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Boyfriend likes other friend? Please help!
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Ok, so I finally got the boyfriend I've been wanting since I was a little kid. He's amazing and I'm so glad to be with him. But I'm having an issue. He's been acting like he likes a very good friend of mine (we'll call her Olga). I've only been dating him for three weeks, but he's been hanging out with this girl a lot lately and its bothering me. I have a good reason for it too... let me explain the whole thing.
This is a long story, sorry. Ok so originally, my boyfriend was dating this girl, we'll call her Penelope. I was really close with him at this time and to be honest, I liked him even though he was dating Penelope, who I was friends with. I couldn't help it... He's an amazing guy. I was guilty about it, don't get me wrong, but... yeah.
Then after two months, Penelope broke up with him. I was texting him throughout the entire thing (yeah, she broke up with him through text-very unexpected) and helping him through it. I wsa NOT thinking about a relationship with him at that time, I was focusing on getting my two friends back together. Once I figured out she was sure she was over him, I tried helping him get over her, not cuz I wanted to date him, but because he was obsessing over a girl who didn't like him.
Two weeks after the break up, he started telling me about how he sorta wanted to go out with Olga. He said she was the type of girl he liked. (He didn't say it, but shes smart, absolutly gorgeous, a talented musician, and always looking perfect and cute and all). And I was really hurt by this, but I tried to hide it.
I dealt with him talking about this girl for a month, and then he asked me if there were any girls he should think about going out with, and I told him I thought he had already decided he wanted to go out with Olga. He said Olga would be a nice girl to go out with, but he hadn't made any official decisions. He told me he wanted to know who liked me so he could find out who he liked. I told him he should focus on who he liked and go from there. Then he said he liked a girl, and after a day full of guessing and teasing, he told me it was me. At the same time, he was making me tell him who I liked, and it was him. After making sure Penelope was ok with it, he asked me out, and we've been dating for about three weeks now :]
But all we've done so far is hold hands, nothing more than that. And he's hanging out with Olga and talking to Olga a whole lot. I don't know what to do, it really hurts. He says he thinks I'm amazing and beautiful and that he likes me a lot... But... Olga's still there and still gorgeous. And he did like her. I don't know what to do.
I might be overreacting, but please, help me!!
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This must be really really hard for you, it would be for me...but I agree with the post below. If he hasn't done anything to make you not trust him, you shouldn't just assume he's going to cheat on you or anything. A relationship can only work with trust. And if he does end up to be a cheating jerk, so what? That just means she gets a guy who is unfaithful and you will find someone who loves you and isn't going to stray. You do have a right to be uncomfortable about this situation, but don't let your jealousy destroy your relationship. Best of luck hun, Jess.
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Alright let me start out saying this is a good example of being able to trust someone in a realtionship. It is definatley hard to trust someone just because you don't want to throw your heart out there and get it crushed. But what I think you did was very good about asking him if he still had feelings for "olga" and I think thats all you can do. Believe him if he says that he was just using her to get to you. Trust him you never know he could just be good friends with her and there's nothing wrong with that. Just because she's pretty doesn't mean you aren't and don't ever think you aren't because you are and your boyfriend is obviously with you because he likes you so don't let this get in the way of your relationship. If you do notice however if their flirting or you're still paranoid don't be afriad to inbox me and I can try to help :D
Hope I helped :D
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