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If I were you , you need to MAKE him understand how much it is bothering you. Possibly tell him you will leave if things dont change because its hurting you so much. (You dont have to mean it just say it to let him know you are serious.) It sounds like he loves you, it just seems he is tired. However that isnt an excuse to make you feel like crap. Sometimes a kick in the butt is what a man needs. I go through this all the time with my fiance. Hang in there. :)
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ok. i am 14, female, and so is my best friend Kelly. We are starting high school next year, and the last week of school, her exboyfriend(went out for one day. loves his best friend now) asked me out. i didnt like him much, and kelly said she didnt care. now my bf is very depressed... and is depressing me. i was going to break up with him, but i am also afraid he will do something drastic... and what scares me more is that he really wont care... or try to stop me. i do deeply care about him, but i just recently found out that the first time we hung out together at the mall, kelly kissed him on the cheek. he always calls her before me... though he tells me he loves me. kelly says i should just ignore it... that he really loves me. i try to talk to him about things that bother him but he doesnt listen. kelly explains to my friend that kissing him was "friendly". tho we were going out at the time. did i cross the line dating him after she did, or did she cross the line kissing him? do i break up with him over it, or forget about it and try to work it out? (link)
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She kissed him on the cheek. Thats not exactly making out. Although It might make my skin crawl a little too. However, if he is depressed he may still have feelings for her. His depression may actually be him distancing himself from you. They dated for a day, thats not dating. Thats rediculous to even say it counts as dating. I dont think he knows what love is, and if he does its not with you. Sorry hun, I think you need to break it off.
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first things first--15/m.
ok so like i said, im 15 and theres this girl(lets just call her bonqueesha lol) who is basically all over me, and shes really cute and all.. but shes only 13. see in my opinion i think it would be wrong/weird for us to hook up or go out or whatever, so what do all you advicenators think? (link)
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Well i mean it IS only a 2 year difference. However at 13...I dont consider that a real dating age. I mean she hasnt even hit her teens yet. I wouldnt , if you did, make sure its not physical , just emotional.
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Hi there. I have a kind of situation in here, which may need help.
I broke up with this girl from 2 months before, as she was having some emotional problems with someone else (ex, long story). Well, as i needed some answers of why, i asked her 3-4 times to speak to me, but first she told me she doesnt think so, then she told me she needs time, and than again she needs time and so on.
Last Thursday she sent me a message "i dont know if i should be telling you this, but i saw you in my dreams these days, tormenting me. Maybe because of the july, i dont know". (we used to knew eachother in July before 2 years). I told her that i kept seeing her too in my dreams and that is very strange.
Well, i dont know, this girl or is too stupid, or too smart :) yesterday, i told to her this other message "you know that i dont like superficiality. I know you thought a lot before sending me that message. If there is something to talk, lets talk.". And later she told me: "I just wrote some thoughts, thats it. There is no need to make it such a big deal. I didnt ask any answer in return, just describing some dreams. Goodnight!"
I told her this other thing: "I dont know why it was so important to tell me about those dreams, knowing the fact that im going to move on.
Dont put me in a game where you dont want to play". After that, i received this other one: "Hey, i didnt beg you for not moving on, or asked anything from you. I just told you some dreams, and your reaction is up to you. I am not playing, i never did.".
