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okayy i really like this guy and he knows i liek him but some people say that he does liek me and some people say he doesnt.... and i reaaly want to find out if he doesn or dosent i know everyone thinks that i should just go up to him in person and ask him but i cant do that...... what do i do?
thanks
loveboys
The only way you'd know for sure is if Y0U were to ask him. If you were to ask any of his friends to ask or if you had one of your friends to do it for you then the guy might find it intimidating or annoying that people are asking him a question like this. It's best if you ask him, trust me.
Plus, words may get twisted in the line of fire if you were to get somebody to ask for you. :)
Okay so I have a boyfriend who recently hit his mom..Okay more like bruised it up.. and he might be heading for boot camp this summer. and he threw a plazma Big screen tv at his 12 yr, brother.
he says his brother was throwing a chair at him though. few months ago he got sent to his dads cause he did somehting wrong then him and his dad got in a fist fight.. he says he "Beat the s*** out of him" which isnt all that good sense he got searched, hand cuffed and taken down to the police station.. should i be worried? hes not abbusive right? just a temper?
That is physical abuse, and he is abusive. You indicated that he threw a PLASMA at his brother? Yeah, he is abusive no doubt.
And just because his brother MAY HAVE did it to him doesn't give him a right to throw such a LARGE object.
It seems that your boyfriend lives in a violent home, all his familty that are in the house can be a threat to you. Just imagine, you might think that he won't do that to you because 'he loves you' and your his g/f. But being violent like that?
JUST THINK and IMAGINE, if you say one 'wrong' thing or if you offend him in any way, he'll take a blow to your face. You don't want to get into a relationship like that, many girls have done that and they feel that they can't leave but you can. LET HIM GO. It's scary but girls/women have died in abusive relationships. It's the truth think about that.
Just let him down easily, say something like 'I think we should just be friends' and if he asks you why say you're busy or something like that.
Just be careful.
You can find someone better than him. SERIOUSLY, you may think that is hard but its really not. If you continue with this relationship it will only get worse and most likely you'll be unhappy and worried to leave. Break it off now.
Ask yourself this question.
You don't want to be with someone who makes you worry and wonder whether he's going to physically hurt you do you? ... or be with someone whos going to jail getting in trouble and make you worry.
Be with someone who isnt going to make you worry; and this guy will make you worry all the time. Be with someone who has a happy lifestyle who HASNT been to jail for drugs or alcohol or abuse. You want someone to make you happy NOT worry; I KNOW THAT FOR A FACT.
Hope I helped.
Hope I helped.
heyy!!
ive been flirting with this guy lately
and then i guess we've both mayb run out of stuff to say? or were to tured to talk? idk
anyway, my question is how do i get back into the vibe of it?
our conersation so far has been
hey!
Hi!
watsup?
nmu?
nm
and thats it
Just randomly go up to him and say hey what's going on? "I think maybe we should hang out sometime". That'll really step things up if you're that brave.
Well, really its nothing much to it thats all you have to say and just see what he says likely he'll say sure we oughto hang sometime.
Give him your number,and ask him to call you sometime. OR ask for his AIM screename or whatever.
You really need to make the effort and step things up before its lost I've done that before and I regretted it.
Talk about sports, the weather, Spring Break maybe coming up for you talk about what you're going to do and ask him what he's going to do. Talk about upcoming summer. SOMETHING just make an effort, EVEN IF YOU ARE SHY. But if you're really not that shy if you're already saying hey, lol.
YOU TAKE A STEP, HE TAKES A STEP. Yall both have to make an effort if you want this to work.
Hope I helped.
My boyfriend means alot to me. we're 15 and we've been together for a month. lately i've been worried. he asked me out 3 months after hima nd his ex broke up. and they went out for 17 months. longggg timeee!! well my friend saw them talking in the hall 4 days ago, for a little while. and they're now friends on myspace again. i dont want to get hurt. im not a jealous girlfriend. not one at all. i just dont like ex girlfriends..or at least this one. i just dont like the fact that they can be messaging over myspace and i wont even know about it. my and my bf dont have cell phones. so we only tlak on house phones and myspace occaionally. but we havent talked since our one month which was 4days ago. Am i worrying over nothing. the ex does have a bf. and says shes "happy" but idk. can/will anything happen b/w them again?
