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Hi im a 22 yr old female and me and my girlfriend of 3 yrs have been having problems because she says we dont have an emotional connection. the problem is i dont even really know what that means. I dont know how to give her that. Its really putting a damper on our relationship. Any advice?? Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hi,
an emotional connection is not something you can force. It has to happen naturally and it occurs over time. You can't just give it to her.
An emotional connection happens when you bond with someone on a deeper level. You wrote that you have been together for three years. If she feels there is no emotional connection after all of that time, I would suspect that there is a deeper problem that you need to address with her. Maybe the two of you are drifting apart and should talk to an unbiased person.
I hope this helped.
Good luck,
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How do I know if my relationship is just revolved around sex?
18/f (link)
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Hi,
I think if you have to ask, it probably is, but try this. Try to go a few days without it and see how the relationship works and what conversation evolves from it.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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How do lesbians (or bisexual women) find other fellow lesbians? I have no "gay-dar" when it comes to women (men are pretty simple), how can I tell without asking so I don't come off as rude or disrespectful. I think I may be bisexual, but I don't know for certain because I've never had any experience with women before. I would like to find someone to talk to (not necessarily to pursue a relationship, but to consult and share experiences and advice). I am NOT willing to go to a gay club, I'm just looking for a way to approach someone about this.
Oh, and no one knows I may be bisexual, and I don't plan to come out anytime soon if I am. At this point in my life, I want to explore this part of me further, but I don't have anyone to talk to (I don't know any out of the closet gays, at least not well enough to come up to them and talk to them).
I am 18 and female. (link)
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Hi,
have to tried going online and exploring different websites or chats concerning the subject? I don't have any expert experience, but I'm sure you can find some information or someone who can relate with you anonymously about the subject. I hope it works out.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I have 2 questions. Theres this guy that really likes me and i like him a lot... on certain days, like one day i lovee him the next i don't like him, etc. He used to be like my brother but feelings grew. I was in love with my ex..his bestfriend..last year and he was basically my idea of the perfect guy. i neverr stay attracted to guys longer than about 2 weeks and i really hate it:( cause i focus on mainly all their flaws.. so my questions are
HOW DO I GET OVER MY EX AND JUST MOVE ON & forget how perfect he was and stop trying to make every guy i meet live up to his standards
and
HOW DO I LIKE A GUY FOR LONGER THAN 2 WEEKS AND NOT FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE STUFF
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HOW DO I GET PAST THAT WE UESD TO BE "BROTHER AND SISTER" (link)
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Hi,
first of all, I think that if you are not over your ex, you shouldn't be in another relationship. The fact that you are comparing him to your ex shows that you are not ready to move on yet. There is nothing wrong with that. It takes time to move on.
I don't know if it was a good idea to date your ex's best friend. It's a number one deal breaker and it never works out.
I don't think you're going to get past the brother and sister phase. He was probably like a best friend and that's why you were attracted to him in the first place. You can't make that romantic. It is also probably making things awkward between all three of you.
Take a step back and reevaluate your situation. You'll know the right thing to do. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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i met this guy named chris at a kick-back. and he thought i was 18.. so like he started talking to me and stuff.. ad we ended up kissing.. but not having sex because im a virgin and i wasn't going to give it up to him. so when he found out i was 16 he was like tripping lol. cause he's a marine and hes going to be a cop in 2 years and what happened is illegal you know. i've been seeing him every saturday for 3 saturdays straight. cause we hang around with the same people.. the second time we hung out he talked to me but like it was whatever.. his friend told me that he liked me but that i was young.. i see older guys dating underage girls all the time.. but yeah and i saw him this past saturday cause we had a bonfire at the beach and it was cold so he hugged me and when we were saying bye he slightly touched my butt.. he didnt really grab it or anything though. but we do text a lot.. but i really want to be his girl-friend.. how do i pull that off? (link)
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Hi,
you answered your question. You know what he is striving to be in life. It would be illegal for him to begin a relationship with you. He could go to jail. Is that what you really want?
You don't know him that well. There is a lot of years between the two of you. I don't think you should try to find a way to pull it off. Find someone close to your own age. That perfect person is out there. Just because other people have done it doesn't make it right.