Well, as i see, this one or is too stupid or is too smart. You break up before 2 months and you cant send your ex a message like this. I think this is not so normal, isnt that ? I think this is a way to keep me around, so i told her "its not a problem, you can share whatever you want, but dont tell me you werent expecting for an answer :)"
On the other side, i know she is with someone else right now (this ex of her, i told you before. i dont know how is going, but i dont think its going fine between them). What do you think? Was it just a "share of thoughts" or its like a playing mind games? What do you think about this one? cause every time i asked her what is up in her mind, she doesnt admit that she wants anything. Ok, i guess, and i know her enough to say this, cause in these kind of situations, she doesnt have the courage to ask me anything, or to make clear or admit that she wants me to take her back, cause she wants me to make this tought decision by myself. What do you think? What do you suggest? I want this girl back, i admit this. She has been my love, and i still love her, but i dont want to be hurt again, i mean, i have to admit that im a little afraid about her real wants and needs, and im afraid that im being a little pathetic and is only my mind who is making these situation, and i dont want to make a decision and ask her to come back, because of this. Or i should at least try? What do you suggest? (link)
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Let me speak from personal experience. I have an ex that I was having dreams about. And like her, I told him. It wasn't because I wanted him back. It was because a part of me missed him and just needed to tell him without actually TELLING him. If she is in another relationship, regardless of whether or not you think it will work, it doesnt sound like she plans on leaving him. She isnt playing games. Sometimes women just pop up then go away again. Who knows why she felt she needed to tell you.But if it was because she wanted you back or wanted to talk, she would of admitted it. You dont do something for that then ignore the person when they ask you a question. Leave her be. If she wants to talk , trust me she will come to you. As for the message, like i said. I told my ex because it made me think about him, and a part of me wanted him to know that I was. But I didnt want to start anything back up.
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So, like, my girlfriend broke up with me like 6 months ago. And I actually cannot get her off my mind. I mean, I think I actually still really like her which is all the worse because she doesn't want anything to do with me. We used to be friends before we went out and I really liked her for a fair few months before anything was said. So its like I went from having this fairly good friendship to a relationship to nothing. And, well, it still hurts.
I mean, I know why she broke up with me and everything, and her points are pretty fair (I was too clingy i suppose is the best way to describe it). But I only acted the way I did because, in a typically manly and ironic thing to do, I didn't want to lose what I had waited so long to get. I really cared about her, infact I still do. And given the choice I would go back and change what I did. But thats not going to happen, so I have to deal with it.
Now, your first thought might be 'wow, this guys pathetic'. Well, I don't have a particularly high opinion of myself either. But I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for what I can do?
And trust me, I have heard everything about it taking time, but 6 months and counting is far too long to wait in my opinion.
I mean, I really want to tell her how I still feel, but the thing is I havent spoken to her in literally 2 months and a random message from me detailing how I feel won't go down well I fear.
Because the thing at the bottom is telling me to, i'm 17/m and she is 17/f (duh)
Any help would be appreciated
Thanks :) (link)
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Love hurts. Sometimes it can take years. Hell sometimes it doesnt go away. But ask yourself. You dont ever talk to her now right? So whats it going to hurt to tell her how you feel? I mean what is she going to do? Not talk to you anymore?
Also, i think it must be a little more than you being too clingy. Why would she never want to talk to you again for that?I would approach it in the sense that you want to know what really happened. And explain to her that you havent gotten over her yet and you need her to know that. Open yourself up like you did in this. Also, to give yourself confidence, dont be shy about it. Be very stern, dont give her the thought that you are going to beg. But let her know you still care....and that you want some closure. Good luck hun....and remember it does take time...sometimes it takes someone really special to make you forget about the scars of the past.
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so ive been with my boyfriend for over a year. i love him to death but would honestly love nothing more than to "break up" with his family. in a very small nutshell, they are just... not nice people. i come from a very close polite friendly family... and he, well, does not. any ways on how to deal? i see them alot [cant avoid that] =/ (link)
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Its a crappy situation hun, but I have been there too. Hold your tongue, i know its hard, but when you take in someone, you take in their family too. Try nicely talking to your boyfriend about it. Maybe he can give you tips on how to cope with them, I mean he has lasted his whole life right? When it came to my situation I kept polite no matter what. One day it came down to me standing up for him and myself to them. If and when that does happen...there will be a whole new respect. But until then, avoid seeing them as much as possible, and when you do, ignore them....family problems suck.
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Hi, I am 15/f. This will be long--sorry.
I have never had a boyfriend, first kiss, etc. The thing is, I always thought I would, by now.
