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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.advice
hey :) I'm sorry if this is too long. I just need some advice. Thanks.
I hadn't seen my boyfriend since last Sunday. He told me to go to his house today and i went. I went at 6pm. we stayed there having a good time. Then his friend came over. After an hour passed his friend said he had to go to the park to be with his friends which are girls too. My boyfriend told me he was going to walk me so he told his friend to go with him. I felt very disappointed at this because i went to be with him but he decided to go to the park and just stay stay with his friends. When they were walking me my boyfriend friend turned in a street and he called him and told him to walk me to my house because he was going to the park with him too. I really don't know what to think. He pulled me over and he asked why am i mad, i told him i was okay. He said he wanted to be cool with me not arguing then he asked for a kiss and whatever i gave it to him and then left to my friends house because at least she had time for me. I really love him but i don't know what to do :( I'm just disappointed.
In relationship.......there are disappointments and I know it hurts.
Nobody wants to be a distant girlfriend or a clingy one which you are neither.
I believe that you should tell your boyfriend how you feel so you would understand. He is just a guy and he doesn't know how you feel sometimes. I know what you are thinking and don't worry.....he won't do anything drastic because you told him how you felt.
Just tell him the TRUTH. Honesty is one of THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in a relationship.
me and my boyfriend of a year and a half recently broke up. He told me he lost feelings and we just got boring, and also feels like since he has only experienced 3 girls (hes 20) and went right from his last relationship of 2 years (got cheated on many times) to me and him he feels like he needs to see and experience what else is out there. We broke up over a month ago. The last time we talked face to face was a little over 2 weeks ago. He saw me out the other night with another guy and it hit him hard. He is begging, and i mean begging for me back, spilling his complete heart out (hes not a guy to show emotions at all). He swears he will be there and do everything and he has acknowldged on his own everything he needs to fix without me saying anything
Now im smart, i know guys can be selfish and say whatever they can to get you back and its sad that a guy has to see me out with someone else to realize what i mean.
But i also do know that although its rare some guys can be very sincere and truely realize what they've done. My question is, is there any way to tell? Any advice for how to get back into the relationship and make it perfect without rushing it, and anything else that could help me?
i've been ignoring his calls and texts, and i just dont know how i should handle this cause i do not want to get hurt again
Guys...Girls......they are both human and sometimes they make mistakes.
I am not going to tell you what you want to hear so if you can't handle it then leave.
I bet that you are a beautiful women who deserves the right man but the question is....Is he even right for you????
jEALOUSY my friend is never good and his jealousy led him to ask for you to come back.
It is sincere but not in the right situation. For HIM to come back.....her had to BE JEALOUS.
If you get back with him....it might end good but what happens when he gets bored???? Your guy wants excitement in his relationships like jealousy........and such and it might hurt you badly which is why I tell you to be cautious.
To tell if a guy is sincere is impossible!!!! You are not a mind reader!!!!! You just have to be able to trust that person and know them well. If you can't tell if this guy is being sincere or not......then you shouldn't think about it.
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Women are from Venus.....Men are from Mars???/
well today i was talkn to my boyfriend on fb and he sent me a link .. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwD0xJrmtSM your a bitch by bowling for soup he posted it on my wall and i dont get it so i think he was calling me a bitch and that reallly upset me i wanted to go off but i waited 3yrs for him and i really dont anna mess this up ..what can i do to make this better?
I think he called you a bitch but in an affectionate way.....the song says ignoring the bitch...........that he loves you anyway and that he never wants for you to go away. Basically he's telling you're human with flaws like singing bad or something else but he still loves you anyway no matter what you are. I wouldn't take it a bad way....in fact i think it's cute. You have a cool boyfriend lol.
