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I answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. I don't care what it's about, I will try to help. I've got a lot of good advice up my sleeve and I LOVE to help. :)
I really try not to be mean, but just to give some people a wake-up call. Sometimes people need it. Sometimes I need it. lol. Well, ask questions and you'll get answers.
~K~
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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much! (link)
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I think it's very sweet that you guys still hang out, but I'm skeptical about him dating another girl and telling you he loves you...Don't you think it's a little shady? I mean, don't you think it would hurt the other girl? I don't know this guy but I'd be careful what you say and do, I would hate to find out that he used you.
Some cute ideas for his birthday would be to take him to your/his house and make it seem like you didn't plan anything special, but when he walks into the dining area, have it all lit up with candles (safely, not anywhere near flammable things) and have a nice, romantic setting and have his cake decorated all nicely right in the middle of the table with his candles on it. You could also (if the table is wide enough) have a small vase on either side of the cake, one with seven roses and the other with one rose. Tell him to tear the petals off the seven roses and then spread them on the table and tell him that those were to the end seven months ago and then (make sure there is a ribbon around the single rose, maybe his favorite color?) and hand it to him and say "This is to a new beginning," and kiss him sweetly on the cheek or hug him. Then bring out a nicely prepared dinner and then dig into the cake. You might even make/buy a small cake that just the two of you can eat.
If I think of anything else I'll tell you. :)
I hope this was enough, but I might think of something else to tell you.
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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."
I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.
I can't believe this. :( (link)
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Well, obviously he's an asshole. I'm really sorry he hurt you like that. You didn't deserve it, but what you can do is move on and find a someone who will treat you right. What you need to do is just be happy and realize that he is definitely worth forgetting. You can't do anything about it but move on to happier things.
I'm really sorry he did that to you, no girl deserves to feel that way or be treated that way.
~K~
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hey I really like this guy sooooo MUCH! its like scary lol we talk on the fone A LOT and stuff, but he is not that handsom he is kinda fat and im really skinny, wen i saw him i was lke ewwww and so was every1 else. He is tall and I am short but he is really nice and sweat. I dont know if i shuld go with him or not! he is really nice! if it helps im 13/f PLEASE I WILL RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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Go out a few times together like the people before said. You know, sweet guys are really hard to find and you need to get him now before some other girl finds him. Even if he isn't the most attractive tool in the toolbox doesn't mean the he doesn't work just fine. Go for it!
-K-
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I have liked this guy since I was in third grade, (I'm in tenth now) and he told all of my friends that he liked me too. But when my friends told him that he should ask me out, (with out me knowing so i was like incredibly embarresd) he said he wasnt alowwed to date yet. But just last Sunday when i was sitting in his car and we were listening to music (Hollaback Girl) he said it was his girlfriends favorite song! I just brushed it off at first and pretended that i didnt notice, but it really hurt! I dont know how to act around him anymore, cause he still acts like he likes me....Someone help me please! (link)
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Wow, I'm beginning to think that he is a jerk. I'm also beginning to think he was messing with your mind but then again, maybe he didn't want to hurt you. He could like both you and his girlfriend (which is kinda bad if you think about it)I think you just need to get over him which I know is easier said than done or you could wait for him but I wouldn't waste my time even though some things are worth waiting for. Just stay friends and maybe you'll find another cool dude to like. :)
~K~
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ok i have liked this guy since maybe second grade. i still like him a lot. the thing is there's a dance and i asked him to it. and i was so happy when he said he would go with me if he goes to the dance! yeah for me right? wrong. my friends were like forcing him to him to actually say yes. well i felt really bad so i was planning to talk to him alone about it but i don't have the guts to go ask him to go talk with me for a minute or 2 because he's always around his best friend who i absoulutly hate. then i got the feeling he really doesnt want to go with me to the dance and wants go with someone else and not me. i am fine with that but i don't know how to tell him that. then just yesterday my friends from a different class went to his house and made him feel horrible. the thing is i dont know who it was and he wouldn't tell me who it was so i am totally lost right now. so i guess my questions are: how do i ask him if he doesnt want to go with me or not? dont say aim cause he only signs on past 9 oclock and thats when i have to shut my computer down. next is: should i ask him if he is really mad at my friends for making him say yes? also: how do i talk to him in person without his best friend? finally: how do i actually talk to him daily and normally? help me please! (link)
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I totally agree with xMisplaced_heartX. Just ask to speak with him alone. I know it's gonna be very hard to do, and you might have butterflies but I know you feel strongly about knowing the truth. Then when you do ask him, just say "I know that my friends pressured you into saying yes to me. If you don't want to go with me I need to know now and it's ok if you don't want to, it was wrong of my friends to do that." Then smile and walk away. It's gonna be hard to get the courage but you just need to be brave, think, he might really want to go with you! And he might think it was really nice of you to give him the option not to. So just do what you heart tells you to and don't worry about his best friend, if you hate him, what does it matter?