Well he is YOUR boyfriend,of course you're gonna get concerned when your guy talks to his ex. ALL girls are concerned with that, but justify it, talk to him about it, it shows your concern and that you really care. And it'll probably turn out harmless, afterall they're just friends, just make sure you stand by your ground, and justify even to his ex that YOU are HIS girlfriend. Have yall met yet? If yall haven't, ask him to introduce her to you. When yall meet stand close, and be polite to her but give her the eye that he is YOURS. If you stand by your man, that won't happen ( just don't get to carried away like getting his password to everything ,etc.) PLUS relationships are BASED on trust. Do you trust him? If you do, don't fret. If you don't, then you'll start questioning the relationship that yall have together. Re-think your values. Hope I helped.
hey there.
i just want to ask you for advice on your first loves. do you remember them? do you remember exactly what it was like? how did you know you were in love for the first time? how old were you? did it work out, if not what happend? details are important to me so please only answer if your passionate about 'first loves'. thanks.
No one ever forgets their first love, and if they do forget then that certainly wasn't their first love! I knew I was in love with this kid, the day I layed eyes on him. So I believe there is such thing as "Love at first sight" , you get this feeling of over-whelming happiness when they come around and you can't help but smile. Nervousness, butterflies in your stomach when they're close to you. First loves, are full of suprises. Sometimes you can't get words out to say to this person, you're just in complete awe, there can be silence even. First love has so much meaning to a person, you don't even have the exact words to describe it. You really can't describe it. And even if it does come to an end for whatever reason, they're your FIRST (and being FIRST always means something) , you'll still get that certain "feeling" of happiness because they were your FIRST. In due time, so whether your in a current relationship with somebody else or not, you're still going to remember your first love.
My story: I was 14 and in 9th grade. He was a friend of one of my best friends and one day he walked beside my bff, and my best friend commented on how he got a hair cut. I looked at him for the first time and I was "OMG, how cute he is! I still didn't make a comment about his cut but we were both smiling at each other and kept looking at each other. Even if we didn't talk, and he had left I felt that instant connection to him. So I asked who he was and she told me. The next day, my bff wanted to introduce us to each other, and when she did all we did was stare at each other and smiled. We never talked, really (lol) but the next thing, he drew me a pic. with my name in it with roses all around it. My name is Rose (so it went with the pic.) I was really suprised, I kept it. After he drew me that pic. he drew roses everywhere literally, he bought me lunch, outta nowhere. Every thing he gave me I kept, except for a bottle. I bought him a x-mas gift. It didn't work out in the end,sadly, I felt he was pushing farther away from me but then I found out, it was because he was moving and he didn't want it to hurt me. When he told me I didn't believe him because most of the time when a person said that to me, they don't move anyway. It didn't phase me til I came to school the next yr., I didn't see him. I couldn't believe it, it hurt twice as bad to find out that way/ But I will never forget him, compared to all the guys that came after him, no one compared to him. And to this day, I still have that pic. he drew for me ,I laminated it and put it 1st thing in my poem book. Even we haven't seen each other in yrs. I'll never forget him. And I wish him the best and hope he finds a good girl that treats him right.
Your first love, (if it has ended) you could only wish them the best in life and hope they find the right person, because at one point in time indeed you were in love this person and thought they were " officially "the one", but it didn't end that way. REMEMBER, FIRST of ANYTHING ALWAYS means something.
I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance?
Fudgin no! All the red flags to this guy,
1. He wants to change you. NEVER let a person change you even if you "love them"
2.SEXUAL THINGS-- there is lust here honey, not love. aka no girl wants to be a booty call.
3. If a guy is not happy with you, then he sure doesn't deserve you at your best! Tell him, that he's no better. And who does he think he is?
He just only likes you for what you have, your assets on your body. He doesn't like YOU he likes your body. This guy is a complete dick and needs a serious slap to the face.
