My name is Heather im 14 going into high school. I play basketball and volleyball, and just enjoy partying and gettin out with my friends. Im really good on advice, like everyone comes to me. Things that are serious that i've done is helped a kid get out of wanting to kill himself. I'm realy nice and i just love to help anyone and everyone, ill try my best to help you out.
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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
Im starting to worry that i may be in that percentage range of women that never experience the pleasure of an orgasm.
Even when i masturbate, yes it feels good but nothing 'wow'
and i dont go in with the intention of having or trying to get an orgasm, mostly just to relax.
my boyfriend has tried everything, and its reaching that point that we're both feeling bad about it. I can get him off, make him cum everytime, yet he cant do the same for me. He's more determined then ever to find my 'spot' and to be able to make me feel how he feels when i pleasure him. But im worried that he wont and that he will feel not good enough.
Dont get me wrong, when im intimate with my boyfriend i dont do it with the intention of getting an orgasm. What he does, does feel really good, but yet ive never cum or anything.. Im extremely turned on and wet, so its not that im dry down there or anything. i just dont want him to feel anything less then amazing
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get a vibrator. to start put it in your clit. that should def make you go. you have to sometimes really think hard about it. when i could tell i wasnt going to orgasm i would make my boyfriend go really slow in me so it made me think about it more untill i could feel it building up then he would start giong normal. try watching porn or a movie with a sex scene. this happened to my friend too so dont worry and she finally just started having sex and having an orgasm. also you should try and get a type of creme you can get on pure romance. com or a sex store and it makes your clit more sensitive.
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Me and my boyfriend have along distance relationship, he lives in a different country. I have cheated on him twice and told him the next day and I am trying to change and I know I can. But how do i prove that to him when we can't even be around each other and hang out. (link)
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i got cheated on many times, and the trust went down the drain and there was no hope for it. with out trust, nothing will work. I always wanted my ex to reallly understand what he did, like try every day to make it up to me, talk to me let me know what he is doing at allll times, it seems annoying but it makes them feel better. send him gifts. Always talk to him. Its gonna be really hard, but if you truely want to change and prove it to him it should all work out. just put yourself in his shoes
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16/f ive been depressed for a few years but then i met this guy and it changed everything. we dated for a year and i was the happiest person alive. then we broke up and it killed me. but i got through because we were stil really close and i still saw him everyday. he just recently told me that he is moving in 2 weeks. i have cried everyday and will continue to cry everyday about this. i cant stand knowing that i only have 2 more weeks with him before he moves 15 hours away and i will probably never see him again. but the thing is, to deal with all this i burn myself with a curling iron. i dont know why i do this but it gets my frustration out and helps somehow. but people are getting suspicious since im starting to have all these burns everywhere. they are big burns too and it makes a huge hole in my skin. i have scars from this. i dont know why i do this and i need to stop now. (link)
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sounds like my life, but i do not burn myself, instead, i used to like scratch myself, or take excess amounts of drugs. My bestest friend ever, in the world. shot himself in the head. died. He would call me to run away from home, everytime he thought about killing himself, idk. everything. The pain i expereinced from that, was incredible. I had never felt that in my life, and went into a permanent depression for a couple years. still am fighting it. the feelings of depression, i understand you. its terrible. no hope at all. i wanted and thought about killing myself from days. i could not do so because i know how much my best friend fucked up me, and i had to stay strong. i miss him to death, but honestly, when your gone... your just gone.
me and my boyfreind of 2 yrs just broke up, he cheated on me, plenty of times. he was the only one who got me through that whole time, him gone kinda numbed me.guess what, he moved to florida, i live in new york. he just forgot about me... sometimes, its better to have people in your life, than not at all. i am thankful hes alive, idc he cheated on me.. i can deal with that, it happens. you can deal with your break up, it happens. i know how much it hurts for him to be gone, i really do.. but i got over it.
you have two choices.. dwell on it, get sad, hurt yourself, put yourself down.
or.. get strong. after two years i decided its rather sink or swim. things that hurt you, just try to turn your mind into thinking thank god its not this bad.. or not think about it at all, whenever your mind wanders to it, block it out. start working out, tanning, idk what you do.. but it gets a lot of pain out and anger. have a close friend to talk to, even if they dont act like they understand or care (that was my situation)its better to get your shit out. Write in a journal, cant believe it but i did.. A guy can not change your life, you can not let him.. there will be many more guys, i promise. im stil single, and lost as shit as to where i am going. If your down, get a counselor.. i went, but for me it only reminded me how much i have problems everytime iwent.
