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I've been friends with this boy since I was in kindergarten and we were really best friends all the way up to 6th grade. Last year, naturally, we weren't as close but we remained good friends. Now, I understand that because I’m a girl he doesn't feel completely comfortable being "best" friends like in kindergarten due to horny 14 yr old boy issues, but I still believe we can be friends. He's into this blond (the hottest girl in school) and has ditched me to spend time with her. He knows he's not going to date her; he just hangs around her because she's hot. He knows she's a (in his own words) "a dumbass". She's also unpleasant and arrogant. Not to mention slightly narcissistic. So anyway, he’s ditched me. He doesn’t talk to me. He doesn’t even look at me when I say “hi”. He’s made me almost non-existent. I can understand him not wanting to spend time with another girl and ditching her for “the blond” but what about a friend? He barely ever even considered me a girl before anyway. He always thought I was a lesbo, and a total guy. (Ugh, I’m not getting to the point.) So here’s the question. He didn’t ditch his guy friends for the blond but he ditches me. I’m hurt and miss him. Why did he ditch me and not any of his other friends? Is it because I’m a girl? I can’t think of any other reason and I know for a fact it’s not because he’s tired of me as a friend. During our school trip to Monterey, he sat next to me constantly for hours on the bus, on the plane, during meals, ect. We talked, laughed, flirted, ect. For hours! So why does he choose to ditch me? I really don’t understand and feel very hurt by being pushed aside.
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Hey,
I'm shocked at how close of a situation this is to my own. I am absolutely serious - we weren't friends past 5th grade. BFFz, ignores me now. Only difference is that he told me he liked me (back then) and we never had the chance to talk, flirt, etc...in the present. Enough about me. Just saying, I seriously know what your talking about. To be brutally honest, it may be because you don't fit his current "image". His friends may disapprove of you and they may have told him to ditch you. He may be afraid that if he hangs out with you, then this "blond" will think he likes you and get all 14 year old girl on him. (I am the same exact age btw) I can't generate anymore theories...probably because the situation basically is my own. If you want to talk more, I'd be glad to! Just message me. :)
-WiseRose
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I have moved to a new place less then a year ago. I'm a student in high school. I hate it, because I can't make any close friends here, or friends that I can hang out with. I am pretty shy, and its hard for me to connect with other people.
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I moved to a new place as well and had trouble making friends, however I did make a few within a few months. I didn't stay long, though. Since your shy, just try to talk to people that you know are nice and you have a few classes with. Just say hi, and pretty soon, since they know your sorta new, they'll ask you where your from and how you like it here. From that point it goes pretty naturally. If you smile and look really open, more people will talk to you, too. :) Good luck and I hope you make a lot of awesome friends.
-WR
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