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my boyfriend of so far 2 years wants to get married really bad because hes a marine overseas and he wants that relationship before he goes out to war. but the thing is since i dont see him alot, i dont know how he would act in everyday communication. my dad puts my mom down everyday throws things at her and fights with her every moment, but tells her he loves her.im afraid of getting into one of those relationships. what do i do? (link)
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Just because you two have been together for 2 years doesn't mean you should by any means rush into anything that you are not comfortable with. If you do not want this, then do not force yourself into it. If he loves you enough, he will let it go and respect your choice. If not, obviously he is only thinking about himself. I would sit down with him face to face and have a serious conversation about this. Tell him that you are having doubts and you don't want to regret this in the future. Maybe when you get to know him more you will reconsider, but right now is not the best time. Also tell him that you are scared of having a relationship like your parents and the distance between you two might not work out. Again, if he loves you then he will respect that you are not ready and he will not continue pressuring you.
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Does anyone know this song? It used to be my favourite song a few years ago except I never found out what it was called. Please help cos I love the lyrics...
This is all I remember from the song:
"There will be no white flag above my door, cos I'm in love and I will..........."
Sorry that's all I can remember cos it's been a while since I heard it last.
If you don't know this song, but you know a website where I can submit these lyrics and find out what the song is, please give me the link because that would be just as helpful.
Thanks xx (link)
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http://uniqme.multiply.com/journal/item/85
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so im 18/f looking to get a new job because the one i have now i barely get any hours and business is soo slow [im a waitress & have been at this place for 2 years]. i picked up applications for Outback Steakhouse and Taco Mac and i have a couple questions.
1. is it really necessary to attach a resume? i guess it would look good but that seems really professional just to be applying for a job as a waitress. so is it ok not to have one?
2. it asks when i would be available to start, and i put after two weeks notice at current job. would that make them less likely to hire me? both places said they're hiring, but neither one is like in demand & needs someone RIGHT NOW kinda thing. but is that ok to put? because that's what i would need but that seems like it would lower my chances a little bit.
3. one asks how long i plan to work for them and i put August 2009 because that's when i will leave for college but should i just leave that blank? my mom said they probably wont put the time and effort in hiring me if im just gonna leave then but either way it's inevitable that i'd have to leave so i dont know if i should put it or not.
4. one also asks the minimum amount i need to make per month or per week. i mean i dont know? it asked for expected hourly pay rate and i put flexible, so what should i put for minimum per week?
5. i was told to come back and drop my application off with the manager, so when i do, what should i say/ask?
the job i have now was easy to get, i just filled out an application one night when my family was eating there, gave it to the owner, and they called me. i didnt have to really try and the application was to the point, so that's why im confused now ha.
im hoping that they'll like the fact that i have 2 years of experience and that will help me get hired, do you think so?
also has anyone ever worked at Taco Mac? if so, could you tell me about it? was it hard/easy? did you like it? are tips shared? etc. anything like that you can tell me would be great.
thanks, i will rate =] (link)
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1. Attaching a resume is very important and it makes you look very professional, therefore, I would definitely add one. Especially if it says a resume is optional, it will make you look good if you took the extra step to have one.
2. No, it would not.. when you go for your interview they will probably ask you why you are quitting your old job though so I would have an answer for that. I would just tell them at your interview that you can start when they need you.
3. I would leave that part blank and either tell them in your interview that you will be leaving for college in the summer - or just don't tell them at all and let them hire you and quit when you are ready in August.
4. It's up to you - but I would leave it blank and discuss it later. Depending on experience and what you made at your other job, they might give you more. So why settle for minimum wage or what everyone else is getting if you could be getting more? You never know until you talk to them more about it.
5. Do as the directions say and go to the manager. Ask him/her any of the questions you have.. or if you are confident they will call you and give you an interview then I would wait and ask questions then. It might be a good idea to ask about the tips shared thing and the money situation and stuff. Be polite, but be yourself.
It will be important to give a good resume and let them know that you have experience. However, with 2 years of experience, I'm sure you will be fine. Good luck!
