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Not in love
I am in a situation where I care about my boyfriend a lot and I love him a lot but I know that I am not in love with him. I have reason to believe that he is in love with me. The thing is that I really don't want to hurt him because I know that we will not last forever but I think he thinks that we might make it through high school and stay together for a long time. But at the same time I don't want to break up with him because I DO like him. I just don't know what I should do sometimes.
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if you like him, don't break up with him. you can be boyfriend/girlfriend without being in love. love takes time and you might not feel that yet...or ever even. but that doesn't matter right now, its as simple as you said yourself, you don't want to break up with him because you like him, so don't. see how it goes from there, good luck.
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I was in this situation a few years ago except that I had been in love with him at some point but I fell out of love because the relationship got dull and I just wasn't feeling it anymore. Anyway I wanted to get out of the relationship because I felt like I was lying to him, having him think that I was in love with him when I wasn't. I knew I'd feel terrible if I broke up with him because I knew he really really loved me, and we had prom the next weekend that we had both spent a lot of money on so I figured I'd stick it out through prom and then re-think everything and maybe by then my feelings would be different and by the time prom came along everytime we kissed it lacked the chemistry we once had and he could feel it too. That next week the relationship just sort of deterierated and I broke up with him the next weekend and yes, he was devistated and I felt terrible and even considered taking him back but I knew if I had that it would make things worse. So we went our separate ways and in the end we both knew it was for the best. we're friends now and both in relationships that are much better for us.
You're going to make your own choice but this is my story and this is how it turned out. Stick it out for a little bit longer (few days, weeks, month, whatever) and just see if you're feelings change. Maybe you're just at a dull stage. You can't force yourself into a relationship that isn't right.
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Maybe youre looking at this the wrong way. You like him so dont break up with him. Just tell him you want to take it a bit slower, because youre not sure you love him. If he loves you enough he will wait for you until your true feelings show up. So tell him! I have a question for you though.
If you guys think you're not serious later after high school then why are you together? If he loves you then maybe he shouldn't be having those thoughts. It is as if he is planning something.
Dont you think?
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