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Complicated choice between two girls (Long read)
I am returning to my country late in Feb.
Girl 1
Met on family trip. Spent day together walking around town, sharing looks, smiles, going "click". My father said he could see it even while around her parents.
Lives far away, so I haven't seen her. No English, and I am a slow writer, but we've shared short "Hey it's ... Remember me?"
"Yes, perfectly, I'm well..." messages.
I told her that I wanted to see her again before I leave, and she said O.k.
I won't see her for at least a year maybe longer before I come back from my home-town.
Girl 2
Found me (Going to my town for exchange study). Said she wanted to practice English, but speaks in her mother-tongue to me. Not reaching ignition. Been around her plenty, but don't feel like I can get near her personal space. Has come over several times for dinner, but we don't end up talking about personally important things. Stagnating, and don't want to turn the basis of our relation into inviting her for dinner. Hasn't invited me to her place. Only initiated one meeting, but it was on Christmas day, to give me a present of a personally-annotated novel (which I'd joked about ages ago). Annotating it must have taken ages, but I don't know if it's a friendly "I'll help you learn" thing, or an "I like you, look what I did for you" thing.
Only free time I have to visit Girl 1 is 10-20 of Feb.
Likes me in return. I could go be with her over Valentines day, but then I am throwing the day away in relation to Girl 2. It could be the death-knell of potential I have with her, and extremely awkward if she asked me to be her Valentine.
Considering asking Girl 2 to be my valentine to see if I can make the "relation" a "relation-ship", but will become awkward if she says no, and hurt potential for development. If she says yes, I would feel terrible seeing Girl 1, but I just want to so much.
a few sure days, or ambiguous long-term potential.
What do you think I should do?
Thanks
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It seems to me that you like girl 1 more then girl 2. and my advice is whoever you think you like more go for them. by the way you've explained things it looks as if girl 2 would be a better friend to you. You shouldnt have to try to make it work if its meant to be it will just be. "True friendship grows even over the longest distances. The same goes for true love."
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Hi,
I think you should follow your heart and go with girl 1. It seems to me that girl 2 is a bit stand-offish. I wouldn't waste my time.
Girl 1 seems like she is definitely worth it. The fact that you don't want to hurt her is a clue. don't you think. You already have feelings for her, even if it is unclear where you are going.
Girl 2 already told you that she wants to practice her "English"?
Figure out who makes you feel happy? Who do you think about? Hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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