Many people have told me I can get any guy I want, that I'm pretty, I should be a model, etc. But when I look in the mirror, I don't see a pretty person. I see a person who has to wear makeup to look pretty.
I'm tall (5'7") and I think I'm smart too (2nd in my class of 400).
A few guys have liked me and I have almost went out with one, but then he went out with someone else.
Some of the guys I push away (not intentionally, but I'm not sure) by being mean to them if I don't like them. And unless a guy I like is outgoing and talks to me first, I usually ignore him and pretend that I don't like him.
I don't know why I do this. Is it because I subconsciously don't want a boyfriend?
And here's an extra factor: I'm Chinese but I live in a small town where there's very few other Chinese kids (3 in my entire school pop. of 1700). I have grown up with mostly white kids, so I like mostly white guys.
My question is:
Why don't I have a boyfriend? Am I too smart? Too tall? Not pretty enough? Is it because I push them away? Or because I am Chinese? Does race matter?
Thanks. (link)
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I agree with this person, but also, to make you feel better, 90% of guys LOVE chinese girls....I dont know what it is about you, but they just drool over chinese girls. I wish i was chinese ;)
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So since about the beginning of May i've liked this boy and we talk all the time on the phone. Since like May 4th hes called me everynight (except for friday and saturday nights) and we talk for a MINIUMUM of an hour 1/2 each night. And i really don't think a guy would call a girl everynight for what 2 weeks unless he felt something there. and well so far thats really all hes done to make me think he likes me. but i really wanna find out if he likes me but idk how to. next time i'm on the phone with him should i ask him who hes likes or should i just come out and tell him or what? any advice would be greattt. thanks! (link)
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that all depends on how you say it. I mean dont be a bitch a bout it. Women naturally know how to make things sound flirty. When you ask him, put it in a tone that makes him know you are flirting with him. You could also ask him what he is thinking that always works for me. That like an opening a gate for him to open up.
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15/f & boyfriend is 17/m. - sorry this is pretty long.
well i'm extremly confussed. my boyfriend matthew and i have been dating for almost 11 months. the beginning was AMAZING, seriously, great. now things are just falling appart. i [guess] you could say i have a temper, but hey, who doesn't? just sometimes small things annoy me. they do for him too. he's extremly demanding and a VERY jealous person. i am too, but oh well. for those reasons neither of us talk to the opposite sex. whatever. i'm fine with that. it's just that during the summer i'm gonna be so bored. i don't really talk to girls anymore, i don't care about that either because they ALL screwed me over. he recently just started wokring at a landscaping place & works REALLY long hours. it drives me crazy. 7:30-7:30 pm. [usually.] and whatever i guess i'll have to get over it. but those fights we get it [when we do,] are terrible. so much name calling, and so many things we don't mean are said. it's times like those that make me think. i mean i KNOW i love him, but sometimes i just wonder why i put up with it. i really wanna stay with him and everything, just things need to change. for instance he gets mad at me when i cry because of family reasons, doesn't really help me. i'm not trying to sound controlling and self centered i just i guess i expected him to be there for me. oh well. we see eachother EVERYDAY. we used to from 3-8 ; now it's like 7:30-8:30, and weekends constantly. i don't know but he's coming over today and i need advice on what to talk to him about. how do i explain that things aren't the same and things need to change.
sorry if this question didn't make a whole lot of sence. i just am extremly confussed and don't have anyone else to talk about this too.
thanks in advance. :] (link)
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My fiance works from 7:30am to almost 10pm. I know and understand how you feel about dropping your friends. My fiance and I are both VERY jealous,...But you have to look at it this way. He is working hard and is probably stressed out. The fights can really suck because he will take stress from work out on you. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel.But you cant be self centered about it. I know you are lonely, BUT its not like he wants to be out there everyday doing hard work. He does it because he has to. With men its easy. When you get in an argument give him space, let him cool off. When he comes over if he has been working all day, let him relax have him come to you when he is ready. Its not that he doesnt care. He is just tired. Make sure he knows you are understanding, but politely explain to him that his stress is hurting you too.