I know how much pain your going through, honestly i do. Its terible. worst thing in the world. i would rather break every bone in my body than to expeiernce the pain of depression. if you ever need anything, im here.
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How do you move on when your ex-girlfriend who cheated on you after a five year relationship, text you messages telling you how she misses you, how she misses your touch, your kiss and that we shouldn't loose contant cause she still has interest at heart for me and that she doesn't see herself sleeping with her current boyfriend because she is afraid that he won't do it like i did? (link)
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hey wow seems like my life. im a girl though, hes the man whore. alright, well this helps in all honesty. basically you got two choices, cut this clean and be happy yourself, or make your self miserable. its all on you
stop responding to her messages. no matter how mad they can make you, sad, or upset
wait. an hour, and after that,think about how she is the one who messed up, and she is the one who cheated on you.
secondly, delete every single thing that reminds you of her, pictures on internet, anything on facebook or myspace if you got it, pictures in your room, basically anything and seriously everything.
third,spend your days in thought of how she is the one who fucked up, she is the one who cheated on you, its completely her loss, not yours. and she knows that
fourth, do not answer he calls, do not ask anyone about her unless you ready
Andd.. hate to say it, she sounds like a slut. I know im not a slut, i got morals. I just ghot fucked over two months ago from my two year relationship, now he wants me back. I would never though, say i want him back because i wanna fuck him basically. disgusting
she sounds selfish, she just wants to fuck, she donest care about how you feel, not trying to be mean, but thissoudns like the truth.
and, if you fuck up once, you'll do it again.
you deserve better, idk you, haha but you honestly need to follow what ive told you... and you will be alright. just like me, you'll be happy again
cut everything off, and then only good things come your way. promise
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can you help me my boyfriend was seen flirting with another girl what do i do? (link)
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just tell him it made you a little uncomfortable and in a nice way you didnt really like it.. dont hold it in, dont think bad of it. everyone flirts, just depends how mucch and how often.. especially if your still young, let him live, and you do the same.. its life, but communicate. if he cant respect it and it truely bothers you, end it
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18/f, i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. he's always telling me how much he loves me and doesn't wanna lose me, and how beautiful i am, the whole nine yards. the problem is i have severe jealously issues, and almost ALL his friends are girls, and he is a flirt! he doesn't try to be, it's just his personality. he's not like a ladies man or anything, he only had two girlfriends before me [that only lasted like a couple months], they are just his friends, but i cant shake the issue. he is ALWAYS texting girls, and will like purposely turn the phone away from me so i cant see what theyre saying. it's not like im trying to be nosy, but that would make anyone wonder, even though he used to read my msgs when we first got together, although he says he "doesnt remember". even if he comments his girl friends, he'll say stuff like he loves their profile picture, and all his comments always have the little winky flirty face ;-). it really kills me inside, even though i know it shouldnt. i know people say "just remember he's with you and not them", and i know, but for anyone who has jealousy issues, you know it still hurts and you still wonder. he's never given me a reason not to trust him; he's the only guy i've ever dated who HASN'T cheated or used me, but i still wonder. i've talked to him about it several times, and when i do he either gets upset and says he would never hurt me, or gets defensive and says stuff like "fine i wont talk to any girls ever again!", which just upsets me more. he has every right to have girl friends and i dont want him not to, but just cant help the way i feel. i dont want to control him or know EVERY thing he's doing, but i just hate when i come across those things or he's texting his girl friends when im around and it feels like i get punched in the stomach. he was texting one last night and i kept making faces and he finally was like "do you just want me to turn my phone off?" and i was like yeah. i honestly dont think he'd ever cheat on me. ALL his friends and family know about me [if they dont actually know me] and he talks about me all the time, but sometimes i wonder if there'd be a girl who would know about me, but wouldnt care, and be trying to hang all over him and stuff. guys look at me and flirt with me quite often, but i dont have many guy friends that i regularly talk to, and i tell him EVERY THING guys say to me as far as trying to get with me and stuff, and i guess it just sux to know that he has ALL these girls for friends, and i dont really get told anything. how can i fix this? i hate that im so jealous. i always have been, and it's not always so bad, but sometimes, it really is, and i NEED to fix it. what should i do? i just cant shake it. (link)
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you really need to talk to him about it, im sure you already have, but to his face in person tell him how much it just bothers you. ask how he would feel if it was you texting a bunch of guys. but just expain, it hurts you that you flirt with them, and that also its rude that hes texting other girls while he is with you.. if it gets to the point where he cant make some kind of change to make a compromise with you, you gotta think about keeping the relationship or not.. being happy is all that matters. and if your wory constatnly and wonder.. i know that feeling, after awhile, its just not worthit.
