest.
You'll end up hurting her more if you go out with her even though you don't really like her that way.
So tell her how you feel... gently. Yes, it'll probably hurt her to hear it (that's why they call it a crush) and yes, it may make the friendship awkward for a while, but this way really is your best bet for saving your friendship and your best friend's heart.
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OK i like this guy and he is really cool and funny and all we ca even say ilove you to each other and its ok.. He is in 7th grade and i'm in 8th but we are really good friends like we go to the movies and he calls me all the time and talk about nothing for 2 hours or more.Once he told me that he liked me and i said i liked him too but he hasn't done anything like ask me out. I like him and i want to ask him out but at the same time i just want to be friends and not ruin our friendship. But heres the thing he is the weirdest, most geekest guy in 7th grade everybodys told me but he is my friend and i can't just turn my back on him like that and people think he is gay too. HELP what should i do. (link)
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Stop caring what other people think, for starters... even if other people call him gay or a geek or a purple 2-headed monster... that doesn't need to affect your opinion of him!
So he's a cool guy and you're good friends with him, and he's told you he likes you and you said you like him back... but he hasn't made the next move...
Perhaps you need to grab the bull by the horns (figuratively of course) and make a move! Ask him out, or you could just kiss him, too.
Or do nothing for now, and continue being friends... and if he ever gets up the guts to ask you out, then you can deal with the decision as to whether you want to date this guy.
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okay sorry guys heres a little background information before the question, i am 16 and my b/f is 17. i drive, and i live in TEXAS... things we normally do are watch movies, eat out, and even go to church together. we have been together for a year and a half and i just want to shake things up a bit.. now heres the question:
i was just wondering some good ideas for my aniversary with my longtime boyfriend coming up...i was wondering if anyone had some ideas for a romantic evening, something that we don't normally do. thanks (link)
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-Pack a picnic and go to a local park. Spread out a blanket and feed each other strawberries (or whatever food you choose)
-Send him on a scavenger hunt all over town (they did this in a One Tree Hill episode once) with YOU as the prize at the end
-It might be too expensive, but you could look into doing a Day Spa thing... massage, facial, etc. (Or do the spa thing at home! yay massages!)
That's all I can think of for ideas right now... have fun!
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I want to dump my boyfriend...and yes I have my reasons. He asked me if I would go to the movies with him this Friday. And I said I would, but since then I have decided I want to dump him. I don't know what to do now though. Because I went with him to the movies last week and he thought I got mad at him there. But I didn't. His friend told me that my boyfriend was shy last week and he wanted to give me a kiss and everything but he was to shy. And he was going to this Friday. I need advice on what to do, because there is another guy that I want to go out with, when me and my boyfriend break up. I'm not sure if I want to dump my boyfriend before or after the movies. What do you think?
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Think about it this way... it's a date, right? And movie tickets cost, depending on the area, $5-10... so if you go to the movies with him, and let him pay for you, that's him wasting $ on a girl who's about to break his heart.
So yes, break up with him before the movies.
Also, you may want to consider his feelings before dating this other guy right away. I know you have your reasons for dumping him, but remember that he does have feelings too. So wait a little while between relationships.
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What's the best way to ask your parents if you can go out on a date- I'm not talking about "boyfriends" that you have in like 7th grade, I mean HS bfs .. and how to tell your parents that you have a bf without feeling-weird and uncomfortable! Thanks (link)
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I guess I think the best way to avoid awkwardness when telling your parents about your new boyfriend is to keep them up to date on some of the basic information about your social life all the time. I'm not saying to tell your parents everything you'd tell your friends, but it's good to say something like "So *Sarah and I were partners in Science today, and *Joe told this really funny joke at lunch" at the dinner table every once in a while. If your parents are aware that you're a teenager, with a teenager's social life, it won't come as a shock to them that you're also a teenager with a dating life.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two and half years, and we are both eighteen. We are both very different from one another. I'm asian, I grew up with strict parents, I don't party much, or go out much. I like to do things around the house to keep me busy, like reading and writing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not boring and I know how to have fun, and I'm allowed to do anything that I want. Whenever I do go out, I'm pretty much the life of the party. Him, on the other hand, he is black, his parents were never really strict on him growing up.. he parties a lot and likes to go out all the time. He gets mad, or annoyed at me because I'm not the type to party and go all out. I get mad and annoyed at him when he parties too much. We both love each other, but it seems like that is what we mostly argue about nowadays. I'm not going to change my ways to satisfy him, and he isn't going to either. We talk about it, but even still, nothings going to change. How can I go about if an argument starts again? It just annoys me when he says to me that I don't know how to have fun, or that I'm boring. We both just have different definitions on the word fun. Any advice will be nice. Thanks.