Sorry, I got a little carried away, this guy is just so wrong and disrespectful he should be taught a lesson!
Find somebody who respects you for you, and not of what you have to offer. Be careful of those players, guys who use you. Protect yourself, and good luck!
im 16 and "tom" lets call him is also 16
okay so to make a long story short he's my ex and we've both had love interests since we broke up but we only broke up in the first place because my parents didnt want me in a relationship and when i could date he was "over" me. which i know from many sources that he was not. but anyway now its been around 3/4 of a year and he is showing sings of interest agian, like stairing at me and making it known, and he was talking about me to my friend which he use to always do when he liked me last year. i was totally over him for the longest time but a couple weeks ago i started to like him again. we never ever talk, our relationship didnt end well but we still say hi when we are close enough to. so im not really sure what i should do. i refuse to ask him out straight up because he isnt the kind of guy that likes that. he enjoys i chase i know that much, so i dont know how to show i like him again without being too open about it. like i need to find a mix between stand-offish and just going for it...but i really want him back. and it kills me whenever someone else asks me out because i just want him.
Well since you say you don't really talk so that could be a good indication for you that you shouldn't go for him.
Just because he stares at you, doesn't mean he wants to start a new relationship with you. He could be just being friendly, and you're just reading the signs a little too closely. After a bad breakup its gonna be hard for that person to adapt to seeing that other person, often weird, seeing your ex.
Sometimes when a person sees their ex, sometimes they get that same feeling when they did like the person, but that doesn't necessarily mean for you to try again.
All your reading is signs, but that doesn't mean he likes you, AGAIN. Try talking to your ex. a little, if you get the sign that he's being stand off- ish when you talk to him back off. If you don't get the signs just try talking to him a little more, try asking who he likes, and see what he says. Take things slowly with him, I mean he is your EX. Things don't pick up immediatley from where you left off esp. if its been almost more than half the year. But you might wanna look a little more closely with the situation.
Do yourself and me a favor. Don't be too
settled in on the idea of getting back with your ex., it may not be what its all cracked up to be. Don't put yourself on hold, they way you have for months. You have to let yourself be of interest to other people. And other people are interested in you, and you're not giving them a chance because you THINK their is a possibility that you and your ex MAY get back together?
Truth hurts, but the probability of exes getting back together are slim. You did say because of you're parents, but even for that reason, it still doesn't mean that he wants to get back together with you. It has been awhile. If you don't date other people, you could be missing out on some really great guys out there. See what else is out there instead of looking just in one place, you'll never know what you'll find. But chances are the greater variety you have, the more you'll find the right fit that makes you happy. :) Hope I helped.
love songs are good too.
idontknow but they make me miss him.
here are some that i already like.
goodbye to you
tim mcgraw (taylor swift)
breathe
so contagious
the alamo is no place for dancing
with me
getting into you
your guardian angel
only one
i dont like metal/screamo.
or top 40 music.
so what are some songs that have to do with breakups? or love songs?
thanksabunchhxx
Frankie J- How to deal
Usher ft. Alicia Keys- My boo
Usher- Let it burn
Usher- U remind me
Toni Braxton- He wasn't man enough
Natalie- Goin Crazy
Eamon- F*** You back (I don't want you back)
Frankee- F*** you right back
Avant- Seperated
Madonna- Take a bow
Justin Timberlake- Still on my brain
Maroon 5- Say Goodbye/ Won't go home without you
Beyonce- Irreplacable
All- American Rejects- It ends tonight
Kelly Clarkson- Since you've been gone
Katharine Mcphee- Over it
Alan Jackson- Best I ever had
Nivea- Laudromat
Lily Allen- Smile
Hinder- Better than me
Sia- Breathe me
The grace- Neverending white lights
The Spill Canvas- All hail the heartbreaker
Jason Mraz- You and I both
Faith Hill- Like we never loved at all
Paramore- Never let this go
A fine frenzy - Almost lover
Jewel- Foolish games
Hope I helped. :)
I'm in the 7th grade there this 8th grader i really like and he alway talk to me so i wanted too know should i tell him i like him or wait please and thanks
Well it depends on how long you've known him. If you've known him for awhile like the minimum to know him is 6 months then I say go for it. But if you've known him for less than that I'd say wait awhile longer. If you haven't known him long get to know him more before you even think about telling him you like him. That way, you can see if he's really the type of guy for you. Like, if you found out he's really a jerk, then you'll see that he's really not worth liking.
