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Q: Hi. I have a verizon phone, and i can upgrade.. Im not sure how it works, seeing as my aunt pays the bill and everything. But i want to know of some good phones. I dont want anything like blackberry or internet or whatever. Just a phone i can text with. I was thinking about the alias 2, but im not sure.

Do you have any phone suggestions, information, or anything? thanks for the help!
My sister had the first alias and the screen kept breaking off. shes not good with phones but she ended up not being able to stand that phone after like 6 months. the second one may be much better, but from my experiences, im not fond of aliases.

i have the enV touch and i love it. i didnt pick it out, insurance sent it to me when i lost my voyager, but it has a really good touch screen and if you dont want to use the touch screen, it has a full keyboard inside. It works really well, unless youre in a dead zone (like my house). I havent had any problems with it except sometimes its unlocked and calls someone in my favorites or recent calls, so instead of letting it call someone, when im not using it, i go to security and click lock phone now so then it locks and cant unlock unless you enter a 4 digit password. Hope i helped!


Q: My boyfriend is a cheerleader and I have a really hard time not getting jealous. I trust him not to cheat on me but it still concerns me that he is always with these beautiful cheer girls (you know the stereotype of most cheer girls). I don't wanna talk to him about it because I don't want to seem controlling or jealous and want to be supportive of him. Any advice?
Speaking from experience, you have to talk to him. I know how it feels to have something really bothering you, but dont want to tell your boyfriend because you dont want to seem controlling.

Believe me, every time you see him you'll think about it, and it will put more stress on the relationship. It might even cause more fights. I almost lost an amazing relationship over a situation like this.

Call him saying hey i need to tell you something. DON'T do it over text or im, either in person or through a phone call. First say that you trust him completely and you love him (only if you do) but say that somethings bothering you. You want to be supportive of him, but you dont know how to without being jealous. Its not that you dont trust him, its that you know hes so amazing, youre afraid to lose him. Other things like that. Tell him how you feel, and dont get mad. If you get mad, then hell probably get mad and defensive. Just talk to him about how youre feeling.

I hope i helped! xoxo

Q: are there any really obvious signs when a guy likes you? What do they usually do when they're into a girl that they want to be more with than they are now? Does anybody have like a top 10 list of signs that he likes you?
Hey, I'll try to make a top 10 list for you haha

1-he'll go out of his way to talk to you or see you. Like hell facebook chat you, whats the homework, and then just be like so whats up and try to keep the conversation going or he'll find a way to see you either between classes or something

2-he'll try to get your attention. This is sometimes really stupid because once, a guy tried to flip over a couch to get my friends attention...dumb idea.

3-once he has your attention, he'll try to impress you. either by telling a story, or showing off his arms or abs or something, anything so that you won't forget him.

4-he'll try to touch you. It could be your arm, or hand, just helping you up. He'll want contact.

5-if he's mature enough, he'll compliment you. Either on your clothes, your look, your hair, your personality, your laugh, your sense of humor, your smile. Pretty much anything about you.

6-he'll tease you about things. maybe about your height or how much you talk or something.

7-he'll try to get you to not talk to other guys. He may intrude on the conversation, or just ask the guy to come with him or something, but he'll want you to not be talking with other guys.

8-he'll tickle you, or try to tickle you. this is also part of the touching thing. He wants to touch you, bu doesn't want to get rejected.

9-he'll probably stutter a little bit, or seem very nervous, because he is. He will be terrified of you not liking him, just like how everyone feels haha.

10-he'll give you something. Whether its his sweatshirt, or if he wins you a teddy bear at a fair or gets you a shell from the beach, he wants you to have something you can hold nad think of him as.