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I've had boyfriends and guys who liked me that I liked and there's a guy that I like that likes me too. I'm a 13 year old girl and I really like him. we text a lot and stuff and I wanna kiss him:) ive never made out or kissed anyone before. he has. he barely knew the girl and wished he hadnt kissed her. He said he wished he kissed me, he would of and that he would date me but he knows I don't want a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to date the boy I like that likes me back? but any tips and or advice on kissing really would help. :)
If you like the guy and he likes you....there is no problem sweety. The reason you are afraid to date him is because you're nervous. He really like you and wants to kiss you...so do it naturally.If you like him..then it will come and your feelings towards each-other will engage the kiss. Don't be afraid because everyone is nervous about their first kiss. Just take it one step at a time.
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I am 17 and my boyfriend will not make out with me yet, but I want to!! What do I say to him or what do I do?
If he is your boyfriend it's easy. Here are some tips.
One. Set a good mood. Some place private where you can just hangout and talk. Like movie night at his or your house on the sofa.
Second. Be inviting. Cuddle or share a blanket.It sets the mood and makes him and you comfortable and peaceful in a way.
Third. Don't go too quick. First give him and kiss on the cheek or lips. You pick. Hold his hand and play with it. It will make him feel like he can kiss you and show his feelings.
Lastly. After your first kiss which is not too much.....initiate a make out. All that matters is that its you and him.
Caution::::
If this doesn't work....i suggest you talk because there could be a problem. Either way good luck with your boyfriend.!!!
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COMMMUNICATION is key in a relationship!
My boyfriend of 2 years.. left me for partying,and drinking.. and all that crap.. he was never like that, he used to be really clean, infact he used to make fun of people and hate people like that.. i dont know what to do, i cant write much because im so shocked and devistated.. i told him icant be with someone like that, and he chose it over me.. he keeps saying he loves me but he just wants to have fun.. i told him i cant have that stuff in my life.. thats just the kind of person i am, and were muslims by the way.. so in our religion this stuff is wrong.. and he knows that really well.. but im so heartbroken.. he changed so much, you dont understand how much hes changed.. i dont know what to do..will he ever regret dropping me for this? help..
The fact of the matter is that people change. It simple. One day a person says he hates drinking...the next day he can be an alcoholic. Either way..you fell in love with the guy he was before and you have to admit it. He is not the same person anymore and you need to move on. If drinking and partying is his life which is what you dont need.......then he is not going to be in your life. You told him he had to choose and he did. He loves you but he loves drinking and partying more. I suggest you forget him and find someone that WILL put you first then anything in the world because that my dear is true love. This man is not what you need. He might regret what he did but you may never know. I know that you know what is best for you and with that i give you a goodbye.
What is Love? I always hear people sayong they love someone or something but what does it all really mean? Why do people like my parents and family say they love me? Is there actually something so ridiculous and naive out there?
Love is something that is endless to give or receive. Make you cry, think, daydream, smile,laugh and so many other things. Love can hurt...it can cure. Either way...no matter who you are .....you are born with the ability to love. Love is something we all human have in common. It is what makes us what we are as well as what we shouldn't be. It makes us do crazy things as well smart things. love is the most infinite way of showing emotion. It is life.
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I have a boyfriend whom had done many things, with disregard of respect, against me. Such as lying from the early days we had gotten to know each other to 3-4 months into the relationship. Lies regarding past relationships, calls to the ex, smoking fake weed, what he does when I'm not around, and so on. He does not tell me right away when he wrongs me. Most of the time I find out on my own search for the truth or the few times I work to make him feel guilty. There are few times he disregards my values even when I tell him he's doing it. A lot of his misbehavior has toned down since the second chance I had given him. However, so much of the actions he had done are obscene to me. We're still together but I'm not sure if I still want to be with him. There's another thing: I sort of live with him. I do have somewhere to go if we end our relationship but it would be to horrific circumstances. What do I do?
