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Should i still go out with him?!?!
ok well im 15/f and my ex bf is 16. WE broke up before my birthday which was april 11th. He called me to wish me a happy birthday and ever since then we have been talking. He asked me what would i say if i we went back out. I told him i would think about it. Well one of his best friends said that lately he has been doing drugs for the past month and stuff. I asked him about it and he said that he does do drugs now and he sells it now too. Well thats just not cool to me but i love him alot i mean hes the one who broke up with me i didnt want to lose him. I dont know wat to do i want to go back out with him but im not sure if thats a good idea?!? i need help thinking of the pros and cons of me going out with him if hes going to do this. Im not sure why he does this i mean he has money he doenst need any im the one that doesnt have hardly any money ever! i just want him to stop doing that shit but he told me that he wasnt and he told me that i shouldnt care because i do that shit too but i dont i told him i dont and i never will. I need HELp! please help me anyone i would like to hear alot of people's opinions and ideas. thanks :]
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Well my sister had a boyfriend who did drugs and sold it. We never really seemed to convince him to stop, because hes addicted and cant stop. But if your afraid, just dont be around him, but if you love him alot, tell him that, tell him " i love you, and it hurts me when you do this...it could lead to bad things...drugs dosnt make you cool, it makes you look pathetic" something like that. sorry i tried
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You sound like me. I have never been in a situation like this, however it sounds like something i would get caught in. The thing is drug sellers/users are dangerous and bad people. Drugs affected the body and damage it. They act different and are ruining their lives and hurting people around them. Its going to be hard to make a decsion because you are in love. Love does damage and is a very powerful feeling. I beileve you are in love, only you can get someone better than that. Drug users are no good and bad people. Please don't get caught up in it. You will only be hurting yourself. It may be hard to move on, but it's the best thing for yourself. What hes doing is illegal and illegal is not good obviously.
Ask your self these questions:
Do you really love him?
Is he worth your time and love?
Do you think he's going to treat you right?
What will other people think of you?
What if he gets caught? Then what should I do?
Are you sure hes right for you?
Is there anyone else?
There are so many questions and it will be hard to answer them. Ask yourself questions answer them and judge your answer on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the best answer and 1 being a terriable answer. Ask other people about your answers and have them rate them and agree or disagree with your ratings. I would be glad to, just send me something in my inbox and i will deffinatly get back to you. In my opnion this guy is NOT right for you. And i would hate to see you go with him and maybe ruin your life. If you got into the whole drug world. You would be like everyone else on the planet. We have more followers and need more leaders. Be one. You'll stand out. You may not be able to talk him out of the drug scene. Drugs are a powerful and harmful thing he may be hooked for life. It's sad to see the young go through this. I would love to talk more about this with you. I'm very interested and excited with this. My screename is Flychicxo101 if you have one please IM me i have away messages up all the time but IM me anyways im there. Or send me something in my inbox and i will get back to you.
I Hope I Helped :)
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if you think that him doing drugs is going to effect your relationship with him then i wouldn`t. but if you like him like you say than i would. BUT i he should respect the fact that you don`t like him doing that kind of stuff when you are with him or him doing them @ all. talk to him about, let him know that he can`t have drugs with you. don`t make him choose though, let him do it on his own. does that make sense?
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well all i can say is that maybe you should just forget about him, if he does drugs and sell them then you dont wan to be around someone like that because they can put you in danger.It might sound stupid but its true i mean think about it what if he slick somting iun your pockest or whatever and then the police found about it.And to me he dont sound like a guy you want to be around with but all i can say is just leaving if he broke up with you the first time aint no doubt he might do it again. hope i help and good luck.
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If you go out with him, keep the following things in mind:
(1) He's a criminal. Selling drugs is illegal. If he's ever caught, you will be placed under suspicion, and it's even possible that "evidence" may be found on you - a stash that he left in your room when you weren't looking, for instance.
(2) Drugs alter the mind, and depending on what kinds of drugs he is using, they may alter it enough so as to render him untrustworthy and incapable of making good decisions. This is not a quality you want in a boyfriend.
(3) He apparently thinks you're into the drug scene too. You've told him you're not, but he may try to change your mind on that one, either by persuasion or by tricking you into taking his drugs. Either way, bad news.
(4) Drug users hang out with other drug users. Even if you feel you can trust him, does it give you a good feeling knowing that you'll find yourself frequently surrounded by people on drugs? For that matter, do you really want other people to start thinking you're one of them?
The bottom line is that associating with this guy is just a bad idea. You obviously don't approve of what he's doing, and it's pretty unlikely that you're going to change him. Right now, you have the chance to walk away. Take it.
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