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18/m I've never had a girlfriend before,
And I've been hangin out with this girl basically twice a week for 2 months, and I really like her, and she likes me (we talked about us a few weeks ago).
But where do we go from here?
Do I ask her out? We've been going to the movies, the park, and some of her active interests, but they weren't really dates, I guess.
We've cuddled a few times, but should I kiss her yet?
Help me out!
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Yes yes! I wish I was in your position, sounds like you have a lovely girl there... you need to kiss her soon, make sure the environment is nice. You will know it's the right time when there is no one about, when you are both comfortable and when your both... kinda sitting in silence, - if you get the thought of kissing her in your head, and it feels awkward to try get yourself to do it, then GO for it, that is the right time... just playfully get closer to her and hug her :) she will hold you back from the sounds of it, and then run your hand through her hair and kiss her.
I hope I helped you out, I wish the for the best for you 2
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So, I'm kind of preceived as a slut. No matter what I do or how long I stay single&&don't flirt with boys I can't really seem to get rid of my reputation. and I've had a crush on a guy for idk 3 months now and he HAD one on me but I think I scared him away. And now we have to go our seperate ways and I won't see him for 2 years. But I'm madly inlove with him. What should I do? (link)
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You 'think' you scared him away, but you don't know for sure... the best thing you can do is simply tell him..
Just call him up and ask him if he wants to hang out or go to your house, and have fun with him... if you are too nervous to ask him out. Then I reckon it would be better to just call him on the phone and chat with him and see how he is doing, and then maybe in a couple days call him again, and see what he's doing later etc etc when you first hang out with him, make it seem obvious you are not a slut, don't flirt over board with him, and leave him wanting more so if his flirting level is 8 then keep your flirting level 7 (I hope you get what I mean) don't let him get a reaction out of you every time (I guess that's what I'm trying to say)
Anyway, make sure he enjoys the time he spends with you, and then call him up again a couple days later and ask him if he wants to go out again and maybe this time you can see if he wants to be with you, just try and kiss him or something, if he kisses you then he obviously kinda likes you so simply ask him straight after you kiss him if he likes you or not.
I hope I helped you x
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19/f
My boyfriend doesn't even care about me anymore. I feel like our relationship has run it's course, even though I want it to keep going. I want him to care about me again. How do I get him to care about me again? Or is this just over?
Other people have their ways of coping: Getting back and getting revenge, like seeing other people to make your partner jealous. A lot of people doing things to get attention, which is usually self-destructive, like drugs, drinking or being promiscuous. I don't want to do those things because I'm not stupid. Those aren't even the right things to do and will only drive him away.
I'm going back to college soon and I thought that'd be reason enough for him to see me more, like he should see me as much as he can before I leave.. but sometimes I feel like he'll be glad to get rid of me.
He makes me all these promises that he can't keep. It's funny because HE is the one who offers to see me on his day off, then ends up canceling after I had been waiting for him for three hours. This keeps happening, and stupid me, I always think he's gonna pull through. When we DO see each other, it's like he only does it so I'll shut up.
Every time I call and confront him about this, I pour my heart out and end up getting yelled at. He says, "This is exactly the reason why I don't want to see you. All you do is whine and nag." I feel like he doesn't try to listen. I DO understand that he's tired, but then again, HE is the one who proposes that we go out in the first place and ends up standing me up for one reason or another.
Am I wrong? Is he wrong? I don't even know what to do anymore. All I've learned is that I gave and gave and gave and got spat on in return. It's like I went against the world to be with this guy and ended up with nothing. I feel like banning relationships for a loooong time. (link)
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I'm pretty much going to say what everyone else has said (I think).
Guys like to act like something they're not. When you date a guy, unless you've known them for a long time (which I feel is the best way for you girls) you will be dating a mask. Only after half a year or so will that mask slowly fade out revealing someone a lot lower then you expected.
Who you are with now, is a guy, who clearly isn't in love with you and doesn't care anymore, this is who he is. He doesn't want you as a girlfriend anymore, a relationship to him is too much effort. Unfortunately for you, you get to see through this, and you see a guy who you want to be with - you see what he used to be like, you see his pro's and not his con's, but when you step back and look at it, he's just a guy, nothing too special, treats you nice at times but overall he hurts you and stands you up, and even an average guy could treat you better than that. You don't want to be with him, you want to be with the mask he once wore, but it won't come back again. The reason he is avoiding the questions etc etc, is because I think he is too much of a coward to tell you he doesn't care anymore, he will use you going to college as an excuse to say he isn't your boyfriend anymore. You should get him back hard, and a couple weeks before you go to college, break up with him before he breaks up with you, because you don't deserve him being so selfish.
