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My Boyfriend is a cheerleader
My boyfriend is a cheerleader and I have a really hard time not getting jealous. I trust him not to cheat on me but it still concerns me that he is always with these beautiful cheer girls (you know the stereotype of most cheer girls). I don't wanna talk to him about it because I don't want to seem controlling or jealous and want to be supportive of him. Any advice?
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id ask him things so he dosnt know your prying
lol spying ya
but id be like do you and any of the girls talk
you could always become friends with them too
or even become a cheerleader to spend more time together
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Speaking from experience, you have to talk to him. I know how it feels to have something really bothering you, but dont want to tell your boyfriend because you dont want to seem controlling.
Believe me, every time you see him you'll think about it, and it will put more stress on the relationship. It might even cause more fights. I almost lost an amazing relationship over a situation like this.
Call him saying hey i need to tell you something. DON'T do it over text or im, either in person or through a phone call. First say that you trust him completely and you love him (only if you do) but say that somethings bothering you. You want to be supportive of him, but you dont know how to without being jealous. Its not that you dont trust him, its that you know hes so amazing, youre afraid to lose him. Other things like that. Tell him how you feel, and dont get mad. If you get mad, then hell probably get mad and defensive. Just talk to him about how youre feeling.
I hope i helped! xoxo
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Better to get it out in the open. The trick is to get yourselves into a place where he gets that you just need to say how you feel, and you need him to tell you that you're crazy and that he has eyes only for you.
Instead of brooding over jealousies you can't quite control, share it with him and let him shoulder some of it for you. Thats part of what relationships are. Tell him what you told us, let him reassure you, and then you'll have a clearer mind and clearer air to be supportive and not controlling.
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I know that talking to him might be hard but communication is a really big thing in relationships. Just tell him how your feeling i guarantee that he will understand. Because if you were in a situation like that he would be jealous too. if you need anything else message me personally!
Hope i helped (:
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You need to trust your boyfriend, Relationship is about trust. I completely understand where you are coming from about being "paranoid" I would be the same way if I were in your shoes. Talk to him, Expressing how you are feeling and your concerns is better than letting it build up into a ticking time bomb. Explain to him that you are feeling insecure about the other girls on his cheer team. If anything he will reassure you that there is nothing to worry about and hear you out it. Go to his meets, Practices get involved. Show the other girls that he is committed by kissing him, Hold his hand. (Don't be ALL over him) but at least get the point across that he has a girlfriend. Cheer him on and support him for what he does. Communication is the key
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