When you turn 18, and you meet up again with him, and there's still chemistry, you can think about it then. I hope this advice makes you think about things more clearly.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I dated this guy for a year and it was going really well we got on so well. About a month ago he dumped me and I am mixed raced and he is white and he said he cant be with me eneymore becouse me being mixed raced confuses things to much and he doesnt want that I have no idea what he meant as we dated for a year and I really love him. I am begning to think I am weird. (link)
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Hi,
don't let what anyone else thinks of you cause you to think in a negative way about yourself.
I don't know what his problem is, especially since the two of you were going out for such a long period of time.
The only thing I can think of is that other people around him are getting into his head and he isn't strong enough to stand up to them, so he let you go.
I know it might hurt now, but time heals and you will get over him.
You don't want to be with anyone who can't believe in you or who you are. I hope this makes you feel better.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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Hi,
I feel that you should go for the girl who makes you feel the most comfortable. What i mean by this is go for the girl who you can be yourself with. In my opinion, that seems like Kris. It seems like you have a lot of things in common with her.
Cora is a challenge to you. She loves on the wild side and you like that, which is not unusual. It also seems like you want to live a little and have some fun. There's nothing wrong with that, but don't get into a relationship with Kris if you want to experiment with Cora.
Why not give them both a try and see which one is the right pick for you. Long as you do not have a relationship or committment with either one of them, go for it. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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14/f
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 months. It was great in the beginning like how it usually is for most people. Then you know, later its not as great but I didn't mind it after the first month. But now its kinda changing. Like we don't really talk anymore, he'll just stand by me or whatever. We don't see each other alot since we don't go to the same school. Then I'm just getting confused because he goes to another school and his friend, who are also my friend, would come up to me and say, "you better watch your guy, those girls are wow" or something like that. Then I'm thinking like, "does he still like me?" and I don't want to ask him because for one thing, I'm super shy, second, if he still says he does, it doesn't mean he is telling the truth. I'm not gullible, I don't believe half of what anyone says. Which sometimes isn't good, I know.
Now there is another side for me. Ok there is a guy at my school I think I'm starting to like, since I see him everyday its easier for me to look at him and just think these things. Hah, I wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend for anything in the world. I like him so much, its just me thinking he doesn't like me. But this guy is really nice and we talk sometimes but its short. But during the whole time I'm thinking of my boyfriend, I like him so much. What am I supposed do? Am I just thinking these things about this guy because I don't see my boyfriend often? Sorry this was long and thanks for any help! (link)
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Hi,
It's hard to have a relationship with someone at your age when you don't attend the same school.
People are going to talk all the time and have something negative to say.
You have to first ignore it and then go and have a talk with you boyfriend.
Tell him what's on your mind and demand answers. You say you are not gullible so you should know if he's telling you the truth by the way he sounds and looks at you when you ask him the question. YOur gut is usually right.
You're kind of young, leave yourself open to new experiences. If you feel yourself liking the other guy, go for it. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Hi. Im 19 and im a male.... I was wondering in a relationship do you think that sometimes it would be best to take a break from each other if you feel that your girlfriend or you know that your girlfriend still has strong feelings for her ex-boyfriend....I don't know what to do about this situation, because I really love her and don't want this to break us up....can you help? (link)
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Hi,
I just received your question. I am happy to help you.
I think the first thing you should do if you haven't already done so is talk to your girlfriend about how you feel.
Depending on her answer and if you truly think in your heart of hearts that she is telling the truth, you can base your decision.
First, if she tells you that you have nothing to worry about, and you don't believe her then I do think it might be best for the two of you to take a break so that she can get her feelings together.
It would not be healthy for you to be in a relationship with someone who is into someone else. I know it may be hard to face because of your love for her, but you would lose in the long run and if the two of you are meant to be, she will be yours anyway.
On the other hand, if you do believe her, take some time and figure out why you are so insecure. Give her and yourself a break and enjoy the relationship!
In either case, you can't force love in either direction. I hope I helped you.