I hope i helped! xoxo

Q: I'm a female that is 26 this is my second question but this is totally different from the other... Well in bout 2007 I met this guy... Quickly we jumped into a relationship and I felldeep in love with him... He was always around my family... And I have a daughter and she grew a close attachment to him... So in may of 2008 he left me... He never gave me closure he never even really explain why... He just dodge me and never answered my phone calls or anything else... And as a result my daughter was deeply hurt... and my family were to because he developed a close bond with them... And days later after he left he started dating others going out etc etc... And he ended up back dating his sisters best friend which was his ex the girl his mom liked better than me.. And when I found that out i was deeply hurt... I became very bitter and resentful towards him and I even build up hatred in my heart towards him... And you know it took me about a whole year to get over him... But anyway his sister and I are friends on Facebook... And I dound out that about 4 months ago his cousin and father died just weeks ago... He didnt tell me nor his sister but I read it on her facebook wall.. So heres this I feel sorry for his family but I really dont have remorse for him... I kinda happy that he suffered like I did for so long... But deep down inside I'm a better person then that... So I know I shouldnt feel that way... But he was so coldhearted towards me so in my heart I really feel no sympathy towars his feelings... Before you say that I'm wrong When he left me I was three months pregnant and as a result I lost my baby...
You were hurt, you have a right to not feel bad for him. You WOULD be wrong if you decided to just be rude to him if he tried to call you or facebookchat you. If he did do that, and you were nice, but sympathetic, that would be the right thing to do.

Now, you are not wrong. He hurt you, and didnt even tell you why. He ignored you and he left you when you were pregnant with his child. You totally have a right to start cursing him out and give him a hit in his "private parts", but quite honestly, this is not the time to do so. I would recommend just not talking to him. If he tries to contact you, be polite and say, "Im sorry for your loss, but i have to go now".

I hope i answered your question! xoxo

Q: im a 15 year old guy and for some time now i realize that i really like and that im attracted to guys i have strong feelings for this guy i havent told him im nervous about it or telling anyone that im gay not sure how they will react
so i really like him do i tell him how i feel how do i go about it? is it normal to be gay?
Hey,
First-of course it's normal to be gay. My best friend actually came out about being a lesbian last year and everyone completely supported and respected her. Sometimes, people think "oh, because she likes girls, she's going to hit on me" and of course that's not true. Just because you're gay or she's a lesbian doesn't mean that you're attracted to EVERY guy. It's like saying that all straight people hit on every person of the opposite sex, and that's stupid. Anyone who isn't an idiot won't judge you or not be friends with you because of your sexuality. Once Jenny came out, she actually gave strength to this other girl in my school to come out too. They have been together for 3 months.

Second-I think you should meet up with him somewhere and talk to him. Don't invite him to your house, but to somewhere public so he doesn't feel like intimidated or something. Maybe to the mall or something like that. I don't think it would be a great idea to invite him to dinner or a movie though. It may seem too date-like if you do that. Ask lke hey want to go to the mall? and if he says yes, then plan to meet. Then, what I would do, is ask to get something to eat, at a pizza place or in the food court. Start off by saying that for a while you've been attracted to guys. Tell him how you feel about it, and how you were scared. If he's a good guy, he will probably admire your courage for coming out about it. After you tell him about your sexuality. Tell him that you have started to have feelings for him. Ask him how he feels about what you SAID, not about YOU. If you know he is definitely straight, then if you're friends with him, it may ruin the friendship if you look for a relationhsip with him. But, if you're unsure, ask him about that too. Ask him how he feels about his sexuality. Just take a chance and go for it =]

i hope i helped! If you need more advice inbox me.

Q: i think this a category fo this subject if its not sorry. i lkie men i can only see me doing with a man, i only had curshes on men and i am a women nd i never done it yet. anyways one time i want 2 kiss a female beacuse her lips was close, nd i never kissed someone before so wanted to know how it would feel. and everytime a female would walk by i would look at her butt, but i always say i wnt my butt that big. But the werid thing is i always blurt out a nasty comment about a female who walk by me like she is sexy or i would do her something like that then i relize what i said i would have a debate in side my head saying that you shouldnt say that ect. i can never pic. me rubbing my body on something i have that is just wrong. i would always say why have a female have a strap if i can have something real also i think licking on another female is just nasty, i dont want something that i have. also if i feel that way why do i make those comments? so please someone help me i am so confused. oh i am 18
Hey, I personally think that you are straight. If you don't "like" a girl, and don't want to do anything with girls, then you're straight. I sometimes feel the same way. I find girls attractive, and I stare and think that they're hot or something, but I don't want to actually be with a girl, and I have never had a crush on a girl or anything. So, in my opinion:
1-you are straight
2-you're not alone. I feel the same way, and you never know, we could be the only two people who feel like this, but I doubt it. I have a feeling many other people feel how we do.
hope i helped!

