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I have moved to a new place less then a year ago. I'm a student in high school. I hate it, because I can't make any close friends here, or friends that I can hang out with. I am pretty shy, and its hard for me to connect with other people.
How can I change this? What should I do?
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Get involved in after school activities such the art club or any other activities you like. This may sound stupid and from a magazine but it helps you reach out way better. You could also try just being yourself and going up to people and just start a conversation. Sorry i couldn't give better advice.
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yes it is really hard being the new kid...but no worries. if you enjoy any hobbies or sports join a few, connect with people of the same interests as you. i suffered from the "shy-ness syndrome" too, but meeting the people who you can truelly connect with you can change that completely, now i cant shut up...
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thats really hard. just try being friendly to people. talk to the kids in your classes. ask them questions and listen to their responses, show that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say. just be nice to everyone and people will like you :) you just need to put yourself out there a little more. good luck!
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It can be really hard to make new friends. And feeling lonely can make you feel frustrated. But no matter what, do not give up.
I know you are shy, but try your best to muster up some boldness and just start talking to people. I had the same problem when I was in high school. So I would look around me in class and decide who I wanted to talk to. Them I would compliment something that person was wearing or doing. People love it when other people compliment them. For example, just say, "I love you necklace, where'd you get it?" or, "Your hairstyle is really cool, I get mine done at the salon on Main street, where do you get yours?"
Just any question you feel comfortable with. Then you can just go with the flow of the convesation from there.
If by some chance the person doesn't want to talk to is rude or whatever, don't take it personally. Just forget them, walk away with confidence, your head held high, and go talk to someone else.
It will be scary, but you can do it.
Let me know how it turns out.
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It might help if YOU take the initiative to find people to hang out with. Go up to people and say hi. You might surprise yourself and find someone you like. Maybe find a club or sport or another activitiy to do - those are always good ways to meet people as well. It will be easy if you find people with the same interests as you because you will be able to relate to them more. You should definitely get more involved with sports or clubs or other activities though.
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I moved to a new place as well and had trouble making friends, however I did make a few within a few months. I didn't stay long, though. Since your shy, just try to talk to people that you know are nice and you have a few classes with. Just say hi, and pretty soon, since they know your sorta new, they'll ask you where your from and how you like it here. From that point it goes pretty naturally. If you smile and look really open, more people will talk to you, too. :) Good luck and I hope you make a lot of awesome friends.
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