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confusing relationshipt status
im 15yr old girl and the guy is 19
we started going out and everything went well but when we were dating for 3 months my parents made us brake up...(legal stuff) so we broke up but we still have feelings for eachother and we still talk the way we used to except we dont say we are a couplee so what does that make us? He is not my boyfriend and i am not his girlfriend but we still talk like we are. We dont have sex or anything like that but when we get to see eacohter we cuddle and stuff sometimes do stuff but nothing more to it. When a new guy asks me if im single i dont know what to say because i AM single but in a way im taken and same goes to the guy i like. We are not confused of what we feel but we are comfused of the title we have. What kind of relationship is it that we keep?
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I think you should talk to him about this. It is very hard to give you an answer if I don't know what he thinks. I think that you two are acting like people that are going out, so you must talk to him and tell him that you feel like nothing has changed, ask him where you stand. PLease email me if you know any more If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I answer questions on this website to give truthful answers to questions like yours based on the wisdom and knowledge that comes with age.
The legal stuff your parents are talking about is more for your boyfriend then for you. There is not any state that I am aware of that recognizes the age of consent at age 15. Your boyfriend on the other hand is well above the age of consent and is consider an adult in every state.
Now this is where it gets a little confusing. The law recognizes that love knows no age limits so they have built in a 4 or 3 year rule depending on the state you live in. This law allows for a 3 or 4 year difference in age before the older person can be charged with such crimes as contributing to the delinquency of a minor, Statutory Rape and any other child related sex crimes the state wishes to add. Sex does not have to be taking place between the two for the older person to be charged with these crimes.
Those are the state crimes, the Federal Law has there own crimes and their own age limits. The most popular charge they have is if you and your boyfriend happen to cross state lines. This law is called the Mann act. The Mann act in brief is when you cross state lines for the purpose of IMMORAL acts. Here again you do not have to do anything it is intent that they look at.
So, that legal stuff you your parents speak of is actually very real and very serious. It is intent based, meaning you don't actually have to be having sex, just being together is enough for him to be charged with a crime if someone wants to file a complaint.
You need to check what the age of consent is in your state. Most likely it is either 16 or 17. Until you reach the age of consent you place your boyfriend in serious danger, should someone want to get him in trouble, just by being with him.
I realize this is not what you want to hear. When I read "(legal stuff)" I felt you were not aware of the true meaning of the legal problems that could unfold should someone want to cause trouble for him. Now you know and it is up to you as to how you two move forward.
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my sister had the same problem.
your seeing each other, nothing official, but you would feel guilty if u kissed someone else yes?
if someone asks you if ur single simply say :"yes, but im seeing someone and its not quite official yet .."
or something along those lines..
hope that helps
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No matter what you say you are girlfriend and boyfriend. Your emotions label you not what you say. But you need to be careful with relationship just because there are some serious legal issues that can be charged on him.
Lillian
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