Q: i'm looking for some books about teen sex + romance. anything along those lines, i like books that go more into detail and aren't just about puppy love but go deeper than that.

let me know! ty guys all help is appreciated :)
Forever by Judy Blume
Year of Wonders by Geraldine Brooks has a couple
nick and norahs infinite playlist by rachel cohn
OUTLANDER by Diana Gabaldo

those are some i looked up online. nicholas sparks isnt usually about teen romances, but hes an absolutely AMAZING writer. i have read almost every one of his books. hope i helped!

Q: so the title pretty much says it all.
if you know, or know how to find out please please tell me i really need to know, im planning an event that involves this movie.
if u can find out for that wouldb greatly apreciated, =)
thanks so much
hey, i was wondering about that too. i wanted to go to one, and i searched on fandango. there was only one midnight showing within like a 1/2 hour of me, but theres still one and im planning on going to it =].
-Go to fandango.com
-go to movie list, and click on valentines day (2/12),
-click on showtimes,
- type in your zipcode and put the date for feb. 11th.
hope i helped!

Q: Okay, my boyfriends birthday is Febuary 16th, Valentines Day is Febuary 14th, & I have no idea what to get him!
For Christmas, I got him clothes, because thats what he wanted. Now that valentines day AND his birthday is coming up, I have no clue to get him! I ordered him some boxers, because, well, he's always bitching about not having enough boxers. I just have no idea what else to get.
For valentines day I was going to bake 2 heart shaped cakes, they are small. Plus try to do some type of rolling stone cake.
Back to the birthday/vday ideas...
-Heres some things he likes:
;UK basketball- I thought about getting him tickets, however the game I wanted isnt selling right now, and wont be until 2-10-10, and I'm afraid I'll forget to order them.
;Rolling Stones- absolutely loves them!
;He's into music, definately, he plays drums, or use to, and he's into amps, and speakers.
;He loves playing pool
; haha he likes sex..alot! - i thought about ordering a 'sexy outfit', however, i dont have a credit card, so that knocks off ordering it online. i can't drive without a licensed driver until the end of january, and even when i can go, i couldnt drive in the area where i would have to go...lol ugh!!!

thanks!
haha i totally get what youre feeling. for me and my boyfriend, I had christmas, then our anniversarys in january, then i have valentines day and i never know what to get him!

Well, for the sexy outfit, do you have a Charlotte Russe near you? they sell some pretty good stuff. Maybe a Joyce Leslie? Victorias Secret? go to a mall near you and you can probably find some sexy outfits there.

I think the tickets would be an awesome idea! set the 9th, and 10th, in your phone to buy tickets and itll remind you to buy them the day before and the day of so you cant forget them

At american eagle, there are some glow in the dark boxers which are hilarious. i actually just got some for my boyfriend, you shold look them up, i love them, theyre so cute!

If he still likes playing drums, maybe you can get him new sticks and drumheads if his are beat up. I used to play the drums myself, and i would always lose my sticks, and my drumheads would get beaten up quickly. Look at his set and see what he could use. Or maybe, if you have the money, you could get him a really nice amp or some cool speakers.

Does he have a pool table? because maybe you can get him a new set of the balls and the triangle, or the sticks and the blue chalk stuff? Idk haha im not very good at pool and dont know the right words to call them.

If hes gonna be able to drive, or can drive already, maybe get him a keychain that you could personalize (lucky and things remembered have a bunch) or get him a cute bobblehead and dice and stuff for his car.

A reallly cute idea to ahve for your boyfriend would be to go to victorias secret, buy the massage oil, and give him a coupon "ONE FREE MASAGE" or soemthing like that. heres the link to the massage oil:



http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/onlineProductDisplay.vs?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=EH-248381&cgname=OSKEYBAFZZZ&rfnbr=3390

They have a bunch, btu this is edible so its kinda cooler ;]. Also, if youre tight on money, maybe just cook him a really nice, candlelit dinner, and have dessert and do the massage idea, because those are both really cheap and im SURE any guy would love that. Hope i helped! inbox me if you have any other questions!