Hope this helped you!
~K~
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I'm 14/f. I've had crushes on several guys in the past, but I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like such loser because all of my friends have had at least 1 boyfriend bfore and most of them have had more.I kno I shouldn't go bywhat my friends have had, and I know that you're gonna say "my time will come",but I just really don't know what to do anymore. I did like this one guy ALOT,and actually I still do. I think I might be in love with him, but my friend told him and he said "ok", then he said he was dating someone right now. I'm just so confused I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think I'm really pretty or anything, or skinny, but I have friends who aren't like that either, and they still have had b/fs. Srry so long, I just am so confused, and wanted to see if anyone could help me.
I'l rate a 5 for nice answers.
Thank you.
*heartbroken, and confused* (link)
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Well, first you need to boost your self esteem. You don't seem to be very confident at all and guys like confidence in a girl. It lets them know that you trust yourself and can be more comfortable in a relationship. Don't just look at your body for confidence, you need to look at all of you, meaning inside and out. You are pretty in more ways than you know, you just need to find it within yourself to believe it.
You don't have to have had a boyfriend to be 'popular'. My friend had never had a boyfriend in her life and she was one of the most popular girls in school. She is nice and funny and that's why everyone liked her. Boyfriends aren't meant to show everyone how cool and pretty you are, you can shine on your own.
Boyfriends don't always bring you the glory you think they do. It's very hard work. It takes two people in a relationship to make things work. Only the best guys can give what it takes to make a great relationship. It takes trust from both people to make it work. Relationships can distract you from school and they also bring stress. If your boyfriend has accused you of cheating or not liking him, you are going to worry about it until it has been cleared up. It's very draining emotionally.
So enough of that, when you find a guy that you like and he can see how beautiful you are, then it will be right. Rushing into a relationship is never good. You will find the right guy, he just might not be around right now. Your fourteen. Remember that. You have so many years ahead of you to enjoy life. Being single is so much fun! You can flirt with anyone and you aren't restricted to not talking to your guy friends. Enjoy being single and free, don't rely on boyfriends to make you happy. Party with your friends and just chill. :)
I really hope this helped you out!
~K~
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There is this boy that I am crazy for. I've been getting to know him very well now and he is great. And I know he feels for me but I don't think he's attracted to me. What are some little ways to flirt and flounce around him to come across as more attractive? (link)
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The way I got my current boyfriend was just being cute and funny and nice. Always make eye contact and just be flirtatious. Only flirt with him and don't flirt with other boys when he's around. Talk to him a lot. When your talking to him, touching him is good.
~K~
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i've liked this kid from a different town for like half a year but i didnt realize it until recently. he started acting really flirty and i started to like him more. and then i told him about a week ago. i havent really talked to him much since, he hasnt really been online. one of my friends says maybe his computer crashed or something, because he was really nice and wouldnt just avoid me but i dont know. any help? (link)
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I know how you feel. That's pretty much how it always is. You tell them and then it feels wierd. Just don't act like it never happened, act like, it did happen but its nothing like BIG. lol. Just be cool about it and don't freak out. Guys can sense those things. Even though they can't sense anything else, they can sense like, freaking out and it freaks them out so just be cool and talk to him.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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i don't know if i'm bi or not. i like guys but lately i've been attracted to girls too. i found out this girl was bi and now i'm really attracted to her and i like alot of other girls. but not just any girl, i only like really pretty girls. i don't want to be bi and i defnately can't tell anyone, that's not even an option so don't bring that up. so am i bi? tell me more about this. (link)
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Ok. There is totally nothing wrong with being bisexual. Don't run from it. You may not be sexually attracted to these girls, but only find them beautiful. Also, every girl goes through a stage where they think they are a lesbian or bisexual. But realize that there is nothing wrong with being bi. You have more selection, lol. But you can't stop yourself from being bisexual. It's just the way you are, I suppose. I mean, you may just be a phase so don't freak out.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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Helloooo I am 16/female and Korean..except I'm kinda preppy..actually very preppy..most of my friends are white..Anyway, is it weird that I only have crushes on WHITE GUYS? Is this normal...or am I racist?? I don't think I'm racist because I do have Mexican and Black friends..I just am only attracted to white abercrombie-type guys...Why??? It's not like they would go out with me though because I'm asian...so if there's a white guy out there, please answer and tell me why won't you go out with me?? I will rate 5's for honest but non-critisizing answers..also I want to know why I know have crushes on white guys! (link)
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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with liking white 'Abercrombie'ish guys. Everyone has a preference. You prefer white dudes. You aren't racist, it's only a preference. And I'm sure you are beautiful! Those guys who can't see that are obviously dumb as dirt!