Good luck with everything,
Ediemarie
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basicly im a 17 year old male. and for the past i dont know, 6 months or so, me and this girl have been i guess you could call it dating. i really don't know.lol but anyways, i fell extremely hard for her, i mean with in about 2 months i was in love with this girl. and i still am. but during the first part of jan. we ran into some trouble, and she accussed me of somethings that i flat out didnt do. so we stopped talkin for awhile. she then goes on a cruise w/ her family and from what i understand, meets this dude that shes liked, and yeah, need less to say they start goin out. and i mean she literally i feel, threw me to the curb. didnt call me, didnt say nothin to me, just left me. and I've been pretty friggin well depressed since then. i mean i cant help but think about what all that happened, how it all went down, and how happy she is with this dude. i mean man this sucks. so basicly i just need some guidance, i have really know idea what im goin do. i just want her back. i aint even goin lie. but i also dont wanna get hurt again either. so please help me out here (link)
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Hi,
my first question is why do you want her back? She's already shown you how she's going to treat you. I could be wrong but, I think she falsely accused you just to start an argument so she would feel comfortable doing what she did.
Obviously she's moved on and she's happy with this other guy. I day good riddance. She wasn't good enough for you and isn't worth your time.
I know you still have feelings for her and this may be hard to hear, unfortunately it's true.
There's someone else out there for you. Give yourself time to get over her and get back out there and find the girl for you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Hey im 17/f. Its hard to explain this situation but im going to try my best. I have that constant need to be wanted by many guys. If i dont have a "back up" i dont feel secure i guess you could say and i hate it. I feel like its an addiction i have. When i have a boyfriend i have to flirt with other guys and know somebody else likes me too. I never do anything more besides flirt because i would never cheat. Its just i have a constant need to know i could have somebody else i dont need that one person. I dont really know how to explain it. Can somebody please tell me. is this normal? Have you gone through something like this? Any advice would be appreciated! (link)
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Hi,
I don't know if it's normal, but a lot of people especially women, feel this way. It's all about insecurity. It makes you feel good to know that you're wanted by everyone. You have to get to a place where that is not needed and you are comfortable in your own skin. You feel like you have to have a back up because you don't want to be alone. You feel unworthy if you don't have a man. Most of us have been there.
You should mature out of it once you figure out that your fine with or without a man. Try and read some self-help books on the subject or talk to someone you trust about the situation. That might work.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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ok well I've had a crush on this kid and then it turned into me liking him. but from the first time we talked he told me he had a girlfriend and I was ok with that because just being friends with him would be ok for now. but then I one day he told I'd he liked me and then I just thought that he would break up with her for me. he said that he liked me but he likes her alot too. I mean I know were just sophomores in highschool but I don't know. I'm really confused because he's like the nicest guy ever and he doesn't play with girls but I just feel like giving up on this. she's a freshman but he talks to me all the time and tells me I'm cute and that he really wants to hang with me and when I asked him if this was all a joke he said I do like u, let me put it this way if I wasn't dating my gf right now I would be dating you. and I think that means he wants to date me in the near future. but I just don t want to get my hopes up and then he never breaks up with her. I need big time advice on what to do!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!! (link)
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Hi,
I don't think you should waste too much time on thinking about him. If he wasn't dating his girlfriend he would be dating you? Give me a break. The fact is that he is dating his girlfriend. What does he want you to do, sit around and wait for him to figure it out? That's ridiculous.
Be with someone who can totally be into you without any of the baggage. If he wanted to be with you, he would break up with her, but don't sit around and wait for it to happen. Sound like he just wants to keep you hangin' around. Don't do it. Enjoy your life.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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my life is crazy when it comes to guys. i can't seem to settle down with just one, so i feel the need to talk to many. ive been talking to one of the guys for over 6 months, he really likes me. and i like him too. but then again i think im falling for my best friend. also, there's new guys that come into my life. im out of control. i dont really go on dates with them, or hook up with them much. i just talk to them constantly. sometimes i hang out with them. and they do kiss me or so, but its nothing big. i think im like this because my past relationship really scarred me. i dont trust guys. but i dont know what to do anymore. help? thank you (link)
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Hi,
well at least you know why you're doing it. I say go for it. You're young, you're not looking to get married. If you feel like you want a change, do it. Make sure you try to tell whoever you're dealing with that you're not looking for anything serious. You're just trying to figure things out. That ways no one gets hurt.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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There are two really cute guys that like me and i like them but I cant decide!!! There both friends and on the same team my friends say go for the cuter one and my other friends say who you like more, but i dont know who!!! And worst of all i'm a cheerleader so i see them after school and cheer for them both how can i know who to pick. (link)
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Hi,
that is a tricky situation that you are in. Are you sure you want to come between guys that are friends? It may cause trouble for you down the line. I think that's the first question you should think about.