Look don't stay in a relationship because of stability. Your boyfriend does not know how special he is to have you. i mean why deal with all of this when you don't need it????? You are not being glued to the place you and him share. All I am saying is that, You need to move on and get past this. I mean you know you are not going to marry this man. If you play with fire all day, there will be one day in life where you get burned. Don't get burned. Just blow out the fire before anything happens. You are going to an unhappy and sad path. One man in your right path will show what you deserve and by the sound of this man who is deceitful and too busy getting high..its not him.
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"Theres a fire................starting in my heart...." Have you heard of it??????? you should listen!!!
P.S. He doesn't listen and he is hiding so many things....just looking through your writing, i see that you already know the answer. My advice may tell you this but you already have you answer and whatever I say might never change it. Good luck and i bid you a good path and good life with what you deserve
I have known this guy for a little over two years at work but I have been seeing him intimately and secretly for six months now. We see each other 1 day a week (thursday) because he has another full time job elsewhere. He has never missed a thursday with me and when I am not there, he panics and will text me to see where I am. He waits around my office until I show up or he will hide behind walls and jump out when he hears me coming etc. He even waits for me at the entrance of the building or will check the parking lot to see if my car is there. He doesnt want me talking to other male associates and he doesnt want me to accept gifts or treats from other guys. He said I am very special to him and that I am constantly on his mind and in his heart even though we only see each other once a week at work. Sometimes when time permits he comes over my house a few other days a week. I love him, we have never told each other we loved one another but in my heart I feel he does love me. Am I reading too much into this?
Look this man might be what you think he is. I don't want to bear bad news but a secret relationship involves secrets. He has another full time job but the question is....does he have another full time life. He hides. These actions show that he feels guilty. I mean once a week is more of a walk out to the park or a daydream rather than a relationship.What concerns me is that he is precise. To fully answer this question, i need feedback. I don't want you to get hurt but you need to test him indiscreetly. Can he see you other than thursday??????? I think you should read in to this carefully. You might be playing with fire.
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this isnt quite a long story but my ex boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago and i may sound quite pathetic but i need to get over him. i know ill always have a special place for him in my heart but me seeing pictures of him now and him with girls that he isnt even dating isnt healthy for me. i will be seeing him in august and also i dont even know how to handle that situation because i havent seen him since the last time we were together before we broke up.
i dated him for eight months and that may be nothing for some but it was enough for me and to be honest i am mature about this whole love thing. but i fell in love and i just need to know how to get over it. anything will be great advice. much appreciated.
First of all, your first love will always be in your heart because like all firsts, it sticks. I know it hurts to loose someone you cared about but when its over, you need to move on.
Eight months is a long time. Some people give others rules on how another should get over a break up. They are all ridiculous so don't listen. I have heard someone say you have half the length of your relationship to get over it but you know what forget them.
First of all , you're a girl. I know you know it but you need to realize unlike your ex your are complicated with your emotional depth. A guy is emotional but not like a girl. Just because he moved on after a month doesn't mean you should of moved on the same time as him.
Starting now i will give you some nice tips so you can just get on with your life. If you don't get over it now, you will never be able to be in a relationship again and i as girl know that is not what you want.
First of all, love is not something that you are not capable of doing. You are human therefore love. Love is endless and i will quote that. Losing a loved one under any circumstance hurts and you have been hurt. You are not pathetic. You are just human. Crying, remembering, and living is what you do. I fully trust that you will get over your break up but that does not necessarily mean that you will loose your memories.
In August when you see him, you will have a memory of your happiest moment with him come up and it is unbearable but you know what????? You can handle it. Getting over love is hard but a path well taken. You need to find your right path. A path in which looking at him with a girl will make you indifferent or at the most....less painful.
What you should do is think of your life before your relationship.At the beginning of a relationship, a honeymoon stage, you lost or gave up something that gave you happiness because you achieved something that made you happier. I believe now is the time to bring back that happiness. You need it. It could be a friend whom you lost communication with or even a sport. Something that gives you peacefulness and makes you forget.