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up and im over him in a romantic way but i still wanna be friends he hasnt talked to me sine we broke up but i wanna talk and i wanna be friends
how do i do that without seeming needy and desprate like i want him back because i dnt
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hate to say it, my boyfriend did the same thing to me. i didnt let him keep me on the back burner.. and i wouldnt talk to and or respond to him once period. i wanted him out of my life... its the way it goes unfortunately, especially if one wants to be done and the other still wants to have something, they cant keep talkin to you as friends, it makes it even harder on them and wanna move on.. its gonna take a while till you can be friends again, just give it time.. its hard but you gotta understand it. but a text now and then or message askin how hes been is prob ok
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okay, i really like this guy named Richie that i've known for awhile but one of my friends also likes him. i think that he is going to ask me out soon and i want to say yes but i dont want to hurt my friends feelings because they really like him too. i dont know what to do. plz help! (link)
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Talk to them about it, one thing i learned is if you're friends cant be happy for you than they might not be worth it. Its not like its their Ex boyfriend of course they might get a lil jealous though. hope i helped=]
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okay,i love my boyfriend to death and would do anything for him.but he drinks,dips,and smokes and i hate it.what i hate the most is that he tries to lie about it to me and it pisses me off. he wont do anything when im around him so im not worried about him pressuring me into doing it.but im worried about him getting caught,hurt,or in any kind of trouble.so my question is what can i say to make him stop? (link)
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Well obviously talk to him about it, tell him your worried and you care for him a lot. Let him know you're just trying to be there for him and you dont ever want anything to happen to him. It takes people a longg time to finally get off drugs and stuff, so slowlyy have him try to quit or lessen how much he uses the stuff day by day.=]
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ok i know this may sound like ok well i am a total weirdo or w/e but i have to know/am wondering how to prepare to makeout? like give me the total insite the total 411 (link)
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haha umm yeah dont listen to that last person. You dont really have to prepare to make out, like if you just eat food, take a quick drink or somethingg.. haha its no biggy. Make sure your breathe smells decent, once again it really doesnt matter. But when you make out, its so easy i always thought it was hard untill i did it. All you do is kiss, a couple times, then you start using some tounge, and go with the flow.=]
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Hey guys I'm 15 and my name is Jackie. There is this guy that I simply can NOT get over. I've alould myself to get hurt. Everytime I begin to sorta get over him, he says something sweet or flirty that gets me to fall for him all over. My head knows he doesn't like me, but my heart keeps getting tricked into thinking that he likes me. so anyway. I need some tips for getting over him.
thanks
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Oh girl im with you on that=P haha i get attached to guys and this guy right now ive been obsessed with him for like 7 months.. I always keep gettin my hopes up, and then he'll go chill with another girl or just like all the sudden act like he doesnt want anyting to do with me. Well we got into this fight cause i was being kind of a bitch to him cause i was just gettin sick of being so confused, and i told him how i felt like less than a week ago. Things turned out somewhat good, and idk where we'll go... but if feels amazing to finally know how he really feels.
[[You need to tell this boy how you feel]] seriously.
If hes a jerk and turns you down, then oh well then you can stop wondering what if he still likes me, and im pretty sure you can find another guy just as goood or better than him=] even though it will be hard its def. possible.
lemme know how things go!
