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do i tell him
im a 15 year old guy and for some time now i realize that i really like and that im attracted to guys i have strong feelings for this guy i havent told him im nervous about it or telling anyone that im gay not sure how they will react
so i really like him do i tell him how i feel how do i go about it? is it normal to be gay?
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Hey,
First-of course it's normal to be gay. My best friend actually came out about being a lesbian last year and everyone completely supported and respected her. Sometimes, people think "oh, because she likes girls, she's going to hit on me" and of course that's not true. Just because you're gay or she's a lesbian doesn't mean that you're attracted to EVERY guy. It's like saying that all straight people hit on every person of the opposite sex, and that's stupid. Anyone who isn't an idiot won't judge you or not be friends with you because of your sexuality. Once Jenny came out, she actually gave strength to this other girl in my school to come out too. They have been together for 3 months.
Second-I think you should meet up with him somewhere and talk to him. Don't invite him to your house, but to somewhere public so he doesn't feel like intimidated or something. Maybe to the mall or something like that. I don't think it would be a great idea to invite him to dinner or a movie though. It may seem too date-like if you do that. Ask lke hey want to go to the mall? and if he says yes, then plan to meet. Then, what I would do, is ask to get something to eat, at a pizza place or in the food court. Start off by saying that for a while you've been attracted to guys. Tell him how you feel about it, and how you were scared. If he's a good guy, he will probably admire your courage for coming out about it. After you tell him about your sexuality. Tell him that you have started to have feelings for him. Ask him how he feels about what you SAID, not about YOU. If you know he is definitely straight, then if you're friends with him, it may ruin the friendship if you look for a relationhsip with him. But, if you're unsure, ask him about that too. Ask him how he feels about his sexuality. Just take a chance and go for it =]
i hope i helped! If you need more advice inbox me.
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