You will find better guys believe me, but try and get to know them first for a few months before you make commitments to them... and as soon as you start to see them getting lame - remember what I said, it's their mask slipping off, it's when you start seeing who they truly are. If a guy is in love with you, then you will always see the best of them come out.
I hope this helps guide you in the future, =]
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OK so yesterday i went on a date with blind date. It was really nice...we were supposed to go this party. but didn't know what time is was gonna start. well it was like 7...and the party until 9:30 so we parked near his friend house and waited for him to get home(until 10!) the hole time we were just talking about everything. As if we known each other for ever. Like around 9:45 he asked me if i wanted to be his girlfriend. I couldn't believe it i asked him like 20x if he was 4 real. well i said yes cause i felt really good with him...his friend got home and went inside to take a shower wile we were in his car making out! I feel kinda weird sine i never had a real boyfriend i told him to call me today...but he hasn't. so i don't know if he was being 4 real or not. am i his girl friend or did he just want to get me in the back seat. but its not like he got any...we just made out...idk help (link)
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Yes, you definitely are going out with him, I reckon he likes you quite a bit seeing as he asked you out then and there. I think he didn't call because he might have been busy all day or couldn't find time alone, that or he wasn't sure what to say, he's probably nervous.
My advice would be to not call him to just chat with him unless he calls you, but definitely call him when you want to see him next, for example, if you want to go out with him Wednesday evening, call him on Tuesday to organize it with him so at least you have something to talk about... If he calls you before that then that would be great =]
I hope I helped
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i have been with this one guy (bob) for almost 2 years. and i can honsetly say i do love him. but also like another guy(bill). AT THE SAME TIME! the one that i like i have known for awhile. and everytime i hear he has a new girlfriend i wanna punch her in the face. lmao. i dont know why i get this way. i mean he has his right to like other girls,i know that. but i dont know what to do.
what if i break up with bob because i like bill. and then later on i find out that i was meant to be with bob. but what if i stay with bob and find out that im suppose to be with bill. im so confused and i need seriuos help!
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Well, the main thing is, does bill like you? If Bill doesn't want to be more than friends then you definitely can't get anywhere in that department, and you should stay with bob.
What you should do is, hang out with bill a bit more, and after 2 weeks ask him if he likes you more than a friend, but don't tell him you like him more than a friend... if bill says he does, then you will have to see who you get along with more, bill or bob... if you are still unsure you should cut off both of them (because you are currently with bob, you cant completely cut him off, just simply say your really busy for a week or something like that) at the end of the week see who you miss more, whoever you miss more is the one you should be with.
Now.. if bill says he doesn't like you more than a friend then just shrug it off and just say you were just wondering or tell him "good because I love bob hehe"... it might hurt a little to hear that, but at least it makes things a bit more clear and you should stay with bob.
The reason you get angry at hearing bill has a gf etc etc, is because you are simply jealous and feel affectionate towards him, you just don't want his attention away from you. It's the worst feeling in the world I know, but you just have to take the brunt of it. The best way to get over things like that is to spend more time with bob, but not just hanging out, I mean more sexual and affectionate time with him.
Hope this helps your position. :)
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About two weeks ago I asked a girl out who I was very close with. She said she didn't know yet and that she would like to hang out more first. We have been hanging out ever since almost every day even though we both work and have other responsibilities, we have made time in the day. For the past few days all of our friends have been telling me to ask her out again. I'm not sure what to do. Is the a certain period of time to wait before asking again? Since the first time I asked in kind of an extravagant way should i do something better this time? Is there anything she will do to let me know she's ready now? (link)
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Okay, well you've been "hanging out" since then, and she clearly is interested because you've been hanging out practically every day, otherwise you 2 would've faded out slowly
so, instead of just "hanging" ask her out on a date, but don't tell her it's a date, make it out like your just hanging out again but take her to like.. the cinema or something else romantic - this will definitely boost you up on the "seeing her" category.
If she avoids it, just carry on hanging out normally, and ask her again the following week but change the location, but keep it a romantic venue. If she avoids it again, you've unfortunately fallen into the friend zone, and you will have to keep your distance from her and make her try and contact you all the time..
When you go out on this "date" try getting close to her, and invade her personal space, put your arm around her, be playful etc, and if things seem really comfortable, try lean in a little closer to her and see if you kiss ;)
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I have liked my good guy friend romantically for a good 2 years now, but the problem is, his parents are super strict and have actually arranged a marriage for him. I think he might like me back, but is there really any point in pursuing him? I don't want to get my heart broken...
What should we do? (link)
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Okay, you've had some really wide answers, but i reckon i might have some good advice in this category considering i'm indian.
