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confused...
im 16 and "tom" lets call him is also 16
okay so to make a long story short he's my ex and we've both had love interests since we broke up but we only broke up in the first place because my parents didnt want me in a relationship and when i could date he was "over" me. which i know from many sources that he was not. but anyway now its been around 3/4 of a year and he is showing sings of interest agian, like stairing at me and making it known, and he was talking about me to my friend which he use to always do when he liked me last year. i was totally over him for the longest time but a couple weeks ago i started to like him again. we never ever talk, our relationship didnt end well but we still say hi when we are close enough to. so im not really sure what i should do. i refuse to ask him out straight up because he isnt the kind of guy that likes that. he enjoys i chase i know that much, so i dont know how to show i like him again without being too open about it. like i need to find a mix between stand-offish and just going for it...but i really want him back. and it kills me whenever someone else asks me out because i just want him.
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Well since you say you don't really talk so that could be a good indication for you that you shouldn't go for him.
Just because he stares at you, doesn't mean he wants to start a new relationship with you. He could be just being friendly, and you're just reading the signs a little too closely. After a bad breakup its gonna be hard for that person to adapt to seeing that other person, often weird, seeing your ex.
Sometimes when a person sees their ex, sometimes they get that same feeling when they did like the person, but that doesn't necessarily mean for you to try again.
All your reading is signs, but that doesn't mean he likes you, AGAIN. Try talking to your ex. a little, if you get the sign that he's being stand off- ish when you talk to him back off. If you don't get the signs just try talking to him a little more, try asking who he likes, and see what he says. Take things slowly with him, I mean he is your EX. Things don't pick up immediatley from where you left off esp. if its been almost more than half the year. But you might wanna look a little more closely with the situation.
Do yourself and me a favor. Don't be too
settled in on the idea of getting back with your ex., it may not be what its all cracked up to be. Don't put yourself on hold, they way you have for months. You have to let yourself be of interest to other people. And other people are interested in you, and you're not giving them a chance because you THINK their is a possibility that you and your ex MAY get back together?
Truth hurts, but the probability of exes getting back together are slim. You did say because of you're parents, but even for that reason, it still doesn't mean that he wants to get back together with you. It has been awhile. If you don't date other people, you could be missing out on some really great guys out there. See what else is out there instead of looking just in one place, you'll never know what you'll find. But chances are the greater variety you have, the more you'll find the right fit that makes you happy. :) Hope I helped.
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