I hate to say this but you cannot move on without ridding of everything that had to do with who shall not be named. A teddy bear, pictures, and etc. You are starting anew and with that comes new memories. Therefore lose your past and your torture.
Moving on does not mean finding a rebound. If you find a rebound to get back at him...then you will not be doing anything but hurting a innocent man who was just a bystander.
You are in high school. Not many high schoolers find their TRUE love during those four years and you have to accept that you might not be one of them. You may never know though because mysterious things happen in life.
With that i congratulate you on your new life which will be filled with happiness, indifference, less pain and a journey to finding yourself because ignoring all that haa happened to you.....you my dear are still a teenager and with that i bid you a goodbye and good life.
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love those near you because some day you might find someone to love from a distance or with indifference.
My boyfriend and i broke up.
we broke up on sunday and it was really weird how he explained it. We broke up because his mom thought we were geting to close. He said that we could still be friends, hang out., adn go on dates. He said that we could still do everything we were doing whenever we were dating but we aren't going to be dating. He still tells me he loves me and calls me babe. BUT! he hasn't called me in 2 days nothing at all. idk what to do. he broke my heart but i still want to be his friend but not with benifits im not a slut..
This guy hurt you right? Look don't be a girl that gets walked on. Technically now you guys are friends so you can date other guys. What if he calls you babe? I bet he says that to a lot of other girls. So move on to the next door and try to find another guy because this one doesn't respect you. In a relationship you need respect for each other which you don't even have. I advice you to get over this guy but be friends with him and his "moves"or whatever you call it. It will be hard if you like him a lot though. I also think you should be careful.
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when another door closes. another door opens.
I have this boyfriend and we've been going out for about a year and then this guy in my class(this guy I don't like) told all these lies about me to my boyfriend and vice versa, and my boyfriend belived them and we broke up. the guy who broke us up asked me out and I said no and he won't stop harrassing me. he even follows me and shows up at my house and stalks my family and he even threatened to kill them if I didn't go out with him so here I am dating him! what should I do to get out of it.
Look give the guy a chance. Do you know anything about him. First of all find out the reason he wants to be with you. Make him open up and see him for who he really his deep down because he might have insecurities. He maybe the complete opposite guy from what your thinking. Try to see why he is harassing you and trying to make you be together!!
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My boyfriend and I got into a fight the other night and he said, sarcastically, that I was a good girlfriend (the situation is difficult to explain-- why we were fighting) so, basically, he called me a bad girlfriend. I've been trying to find ways to be a "better" girlfriend now so we don't have this problem again.
Do you have any ideas on how I can be a better girlfriend? He's apologizing, saying he didn't really mean it and it was in the heat of the moment but I still feel like it might be true. I simply want to be the best girlfriend I can be because he deserves happiness too.
So, any tips on how can I be a better girlfriend to my boyfriend?
The only way to be a good girlfriend is be yourself. In a relationship the other person has to care about the other person so do that. It was a heated fight so your boyfriend said something he probably would never say. He feels guilty so it is not true. Don't worry so much because your being the best girlfriend you can be.
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Hi!
13 1/2 f Sorry it's long..please read?
Well, my ex boyfriend (Joseph )went out with my friend (Taylor)I warned him about her before I told him that she's not right for him she cheats on guys, she does things with guys ,and he's a strong christian and she's really wrong for him.He won't believe me though. My friend told me that she doesn't like him she's in love with this other guy ..Matt(she asked him out) and if Matt says yes she will dump Joseph.If ,he says no she'll stay with him..just for the fun of it. I really want to tell Joseph about it, but he won't listen and he'll think I'm just jealous..and I'm not. I really care about him. I think I love him. We are good friends.Taylor and I talk on the phone together and we 3 way him..she doesn't talk to him at all it's just me and him talking. We get along great. He went out with taylor because he thought I lied about taylor doing that stuff when it's true.On the last day of school we all were hanging out and he was holding her hand and putting his arm around her..it made me feel really bad. I acted like I was ok with it. I even told them that they are a great couple ..and for some reason he frowned when I said it. He gave me a hug,before we all went home. Before that he put his arm on my shoulder..wrote on my arm..lol signed my shorts. lol and my face!:) That same night him and his friend Chris called me and he said that Joseph was stuck in a tree for me. ha ha he asked me that night who my favorite boyfriend was and if it was him, and I hesitated and I didn't say it was him ,even though it was. I skipped the question. :/He also was talking dirty to me. Well, I was joking and I said " Are you a undercover model Joseph "? haha
He said " Yes. I'll give you my signature, but not on pen on paper". ;)
I said "On my face like you did today"?