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15/f. my boyfriend is 17, a senior in high school. this is a long one...
my boyfriend and i have been dating since march 26 (you do the math). we've seen each other approximately 3 times since then. we've hooked up 3 times; twice while we were going out and once before. we've been to second (his hand under my bra).
we were very close friends before we started dating. we acted rather like boyfriend and girlfriend. we only needed to make it official. so we did.
he said "i love you" very early on. it took me a few times to answer. he was amazing, the perfect boyfriend. when we saw each other or even when we spoke, he treated me like gold. when i couldn't sleep, he'd answer his phone at midnight and talk to me until he fell asleep (i'm a bit of an insomniac). we had great conversations.
last time we saw each other was a week ago from yesterday. it was a perfect day, except that he was supposed to drive me home and my mom ended up not letting him and made me take the train home alone. he paid for my train ticket, being as perfect as he is, and i left. and things started to get weird that night.
about a month ago, when talking about another couple, i compared ourselves to them, not thinking it would stick with him. superficially, we were similar. however, the other couple broke up. the statement that i made started to haunt him this week. he was acting weird and he stopped saying "i love you" and every time i tried to hint to him that i was noticing, he'd ignore me. finally, i confronted him yesterday. we talked out the statement, but there was still something wrong.
we ran out of things to talk about. we always joked about that before, but we seriously did. i fell into a depression last night and for the life of him, he couldn't figure out what to do.
i still like him. hell, i think i may even love him. i don't want to break up. but he and i are both confused and a mutual friend is not making it better by telling us to break up with each other. i know he wants to stay together, but it's just so weird now. what do you think i should do? (link)
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Every relationship is different. You can't base things off of other peoples experiences. You need a "special" night. Go out see a movie. Go to dinner. Your friend, just ignore them. Friends like to pretend they know what is best for you. It sounds like you really like this guy. Maybe you need something different to remind you two how you feel about eachother. Sometimes you just need to sit back and think about all the things that you two have done that make you love him. Next time you see him walk up to him, give him a big kiss and tell him how you feel. That you are terrified of losing him and that you dont want to break up. Open up to him. Sometimes thats what a guy needs to give him the strength to make things better.
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My boyfriend and I fight all of the time and he says that I don't show him I care. Im always all over him and say the nicest things to him but i dont know what else to do? does anyone know anything that can help me show him that i care so much! (link)
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Sounds like he is insecure, and crying for attention. Instead of giving him MORE attention, show him what he has already. Stop doing the things you do now. Then when he notices sit him down explain how you feel then go back to how you were. Sometimes a smack in the face is needed to make someone see how much you care.
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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There is a guy i know that was in jail on a regular basis. He would always rough house with me because when he made me mad i would punch him in the arm as a joke. One day he decided to try to play fight me. He got me down on the ground but i was able to not just move but flip him and reverse the position. This is a man filled with scars and such from jail. Who fought regularly and was good at it. He stopped and was like "Holy crap i just got whooped by a 5ft chick." But he accepted it. Tell your man to get over it. Sounds like he is a little insecure. ;) Good for you though I think thats great.