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15/f
Well i am sorta talking to this guy. He supposedly like me a whole lot so i am getting to know him better to see if i like him and see if we would ever date. He texts me everyday and we talk a lot. Today is the first day he hasn't texted me or called. We never had a fight or anything, so i don't know what's up. We said goodnight last night and the said he would talk to me today. He ususally texts me in the morning but today he didn't. Now i am wondering why he hasn't texted me. Any suggestions or reasons why?? thanks! (link)
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I'm sure it doesn't mean anything.. he was probably just really busy today and didn't have time to talk. Since you guys aren't "officially" together, I wouldn't let him know that you are worried about this. A lot of guys I know get annoyed when girls are constantly worrying about where they are, especially when they aren't their girlfriend. But of course, that is just a suggestion :) hope I helped!
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My parents and I are constantly fighting. There saying now they are going to kick me out (I am 18 so they can). Right now there saying I'm just going to go stay a couple of days with my sister until things calm down. The issue is, I'm worried about my school work. My parents are telling me that they don't care. What do I tell the teachers if they ask why I was gone? Plus I have this huge project due and the teacher has already extended the deadline for me because I was out sick last week. I really don't know what to do... Please help? (link)
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. All I can say is, if there is absoultely NO way you can get to school / get your project to school on time (maybe email it to her?) if you can't email it and you can't get to school, I would e-mail your teacher and tell her that you are having a family issue/emergancy and you cannot be there and ask what she thinks you should do.
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I have moved to a new place less then a year ago. I'm a student in high school. I hate it, because I can't make any close friends here, or friends that I can hang out with. I am pretty shy, and its hard for me to connect with other people.
How can I change this? What should I do? (link)
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It might help if YOU take the initiative to find people to hang out with. Go up to people and say hi. You might surprise yourself and find someone you like. Maybe find a club or sport or another activitiy to do - those are always good ways to meet people as well. It will be easy if you find people with the same interests as you because you will be able to relate to them more. You should definitely get more involved with sports or clubs or other activities though.
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16f
i have a guyfriend and we're really close and all (like really close) except whenever i tell him something just randomly, he says i am overreacting / overanalyzing the situation.
it really pisses me off. it's just my personality. i don't want to tell him to stop because then he'll never tell me when i am actually overanalyzing something and he'll just be thinking it. i'd rather he be honest, but it's just annoying.
what should i do? should i just not tell him stuff... ? it just hurts cause like. it's just how i am. i'm a girl. girls overanalyze everything. (link)
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Definitely talk to him about it.. I don't know what type of a person you are, or whether you would be comfortable talking in person, but usually that is the best way to go. Talking in person is much more honest and I would honestly tell him whatever is on your mind.. I guess in this case it would just be that it is hurtful and annoying to you when he is constantly telling you that you are overanalyzing anything and it is just you being you. If he wants a fake girl then I am sure there are plenty that he can find out there. I think you should start being more open with eachother and try talking about things that you don't normally talk about with eachother so maybe you can get to know eachother/understand eachother a bit more. I would ask him why he feels this way. If it is your personality then you should not have to change your ways for him so either find a way to try to compromise with him or break up. I know nearly nothing about each of you but maybe this has something to do with a trust issue? If so, communication is definitely key here and you should definitely take my advice above and talk more.. especially about things you don't normally talk about. I know that girls like to always know where a guy is, and some of them even blow up the guys phone every 5 minutes wondering where he is. If he is getting upset about that, he is probably right. You should have enough trust in him to let him do what he wants and not have to worry about whether he is cheating on you. However, he needs to earn that trust and you will only get that if you raelly get to know him better. Also, I do agree that all girls DO overreact/overanalyze things so he should be prepared to find that in girls. They are also very dramatic and some are pathalogical liars, is he going to point that out to them every single time they do something of their own nature? Just a thought.
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Well i went to my friends birthday party, it was her big FIFTEEN...Her ex started being really friendly with me and her at the same time except he kept on touching me around her and sometimes not around her...he once dated her and she kept getting close to him..he wanted to keep touching me..she thinks he likes me and she says she won't care if i date him..is that true?\
She still acts like she likes him..also, idk if he is trying to make her jealous or something because he did a lot right in front of her...PLEASE HELP!?? (link)
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I know I don't personally know your friend or anything but she is most likely like the average teenage girl which means she DOES CARE, even if she says she doesn't. Girls tend to "hide" their feelings because they don't want to rain on their best friends parade, which is most likely what she is doing to you. Either she is trying to get over him (for real) by saying that she doesn't care anymore, she thinks that you like him and she is trying to hide her feelings so you can have him, or he likes you and she doesn't want to seem like an idiot to have him not have the same feelings towards her. Your job is to decide which means more to you: keeping a friend, or having a temporary boyfriend. I know the mentally of many girls is "oh my friend will get over it.." which is probably true, but just think of what your reputation might be if you DO go out with him. Your friendship might not be the same with either of them if you do pursue this relationship and this relationship probably will not last anyway so what is the point of risking it? However, it really is your decision.. those were just a few suggestions to think about. Also, another point to add: if he skipped around from your friend to you, don't you think that he would go to perhaps another friend of yours or even back to her once you guys are broken up? (Not sure if that made sense haha) but I would just seriously consider those suggestions before you make your decision.. choose wisely..