Q: Okay so in one of the ?z you answered than "Crest White Strips" are good/great ;; what I wanna know is how much it is because I need them, like NOW, so yah plz && tnk u!! :)
hey, theyre about $20-30, usually about 25 though. They come in a big pack, about 80 strips, so it lasts awhile. hope i helped!

Q: hiya i am having trouble understanding my menstrual cycle and my head is a bit baffled as i think i could be pregnant...my period started approx 10th december....and lasted for apporx five days..when it had finished 2 days later i had sex ...i am just wondering when should i take a test ?
Most pregnancy tests say you should wait until your missed period, so you should probably wait until the 10th to take your pregnancy test. Hope i helped! (:

Q: i've always been wondering about these questions.

1. so what if there were two lesbians or two gay men, one acts girly and the other one acts manly. wouldn't that make them straight?

2. what if there were two straight people and the male acted girly and the female acted manly. wouldn't that make them gay or lesbian?

3. alot of people say you can only lose your virginity once, but my friend is bisexual and she thinks you can lose it twice. once to a male and once to a female. so does it depend on the sexual orientation on how you think about it?

i think all of these questions are how you think about it but these are my opinions:

1. Being a lesbian means that you are a woman and are attracted to/want to be involved with women. Being gay means that you are a man and are attracted to/want to be involved with men. I personally think it doesn't matter if you are feminine or masculine, if you are a woman attracted to women, or a man attracted to men then you are gay. Have you ever seen Chris Crocker? (and by no way am i saying that all gay men are like chris crocker, not at alll) But he is very feminine, more feminine than me and im a straight women, but he is still gay.

2. If you are straight, that means you are attracted to the opposite sex and if the mans attracted to men, that means hes gay, but if he is just feminine, then...well i guess thats his preference haha. and the same goes for the female.

3. Losing your virginity has many meanings. Some people believe losing your virginity happens when you have sexual intercourse, while others believe you lose it when you have oral sex. I think it depends on how you think about it. I found a website a couple of days ago and i thought it was interesting. It deals with the many factors of what it means to lose your virginity. Here it is:

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa072300a.htm

Hope i helped! Inbox me if you have any other questions (:

Q: Hello,

I was just curious about what the best white strips out there were. Ive heard crest is good, and rembrandt strips work well too. If anyone can tell me which ones work well for you that would be great. Also, please be specific such as the trays or strips and so on..

Thank you.
Hey, i use Crest White strips that you only have to leave on for 5 minutes. i can't stand the ones where you have to leave them on for 30 minutes. i love it, and they work so well for me. id try them. hope i helped! (:

Q: 17 F
Hey guys I haven't watched one tree hill since like mia got her record start with payton. So yea that has been a long time ago. But anyway I recently decided that I wanted to watch it again and I realized payton and lucas aren't there?? Does anyone know why they aren't there? Like I heard that they didn't sign there contract for the new season but I'm not sure. If you guys don't know either do you know what happened to their characters inside the film? Like lucas and payton where r they now?? Thanks
I know how you feel, i was so surprised when they werent there because they were a hugee part of the show before that. After they had their baby, and Paytons car was fixed, it shows lucas and payton driving away with Sawyer in the back, so i think its trying to show us that they moved away. They are still mentioned by Jamie in the show though. Hope i helped! xoxo

Q:

I was just thinking about this the other day randomly..

If someone is a loser what makes them a loser? What is the difference between a nerd, loser and a loner? o.0 I am confused. Is a loner the same thing as a loser? Is a loser considered a nerd? Is geek and nerd even the same thing? Ugh..sheesh update me here I'm totally confused

In school people compare other people which I never really understood because in my mind people are always the same and equal.
A nerd is usually someone whos like really smart and the stereotype is the guys with suspenders, glasses that are taped, pocket protecters etc. A nerd and a Geek are pretty much the same thing. Someone could be labeled a "loser" for many things. For not having many friends, for acting different than other people consider "normal" or for not being in the "popular crowd". A loner is someone who doesnt go out a lot, and would perfer to be alone, or is someone who likes a lot of space. A loner and a loser are not the same thing. Haha i know how you feel, i hate labels too, but this is what i believe to be the stereotypes. hope i helped! xoxo

Q: So I got the enV Touch around July 2009 when my enV 2 fell into a lake.
It's not perfect. It shuts off randomly and sometimes it resets the background pictures, but I can deal with that.

