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it's just not the same anymore
15/f. my boyfriend is 17, a senior in high school. this is a long one...
my boyfriend and i have been dating since march 26 (you do the math). we've seen each other approximately 3 times since then. we've hooked up 3 times; twice while we were going out and once before. we've been to second (his hand under my bra).
we were very close friends before we started dating. we acted rather like boyfriend and girlfriend. we only needed to make it official. so we did.
he said "i love you" very early on. it took me a few times to answer. he was amazing, the perfect boyfriend. when we saw each other or even when we spoke, he treated me like gold. when i couldn't sleep, he'd answer his phone at midnight and talk to me until he fell asleep (i'm a bit of an insomniac). we had great conversations.
last time we saw each other was a week ago from yesterday. it was a perfect day, except that he was supposed to drive me home and my mom ended up not letting him and made me take the train home alone. he paid for my train ticket, being as perfect as he is, and i left. and things started to get weird that night.
about a month ago, when talking about another couple, i compared ourselves to them, not thinking it would stick with him. superficially, we were similar. however, the other couple broke up. the statement that i made started to haunt him this week. he was acting weird and he stopped saying "i love you" and every time i tried to hint to him that i was noticing, he'd ignore me. finally, i confronted him yesterday. we talked out the statement, but there was still something wrong.
we ran out of things to talk about. we always joked about that before, but we seriously did. i fell into a depression last night and for the life of him, he couldn't figure out what to do.
i still like him. hell, i think i may even love him. i don't want to break up. but he and i are both confused and a mutual friend is not making it better by telling us to break up with each other. i know he wants to stay together, but it's just so weird now. what do you think i should do?
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Every relationship is different. You can't base things off of other peoples experiences. You need a "special" night. Go out see a movie. Go to dinner. Your friend, just ignore them. Friends like to pretend they know what is best for you. It sounds like you really like this guy. Maybe you need something different to remind you two how you feel about eachother. Sometimes you just need to sit back and think about all the things that you two have done that make you love him. Next time you see him walk up to him, give him a big kiss and tell him how you feel. That you are terrified of losing him and that you dont want to break up. Open up to him. Sometimes thats what a guy needs to give him the strength to make things better.
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seems to me you rushed into to things and u ran out of stuff to do i would put everything in the past and yall start over and dont listen to no one but your heart and you will get it right i promise good luck
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ok so one thing you never want to do is compare your relationship with another couples. that will just make things harder and obviously it made it awkward so i guess what i'm trying to say is see how it is apart maybe for like a week maybe not even that try to get things straighted out or maybe so it's not so confusing...i know it might be awkward but ask your mom...i was in the same spot about 3 months ago with my boyfriend and i talked to my mom about it and it really did help so i mean parents aren't always that bad they can be embarrassing but they love you anywayz even through the toughest time. they will always have you back no matter what
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