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Neither of you should have to change who you are to please the other.
However, subtle compromises might be necessary to make your relationship work.
At least, even if no change is made regarding behavior, you both need to accept the other for who he/she is. A big part of love is acceptance- taking the good with the bad.
Now, I know that sounds really preachy... and I'm sorry. But I do mean it all sincerely.
Perhaps if you find you're arguing more than having fun together, it's a sign that the relationship is fading. Not all relationships will last forever- I know you said you're in love, but sometimes there are bigger things.
I guess if I were you, I'd let him go party on his own when I didn't feel like going out. I'd try to explain to him and ask him to accept that I need my "me" time, my quiet time at home.
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I'm writing my boyfriend of 7 months a note, I really want it to have an impact on him. He's amazing and honest and wonderful and I don't know what I'd be without him, and I've expressed that alot through the letter. Last week, I screwed up majorly and that's why i'm writing this note to him.
-- Last week I went snowboarding and I met this guy, before an hour had passed he had asked me to make out with him, since I have a loving and caring boyfriend I didn't make out with him because it's wrong, right? Like always, NO never works on a guy, so naturally he kept on harassing me. Insted of making out, we agreed on hugging. I told my boyfriend this, and to some people this might seem "over protective" or "obsessed", but he got really upset with me.
Everything is wrong now, so I told him I didn't hug him, i just dont' want to lose him. I know i should have confessed and stayed that way, but you've got to see it from my point of veiw. What I'm trying to say is, is there anything more to put in the letter to make an impact on him... I also need to have advice on what to say to my boyfriend about the other guy.
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Writing your boyfriend a love letter is a great idea. Be personal, be specific (say WHY you love him, WHAT it is that makes him great, HOW he makes you feel special, etc.)
However, confessing your actions with this other snowboard guy is probably something you should do in person, not in a letter. Make these two separate things.
In private, in person- talk to your boyfriend, and tell him the truth about what happened with the snowboard guy. Explain why you did what you did, explain that it didn't mean anything, and that you DO love him, and listen to him. Tell him you want to fix it, since it seems he's hurt. Listen to him- let him explain how he feels. Hopefully you'll work it out.
Do the letter seperately, and when you write it and give it to him, let it be for no other reason than the fact that you love him. (or perhaps "love" is too strong of word... but you know how you feel, not me)
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I was thinking about dumping my boyfriend, but I don't know if I want to now. One of my "friends" found out and told him and one of his best friends! He thinks I'm mad at him and stuff, but I'm not! I keep telling him that I'm not! BUt he still says I'm sorry! Some of my other friends were telling him that I was made at him because he didn't kiss me or anything at the movies over the weekend, and I don't really care. His best friend sent me a message that said that he was shy and he was sorry he didn't hold my hand or anything at the movies so he was gonna ask me to go to the movies this weekend to make it up to me. Now I don't know what to do, because if I do break up with him he's gonna think it is because of that. And I don't want him to think that, because it's not! And I don't know what to do! Someone please help me!!! (link)
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Why are you thinking about dumping him? You need to ask yourself that. Once you have a clear answer... then you need to talk to him. Explain that you're not mad at him, he hasn't done anything wrong, etc. but that [insert reason for ending relationship]. Talk to him in private and in person, if possible.
Take note that shy guys are often the ones who are the most noticably sensitive, so be gentle in whatever you do.
And perhaps it's time to change how much you tell your "friends". Gossip can cause a lot of problems and drama that you don't need. In the future, keep sensitive information to yourself, only telling those who really need to know, or those you really know you can trust to keep it to themselves.
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