My family luckily isn't as strict as other families, they might in the future introduce me to some indian girls but they won't force anything on me...
This guys parents, is not YOUR problem, it's his, i'm not sure how he feels about having an arranged marriage though, he might be against it... so this is what you must do....
You have to tell him that you really want to be with him, and to ask him if he would really go through with a marriage without seeing if he wants to be with you too.. he might love you too, whats the harm in that? but the point is, you have to give him a choice because he's the one with strict parents not you, so it's up to him to make a decision not you. With this information he can either put his foot down and tell his parents to back off slightly till he's older so you and him can secretly see if things can work out, or he will just keep in tight with his strict family...
The reason i'm telling you to tell him is because in this day and age youth with strict culture such as this is starting to break apart especially when they aren't living in the same society as their predecessors, so I say you have a chance, but your young, you never know.. your relationship might end anyway in a year or 2, but "it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"
Consequences: okay, there will be serious consequences to you 2 being in a relationship - let's say you got married... - his parents would kinda ... dis-own him.. not entirely - but they wouldn't talk much of him to his other relatives, they would look down at him for not staying with there culture and for marrying someone not from there culture - they would look down at you as well. They might not want to have anything to do with both of you... I'm not sure how serious this can get because it depends how strict they are, they could grow to just put up with it, or they might even totally cut you 2 both off and never speak to you 2 again. Obviously it won't be this extreme if you were both just dating and you're only 16, but due to the age, be prepared for him to be in a lot of arguments with his parents fighting to keep your relationship.
I hope I helped...
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i really need help i have noooo clue how to even makeout do i start with my mouth open or a normal kiss or what!?!?!? u gotta help me
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sorry for such a late reply, infact you probably won't even read this but what the hey, you basically lean in close, and softly touch ther lips with yours, you will both naturally open your lips slightly after the short peck and your tongues will engage in an open mouth kiss.. makesure you don't open your mouth too much, from experience, i dont enjoy kissing girls wen they have ther mouth wide open - its annoying lmao :P
dont worry, just open your mouth enough to have your tongue in them :P and yout teeth should have just a slight bit of pressure on yours and ther tongue.
hope i helped =]
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I had this boyfriend for 4 years and he dumped me tons of times, then decided we should be friends. After a while, he questioned about getting back together and I said I wanted to. Then bam, he hit me with the news of saying theres another girl and that he can't choose. I told him theres no choice because I'm gone. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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Yes you did the right thing, he was playing you for too long, it took courage to say no like you did - well done for getting yourself out of that mess. There are plenty other guys out there that won't mess you about like he did =]
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okay i only have a week and a half left to get this guy to admit that he likes me and ask me on a date or something. he is in my class and i really like him and he may like e...idk though. how can i get him to notice me or something!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 (link)
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ha.. you girls should understand you have total power over guys.. really...
just hang around with him a little more, and just act sexy wheneva your with him as if.. everything turns u on =P
get in his personal space a lot more - thats a good way to get a guy to start noticing you. do this by getting close to him physically, you can "accidently" brush past him, hold him or something, or hold is arm and say your checking out his muscle or something like that hehe =P or you can simply hug him a lot more and be playful with him, guys like that.
you can always hang out with him outsdie school - you can get so much closer to him on another level if you do that, just ask him to hang out with like you and maybe 2 other people and just stick by him through the whole day your out and keep giving him signs like going into his personal space and acting sexy etc
if u do hang out with him outside school, makesure your wearing something sexy so that he is like :O
hope i helped =]
remember you have all the power over him
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can you love someone after dating them only two months? me and my boyfriend think are in love but im not too sure about it all..
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sorry, you probably got your answer months ago, i havnt been on this in quite a long time... but.. i might as well answer... - i dont think you were in love.. you probably thought you were but weren't i'm not sure if you are with him still, but if you are.. then i gess it was close enough to love :P
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I mean I really want to try it but I don't know how and I don't think there is a way to practice... can someone pleasssseeee help me (link)
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u kiss them, but with tongue, open mouthd so you touch each others tongue.. er... watch some random videos of people making out on youtube lol hope that might help =]
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I've kissed my boyfriend twice. The first time my brother told us to kiss and the second time my cousin wanted to see if we would actually do it. I want to kiss my boyfriend more often, but he is so shy and wont make the first move, even though he admitted and tells his friends he wants to. What do I do to build up my courage to make the first move? I'm too scared he wont want to kiss me when I want to kiss him. Please help me. Thanks
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girl u have to pull yourself out to do it, cuz he will ALWAYS want a kiss, don't worry - the girls have the power to do anything you have us guys on a leash seriously. Just kiss him - don't worry he will want it, and then you get to see his big grin after you kissed him, soon he will have the courage to kiss you more often, if you both like each other enough this shouldn't be a problem after a while of having to sum up loads of courage...
trust me - just kiss him and it will be fine, put your hand behind his neck and pull him closer to u, he will get the drift..
