Ask sftball33!

Advice Column | Ask a Question | View Feedback |

About sftball33



I love awnsering peoples questions I hope to hear alit about peoples life when I grow up like a phychiatrist. So let me help and I'll do my best.

Ask Me For Advice
View Feedback
Make Favorite Columnist

Member Since: January 25, 2009
Answers: 39
Last Update: August 12, 2012
Visitors: 2305



Advicenators.com



f/young teen
any tips you all have on:
flirty comments
was to break the touch barrier
flirty moves

and the like! thanks, xoxo hallagal

Ok well i like to almost be sarcastic with a nice twist though...if you get my vibe i feel like it catches them off guard and they come back for more...also just putting your hands on them sometime in like a flirty way and oh eye contact definitely shows them you're really listening to them. I dont really know if you'll like any of my tricks but heres some websites i found and thought to be helpful
:) Goodluck my friend!

http://www.seventeen.com/love/advice/best-flirting-tips
http://www.datehookup.com/content-flirting-tips-for-girls-and-guys.htm
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/flirting-tips-for-girls-how-to-flirt-with-a-guy.html

[view]


how can I delete messages that are appearing on my spotlight search.

I just looked this up on google and heres what I found :D


http://ipod.about.com/od/iphonehowtos/qt/Deleted-Iphone-Sms-Messages-Still-Showing-Up-What-To-Do.htm

Goodluck :*

[view]


ok well you guy are gonna think im like the craziiest person in the world :s but i NEED advce kaay well about a year ago my friend introduced me to justin bieber (not in person like she showed me his songs) and i really liked his music but lately ive been obssesing over his songs i listen to him ALL day and ALL night im always daydreaming of how it would be if i were to ever meet him and if he liked me and we started going out ive never really liked a famouse person this much and its kinda silly cause its gotten to the point were after my day dreams i start cring cause i know that ill NEVER be able to get even close to him or meet him in person and even if i did have my dream of comeing face to face with him and telling him how i feel i know that im just waaaaaaay to ugly for him to even be the least bit intrested :(( ( heres a pic of me -----> http://i784.photobucket.com/albums/yy121/EmilyAn007/188705_108547272561521_100002187478226_80259_1924690_n.jpg)

soo plzzz just give me any coment of what i should do to just get it over wiith!

Don't worry girlfriend ahah this is just a teenager thing you will get over it as soon as the next "justin bieber" comes along. But if you at least want to be somewhat by him.......Go to a concert :o :o :o imagine that. You can accually go by tickets to see people preform. Ya don't freak out I'm in love with Alex Pettyfer.....never gunna happen.

[view]


F/15
Ok, so I finally got the boyfriend I've been wanting since I was a little kid. He's amazing and I'm so glad to be with him. But I'm having an issue. He's been acting like he likes a very good friend of mine (we'll call her Olga). I've only been dating him for three weeks, but he's been hanging out with this girl a lot lately and its bothering me. I have a good reason for it too... let me explain the whole thing.
This is a long story, sorry. Ok so originally, my boyfriend was dating this girl, we'll call her Penelope. I was really close with him at this time and to be honest, I liked him even though he was dating Penelope, who I was friends with. I couldn't help it... He's an amazing guy. I was guilty about it, don't get me wrong, but... yeah.
Then after two months, Penelope broke up with him. I was texting him throughout the entire thing (yeah, she broke up with him through text-very unexpected) and helping him through it. I wsa NOT thinking about a relationship with him at that time, I was focusing on getting my two friends back together. Once I figured out she was sure she was over him, I tried helping him get over her, not cuz I wanted to date him, but because he was obsessing over a girl who didn't like him.
Two weeks after the break up, he started telling me about how he sorta wanted to go out with Olga. He said she was the type of girl he liked. (He didn't say it, but shes smart, absolutly gorgeous, a talented musician, and always looking perfect and cute and all). And I was really hurt by this, but I tried to hide it.
I dealt with him talking about this girl for a month, and then he asked me if there were any girls he should think about going out with, and I told him I thought he had already decided he wanted to go out with Olga. He said Olga would be a nice girl to go out with, but he hadn't made any official decisions. He told me he wanted to know who liked me so he could find out who he liked. I told him he should focus on who he liked and go from there. Then he said he liked a girl, and after a day full of guessing and teasing, he told me it was me. At the same time, he was making me tell him who I liked, and it was him. After making sure Penelope was ok with it, he asked me out, and we've been dating for about three weeks now :]
But all we've done so far is hold hands, nothing more than that. And he's hanging out with Olga and talking to Olga a whole lot. I don't know what to do, it really hurts. He says he thinks I'm amazing and beautiful and that he likes me a lot... But... Olga's still there and still gorgeous. And he did like her. I don't know what to do.
I might be overreacting, but please, help me!!

