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Is this man in love with me?
I have known this guy for a little over two years at work but I have been seeing him intimately and secretly for six months now. We see each other 1 day a week (thursday) because he has another full time job elsewhere. He has never missed a thursday with me and when I am not there, he panics and will text me to see where I am. He waits around my office until I show up or he will hide behind walls and jump out when he hears me coming etc. He even waits for me at the entrance of the building or will check the parking lot to see if my car is there. He doesnt want me talking to other male associates and he doesnt want me to accept gifts or treats from other guys. He said I am very special to him and that I am constantly on his mind and in his heart even though we only see each other once a week at work. Sometimes when time permits he comes over my house a few other days a week. I love him, we have never told each other we loved one another but in my heart I feel he does love me. Am I reading too much into this?
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Your not going to like my answer but this man is not what he is making himself out to be.
First I am a male of retirement age, so I have seen a lot of life. From what you have written I see two things about this man. First: He most certainly is either married or has another girlfriend(S) somewhere else. Second: He is most certainly stalking you. Stalking does not just mean seeing or following you from a far. His actions as to controlling you when he is not with you are a form of stalking and controlling. You don't need this.
Before I retired I was a salesman who was fortunate enough to have a territory that did not require much if any overnight travel. Many of the territories in the company did require overnight travel and many of the sales people left home Sunday and returned Friday. Your guy sounds like one of our salesman. If its Thursday then its Betty's night; as many of them had a girl in each town they spent the night in. Much like sailors with a girl in every port.
To me I see a guy who in my day was called a good time Charlie. He probably has a wife and family back home. He will never be the guy you want him to be for you. I could be wrong but my age and experience tells me I'm not.
Next Thursday make sure to get the license plate number for the car he is driving. Then give him his walking papers. If he continues to bother you and stalk you report him to the police and give him the plate number of the car. This way even if he is using an alias with you, even if the car is a rental, they will be able to track him down.
I wish I was wrong about him; I doubt that I am. I'm sorry if I have hurt you; though I think it is better I hurt you in this manner than he hurt you in a more physical manner.
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Look this man might be what you think he is. I don't want to bear bad news but a secret relationship involves secrets. He has another full time job but the question is....does he have another full time life. He hides. These actions show that he feels guilty. I mean once a week is more of a walk out to the park or a daydream rather than a relationship.What concerns me is that he is precise. To fully answer this question, i need feedback. I don't want you to get hurt but you need to test him indiscreetly. Can he see you other than thursday??????? I think you should read in to this carefully. You might be playing with fire.
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honey he kinda sounds like a stalker no offense...but if your in love with him then let him know how u feel whether he feels the same way back or not...never regret telling someone how you feel....if things doesn't work out then find somebody new....i wish you the best with everything(:
-maggielawson
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