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is it wrong for a 15 year old and 18 year old to be together? he's still in school yet and he just turned 18 in august? is that still bad? (link)
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Short answer - no;
If you two are happy with each other then there really is no problem, as long as he isn't using you and you're both happy then have a good healthy relationship it doesn't matter what others think. =]
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i like this girl but she one of my best friends and she only want to be my friend and nothing else what shall i do (link)
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try and treasure the fact you have a good friend, and try and move on - love life wise, keep her as a friend though, unless it really hurts.
You can always try and flirt with her subtly
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16/f
so long story short.
this girl dumped her boyfriend.
he came to me. 4 months later we were dating
he broke up with me
back with his old girlfriend.
i want to send him a message over myspace but the thing is,is that i dont want his girlfriend to see it. should i send it anyway, its about our relationship. she never knew that we were going out and if she were to din out she would probably break up with him and i dont want that. i just have to tell him something. should i just send it anyway? i cant do it in person.
pleaseee help.
opinons?
anything
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On myspace you can send a personal message by clicking "send message" on their profile. This way only he will be able to read it when he logs on and checks his messages (not to be confused with comments)
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so theres a guy i used to like alot; he's cute and wonderful...
lately ive been talking to him, and those feelings i had have been coming back.
the problem is i have trouble starting conversations.
any ideas???
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The Last person said everything I would've said =D sometimes when I was constantly on the phone I would just sit there and have my phone on loud speaker and doing random stuff on the pc lmao, and yes the T.V thing =D and talking to friends on msn and saying what their saying on the phone.
Just random things which can be fun.. treat them as if they are actually there with you =D
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Well my boyfriend (of 6 days shy of 10 months) lets call him Steve, well, he has a problem with my best guy friend, we'll call him Joe.
Steve told me that he doesn't like Joe because i simply tell him too many things, and i talk to him too much. But Joe is almost like a best friend to me, and nothing more.
Now, Joe has a girlfriend, who i am good friends with. Accually today was their one year anniversery. So no, we have nothing going on between us more than a friendship.
So i don't see why my boyfriend is over-reacting, he knows i love him, and only him.
Joe loves his gf, and wouldn't like anyone else.
I mean, Joe has given me very sweet compliments, calling me beautiful, because i have a very low self-esteem, so he tries to change that, but nothing will ever change the confidence in my self.
He's just a nice guy, who i'm very good friends with i can trust Joe with a lot of things.
And i love my boyfriend to death, but i really wish he wouldn't have a problem with Joe, and Steve does know that Joe has complimented me, and didn't have a problem with it, he agreed.
How can i have Steve not have a problem with Joe?
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Get them to go out together. Steve is obviously insecure because he doesn't know Joe well enough, Steve is jelous and feels like he can't compare to your friend Joe.
If you were close friends with one of Steve's best mates then that would be different Steve will be able to trust the guy.
So basically, try and get Steve and Joe to be closer friends by making them go out with each other and stuff =D
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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number? (link)
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Give the lucky guy your cell phone number.
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hey! well im 15/f and i know you guys have seen alot of guys and their girlfriends and all that stuff lately but i have the same problem. there is this guy and well we have been hangin out alot lately. but never just us two. its always me and him and then my other two friends (cousins). and well you see me and ryan (this guy that i am kinda crushin on) we always flirted nonstop and stuff until he got a girlfriend. she is gorgeous and im jealous! but whenever i see him we still kinda flirt and i dont start it he always does. today we all hungout and we were drivin him to his girlfriends house so he could hangout with her and some of their friends and on the way hes like gosh i dont really want to go....but we picked up him later and then we all hungout again and we played some game with a football and he always like hit me on purpose and stuff and we always like flirted..and he tried to pants me and all this stuff and would always stand behind me and do who knows what! i just dont get him. he always gives me mixed signals. i hangout with him more than he hangs out with his girlfriend! but it seems like he still really likes her and they just started going out a little bit ago so i dont think they will be breaking up anytime soon. i know i should try and stay away from him but i just cant he just pulls me in everytime i see him and my heart drops..sometimes it seems like he feels the same way but we never really talk about it! im not that kind of girl to be like hey do you have any feelings for me? noo thats not me. i can really see myself having a relationship with him though. but what do you guys think from what you have heard about this guy?!
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He likes you =D
Let things keep going the way they are, you will love it, and soon he will dump that gf of his, and give it a little time, and he you will finally be with him the way you want it.
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