Alright let me start out saying this is a good example of being able to trust someone in a realtionship. It is definatley hard to trust someone just because you don't want to throw your heart out there and get it crushed. But what I think you did was very good about asking him if he still had feelings for "olga" and I think thats all you can do. Believe him if he says that he was just using her to get to you. Trust him you never know he could just be good friends with her and there's nothing wrong with that. Just because she's pretty doesn't mean you aren't and don't ever think you aren't because you are and your boyfriend is obviously with you because he likes you so don't let this get in the way of your relationship. If you do notice however if their flirting or you're still paranoid don't be afriad to inbox me and I can try to help :D

Hope I helped :D

[view]


Im a teenage girl and at times i feel so emotional. Like i think im so ugly and i just feel like crying. I get mad that i dont go out like every other teenager and guys think im cute but i dont believe it because i dont think i am. I dont know why i feel lii=ke this i guess i just dont want someone to tell me ur ugly or something and then stop talking to me. Please help what can i do so i wont feel so depressed at times.

I am exactly the same way up until about a week ago:/ i'm 15 aha and I always feel so depressed and never want to hang out with guys who think i'm cute and I started complainging about how uttlery boring my life was getting and how i'm supposed to be having a good highschool experience but then I realized the only way I will is if I get off my ass and do something about it. I literally had to force myself out of the house on a friday night. I also felt/still feel depressed but forcing myself to have a life makes it go away a bit. When I look in the mirror I don't like what I find and often notice myself comparing me to other pretty girls and I've decided just to stop. Don't look in the mirror...start being happy about yourself, because someone out there will be happy with you the way you are and if if someone doesn't it's their loss. It's easier said then done but it's worth a try. I also try looking up makeup tutorials sometimes so I can get some new looks I like and feel good and comfortable in. If you need anything else you can always inbox me or whatever :D

Hope I helped(:

[view]


i don;t know what is wrong with me but i feel so lonely and i want a boyfriend soo badly :S
lol
does anyone have any tips on how i can find people or go out and date? anything on the subject would be great. or any experiences you have gone through thanks ..:)

Heyy ok so just be yourself and trust me a guy will come along. It will take time but it's worth it(: I havne't had my first bf yet but I could've I just have trust problems BUT anyway do'nt be like me aha. If you like a guy flirt with them but not to stong kinda hard to get but not over the top (: Anymore questions just inbox me ((:

Hope I helped

[view]


What does dtf mean

Down to fuck..ahah

[view]


should i use frostwire? i used to use limewire along time ago to downlaod music to my ipod, but it screwed up my computer with a virus. Is frostwire safe, if not what are some other sites that are virus-free?

I definatley recomend 4shared.com ..its so great

[view]


thanks so much . ive been thinking about telling an adult.. but i'm just not ready for our friendship to be over , because i know it probably will . i would feel so bad if i got her into trouble , but i know it would be whats best . but i will try talking to her about it soon , even though she probably won't listen to me . i just want her to stop all of it , because its just not her . thanks again

I'm not going to doubt that she will be mad at you ...maybe for even along time but just know that it really is the best thing for her and she may not see it yet but she will ...maybe even years later but later on she will definatley realize you were only trying to help. P.S. I really do admire you for choosing to stay away from the drugs because it really does screw you up not to scare or anything but I have never done any and I'm doing fine and watching my friends go through it doesn't look like any fun. But I hope i helped ...always here if you need someone to talk to[=

[view]


Hello, im 14/f. My bestfriend of like 9 years now smokes ciggarettes, pot, spice, and probably other things. She also drinks alcohol. She does it all with one of our friends, and some guys in like college. they do it in her neighborhood. She always peer pressures me to try a ciggarette or weed, but I always say no. until the other day I tried this rosemary spice stuff that they were smoking. i took a little puff and decided i wouldn't do it again. i am not going to smoke. im really worried about her & i know that shes only doing this to seem cool and impress people. i always help her hide it from her parents and stuff & i don't want to tell on her because she would get in so much trouble. i dont want to tell my parents either because they would instantly tell her parents. i dont like her like this :( what do i do? thanks.