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Hey everyone!!! I am 15 years old and I have never had a bf. I dont think that I am ugly, nor i am not antisocial. Is something wrong with me? After all, i am already a sophmore.... (link)
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ive only really gone out with two guys, ive had a few hookups but they didnt go anywhere. And really my only serious realationship was with one guy. Yeah guys like me, but im soo picky on who i go out with, maybe you're heads just tellin you to find the right guy, before you go out with anyone. I still right now dont feel like going out with anyone, even with some guys liking me, Dont worry, you'll find someone eventually i promise, try hanging out with different guyss=] hope i helped
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ok. is there any other way we can talk then on here because i think im gonna keep coming back or do you just want me to keep asking questions on here? (link)
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haha if you have AIM, get at me there.. or whatever, my screen name is brautiganh212
im like always on
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im really sorry i feel like im bugging you.but yeah i have talked to him before hes 17 and he sounds really like hes 9 but that could just be the phone you know? or just puberty. but we live like across the country. and we both have school. and he always says he wants my parents to be there when we meet too but i dont think i want my parents to be there they would be mad that i did that. (link)
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yeah the voice thing is def. something to be careful about, this kid my friend talked to on the phone for a month and on myspce he sounded like he was relaly lil and claimed to be 16. we came to a conclusion hes some lil dweeb =P No matter what you do, your parents def. have to be with you, its sooo unsafe and risky not to be, not matter what he says
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ok sorry im the same person from the online datting thing. i forgot to put something in there. ok so he like really loves me everytime ill like break up with him he'll like cut himself and stuff like that last time he went to the hospital and im scared of what will happen if i do it again (link)
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thats sweet hun, but from my experiences, never go out with someone online. My friend went out with a guy for a year from online and he was the exact same. He lied saying, his mom and brother died, hes tried commiting suicide, he cant come visit her because he moved to florida, and soo many other things. And me and my friend after a year found out the truth, his parents were still alive, he only ever had one sister who was alive, he lived in PA, and he was a totally different person than we thought. Him and his sister must be horrible, because they called me and my friend giong omg your boyfriend died. And it hurt me and my friend so bad. Theres no way he can "love" you from justtalkin to you that liil, somethings really weird about that. My advice, as hard as it may be and my friend had to do it to, block him out of your life, dont talk to him anymore or anything at all dont be like though im not talkin to you anymore, and dont read his messages. It will work, i promise. theres other guys out there for you that you can actually see and know in a relationship
goodluck
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ok so im in 8th grade and like all my friends always tell me about how they go and make out or whatever like they just tell me what they do with there boyfriends and anyways i feel really bad cause i havnt even got my first kiss. and idk why like i wonder if im just not pretty or what?idk i just need help with what to do ? (link)
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oh trust me sweetie i know gorgeous girls that are in like 10th grade that havent gotten there first kiss or anything, the day will come trust me =) try talkin to some guyss.. that you like! its not that scary as some people will make it for your firstt kiss. try hanging out with some guyss.. hopefully things will goo good. good luck hun! =)
remember, dont be afraiad to make the first move
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okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.
thankss
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Boyss! haha they're so confusing, but i know what your dealin with..this one guy i talked to over the summer was the exact same way. If you really really like him, try talking to him. Sounds like he's playing games, and girls are sometimes so vulnerable. You need to tell him you like him, but you dont feel like he always likes you, and he seems to be playing games. Dont be easy hun, play hard to get. Leave him, and see if he ever comes back. You may just be a girl he likes to get with, or maybe hes just confused with what he wants, you never know. But let me tell you, his excuses are lame, and theres something gion on with him. But mean while, try to find some other guys, hard yes I know. but you'll eventually find someone. Remember, he's just a guy.. these are things us girls will always get from them, so just expect it =)
Hope I helped, if you have any other questions just ask!
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13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it. (link)
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haha sweetie everyone is always nervous with their first kiss witha new person, i know you've been kissed before but idk if its from him lol. Once you kiss a couple times its soo easy haha no more nerves or anything.. let him know that you want him to kiss you! No matter how nervous you may look. After you kiss once you'll kiss all the time, and be completely comfortable! bestt of luck hope i helped! =)
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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well for one how old are you, if your like 14 or older then its completely like normal to want to do more than just that. Parents are always strict, but if your young it might be good. Its really cute that you guys only do that much when you've been goin out that long, its a good sign. Showing that you guys love each other because of who you are instead of what you can do. Now dont feel guilty if you guys do more, my parents were really strict about all that stuff to. But i went behind there backs and did it anyways. Yeah at first a felt guilty but honestly its between you and your boyfreind not you him and your parents. If you guys are goin to do something make sure your both comfortable and agree with it. Make sure you are completely alone, like i wouldnt do it if the parents are home. Mean while around your parents only do what you would normally do. They just care about you and dont want you to get hurt or maybe even eventualy pregnant. Trust me, almost everyones parents are like that. Just do what you guys wanna do, comfortably! I hopee i helped and good luck! =)
Well since you guys are that age and youve been together that long i think it would def. be fine to start taking things more physical. Since your parents are like always home or around you, maybe you are allowed to go to his house? if not then maybe you should try talkin to your parents...haha or be a badass and hang out with him behind there backs somewhere else. Just remember though, there's no reason for regret.. all parents are lilke that, but they should know you're growin up and you found somenoe who you can REALLLYY TRUST. Thats so cute just everything about you two how you were best friends before, i just got outta a relationship like thatt. lol but yeahh really i wish you the best of luck and hope things go well for you to!=)
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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me. (link)
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sweetie sorry to say it i believe he def. is.. Guys are assholes, and its hard to find a good one now a days. How old is this guy anyways.. Dont let him take advantage of you, and no matter how much you like this boy.. your age is pretty young, but things like this happen. Just remember, any guy who makes you feel uncomfortable or pressures you into something you know you shouldnt do, isnt worth it. Dont feel guilty just learn from your mistakess, dont let it happen againn. best of luckk
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