They're probably talking about which one is going to win you over. Most guys in that situation do that considering their age.
Whoever you choose, be cautious of the repercussions. You may be setting yourself up for heartache. Just something to think about. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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me and my best guy friend liked each other for a long time but didnt tell each other until last year. he was with his on again off again girlfriend at the time though but it wasn't a good relationship. they've been "together" on and off for about 4 years and i absolutely hate her. not because she's the girlfriend of the guy i like but
A) she makes him miserable
B) i can't stand her personality
Everyone knows that we can not be in the same room together.
anyway he finally broke up with her in october and then we got together unofficially a week later. we were together for a month(unofficially). he said i was 'his girl' and he was 'my guy' but we werent boyfriend/girlfriend. People thought of us as the married couple, just two people who are completely best friends, argue and fight but completely love each other and it just worked. we all knew we were perfect for each other and it was the most amazing undescribable relationship i've ever had. then it ended unexpectedly when he felt it was weird because we were friends. to this day his explanation feels a little sketchy. i dont know how anyone could feel weird after a month of kissing and being together daily. But thats not the point. after we "broke up" our friendship got really weird. and he was my absolute best friend so it was really hard to deal with that because i couldn't go to him like i normally would.
so now its been three months after the 'break up' and we're slowly getting back to what we used to be but he's back with that girlfriend so it's hard. i'm 95% over him but i miss him SO much. we havent hung out since november and i haven't had a real conversation with him since then either. He was such a perfect boyfriend.
he would bring me all over the place to show me off and introduce me to his friends. he would text or call me at all hours of the day to tell me he loves and missed me. he took care of me when i was sick, made me breakfast, supported me in anything i did, knew all of my favorite songs and would play them when we were in the car together.his favorite thing to do was sit on the couch and hold me in his arms for hours. not to mention his family absolutely loved me and would have planned the wedding at any moment.
For anyone who's read Twilight, he was my Edward.
So i miss him so much and all i want is our friendship to get back to the way it was. I date and go out with guys its not like im waiting for him to come back to me. i just dont know how to make our friendship better. (link)
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Hi,
unfortunately that's what happens when best friends try to make the relationship romantic. That's a chance that you take.
I don't know him personally, but he probably felt that since the two of you got along so well and cared about each other so much, you would be terrific romantically.
I guess when he felt it wasn't working out the way he thought and he didn't know how to handle it.
It becomes awkward and it's hard to get back what you had. It takes time because you've done things that friends don't do. His girlfriend may also be playing a part in this. If she knows about the two of you, it can be a problem.
I would suggest talking to him about it saying exactly what you've said here. I'm sure he misses you too and wants the friendship back. I hope I helped you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I am returning to my country late in Feb.
Girl 1
Met on family trip. Spent day together walking around town, sharing looks, smiles, going "click". My father said he could see it even while around her parents.
Lives far away, so I haven't seen her. No English, and I am a slow writer, but we've shared short "Hey it's ... Remember me?"
"Yes, perfectly, I'm well..." messages.
I told her that I wanted to see her again before I leave, and she said O.k.
I won't see her for at least a year maybe longer before I come back from my home-town.
Girl 2
Found me (Going to my town for exchange study). Said she wanted to practice English, but speaks in her mother-tongue to me. Not reaching ignition. Been around her plenty, but don't feel like I can get near her personal space. Has come over several times for dinner, but we don't end up talking about personally important things. Stagnating, and don't want to turn the basis of our relation into inviting her for dinner. Hasn't invited me to her place. Only initiated one meeting, but it was on Christmas day, to give me a present of a personally-annotated novel (which I'd joked about ages ago). Annotating it must have taken ages, but I don't know if it's a friendly "I'll help you learn" thing, or an "I like you, look what I did for you" thing.
Only free time I have to visit Girl 1 is 10-20 of Feb.
Likes me in return. I could go be with her over Valentines day, but then I am throwing the day away in relation to Girl 2. It could be the death-knell of potential I have with her, and extremely awkward if she asked me to be her Valentine.
