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Should i call her ex or what?
Hi there. I have a kind of situation in here, which may need help.
I broke up with this girl from 2 months before, as she was having some emotional problems with someone else (ex, long story). Well, as i needed some answers of why, i asked her 3-4 times to speak to me, but first she told me she doesnt think so, then she told me she needs time, and than again she needs time and so on.
Last Thursday she sent me a message "i dont know if i should be telling you this, but i saw you in my dreams these days, tormenting me. Maybe because of the july, i dont know". (we used to knew eachother in July before 2 years). I told her that i kept seeing her too in my dreams and that is very strange.
Well, i dont know, this girl or is too stupid, or too smart :) yesterday, i told to her this other message "you know that i dont like superficiality. I know you thought a lot before sending me that message. If there is something to talk, lets talk.". And later she told me: "I just wrote some thoughts, thats it. There is no need to make it such a big deal. I didnt ask any answer in return, just describing some dreams. Goodnight!"
I told her this other thing: "I dont know why it was so important to tell me about those dreams, knowing the fact that im going to move on.
Dont put me in a game where you dont want to play". After that, i received this other one: "Hey, i didnt beg you for not moving on, or asked anything from you. I just told you some dreams, and your reaction is up to you. I am not playing, i never did.".
Well, as i see, this one or is too stupid or is too smart. You break up before 2 months and you cant send your ex a message like this. I think this is not so normal, isnt that ? I think this is a way to keep me around, so i told her "its not a problem, you can share whatever you want, but dont tell me you werent expecting for an answer :)"
On the other side, i know she is with someone else right now (this ex of her, i told you before. i dont know how is going, but i dont think its going fine between them). What do you think? Was it just a "share of thoughts" or its like a playing mind games? What do you think about this one? cause every time i asked her what is up in her mind, she doesnt admit that she wants anything. Ok, i guess, and i know her enough to say this, cause in these kind of situations, she doesnt have the courage to ask me anything, or to make clear or admit that she wants me to take her back, cause she wants me to make this tought decision by myself. What do you think? What do you suggest? I want this girl back, i admit this. She has been my love, and i still love her, but i dont want to be hurt again, i mean, i have to admit that im a little afraid about her real wants and needs, and im afraid that im being a little pathetic and is only my mind who is making these situation, and i dont want to make a decision and ask her to come back, because of this. Or i should at least try? What do you suggest?
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Let me speak from personal experience. I have an ex that I was having dreams about. And like her, I told him. It wasn't because I wanted him back. It was because a part of me missed him and just needed to tell him without actually TELLING him. If she is in another relationship, regardless of whether or not you think it will work, it doesnt sound like she plans on leaving him. She isnt playing games. Sometimes women just pop up then go away again. Who knows why she felt she needed to tell you.But if it was because she wanted you back or wanted to talk, she would of admitted it. You dont do something for that then ignore the person when they ask you a question. Leave her be. If she wants to talk , trust me she will come to you. As for the message, like i said. I told my ex because it made me think about him, and a part of me wanted him to know that I was. But I didnt want to start anything back up.
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