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am i like them?
my boyfriend of so far 2 years wants to get married really bad because hes a marine overseas and he wants that relationship before he goes out to war. but the thing is since i dont see him alot, i dont know how he would act in everyday communication. my dad puts my mom down everyday throws things at her and fights with her every moment, but tells her he loves her.im afraid of getting into one of those relationships. what do i do?
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Just because you two have been together for 2 years doesn't mean you should by any means rush into anything that you are not comfortable with. If you do not want this, then do not force yourself into it. If he loves you enough, he will let it go and respect your choice. If not, obviously he is only thinking about himself. I would sit down with him face to face and have a serious conversation about this. Tell him that you are having doubts and you don't want to regret this in the future. Maybe when you get to know him more you will reconsider, but right now is not the best time. Also tell him that you are scared of having a relationship like your parents and the distance between you two might not work out. Again, if he loves you then he will respect that you are not ready and he will not continue pressuring you.
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honestly, my parents used to be the same way, and the word "marrage" scares me.
uhh, don't do anything you'll regret. in my oppinion, i doubt he'll do anything oversea's.
it's really a type of trust thing.
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dont let your bf presure you into doing something you dont want to do. if you dont want to get married yet tell him but dont let your parents relationship influence your decision and your love life. my parents rarely get along and it has kinda turned me off to love and marraige and all that but its not right. this is your decision follow your heart but also lisen to your mind. good luck
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Don't get married if you don't want to. If the time is not right, just tell him that. If he loves you, he should understand that and respect it. Not all marriages are like your moms though. Well hope this helps!
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I understand why you don't want to get
married right now. You simply don't know
him good enough yet. Sounds silly since
you've been dating 2 years, but daily...
or at least almost daily seeing each
other is a good way to get to know what
they are like.
Getting married before he leaves is not
a good idea. You have some doubts and
until those are gone, don't do it. He
won't be around every day while overseas
anyway. A married relationship at this
time isn't much more than what you already
have. Wait until he is home, and then get
to know him better. :)
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It sounds like your father has temper problems. If you can compare your boyfriend to your father in a bad way then he's not what you want. Don't marry him unless you are 100% ready. As far as the everyday communication goes - you could write him a letter every single day and I'm sure he would very much appreciate that. You're very brave for going through your loved one leaving for war. Good Luck!
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