But you'll never know unless you ask. You could ask him if he likes you. Ask him that, instead of saying "Hey I like you silly!" Or ask him if he likes anyone, and you should get a response. If it's not you, well at least you know, you know? So try asking this first. At least you'll know.
But, hopefully and wish you best of luck that he likes you. So why not ask? :)
so this kid and i have liked eachother for a long time and we've hooked up enough times. but i want to go farther than kissing with him. but i don't know how to initiate that. or tell him ahead of time. help? thanks.
Really its best if you don't plan this type of thing ahead of time. Trust me, its better that way, because when you don't plan, then its just more special that way. If you plan ahead then it won't mean as much because you expect things to happen. Just go with the flow with this kid, and let whatever happens HAPPENS. But if you really want to step things up, make a move (like when your kissing try leaning him back on the couch), see if he wants to take things further, but if he backs off then slow things down. Hope I helped.
ok so we just got back to school on wednesday because of winter break..and of course i hadnt talked to some ppl over break because well it was break..when i got back, i really wanted to talk to my friend kevin because i hadnt seen him in so long.well i actually really really like him and i missed him..anyway..on wednesday he smiled at me but that was really the only time he really acknowledged me..on thursday at lunch i looked over at his table and smiled and he kinda smiled back but then he like stared off into space and i could tell he was really thinking about something but idk what. then i was walking like right behind him and i know he saw me because he turned around and half glanced at me but didnt say anything.friday morning i was walking to 1st period with my 2 guys friends and we passed him but and he smiled at me but at lunch he didnt look at me once..[usually during lunch we smile at each other alot and he gives me alot of attention]..then when i passed him in the hall we made eye contact for like 3 seconds but then he kept looking straight foward and i could tell he was trying not to look in my direction.
i dont get why hes acting like this at all..i didnt do anything in the past 3 days to make him mad or not want to talk to me..i dont understand it even more because all of his friends would talk to me during the week.i cant stand it when he wont talk to me and it drives me crazy..i just get all upset and now i have to wait until monday to talk to him..that is if he even will talk.do you have any ideas as to why he wont talk to me?
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
So I'm thinking, maybe there's a chance that he likes you. Does he know that you like him? If he got the message that you do in fact like him, he may just be in fact shocked and likes you you too but doesn't quite know how to react to this or respond.
Try talking to him, ( don't have to bring up that you like him) just talk to him like you usually do. Try saying: So ______ (his name) what's going on we haven't talked in awhile whats going on with you. This maybe give him an ultimatum and it takes the awkardness of this situaution, and that you are indeed comfortable talking to him.
So really, I think that he may have found out that you liked him and he doesn't really know how to respond to this, it seems like he likes you though. So check up with him, see whats going on between the two of you and see what he says. Don't let words go unspoke, you'll regret it later. Hope I hepled/
what do you do when you dont like
any one but you have alot of guys
after you and if you do something
or hang out wiht another guy they
get all mad and then when you try
and tell them you dont want to date
they get mad and say your leading them on?
and all i want to do is be friends wiht
them.
All the better, is just to be completely honest with them. Tell them that you don't like anyone in particular right now and that you only think of them as friends. Be clear on what you say because thats what probably led them to think that way (that you lead guys on) , just explain it to them. You probably flirt with your guy friends (and there is nothing wrong with that) they just probably get the wrong idea that you like them a little, thats probably another reason why. WE ALL LIKE TO FLIRT, its human but it doesn't necessarily mean that when we do that , we automatically like you, right? Take this into perspective hope I helped. :) Good luck!
my friend told me if you like a gay guy youre considered a lesbian, is this true?
Uh-uh by no means! All my friends and inc. me think there is some hot gay guys out there, and wishing that maybe 'one night' can turn him around, lol, by no means you're a lesbian. That's ridiculous.