But today (12-14-09) I tried to send a text in class and discovered the light to when I flip open the phone doesn't turn on anymore.
The keypad buttons still light up, just not the screen light.
I have no idea why.
Anybody have any idea how to fix this?

Also, if I go to the verizon store to get it fixed/get a new phone, will it be free since it obviously a problem with the phone?
If it's not free, about how much will it cost?
I have the EnV touch too...
a little less than a month after i got it, it would shut off randomly and the keys wouldnt light up. I went to the store and went through insurance and everything and they sent me a new phone. Mine was for free, but it was within 30 days of buying it. It might be free, but if not and you have insurance, it might be $50. i dont think it would be more than that... Hope i helped!

Q: I've been trying to get birth control pills for a few days but I don't want to tell my grandma (my mom passed away and my dad lives somewhere else so I live with my grandma) I tried calling planned parenthood but they never answer. I'm allowed to stay one hour after school and I was planning on going to planned parenthood then but it's always packed. I don't know anything about my medical insurance or anything like that and I'm broke so what do I have to do to get them free? Is there any other way I can make an appointment? I tried doing it online too but it wouldn't let me make an account.
First, i would always reccomend going to a gynecologist. and also, birth contro is pretty expensive. i hate that it is, but my gyno gave me 6 months of free samples, but after i run out, its about $30 a month. But if you dont have medical insurance, idk if you could go to a gyno. look up in the yellow pages for one, and call to see if you could see them without medical insurance. i dont think that you can get them for free, but if you do find a way, pleaseeee let me know haha. good luck! i hope you find a way!

Q: how important is it to guys for a girl to have big boobs? is it really a big turn off if a girlfriend has A cups and small boobs? would they still want to do stuff with these girls?
it really depends on the guy. some guys love big boobs, while others like smaller boobs. it really depends on his preference. most guys still would want to do stuff with girls with smaller boobs. hope i helped! :)

Q: So I would prefer guys to answer, but girls if you know what you're talking about then go for it.

So I have a couple of questions. So when I'm giving a handjob, I can never tell if the guy comes/has an orgasm and I don't want to flat out ask. Usually there is something wet and sticky that comes out, but it doesn't seem like that much..so is this "pre-cum" or did he actually have an orgasm? I can't tell and I feel like it's not and that I'm doing something wrong. If I am, can you give me any advice?

Usually a little bit after, his penis does go soft. Does this mean he did, or do they just go soft after a while? In a different context, he said his boner will just go away on its own after a little bit. Is that normal? But also sometimes it seems like its still hard after that small amount of wet sticky stuff comes out.

I would really appreciate any and all answers! thanks
okay if he was going to cum, he would probably say "im cumming" for courtesy so youre aware and usually you feel him get harder and his balls get harder and then a lot comes out. if only a little comes out, its pre-cum. if there are multiple squirts, its an orgasm. if a little comes out, but not a lot, keep going longer. also try using a lubricant. and a guys penis does go soft after you stop stimulating it. it should still be hard after pre cum comes out, because he hasnt orgasmed yet. hope i helped! inbox me if you have more questions.

Q: 16/f
Okay my boyfriend has pretty much been hinting that he'd give me oral. And I want it but I'm kind of self conscience about my "down there" region. I don't smell funny or have a bad odor down there but what if he thinks I do. And what about taste, I've never had a girl's "down there" region in my mouth (considering I'm straight) but it doesn't seem like it tastes good. What are some ways I can make it smell and taste good? Btw I have like 5 hours until he comes over. Any help would be useful.
hey, so i know im kinda late on this...but i can help for next time haha. stay away from alcohol and a lot of red meat and drink a lot of water. also: asparagus is a nasty thing to eat before getting eaten out. Eat pineapples, and other fruits, because it helps balance the ph levels down there. also make sure you wash thoroughly. Hope i helped!

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