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i still like him


Question Posted Sunday September 10 2006, 8:22 pm





okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.

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xkristix3 answered Monday September 11 2006, 4:46 pm:
Ok. So yes that was long lol. So I think after what you have explained about this boy "Lane" that he is a jerk. I dont think you should go out with him after seeing how he acts. And that is completely rude to say you dont want to hang out with someone because of what they are wearing. He seems kinda bipolar to me. It means like sometimes hes happy and stuff and other times he is weird and jerky. So yes, my final verdict is DONT go out with him again. Listen to your best friend Taylor. Best Friends always know best. Hope it all works out!

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rikatree2375 answered Sunday September 10 2006, 11:43 pm:
Wow this sounds complicated lol. Well this guy sounds like a pretty nice guy, but think back on how he acted when he was being a jerk at the fair. I know that hurt you, but only you yourself know to what extent you got hurt. So think back on that for a second. I don't want to point out all the negative times y'all have had but if he hurt you, you need to take a step back. If I were you, I would sit him down and ask why one minute, he turned all shallow on you and then the next he wants you back. Be honest and I'm sure he'll respect that. It doesn't hurt to ask him and then atleast you'll get to understand him a little more and why he did what he did. And another piece of advice. I know you want the input of your close friends, but don't go on what they say. In a way, I'm glad they disagree because this is your choice. You need to really ask yourself if you can let go of the past when he didnt treat you right and give him another shot. This is really your call. I don't feel like I'm helping but that's all I can really do. Just talk to him. It can't hurt. And take it one step at a time! Hope that helped somewhat.

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ductape_n_roses answered Sunday September 10 2006, 9:54 pm:
PLEASE DONT GO OUT WITH HIM AGAIN.

He's your ex for a reason and he broke your heart by being a low selfish bastard. If you go out or give into him again, you're letting him walk alll over you, take advantage of you, etc. And the next time you guys go out, you guys WILL break up soon and he's gonna break your heart much worse that time!!!

He was being a jerk. He had no good reason. And then he likes you again, ditches you cuz of your outfit (I mean he likes you for you, not what you wear. And that doesn't seem to be the case with him) and then he makes out and holds your hands. Sweetie, he is screwing you up!

He's confusing you and manipulating you. He's from what I understand looks like a player. Dont get involved with him anymore and set boundries. Sure he can be your best friend and what not but not your boyfriend agian hon. Go out with another guy at your school love and forget about this boy that is a total bastard.

I've been in the same situation and trust me, the second break up and what not is much worse than the second.

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PunkieFreak4690 answered Sunday September 10 2006, 3:54 pm:
I think you should give him another chance. He sounds like one of those people who just gets confused on whether or not he needs a girlfriend. He sounds like he just wasn't sure what he liked or not.

A lot of guys are a bit like that, so don't be surprised. But however try talking to him about your likes and dislikes and tell him if he really wants to be with you, he needs to accept you for who you are. Don't let some guy change you. So if he can accept your style, or interests, then give him another chance. If he is still giving you a hard time about it, give him a little more time to grow out of it.

I hope I helped =). Good luck!

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heather21 answered Sunday September 10 2006, 3:32 pm:
Boyss! haha they're so confusing, but i know what your dealin with..this one guy i talked to over the summer was the exact same way. If you really really like him, try talking to him. Sounds like he's playing games, and girls are sometimes so vulnerable. You need to tell him you like him, but you dont feel like he always likes you, and he seems to be playing games. Dont be easy hun, play hard to get. Leave him, and see if he ever comes back. You may just be a girl he likes to get with, or maybe hes just confused with what he wants, you never know. But let me tell you, his excuses are lame, and theres something gion on with him. But mean while, try to find some other guys, hard yes I know. but you'll eventually find someone. Remember, he's just a guy.. these are things us girls will always get from them, so just expect it =)

Hope I helped, if you have any other questions just ask!

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