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I'm the one that asked about sending a question to somebody's inbox. Okay, I'm in 9th grade now, but let's go back to 7th grade. There's this boy named Andrew. We were like best friends in 7th grade. We walked to band class together, we sat together at lunch, we talked in band, he called me almost every afternoon, etc. He was dating my best friend. I didn't like him. But when they broke up, I started liking him. So I told him that I liked him. (Oh, I didn't mention- he never asked girls out, he's REALLY shy. All the girls he dated asked him out.) Okay, so I just told him that I liked him. I didn't ask him out, because I'm not like that. I thought that he would ask me out, since he wasn't shy around ME. But he didn't. I heard that he liked me, but you know rumors. We still talked the same and everything. But it was SEVENTH grade. Little kids... Okay, so now let's move on to Tyler. I met him at church camp in the summer of 8th grade. He goes to a different school than me.(one town away, just a few minutes away) He has been telling me that he's liked me since we met. At church camp we didn't talk. But then he dated my friend, so I talked to him on the phone when she spent the night, and I went to the mall with him and my friend (his girlfriend). He broke up with my friend after a few weeks. Well now, a year later, me and him are still talking. I tell him stuff that NOBODY knows and he tells me stuff that nobody knows. I mean like, woah. We talk on the phone some, not much. He says he likes me. He tells me I'm beautiful. He's pretty popular and bad, unlike Andrew. But the thing is, he has a girlfriend. He said the only reason that he's going out with her and not me is because he knows her better and because I'm kinda shy. One night, he said "I REALLY like you" and he says "If I break up with my girlfriend, will you go out with me?" He's asked me a billion times and I say yes everytime. I'm just waiting on him, I guess. But it's kinda getting old. Okay, so the third guy, Will. I really like him. I met him in 5th grade. I go to his church pretty often. We're... friends, I guess. He's HOTTT! AH. I've been liking him off and on since 7th grade. He found out that I liked him at the end of 8th grade. At the beginning of this school year, he told his church friends that he was thinking about hooking up with me. The word spread to me and I was like "Omg. Wow. This can't be true." So yeah, the church went to a football game together, and he sat with me. (I'm kinda shy around boys and at first, just to let you know) So I didn't really talk to him.. And he sat with me at pep rallies at school. He called me, we talked. He asked me to go to the mall, I said yes, but we didn't get to go. Then he just kinda stopped talking to me. Then like a week later I read his "about me" on his myspace and it said "My name is blah..asdf .. blah .. 'i can't get a girlfriend to save my life, as my cousin jessica says'...blah" So I messaged him and said "you COULD get a girlfriend to save your life if you wouldn't give up on her while she's trying to get to know you" and he said "i know that's true but you never said more than 3 words to me... it didn't seem like you wanted to get to know me" ... so yeah, that was the beginning of the year. He knows I still like him. But he's not doing anything about it. We talk on the internet alot. But in person, when me and my best friend are sitting together, he'll come up to us and say "hey carley!" and talk to her alot and barely talk to me" .... ah, help? (link)
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Guys are very simple minded creatures. But they like to play hard to get. You want to impress a guy, be blunt with him. Forget about Andrew, lets talk about Tyler and Will. Tyler's excuse is crap. You two tell eachother everything, how can he say he knows her better? I would say he is keeping you on the side in case things between him and his gf go bad. Probably the type of guy that doesnt like being alone. There may be potential but i want to focus on Will. His excuse is ligit. Maybe he is one of those guys that NEEDS YOU to make a move. He comes up to you two and basically throws himself to you. Now i am a pretty blunt person. I hooked up with my fiance because I grabbed his face and kissed him at a bar. =) Pull him aside, and flat out ask him what his deal is. Tell him you are interested and you are sick of waiting around. Ask him if you two have a shot or not. I would word it like "We have been playing this game all year. I like you and you like me, so either stop pretending or hold my hand and lets try to do this." At first his jaw will hit the floor but when he sees you are serious he will tell you exactly what he wants. I know your shy, but when it comes to shy guys and relationships its better to just put it out there so they dont have to fear rejection. This guy seems to want proof that you are actaully interested in him. Write me back if you need more advice and let me know what happens ;) Good luck hun.
