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missing my ex bestfriend/boyfriend
me and my best guy friend liked each other for a long time but didnt tell each other until last year. he was with his on again off again girlfriend at the time though but it wasn't a good relationship. they've been "together" on and off for about 4 years and i absolutely hate her. not because she's the girlfriend of the guy i like but
A) she makes him miserable
B) i can't stand her personality
Everyone knows that we can not be in the same room together.
anyway he finally broke up with her in october and then we got together unofficially a week later. we were together for a month(unofficially). he said i was 'his girl' and he was 'my guy' but we werent boyfriend/girlfriend. People thought of us as the married couple, just two people who are completely best friends, argue and fight but completely love each other and it just worked. we all knew we were perfect for each other and it was the most amazing undescribable relationship i've ever had. then it ended unexpectedly when he felt it was weird because we were friends. to this day his explanation feels a little sketchy. i dont know how anyone could feel weird after a month of kissing and being together daily. But thats not the point. after we "broke up" our friendship got really weird. and he was my absolute best friend so it was really hard to deal with that because i couldn't go to him like i normally would.
so now its been three months after the 'break up' and we're slowly getting back to what we used to be but he's back with that girlfriend so it's hard. i'm 95% over him but i miss him SO much. we havent hung out since november and i haven't had a real conversation with him since then either. He was such a perfect boyfriend.
he would bring me all over the place to show me off and introduce me to his friends. he would text or call me at all hours of the day to tell me he loves and missed me. he took care of me when i was sick, made me breakfast, supported me in anything i did, knew all of my favorite songs and would play them when we were in the car together.his favorite thing to do was sit on the couch and hold me in his arms for hours. not to mention his family absolutely loved me and would have planned the wedding at any moment.
For anyone who's read Twilight, he was my Edward.
So i miss him so much and all i want is our friendship to get back to the way it was. I date and go out with guys its not like im waiting for him to come back to me. i just dont know how to make our friendship better.
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If you are in highschool, you should know that most relationships won't last anyway. I'm not saying ALL of them don't, but for the most part there is always something getting in the way. So, when he found this girl and got together with her for 4 years, that is probably something that is never going to change. He might break up with her, but it probably won't be long until he goes back to her. Just think, if he broke up with her to go to you, why wouldn't he do that to you to get with another girl? Once a player, always a player. He might not even start talking to you again until he decides he wants a break from the other girl. However, I think it is great that you are trying to explore other possibilities. You will eventually find the right one.. it just takes time.
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Hi,
unfortunately that's what happens when best friends try to make the relationship romantic. That's a chance that you take.
I don't know him personally, but he probably felt that since the two of you got along so well and cared about each other so much, you would be terrific romantically.
I guess when he felt it wasn't working out the way he thought and he didn't know how to handle it.
It becomes awkward and it's hard to get back what you had. It takes time because you've done things that friends don't do. His girlfriend may also be playing a part in this. If she knows about the two of you, it can be a problem.
I would suggest talking to him about it saying exactly what you've said here. I'm sure he misses you too and wants the friendship back. I hope I helped you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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