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He's being a hypocrite.
20f Nick -19m
So Nick is 4 hours away playing hockey. Around November me and Nick started talking. I seen him in Dec when he came home for break for a week and then me and my friend went there in Jan to go see him play. Well one weekend when we were there he blew up on me over text saying he couldn't talk to me anymore and that he didn't want to "talk" or date a girl he could never see. I didn't talk to him until a month later when he chatted me on facebook asking how i was doing then I didn't talk to him until last weekend when he texted me saying "Hey can we be friends still, I'm sorry for everything and being a jerk" And then went on to say that I could come to his house sometime in the summer if i wanted and that he'll see me around.
So we're civil you could say. But then I find out that he's now talking to this girl where he is right now. He's going to be coming home within 1-3 weeks depending on how they do in playoffs so I DON'T UNDERSTAND!! Hes coming home for the summer, so he won't see her? He lives where I do, which just makes me mad because he said the reasons he didn't want to talk to me was because he would never get to see me. Yet he's talking to this girl who he wont see all summer. All his teammates and his brother loved me, they all told me I was hot haha and they don't even think this girl is cute. I was never annoying when we were talking or clingy, i did nothing wrong.
Do I have a reason to be a little upset about him talking to this new girl? I haven't talked to him, I just know about him talking to her. I still kind of have feelings for Nick which is why it bothers me a little still :( Ughhh..
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No, he obviously doesn't like you so just deal with it. You have a friend out of the deal, so I don't really see the problem with the situation.
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Sure, you can be disappointed and upset - but that's about all you get.
The truth is whenever anyone says "I don't have enough time for a relationship." or "I don't want to work that hard for a relationship." what they actually mean is that they don't want to work that hard with YOU.
They are trying to be nice, but that is what it actually means. It means the connection they have with you, is not worth the extra work.
And that's okay! You'll probably say the same thing to some guy in your life someday. It's natural and it's all right to make choices like that.
You didn't do anything wrong. You just weren't right for him at the moment when he made his choices - that isn't a reflection on you - but it also doesn't make him a liar.
It's okay to be upset, but you also have to relax a bit. It's always upsetting when someone like someone else. It's always upsetting when you feel like someone else got chosen over you, but it's not betrayal or lying. It's just the kind of shit that happens.
You have no idea what their relationship/friendship means to either of them. Whatever it is, the truth is Nick didn't really want to be with you - at least not enough to make it work long distance. Take a deep breath and let it go.
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