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my best friend has been going out with her boyfriend for about 2 months. this is her first serious boyfriend - shes 16, and im happy for her. only thing is, she is head over heels for him, but its really obvious he doesn't like her like that. i am NOT jealous, i would never date a guy in the same species as this one, haha, but im not the only one who has noticed the apathy on his part. she sets up all the dates, she asked him out, and he doesnt even hug her when they say goodbye! theyve kissed but to me it seems like a formality on his part. -i a really intrapersonal person, i can pick up others' feelings easily, but even my other friends notice-
also, she invites him everywhere when we have girl time. like, when its just her & me, its normal, but whenever she invites a handful of friends over, all girls, he has to come, too. i dont mind once in a while but its getting rediculous. he's obviously never had a girlfriend before (not to be mean but hes really nerdy and quiet, im not prejudiced against that type of guy 'cause i like shy guys haha but quite honestly he's just... boring) and is just riding the wave.
even worse, she kinda acts different around him. i mean obv girls act dif around their boyfriends but when all her girl friends are hanging out and he happens to be around, her attitude completely changes and shes not as fun anymore.
i dont know what to do. if i brought up the whole not inviting him places things, she might get mad at me, (i wouldnt blame her). also i do not want to be the one to tell her [and i dont think i should tell her... even though if anyone should, it would be me] he doesnt like her and break her heart. should i just stay out of this? if it was me, though, i'd want her to tell me.
opinions? thanks so much. (link)
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I have had so many problems like this so I can definitely relate. I can tell you, if she is anytihng like my friends, telling her will not do any good. Sometimes you just have to let the person make their own mistakes, even if it annoys you. She probably will get mad at you if you say anything just because she might take it as "jealousy". In her eyes, this is her chance for happiness because it is the first time she has REALLY had it with anyone. When teenage girls get involved with guys, that is always all they can think about - like it or not. They even tend to ditch their best friends for their boyfriend which believe me, it sucks, but they your friend will eventually wise up and realize she made a bad choice. She will get to the point where she will realize that either there are better guys out there or she will get tired of running/chasing after someone who doesn't care. She will especially get tired of having to do all of the things that guys should be doing for girls. Until then, just be her friend and be there for her. She will realize it soon enough..
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I've heard this song alot lately and I really like it. So I was wondering if anyone knew what it was called or who it was by. Sorry, these are the only lyrics I remember:
I was hit by a bus
I was hit by a train
I've got no where to run
I think I'm going insane
I'm not sure if these are the correct lyrics, but this is all I can remember from the song.
Oh and if it helps this is sung by a female.
If you don't know the lyrics but you know a website where I can type them in and find possibl songs please tell me them too.
Thanks, Michelle xx (link)
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buses and trains by bachelor girl?
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(this isnt very long) so 17f and play basketball. well my mom is so consumed with work and everything, its kind of effecting her. she just got a job, and ever since she has changed a little. for example, on my bball team(second year im on it) theres some new people, one girl is a complete bitch, and doesnt cheer for anyone, never has a smile on her face, and yet gets played all the time (more than me and we are both really good players.) well the other day i found out she gave me errors on a stat sheet all the girls have to fill out, and i wasnt even playing! my mom was livid. a day later I over heard my coach talking about how she brings all the energy to the team (i wasnt even ease dropping, i litterally walked past her to go on the court.)i told my mom and said NOT to tell anyone, and not just that, but the girls mom complains about her daughter not getting playing time, when she plays all the time! so my mom went up to the coach privately, and told her everythinggg that happend, including how i overheard the convo. Im so embarrassed, and feel so akward now, my mom wont listen to me when i try to talk to her about how i feel about it. i just dont feel as though i can trust her anymore, help? (link)
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I know it seeems embarrassing now, believe me that has happened to me so many times. You just have to let it go and realize that your mom did it because she thought she was helping you in the best way she could. It might be a good thing that she did say something because now the coach might look at you more. All you have to do is keep working hard in practice because the coach will be looking for you. When he realizes that you two can either play together really well or you are better, he will start playing you more. If she gave you errors then you should do the samee to her :) and about your mom, she just has a lot going on with her work- especially with this bad economy. Just try to remember that like you, she has so much going on that she doesn't always have time to give you full attention. This will teach you to become more independent and responsible so it could come to your advantage. I don't really know the type of relationship with your mom or how your mom is but maybe you could try to ask her if she wants to hang out sometime when shes free since you never do during the week. It might help your relationship since you feel like you are drifting apart. One more thing, in a few years, none of this will even matter so I wouldn't even worry about her talking to the coach. It might not seem like it now, but you will eventually look back on this and laugh.