Considering asking Girl 2 to be my valentine to see if I can make the "relation" a "relation-ship", but will become awkward if she says no, and hurt potential for development. If she says yes, I would feel terrible seeing Girl 1, but I just want to so much.
a few sure days, or ambiguous long-term potential.
What do you think I should do?
Thanks (link)
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Hi,
I think you should follow your heart and go with girl 1. It seems to me that girl 2 is a bit stand-offish. I wouldn't waste my time.
Girl 1 seems like she is definitely worth it. The fact that you don't want to hurt her is a clue. don't you think. You already have feelings for her, even if it is unclear where you are going.
Girl 2 already told you that she wants to practice her "English"?
Figure out who makes you feel happy? Who do you think about? Hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Well. Theres this guy and omg he is just amazing. But theres one problem i like him but im really confused because i talk to him on yahoo messenger and myspace etc. and like i get along with him on there more than i do in person. We dont really talk in person. And his friends told me he's gonna ask me out on Valentines Day. But idkk. How can i start talking to him in person? Because everytime i try to he just like ignores me basicalyy. (link)
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Hi,
Humm, that sounds kind of weird to me. The only thing I can think is that is just as nervous as you are when it comes to talking to you in person. A lot of people are that way. They find it easier to express themselves when they are writing. That way they don't have to give you eye to eye contact. It's just insecurity.
The only way you can do it is to break the ice and start talking. Say to him, "I guess the both of us are kind of nervous in person. That should do it and get you off to a good start. Hope I helped! :)
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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14/f
freshman
okay so im 160 and 5'4
i know thats overweight but im seriously working on it and improving. i honestly dont think im ugly,but i know im not beautiful. i get a lot of comments on my green eyes. so thats good. oh and i have brown and (with a cute haircut:). okay so my problem is last year in eighth grade i had 2 bestfriends and we stopped being friends for whatever reason i dont even know. so this year im stuck with very few friends. and i really want more, a lot more. but the thing is im super quiet and shy unless i get to know you then i cant shut up. so my first question is how can i get more friends and be less quiet and shy?!?!?
alright my second problem is i dont have ANY guy friends and i want a boyfriend SO BAD! you dont even know... so like how can i get guy friends or even boyfriends?!?! like the only guys numbers i have are reletives.. and im 14! thats rediculus...
well the only time guys talk to me is to ask me a question on school work or something because they think im smart just cuz i have glasses. but im getting clear contacts in march(:
so i mean its hard because i want all of this so bad! what do i do. and i cant talk to my mom because i dont live with her, and im a total daddys girl. and he will like chop me up and eat me for breakfast if i even mention dating (well i think) cuz he thinks im a super good girl.
sooooooo ya please help me, im desperate!! (link)
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Hi,
you sound very cute. There are a lot of young girls in the same situation that you are in. I was one of them. The only thing you can do to overcome your shyness is to be more comfortable with yourself and that takes time. You have to be more confident in who you are and have pride in that. That doesn't happen overnight. I assume this has a little to do with your insecurities about your weight. You have to stop telling yourself that you are not beautiful. If you don't think it, no one else is either.
You have to put yourself out there in social situations and just be yourself. There's nothing wrong with standing back and checking out who a person is, but put yourself out there too. Let people see the real you; show them that you can be fun and have a good time. The more you do that, the better you will become at it. You will soon be a social butterfly!
As far as guys are concerned, I wouldn't worry too much. That will also come in time. You will become more comfortable with them in social situations and friendships will form. You will find one that you like and the right one will like you in return. I hope this helped.
Good luck
Ediemarie
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Alright. This will be long. Brace yourselves. I started seeing this guy over the summer and it started out as a fling. I am a senior in high school and he is a senior in college. He lives 10 minutes away from me, but he goes to college across the country. When we first started seeing each other, both of us thought it would be just a fun hook-up thing, and nothing more, especially because of our 4-year age difference. We both thought when summer was over, that would be that, and we'd never see each other again.
