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Hi, I am 15/f. This will be long--sorry.
I have never had a boyfriend, first kiss, etc. The thing is, I always thought I would, by now.
Many people have told me I can get any guy I want, that I'm pretty, I should be a model, etc. But when I look in the mirror, I don't see a pretty person. I see a person who has to wear makeup to look pretty.
I'm tall (5'7") and I think I'm smart too (2nd in my class of 400).
A few guys have liked me and I have almost went out with one, but then he went out with someone else.
Some of the guys I push away (not intentionally, but I'm not sure) by being mean to them if I don't like them. And unless a guy I like is outgoing and talks to me first, I usually ignore him and pretend that I don't like him.
I don't know why I do this. Is it because I subconsciously don't want a boyfriend?
And here's an extra factor: I'm Chinese but I live in a small town where there's very few other Chinese kids (3 in my entire school pop. of 1700). I have grown up with mostly white kids, so I like mostly white guys.
My question is:
Why don't I have a boyfriend? Am I too smart? Too tall? Not pretty enough? Is it because I push them away? Or because I am Chinese? Does race matter?
Thanks.
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I agree with this person, but also, to make you feel better, 90% of guys LOVE chinese girls....I dont know what it is about you, but they just drool over chinese girls. I wish i was chinese ;)
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Don't worry about not having a boyfriend or not having your first kiss yet. You're still young and have plenty of time.
Never think you aren't pretty enough. I sense a big self esteem problem here. You say you THINK you're smart, and you're 2nd in your class. You ARE smart, don't be afraid to admit it.
A lot of guys like tall girls. Long legs=good stuff. And most guys like smart girls too. I'm sure you're a very pretty girl, it's just that sometimes you don't get a boyfriend as quickly/easily as other girls your age.
If you want a boyfriend, you're going to have to come out of your shell. Try flirting, or at least TALKING to guys you like. No, race doesn't matter. You just have to have confidence, because that's the sexiest part of a girl. If you think you're hot or ACT like you think you're hot, guys will think you are as well.
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never be mean or ignore the guy that like you. because how you act will reflect from the guys to their friends. and they will think your too mean or stuck up. always be outgoing. you need to make the boys come to you. you cant just wait around for the boy. sweetsz i think you want a boyfriend but you just dont know how to go about it. race doesnt always matter in love. when you find the right guy he will love you for who you are. no your not too smart. just dont make youself to geeky. hang out with your friends and be in the 'in-crowd' and tell everyone you have places to go on the weekend (geeks are always home on a saturday night) you might be a little tall but at 15 all the boys shoulf be 6" by now. if you had boys that have taken an interest to you efore then of course your pretty. make-up still wouldnt hurt. not too dark though and never be without lipgloss
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