.im a guyhow do you know if someone likes you and if you do know then how do you start a good friendship with this person that could lead to a relationship as in boyfriend and girlfriend.you see this girl likes me but im not sure about going out with here because i dont know alot about here.help pls.tanxs
You would know if someone likes you.
1: If someone likes you,look for subtle hints. Like if they like you, they tend to smile at you alot, and they seem to be much more cheerier when you're around them. They like to be close to you, etc.
If you want a good friendship with this person (and it's always a good start) is just to talk to her more. Ask her questions, but questions that are have a lil more answers to them. Such as, : What do you do for fun? or What did you do last weekend? Those type of questions.
If you want to step up them game a little, you can start by asking her if she'd like to go to the movies or just hang out over the weekend, this is a good way to get to know each other better. But you want to just get to know each other so let her know that it's not a date. Or better yet, ask her to go to the movies with a bunch of your friends, or go bowling. A group thing, so it wouldn't feel as awkward, you know?
Hope I helped. :)
heyy ok i really like this boy and he likes me but wants to keep it a secret for now...also he says it might become something more but he doesnt know what he wants yet. since new years is coming up should i give him until then to make up his mind and start frsh or just keep waiting. it hurts soo much to wait but i really really like this boy. please help!
thank you
jess
Ask yourself this question.
If he likes you, why would he want to keep that a secret? Is he hiding something? You may want to check up on this guy first, see if he's hiding something.
If he isn't, then give this guy a while to think it up, if he doesn't come around anytime you want him to, then it'd be safe if leave and just forget him. Girls want a guy who KNOWS what he wants, and will take charge to get what he wants. That's the type of guy I would want. Not someone who isn't sure. A guy who doesn't know what he wants is immature, and obviously not ready for you. You want somebody who is ready.
But, if you really want this kid, wait a while to see what will happen (I'd say a week), and if he doesn't come around move on. Hope I helped.
I know you girls love guys and...
I know their has been this myth going around that asian guys can't get white girls..which is not true,since I'm asian and have a white gf,but I want to know what you girls think
Question1: Would you date an asian guy? considering he has good looks and personality
Question2:Have you ever liked an asian guy?
Question3:Would you marry an asian guy?
Question4:Where does the asian guy stand among the whites,latinos and blacks?Your preference?
Example:Black>White>etc.etc
thank you
Question1: I'm half asian so yeah,I don't look at race really, I look at looks and personality. A good personality being the most important.
Question2: Yep. :)
Question3: If I feel he is the right guy for me, and has all good qualities yes.
Question4: This question is particulary hard to answer but it really shouldn't matter what race you date, all that matters is that the person has a good personality , treats you right, and that the attraction is there for the both of you. (leave race out of it) Try to focus on the personality or how that beautiful they are to you, no matter what race. LOVE IS COLOR BLIND.
My prefrence?, I don't discriminate, I like all. All the guys I've liked are ALL kinds of races and types TRUST ME. It doesn't matter. :)
well ive only talked to him twice once was when i asked him to hand me my pencil and the second time was when i had an issue with my EX and he is sort of involved but like sometimes i go and say hi to some of my friends which are also his when he is around so i say hi to my friends and like lets say i didnt say hi to him he looks at me blushing he looks like he is gonna say arent you gonna say hi to me but i guess he is shy and i dont say hi cuz im shy well and sometimes i catch him looking at me DO YOU THINK THERE IS A CHANCE HE LIKES ME?
I'd say if he's blushing, that's a real indication he likes you. Awee :) But talk to him more, and see where it goes, but if you really want to know if he likes you, just ask him, that's only way you know for sure, or maybe you could ask a really good friend of his?. Try asking his guy friend this way: Does he like anyone? Or Do you know he he likes? OR maybe if your brave ask him if he likes you. Who knows? you'll never know unless you ask. :) But to me, there's a 75% chance he likes you, I mean the blushing? Awwwe... Good luck!
Ok I know long distance relationships never work, but maybe they can?
Should i even get my hopes up? Ok let me tell you the story.
