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im 16 and like a 24 year old.
i met this guy named chris at a kick-back. and he thought i was 18.. so like he started talking to me and stuff.. ad we ended up kissing.. but not having sex because im a virgin and i wasn't going to give it up to him. so when he found out i was 16 he was like tripping lol. cause he's a marine and hes going to be a cop in 2 years and what happened is illegal you know. i've been seeing him every saturday for 3 saturdays straight. cause we hang around with the same people.. the second time we hung out he talked to me but like it was whatever.. his friend told me that he liked me but that i was young.. i see older guys dating underage girls all the time.. but yeah and i saw him this past saturday cause we had a bonfire at the beach and it was cold so he hugged me and when we were saying bye he slightly touched my butt.. he didnt really grab it or anything though. but we do text a lot.. but i really want to be his girl-friend.. how do i pull that off?
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HI, I did the same thing I was 16 and dating a 21 year old he was really sweet and stuff i never did anything with him because i was scared that i would get pregnant or some disease becuase i get scared like that and im really protective of myself but it was all good for a little while till one of my supposeble friends called the cops and said that he was raping me which wasnt true, and he ended up going to jail or prison or something i cant really remeber but anyway when he got out he had to move back home and he got his life ruined he cant get a job anywhr and he had to register as a sex offender how nice huh..lol..well anyway my point is, that you shouldnt date him until your at least 18 or 21 whenever your legal to do things, i dont know exactly what age that is, but just be his friend for now until your old enough that way his life doesnt get ruined because if hes in the marines thats a good job hes got and maybe when your older you guys could date and both be happy and he would make good money and support you, but theres nothing wrong with being friends till then you know? well i hope i made sense in this paragraph..lol..and i hope i helped you some.
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I see that you are expecting an answer about how to make him yours, right? Well...I don't have one of those. I have experience. I can tell you head on that dating guys that much older than you at sixteen is a bad idea. Answer me this: Is he sweet? Is he a loyal friend? Does he make you feel like you can have a more mature relationship?
He is probably freaking out over the incident because he was in it for a less serious reason than you and realized that you are underage.
When I was sixteen I dated a twenty-one year old. Cute, funny, incredibly sweet. I made the first move with him and he ended up with me. Turned out that he was controling and rude. I really cared about him and was devastated when I learned that he had cheated on me throughout our six months of dating.
I am telling you to forget him because he isn't worth a heartbreak. If you are really meant to be with him God will make it happen: in the future. But for now, I know you hate to here it, concentrate on your studies. Boys will always be there. School won't.
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Leave it alone.
You probably don't want to hear this, but you aren't mature enough for a relationship with this guy.
He is freaking out because given his status and his goal career, he legally cannot date you. There are real world consequences, he could fuck up his life very easily.
You argued that "well other people do it so it should be OK"
I understand that it makes teens feel mature to be liked by a guy who's significantly older. But in truth, its usually more a sign of their immaturity than of you being advanced for your age.
It would make you a fucked up person to pursue this. He's being an idiot, and so are you. Be the bigger person and walk away from this for now.
A final note.
I'm not telling you you can't like him, and I'm not telling you to never speak to him again. If you like him, find out the age of consent where you are, and tell him that the second you are legal you're all his, see how he reacts. That would be the mature thing to do here, and you don't have to close the door to not walk through it when you could destroy his life.
Yes, other people date underagers.
Other people aren't in the Armed Forces, and don't want to be cops.
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Hi,
you answered your question. You know what he is striving to be in life. It would be illegal for him to begin a relationship with you. He could go to jail. Is that what you really want?
You don't know him that well. There is a lot of years between the two of you. I don't think you should try to find a way to pull it off. Find someone close to your own age. That perfect person is out there. Just because other people have done it doesn't make it right.
When you turn 18, and you meet up again with him, and there's still chemistry, you can think about it then. I hope this advice makes you think about things more clearly.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Sounds to me like you don't.
The guy is a marine, and would like a job in law-enforcement. It could easily be career suicide for him to fool around with you. Your pursuing him could seriously muck up his life. It would be a very selfish thing to do.
And, if he is half-way intelligent, he won’t date you. Depending on your state and your parents, he could get in deep, deep shit.
Sounds to me like he knows that, which means you aren’t worth the risk. So if you want an older guy to date, you'll have to find a stupider one, or at least one who is willing to take that risk.
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