I know you don't want to get her in trouble but I honestly wish I had done different when my friends did the same..or at least talked to them about it. I'm sure you want the best for your friend and I think first you should talk to her and about how these things are very serious in the long run. She may just want to be popular but there are definatley other ways to be. She has become more of a drugee than popular and she will get a name for that. If all talking to her and telling your worried about her doesn't work I would try telling an adult. It will all be better for her if she stops doing all this bad stuff because before you know it these drugs can become different ones and stronger ones. Your a good friend for caring! don't let her screw her life up!! if you have any other questions feel free to ask

[view]


Today when I was taking pictures with my Nikon D5000 the auto focus somehow got messed up.. Now it just doesn't focus automatically. Anyone know how I can fix this?
Thanks!

it could be because you acidently switched it to manual focus insted of auto. THere is a button on the side of the camera you can switch. http://www.geeky-gadgets.com/nikon-d5000/

[view]


whats a fun website besides club penguin and im bored also coolmath

Omgpop.com

im addicted aahaha

[view]


I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

I think you should just tell him that you know.I think he would hide it from you so that he doesn't have to hear you try to explain that you know because he obvisouly doesn't want you to. I think this is REALLY disrespectful and if a guy REALLY likes you he would never do anything close to that. He would like you and your imperfections. But I would deinatley bring it up to him and tell him you were hurt because you dont want your personal life on public display. I dont know if you should even like him after this. I don't know but I would be very hurt by this. But forshure bring this up to him and if he denies it why dont u have your friend go on it and take a picture of it or have backup that she knows so he can't deny it.

Hope i helped =] sorry if i expressed that you should tel him more than once

[view]


i've heard that there are "silly bandz" with the names demi, selena, jonas, miley, etc like all the teen stars. its not the brand "silly bandz" but its the same concept. anyone know where i can buy these? someone told me they have them at a kiosk at their local shopping mall but we dont live in the same state or anything....

my mom got some at the dollar store for me haha they werent the offical brand but theres not really a difference in them ...try there ahaha
hope i helped =]

[view]


15/m

This is my freshman year at my high school, how can i make more friends? i have a few close friends then about 20 other friends how can i make more?

Make sure you are outgoing. i was a freshman last year and i regret not being more outgoing. But now that it's summer i have decided to let go of caring what people think and just make new friends talk to random people. And this Worked i have made so many new friends just from going up to people and talking to them. It's as easy as going up to someone and saying "i like your shoes, where did u get them?" Just make small talk and then something in common with you two will pop up

hope i helped =]

[view]


i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!!

He does not deserve you! if a guy doesn't want to tell anybody who he's dating then hes a douche! When a guy really likes u they will want to tell everyone about you so that they no YOU are taken. He should want you all to hiself (except for ur friends) but honeslty break it off! you can do better!
good luck=]

[view]


i am on my period and i am going swimming with my camp tommorow do i wear a pad or what.

Definatley a tampon. However, make sure to never keep it in for more than 6 hours, as this increases the chance of Toxic Shock Syndrome and vaginal infections. you can use less absorbent tampon if you are less experienced.

Hope i helped =]

[view]


jamglue.com used to be a site you can go on and download music for free. but something happened to it. does anyone know any other sites like that were i dont have to download a software like limewire. i can just go on the site and get the music like on jamglue? someone please help me! =]

4shared.com

it doesnt have SOME songs but it has alot.

[view]


Where can i buy the Luscious Lips Deluxe Kit(the red pump thingy), but not online, im talking in a store.
Preferrably a target, walmart, sephora, ect ect...
And does anyone know if it works?

im not sure where u can get it but heres a video see for yourself
http://www.cynthiarowland.com/overview_ll.php

[view]


Hey, do oyu have any others? i nhave that one and its awesome!!! but i need more. like and how do youacctually download clothes? like, i have them in the zip folder, i put them in sims 2 downloads but they are not in my game. ????? -_-

i think (i hvaent played it in a year or so ) so i think when you download it should say save file to and you can pick ...try the sims 2 if it gives you the option but i do have a mac if that might make a differnce but when i used to play i had a dell so its kinda confusing but im sorry i have no idea accually i think i lost all my memory on it. and i cant find the packet of my sims 2 cheats when i do i will defianetly message u... sorry for the inconvience (:

[view]




<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>

eXTReMe Tracker