I met him in the summer of 2005 and he fell instantly in "love" with me and we kissed but that was pretty much it. He lives in Connecticut and i live in Florida. We talked a bit after that but not really much. But recently i have gotten back in touch with him, but all he wants to talk about is having sex with me. I am going up there in december so i don't know whether i should or shouldn't do anythign with him...... one he has a g/f but he says he doesn't really love her, he loves me and blah blah blah but he refuses to break up with her. two i really don't want to be this slut and have sex with him when i actually have feeling but he doesn't. but he always says he does....he says he might move down here cause he has family down here but i don't know if that will happen...... so i don't know i think i should stop but i actually have feeling so it is kinda hard
HELP!!!!
will rate high!
He just wants to keep you on the side.
Ahhh... DON'T get your hopes up on this guy.
Reasons why?
1. All he wants to talk about is having sex with you (If thats all he talks about or most of the time instead of having an actual convo then he's not into you, he's into on what you can GIVE to him.
2.He has a girlfriend. Who he says he doesn't love, but is still with her?
3.He says qoute " He loves you"
4. I've been through this before, and I listened to all his bull shi-. Trust me, its a mess you don't want to get into.
5.He's a cheater, cheat on her, shame on him. Have you ever thought about him cheating on you if you were together. I feel sorry for his girlfriend, she's probably is kept in the dark.
No one likes to be cheated on so think about another person's feelings.
6. And him saying that he'll move to FL.? He's more than likely just saying that.
It's gonna be kind of hard, since you're already swimming in mid- deep water already but its safer to stop yourself now, before you drown yourself in turbulent waters. Stop all communication with him, delete him from you phone or AIM, so you won't get tempted to talk to him again. You don't need this type of guy, he's a user, plus CT. and FL, way tooo far,. Stop yourself before it goes deeper, I wish I would've done it myself, but it was too late for me. And I still have to deal with his g/f and him to this day. You don't want a mess of drama, save yourself from heartache. It'll do you some good. Any girl deserves a guy better than that, it sucks to be second best. Hope I helped. :/
so i use to go out with this guy...he was like my best friend for like 2 years anyways he broke up with me after like 2 weeks cuz he "didnt kno wat to do withhis feelings" after that our friendship hasnt been the same....Theres this other guy who ive liked for 41\2 years and now we are really gettin serious and wanna get together....now my ex decided that he made a mistake and wants me back......I told him that i will always care for him since hes my friend....but i told him i really love this other guy......I think i broke his heart...What should i do?and do i act bitchy towards him....(the ex)
Well don't act bitchy towards him. That will only hurt his feelings even more. But you can talk to him, tell him that he can't just break up with you and then all of the sudden decides he wants you back again. People are not like items in the store. People can't be returned on exchanged.
And also point out when you have a talk with him, those feelings for the other guy, and that now you see him only as a friend. He should've understood when you first told him, but if he still doesn't get the picture the 2nd time around, ignore him or tell him that maybe being friends isn't a good thing for you two since it isn't the same anymore.
But he should just bug off, also pt. out that you just don't like being treated that way, like a rag doll, you can't just throw me out and come back and get it. Tell him, you want what you can't have anymore.
Hope I helped.
Ok so i know this guy lets call him J. And me and him used to talk and flirt and stuff and i felt a really strong connection. Ok so months passed and he got a girl friend w.e so i stopped talking to him because i was hurt. It took me a really long time for me to get over him but i finally did. Now his brother is intrested in me but idk if i should flirt with him and stuff since its j's brother and i even told j i loved him once. i dont know what to do..= /
Well if you're really over J like you say you are, and you're intentions are good. Then I say go for it. But don't use J's brother if you're trying to make J jealous, because you're only going to hurt him. People hate to be hurt and so did you. So flirt with him, if you're really into him . Him being J's brother has no fault to it, its not like hes your ex-, plus J's got a girlfriend, so if he says something to you about it he has no right to you. That shows that he is jealous and maybe that he even likes you a little, but just think it this way. If he did like you WHY DID HE GET A GIRLFRIEND?. So if he does say this: IT'S YOUR LOSS,And now I moved on. :) Hope I helped.