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me and my best guy friend liked each other for a long time but didnt tell each other until last year. he was with his on again off again girlfriend at the time though but it wasn't a good relationship. they've been "together" on and off for about 4 years and i absolutely hate her. not because she's the girlfriend of the guy i like but
A) she makes him miserable
B) i can't stand her personality
Everyone knows that we can not be in the same room together.
anyway he finally broke up with her in october and then we got together unofficially a week later. we were together for a month(unofficially). he said i was 'his girl' and he was 'my guy' but we werent boyfriend/girlfriend. People thought of us as the married couple, just two people who are completely best friends, argue and fight but completely love each other and it just worked. we all knew we were perfect for each other and it was the most amazing undescribable relationship i've ever had. then it ended unexpectedly when he felt it was weird because we were friends. to this day his explanation feels a little sketchy. i dont know how anyone could feel weird after a month of kissing and being together daily. But thats not the point. after we "broke up" our friendship got really weird. and he was my absolute best friend so it was really hard to deal with that because i couldn't go to him like i normally would.
so now its been three months after the 'break up' and we're slowly getting back to what we used to be but he's back with that girlfriend so it's hard. i'm 95% over him but i miss him SO much. we havent hung out since november and i haven't had a real conversation with him since then either. He was such a perfect boyfriend.
he would bring me all over the place to show me off and introduce me to his friends. he would text or call me at all hours of the day to tell me he loves and missed me. he took care of me when i was sick, made me breakfast, supported me in anything i did, knew all of my favorite songs and would play them when we were in the car together.his favorite thing to do was sit on the couch and hold me in his arms for hours. not to mention his family absolutely loved me and would have planned the wedding at any moment.
For anyone who's read Twilight, he was my Edward.
So i miss him so much and all i want is our friendship to get back to the way it was. I date and go out with guys its not like im waiting for him to come back to me. i just dont know how to make our friendship better. (link)
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If you are in highschool, you should know that most relationships won't last anyway. I'm not saying ALL of them don't, but for the most part there is always something getting in the way. So, when he found this girl and got together with her for 4 years, that is probably something that is never going to change. He might break up with her, but it probably won't be long until he goes back to her. Just think, if he broke up with her to go to you, why wouldn't he do that to you to get with another girl? Once a player, always a player. He might not even start talking to you again until he decides he wants a break from the other girl. However, I think it is great that you are trying to explore other possibilities. You will eventually find the right one.. it just takes time.
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best way to say something about a very good friend of mine i've been dating intermitent like one day he acts cold fish the next one we're making out and so on..so what do you people think..i cant easily tell him in person cause we dont hang otu that much on our respective houses we go to the movies very often so its not like im gonna say something like asking were we're standing in the middle of the movie..but if i ask him on msn or soemthing..i think he would be more honest cause you know its easier t o type than to actually articulate the words cause i want to say 3452435 things and i know that in person that i wont be able to do ...so i dont know exactly how can i ask him (link)
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I know it might be very awkward the first time to come out and say what you're feeling in person, but it might be the best way. I would just tell him that you really want to tell him how you feel and go from there.. even if he gets upset, I'm sure he will get over it. If he doesn't, then that is his loss, not yours. If you still aren't comfortable telling him in person, I would "IM" him or tell him over the phone. Just tell him that you really want to talk about something that has been on your mind for awhile now and ask him if there is something bothering him or if he would like you to leave him alone because you are seeing mixed signals from him.
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