~Hope that helps~
~Really! lol~
~K~
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ok i'm a 15 year old girl and i need some answers about 2 or 3 weeks ago me and this sophomore that goes to my school we did some "stuff" we went to like 3rd base. I went over to his house like 2 or 3 weeks ago on monday and we just made out ALOT then on tuesday was when everything else happend everything was fine before that and then on thursday i asked if he wanted to come up to school and just hang out or w/e and he was like "no thanx" and so i asked why whether it was b/c he couldnt or there was nothing to do there and he said both and that i didnt talk and i was clueless after that i obviously wanted to kno why he said that so i called him and talked to him and all he gave me were half ass answers and he was being an ass the next day at school when i was trying to text my brother and he texted me and was like "stop talking to me" so i was like wtf but i didnt care i was mad at him than and still kinda am so my question is what is his deal and did i get used? (link)
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Well, yes. He did use you. He most likely thought that you knew that it was a two day stand. He definitely used you. He just wanted some sexual crap to happen and he is an asshole. You should most likely forget about him. I'm really sorry that happened to you, but you should have been going out. I'm sorry.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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okay so i am 14/f and i have never had a boyfriend before. Many times i have come close like this year but then something always gets in the way and ruins it. What i want to know is what is wrong with me i mean i have alot of friends and i am active and athletic and people tell me i am beautiful but i never have had a boyfriend and i dont know if i am doing something wrong. If there is anyone that could help me with trying to fix something that maybe i am doing wrong that would be great!
thanks!~ (link)
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I don't think it's YOU who is doing anything wrong. Trust me. I think guys are blind (no offense, only some guys). If they don't see how beauiful you are now, then they don't deserve you. Don't let your love life mess you up, you don't need a boyfriend to keep you happy. Sometimes it is better to wait. I had my first boyfriend when I was eleven and it SUCKED. I haven't ever had a really good boyfriend. So sometimes it is better to wait.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
p.s. And always always ALWAYS remember that you are beautiful and no one can ever change that. Don't ever let a guy get you down. If they don't like you, they deserve DIRT. lol.
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my friend "Tori" found out that the boy I have a crush on Liked me back but now everyone is saying he lik-ed me. But she found out recntly that he thinks I am cute. if he thinks I am cute and liked me does that mean he stil likes me?
if I guy thinks ur cute and states it to a bunch of other guys does that mean he thinks she is cute or he likes her (link)
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Well, there is a difference. It is entirely possible that he likes you, but you'd have to ask him and see. We here on advicenators have no idea whether he really does or not. I don't think you should listen to rumors. You need to hear what he thinks straight out of his mouth.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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I am African-American/Japanese and the guys that I am normally into are white skater types. Nobody I've ever really liked has liked me back, and I've been told it's because I'm too shy. Is it really because I'm too shy or is it because of race? Do guys really think about race? (link)
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I don't think it is because of your race. You are probably beautiful. I do have to say that guys like more outgoing girls. Shyness is wierd for them because they are not always up to making the first move all the time. I mean, they don't want a one sided conversation or even worse...a one sided relationship. I understand that it's hard for some people to not be shy, but just work on opening yourself up. Talk to strangers and make new friends, even guy friends. It will help you. Even if you are nervous when you talk to someone, just laugh if you stutter, just be like "I can't talk right today" and smile.
If you like skater boys, go for the skater boys. Just ease into talking to them.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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How can you honestly be with a married man who has TWO CHILDREN? How can you possibly do that to his family? You are wasting your time and you are very very stupid and so is he. His wife does not deserve something as stupid and nasty as him. She deserves so much better. You two do deserve each other. You are both horrible, mean, selfish, just all around bad people.
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Help guys,
ok, i like my neighbor alot..but he has a girl friend. I have started talkin to him and hes taken me on his 4wheeler before and i really thought he liked me cause monday over spring break(when it rained)and he took me down to the landing in our town and we just sat and talked lookin at the water and then he taught me how to drive his 4wheeler and it was really really nice. haha and i really thought he was into me cause he kept looking at me evrytime i looked at him. but the thing is, ive told his sis i like him and like he has never made and effort to contact me, im doin all the givin, i havnt talked to him in about two weeks and when ive seen him, i act like hes not there. but i dont know what to do now, i really want to talk to him but....its so complicated. can anyone help?*
14 female:.