He said.." Somewhere you would like it."
Than I said "EXCUSE ME"!!!?
chris said " He wants it under the sheets in his bed".
I said " I'm not THAT desperate".. lol I think I hurt his feelings when I said that. He said after that..
"...I'd only do that with Taylor anyway".
So he was joking but..do you think he still likes me?Even if it was a joke who would say something like that if they didn't really like that person? When we were going out he told me he loved me, and he told me it every night on the phone before I went to bed.When I told him that he said it back, when taylor told him that he said" uh.UHH k?:/" We had so much fun..than he started to like both of us. Taylor never talked to him at school and she got mad when he didn't talk to her...he's shy..and well he talked to me. So,I really care for him and I don't want to see him get hurt even though he hurt me. I like him and seeing my friend being so unfaithful to him make me sick. What should I do?
You care about your friend greatly so give him some space. You learn by your mistakes and he will learn from his. I know you car for him as a friends but he needs to finds out by himself. As a friends you need to know that helping sometimes is not a good idea. Around you there is a defferent world so stop trying to fix other peoples mess. It will lead you to many worse tyhings. You told him already so now just wait for him to notice your right.
it hurts, but it will hurt 10x worse when you try to fix it!! don't think too much about it because you will be part of it which is the worse idea known to man.
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" I didn't notice I loved her until she was gone"
1000s have shared this saying maybe one more will help you......
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 ½ months. If we didn’t break up sometime last year, we’d be dating for over a year. Lately, I’ve felt that he’s been kind of distant. We used to be so passionate about each other, but now we’re acting more like friends. We rarely ever kiss and we haven’t had sex in two months. I miss the old spark that used to be there, and I love my boyfriend to death. I think he still loves me, too, but I just think he’s getting bored or something. Lately, I have been a little depressed, because of all this. And we got into a fight the other day because whenever I see him, I down his vibe with my vibe. Ive been trying to make it better, but I still sense a little distance in his voice, and the way he looks at me. He’s also been getting on the computer more and drawing a lot more when I come over, leaving me with nothing to do. What can I do to take us back to the way things were?
You just need a some fireworks!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do something out of the ordinary. HJe has seen all your tricks so learn some new ones. A relationship has 3 Rs.
Right
RESPONSIBILTY
Respect
Do somthing so suprising that he drops that notebook or shuts of the computer just to be with the one he adores. You!!!
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Well i kinda got two situations here the first one is about my friend. You see she has this class with this boy that ive been liking for awhile and so do i we all are in the same classroom. But anyways latley they been kinda getting close you know and like i try not to get mad about it because she knows i like him and stuff and i kno she wouldnt do nothing to interferr with that. So about few weeks later she wa tellling stuff on what my crush been saying to her like asking her to the prom and stuff and i figure he was just playing because he just that kind of guy that plays like that. And then few weeks later after that he had ask her what would she do if he ask her out and she said no because she knew i like him and she told him that. But you see my point is this they be talking and flirting alot in class. And like at first i didnt really care but then it started to bother me. She saying she dont like him like that but if she dont then why she keeps doin the things she doing to him. I mean i dont care if they talk like friends or whatever but its like they getting closer by the min. And she does this right in fron of me both of them. And by the way the boy knows i like him and stuff. Whic leads to another situation. This boy that i like ive been liking him for awhile now and like he knows i like him and ever since he found out he be flirting with me and stuff. Which made me believe that he may like me to but then again i dont know cuz he likes this one girl or watever. ANd i was told that he dont like me. But if he dont why is he talking to me and flirting with me and stuff. Its just the things he does and say that make me believe he likes me. And whats going on between him and my friend am i over reacting or is somthing really going between them. And if he dont like me and knows i like him why does he send all the signals that make me believe he does. Im just confuse with it all.