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I'm 15/f. I need to ask somebody a question. It's pretty long. I'll send it to your inbox, if you're interested in helping me. I don't want to put it on here, because someone that I know might figure out that it's me. It's about me and some guys. Thanks :) (link)
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go for it hun
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hey
so i have a crush on a guy in one of my classes and i've been talking to him alot for the past week...we won't really talk at school because we don't see eachother. but so far we've talked just about everynight since last tuesday. (4/24) and the other night we talked from 12- 3:30 AM and then the other night we talked from like 11-12:30 on the phone. and i'm trying to flirt with him more but i don't know how to without being too obvious or sounding stupid. i'm not sure how to hint to him i like him without coming out and saying i like you. but i mean if you talk to a guy from 11:45- 3:30 on a monday night thats gotta mean something right?? Ugh, I'm just not sure how i should hint to him that i like him. any ideas? (link)
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Easy ways to get a guy to open up ask certain questions the best one that worked for me.
When it gets quiet and there is a pause ask:
"What are you thinking about?"
He will either ask you what YOU are thinking about if he does, thats usually a good indication that he is in the same boat as you.
Or ask him what he looks for in a girl. They will usually describe you. Then ask you the same question.
Men are simple creatures, and usually shy. But yes talking until 3:30 that means something.Good luck sweet heart
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There is this girl jesse, and she is constantly flirting with my boyfriend! I am sooooo sick of it! cuase not only does she flirt with him she does it in front of me! my best friend told her to stop flirting with him and she's like, omg Amanda (that's me) need to stop being so over protective of him! then she said she's not even flirting with him! But the problem is she never stop flirting with him! she'll go up and start poking him in his sides and belly and will be all touchy on him and it just makes me uber mad! please tell me what i should do! cuase confronting her doesn't work!
Thanks,
Manders (link)
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She isn't the one to confront, he is. Tell him it is making you mad. If he cares about you, he should tell her to back off. You have every right to be upset about it. And if i were you i would confront him about it in front of her, so she understands you arent playing around and so he understands that too. You aren't being over protective, if someone did that to my fiance i would scratch their eyes out. Put your foot down, he allows her to do it, he is just as guilty.
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OK well theres 2 guys we will call one Bob, and then other Evan
Ok well i really like Bob and Evan.
Bob and I went out last year, and everything was pretty good. but then he broke up with me and then everything was pretty sucky. However later i started to like Evan, but Evan's parents thought that he was "too old" for me. which is kinda weird b/c my parents should be the one saying that hes too old. But i'm 14 very soon 15, and he just turne 18, so really its not that bad. But Evan and I remained pretty good friends even though his parents wouldn't let us hang out or anything.
Now Bob decided that he like me again? We went to the movies, he totaly lead me on, and the next week he changed his mind and said that he thought it just wouldn't work?? But then i talked him into letting me have another chance. He charged his mind back and forth like a million times, but as of now its that he likes me. I really really like bob, like more than anyone else even Evan. However Evan's parents decided to stop being retarded and now are ok with us hanging out so i think this weekend we might do something.
Ok so you might be asking ok well wahts the problem, you have two guys that like you. And the whole picking one isn't really the problem neither. The problem is, I like(d) Evan a lot before and i still do. but we just have to be friends so i kinda got used to that...I really like BOB like a lot. But the thing with him is that he never acts like he likes me. IN school he won't talk to me, not even say hey in the halls we just ignore eachother. and then with Evan its the competly opposite, hes relaly really nice to me, gives me hugs, and waits for me after classes...you know actually acts like he does like me.
I WANT Bob the most, but i like Evan the best-like the way he actually does talk to me in school. I really have no idea what to do. i just like bob and evan, but i want bob the most, but he dosn't act like he likes me at all. I hate it soo much idk waht to do. (link)
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Dont let yourself get hurt. That is what BOB is going to do i can tell you that already. There is nothing good about being in a secluded relationship. Evan seems like a sweet guy. Maybe a little old but age is just a number as long as there is no sex. Evan sounds like the real man in the situation. Bob seems like he just wants you around when there is no one else there. Never push away the nice guy, they might not be Mr. Perfect but they are better than a guy that wont give you the time of day unless you are alone.