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Well, ignoring him for two weeks is just going to make him think you don't like him, but he's probably 16-17, right? Like Dover said, he is probably 16,17,or 18 and what I think is he was just being nice to you. I think he believes that you are just friends and that's what you are, just friends. You can't try to make him break up with his girlfriend, that shouldn't happen because he could really like her and what if he dumps her and goes with you just to make himself feel better? Not cool, eh? So maybe you need to just be friends, when him and his girlfriend break up, have at it, but not if he's 18. 18 is a little old for a fourteen year old. Just take it slow as friends for now and talk to him.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I went to a dance last night and had a BLAST! My friends went up to the kid (Ive admired from a distance lets say for like 2 years! lol) and they asked him (Logan) if he would dance with me and I guess he said yes (I wasnt there though.) So, the next slow song came on and he asked me to dance. =) Yay! And we both seemed to really like it and I could tell he was nervous which happens when you like someone right? But, then I kept trying to get his attention on the FAST dances. He would be right next to me and not even look over @ me! I mean, all these other guys told me I looked hot nd stuff byt Logan didnt even care! I was so mad. I was dancing with all my friends and we were dancing really dirty ..lol but obviously it didnt get his attention. ANyways, he didnt ask me to dance at all again the whole dance! So I danced with other people but he didnt dance with any other girls so thats a good sign?? At the end of the dance, my friends dad picked me and my friend up because I was sleeping over her house. And, we were stuck in traffic for like 3 seconds, and i saw mike with a few friends and he looked at me and i looked at him from the car and i smiled and he smiled back! We used to flirt all last year, but then he got really popular and wasnt in any of my classes. DO you think he likes me?! i hate boys ..what would you do NEXT if you were me? I dont know what the next step is for logan and me ..or if there is one at all . SOrry its long! (link)
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Yes. I think he likes you. If he didn't dance with any other girls, that's always good. Even though he didn't want to dance dirty, that's also a good sign. He might have his head in other places other than the Land of the Perverts. Or it could just simply mean he was too scared or didn't know how. Just talk to him and stuff. You can't be shy if you want your relationship(as friends and move on to more than that) to work. You need to talk to him the next time you see him and talk about the dance and stuff. Just talk and hang out.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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ok well i have this boyfriend i love him him soo much and he loves me too and he wants a kid reallie badd and i do too and we kinda said we want one but im afraid of my parents reaction if i did end up getting pregnant. and i mean im scared becuz my da tends to have a very bad temper problem like one time i juss wanted to go to my room and so he grabbed the bak of my head and literally threw me into my room and made my head hit the wall and i cut it open on a tack thing and so i tried to walk past him to get a wet rag and he wouldnt let me! and so im not afraid of my moms reaction becuz all she would do is give me andvice and help me raise it and tell me i was stupid and kik me out of the house cuz they said if i mess up reallie badly one more time im out of the house its my dads reaction im afraid of becuz when he gets madd he juss like blacks out and doesnt kno wat hes doing until its done and my boyfriend says that if my dad tried to hurt me that he would defend me and hit my dad and all but i dont want anyone to get hurt you know? but you have no idea how badd i want a baby!!!! and if i did get pregnant i'd want it to be my boyfriends baby. im juss afraid of my dad he scares me more than anyone i have ever known in my life
answer as fast as you can plz!! (link)
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Well, first, you do understand that a baby is a lifetime commitment, right? You can't just have the baby and then say "I've changed my mind, I don't want one anymore,". As HyperactiveMiss said, you do sound very young.
You also don't have a JOB or a HOUSE or MONEY or even a HUSBAND. Those are the key things to a successful family. Your boyfriend could leave at any second he wanted to.
I also agree with HyperactiveMiss when she said that you need to wait until you are ready.
I really don't mean to be mean, but you really don't sound like you are ready. You really need to think about this thoroughly and make sure you really want to go through with this. You can't giv the baby back.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I think I love this guy but I really don't know anymore. I'm confused. I just moved a little while ago and we never see eachother. It seems like he likes other girls to me but I think it is just because I'm so far away and I barely ever get to see him. We live almost half an hour away and I'm scared to get hurt. I don't know what to do... We've been through a lot together and I know I love him but I feel like he's pushing me away. HELP! 14/F (link)
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Well, if you feel like he's pushing you away, then maybe you should talk to him about it instead of worrying yourself sick. Distance is really a factor in a relationship so maybe you should just move on and let him do his thing. I'm sorry that I just had to say that, but you really just need to move on and let him do his thing because if you think he likes other girls then he probably does. I'm sorry.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I need help... well i am going out wit someone lets call him Jason! well anyways I really like Jason but I really love my old boyfreind lets call him Jon.. well me and Jon talk alot on the phone.. i loved him since we started goin out heck, ive liked him since i first saw him! lol .. well what I am asking is should i break up with "Jason" or stay with him.. I mean i like him and dont want to hurt him but I love Jon! I cant not think about him.. i dont kno I am so confused (link)
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This is always a confusing situtation. Are you absolutely positively sure that Jon still likes you? You could really mess things up if you dump Jason for Jon but Jon doesn't like you and Jason won't take you back. You are hurting Jason by liking Jon, but I think that if you are really sure about dumping Jason and know for a fact that Jon likes you, that you need to dump Jason. There is no sense in hurting Jason.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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