First of all you need to seriously cool down. Don't give a guy any attention. Try one of his friends. Think about it. He's with your friends. What about his friend that maybe in your class.
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
This is a tough advice to give because you can go on it two ways. I must say you definetley hurt the guy. First of all he is sensitive so he will take certain situations like you cheating on him a different way than other guys. Not a lot of guys are sensitive so you have to be careful. In most situations like yours a girl will blow up because she wants her guy to be like most other guys like your ex.
Many people may have a high relationships from best friends to boyfriend and girlfriends. You need to know that if you care about someone you put put them ahead of yourself. You hurt the guy and now you feel guilty.
You need to analyze what you did. First you made a mistake of not talking to the guy. He cared about you so much but you have a shield. From your story I can see that you both helped eachother in hard situations, but when a complicated one came you ignored it.
You made a big mistake on ignoring it because things kept happening and your problem blew up that you did something so unforgivable to the guy. I can tell the guy was very hurt but look at this way....
You feel this awful but how does he feel you hurting him so much in addition to losing the important girl in his life. You may not know it but this is hurting him so much that he doesn't want to remember you which is hard cause if he's that sensitive then he is still in love with you.
Try letting him be a lone for a while. It will ease his pain which maybe will help him understand that losing you guys relationship is not a good idea.
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live your life to the fullest because the next day might not come.
can a girl get pregnant if a guy cums in her anal?
no a girl cant get pregnat like that because the cum is going in to her anal not vagina. pregnacy is only for with sperm and vagina so no she cant get pregnat.
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me and my bofyriend are on a break..
anyways idk i have never broken up really or stuff like that im not good with it or know the best way to act what to do but this is a long relationship and my first almost 2 years and were 18..
idk any tips?
im hoping this will make him realize more of me and how much he needs me
cause he started to take me for granted and i dont like that
so any ideas?
any personal experience
i will love you if you help me out, share stories hgive advice anything thank you!
Ok i am not 18 but i have an older sister. She reminds me of you so i will share this story. She had a boyfriend that took her for granted. She moved on and he noticed that when that person is gone you feel like you need them, but she did what was right. THE END!
So if your boy is taking you for granted then leave. Dont do anything that makes it look like your dependent on him. Hey do you remember your friends from high school. Forget about him and meet up with to talk about the old days. A week will pass. If he wants you then have a talk an show him how you really feel and not what you dont feel. He will understand but if it doesn't then think about this. There is more than one fish in the sea. There is more than one bird in the sky, and there is more that one boy you like in this world.
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WHEN SOMEONE TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED THEN LEAVE AND SHOW THEM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL.
I am in a situation where I care about my boyfriend a lot and I love him a lot but I know that I am not in love with him. I have reason to believe that he is in love with me. The thing is that I really don't want to hurt him because I know that we will not last forever but I think he thinks that we might make it through high school and stay together for a long time. But at the same time I don't want to break up with him because I DO like him. I just don't know what I should do sometimes.
Maybe youre looking at this the wrong way. You like him so dont break up with him. Just tell him you want to take it a bit slower, because youre not sure you love him. If he loves you enough he will wait for you until your true feelings show up. So tell him! I have a question for you though.
If you guys think you're not serious later after high school then why are you together? If he loves you then maybe he shouldn't be having those thoughts. It is as if he is planning something.
Dont you think?
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