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ok sorry if this is long...
so i'm 14/f and in 8th grade. and back when i was in sixth grade me and this guy jamie really liked each other. but we always pretended we didn't, but we both knew we liked each other. then, half way through sixth grade he moved to hong kong, like actually to live there. we talked online a little bit and we both admitted that we liked each other. then during 3rd quarter that year i started going out with this guy ben. well, school in hk wasn't working out for jamie, so he came back for 4th quarter. but i was still going out with ben then, so jamie stopped flirting with me. but i dumped ben before jamie went back to hong kong, and then we flirted. so anyway, during 7th grade i talked to jamie a little bit and we both play tennis, so he said that over the summer we should play tennis together. well i forgot about it, but over the summer i got a call from him about "taking me up on that tennis match". so we played tennis and then he asked me to go to a movie with him, then he went back to hong kong. so then this year, he came back here for a week for his friend's bar mitzvah. he kind of talked to me a little, but very, very little. i think he liked me over the summer (maybe) but he's coming back this summer and i want to know what i should expect. i am willing to have a long distance relationship with him, but what should i do about it? call him when he's in town? we go to the same country club, so i'll see him at tennis, but i really want to have a relationship with him. what should i do? thanks so much (link)
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Ok ill be honest. Im sure you really like this guy but let me tell you about a little personal experience of mine. When i was 15 I met a guy. Oh my gosh he was the most beautiful amazing guy ever. I fell head over heals. I lived in MI he lived in FL. Things ended up happening and he said we could have a long distance relationship. All i thought about was him when i went home. Then one day he just stopped calling and paging me. It tore me apart so bad that i became severely depressed. What i am trying to tell you hun, is that long distance relationships at your age, are very VERY difficult to keep up.You are young why tie yourself down? When he is in town I would go up to him and talk to him and make the best of it maybe even go on some dates. But dont tie yourself down to him. In the end it will hurt you, even if your relationship seems ok. You will miss him and it will make you sad, and because you are tied down you wont be able to take your mind off him because you will feel guilty for even talking to another guy. Then if he moves back, hey! You guys might make an awesome couple. But wait until you know for sure he is what you want, because let me tell you losing them even from that far away will tear your heart apart. See other guys, then when you two meet later and live closer to eachother there will be that anticipation and it will make your relationship that much stronger.
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Sorry this is kind of long!
I was talking to my BEST friend we'll call her 'A' and 'A' gave me her friend's cousin's myspace. We will call him 'B'. So I got 'B's screen name and started talking to him. He is a really nice guy and REALLY cute. He is in another state but he's moving here in the summer. 'A' is obsessed with him. She thinks he likes me but I think differently. I sent 'A's picture to 'B' and I had him rate it. He said then that she got a 7. 10 being beautiful, 1 being ugly. Then he asked for my picture and I sent it. 'B' gave me an 8. Now 'A' is sad because she really thinks he likes me not her. Now she gets sad at times and like don't talk when she is normally really up beat girl. I always ask her if she's mad at me and she says no. I really like 'B' too. Sometimes she says, "But ___(my name)____ I knew him first!" And we don't get in fights but I just don't know what to do. 'A' and I both like 'B'. What should I do?
Thanks in advance,
Mimzy (link)
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Never live to make someone else happy. Maybe it would be best if neither of you went for him. I'll be honest it sounds like he has an interest in you. Her pouting isn't the way to solve the issue. She gave you his myspace, now she is mad at you because he took in an interest in you. Its kind of her own fault. The best advice i can give if you dont want it to effect your friendship is for neither of you to hook up with him. I would also talk to him about it. Ask him what he thinks. Who knows maybe he could help
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hi! i like these boys that r in my school and in six grade but im in seventh but they r so cute me and my friends even made nick names for them (small one and tall one) should i ask one of them out or not and am i to old for them r they to young for me (im 13 not sure there age )please please answer me i need to know
xoxo,
love ya,
katie (link)
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Im 22 my fiance is 34.....need i say more? A year is no big deal.
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