Turns out, we liked each other more then we expected. We texted and messaged daily for the past few months while he was away at college, and we told each other how we couldn't wait to see each other again. A couple of weeks ago he came home for winter break. We hung out almost every day, and he even met each other's families. Plus, he wanted to introduce me to his brother and friends which I see as a good sign. We admitted to each other that we like each other a lot. He isn't one to say cheesy or corny things and he is always honest, so when he says he likes me, I know he means it. I love seeing him and he loves seeing me. The age thing doesn't phase us anymore, either.
We'd go out and have fun and we'd stay in and have fun too. We basically can't get enough of each other. He left a few days ago to go back to school and it made me sad. I even cried a little, but not in front of him. Neither of us like saying goodbye. We're still contacting and I assume we will every day just like before when he was away. He will come back in a few months for spring break and then again for summer vacation not long after. I'm assuming we will still be seeing each other throughout all of that time.
Don't get me wrong, though, we are not technically dating, like boyfriend and girlfriend. I guess you would say we are seeing each other. Maybe dating. Just not "officially". Because of this, I don't know if he is hooking up with other girls or not. He doesn't know if I'm hooking up with guys either. I wouldn't, though, and I don't think he would either. It's kind of an unspoken thing. I just... trust him. And since we're not technically dating, I guess I couldn't get mad if he hooks up with some girl anyways.
Sorry, I'm getting a little off track. The thing is, I really think I am falling for him. I have learned from experience not to put my heart on the line and jump into things, so for me to say that I am falling for him is a pretty big thing. I look at guys at my high school and i just have absolutely no interest. However, I'm going to college next year, and I want to have fun. I'm not saying I want to go and hook up with guys nonstop, but I want to have the fun college experience that everybody should have. But, at the same time, I don't want to ruin my chances with him. I'm worried that I'll decide to forget about him and have fun in college and then realize that he is the only one I want to be with. I don't think I could forget about him, though.
Also, I don't know what he is going to think when I go to college. I don't know if he will assume it is over or what. I want to stay with him but i don't want to miss out on college experiences. It's so hard! I need help. I know it may have seemed unnecessary for me to include all of that text, but I think background info. is important. Thanks so much. I appreciate it! (link)
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Hi,
I completely understand your dilemma. That's a tough situation to be in. For me, I think the first thing you should do is to get clear with each other. You can't do or assume anything until you find out where you stand. Sure, it's fun and exciting to keep doing what you are doing. However, you are right when you say that you would have no voice if he were to start seeing someone else. You wouldn't have a leg to stand on. On the other hand, neither would he if it were reversed.
You could always agree to have an open relationship, where you see other people. There could be a number of different ways to play it.
If you want to enjoy the college experience, you should; especially if that includes seeing other guys. If you really want that and don't do it, you will regret it and you can't get it back.
If it's meant to be, maybe the two of you will hook up at another time.
Like I said, whatever you decide, you have to find out if and what kind of relationship the two of you have. You can't decide anything on assumptions. You need to make an educated decision. I hope this helped you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I met a really great guy through a friend. I was on a trip and roomed with her and got to hang out with him everyday for about 3 days. Then, the next week I got to hang out with him for a whole day because we had to sing in a concert together. He was really sweet and I started to think he liked me. Whenever we were with everyone, he would talk to me and we'd kind of drift away from everyone else. We had some really good intellectual conversations, and we have a lot in common. He'd let me wear his sweatshirt if I was cold and hugged me a lot. I had only known him for a day and he asked me for my number. He goes to a different school, so I never see him, but we used to text each other. Then things went bad. There was a picture of us on facebook, and some of our friends were joking around and commenting things like, "oooohh look at the secret lovers" and stuff like that. Then one day, I log in and we're suddenly not facebook friends anymore. I think he might have blocked me? It might have because now things are awkward because of the picture? What should I do? I really miss him and want to be friends again. He was the closest thing to a boyfriend I've ever had. (link)
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Hi,
since you're not facebook friends, you mentioned that the two of you use to text each other. Have you tried that? Why don't you try that and ask him was there something that went wrong between the two of you that you aren't aware of? If there is, what can the two of you do to work it out. Tell him that although the two of you haven't known each other for very long you enjoyed and valued his friendship. See how that works out. If he doesn't respond, I would just chalk it up to something that didn't work out. It would be pretty rude of him not to respond. It doesn't seem like you did anything wrong in the first place. I hope it works out for you.
Good luck,
ediemarie
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