okay i was at a horse show and i met this guy who instantly caught my eye. he's so sweet and i instantly liked him. there's two problems though..one he lives 2 hours away and 2 i have a bf already that i have been dating a year now. what do i do?
This happened to me last year. I had been dating my boyfriend for 1 year, then I went on vacation and met this guy that I instantly had a crush on. I felt so guilty for liking someone else while dating my bf, so eventually I broke up with him. In the end, I didn't end up with the guy I had just met, but meeting a new guy and having that spark happen made me realize that I wasn't happy with my bf of 1 year. You have to think about what YOU want. Your boyfriend will end up better off if you don't lead him on by pretending you're totally happy with him yet thinking about another guy. But you also have to remember that if things don't work out with this guy you just met, you'll have to deal with the consequences of your breakup. I also don't recommend jumping into another relationship right after a breakup because you won'thave a chance to have some freedom, be single and do whatever the heck you wanna do without worrying about a guy.
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thanks you helped me realise that he is just playing games i'm not gonna wait for something thats not gonna happen but i still wanna be firnds with my boyfriends friend do you think this is a good idea or should i avoid him till my feelings go away?
No problem. I'm glad that helped! I think that depends on how much you like this guy. If you didn't really like him very much, and see him as more of a friend, then being friends with him should be easy. But if you really liked him, and you still want to be with him, then I do think that some time away from him will be better. It may help you sort out your feelings, and it might make you more able to decide whether or not he's better of as being a friend. See how he acts. Try not talking to him for a little while, and if he doesn't make an effort to talk to you or be your friend, then don't waste anymore time on him. Just see how things play out and go with the flow. :)
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so i've been going out with this guy hes done with school and is now in college and im in school with his friend his friend and i started of being friends but then we both started getting really close and he eventually told me he likes me and we have a connection then we just started getting touchy then i find out that he tells my boyfriend lies about me and tells me lies about my boyfriend to try and break us up but when i spoke to him he didn't even mention the idea of the two of us dating and i like this guy more than my boyfriend but im afraid if he doesn't wanna date i would lose him and my boyfriend
please help me!
I was in a similar situation. For me, I dated my boyfriend for a year, and then I met a new guy that I was not only attracted to, but I really honestly liked him more than my boyfriend, which is hard for me to admit because I feel so bad about it. I broke up with my boyfriend for the other guy, but then when the other guy didn't show his interest anymore, I was left alone, so I tried to get back with my boyfriend.
I think that this is what you should avoid. If you like another guy more than your boyfriend, you know deep down that your relationship with your boyfriend is not really going to last much longer, and that you need to break it off. I am sure that you care about your boyfriend, but seriously, if you're considering breaking up with him, it's time to just do it. You may be afraid to hurt him, or that you will get hurt, and yes this will happen, but it's better than staying with him just so that you're not alone or so that you're not hurt. And please don't get back with your boyfriend solely because the other guy rejects you. (not saying he will, but if he does, i mean.) I know that you like both of them, but like the other person that answered said, you probably shouldn't be with either of these guys. The one guy - your boyfriend - just doesn't do it for you (since you aren't 100% dedicated to him), so you probably shouldn't waste more time with him. The other guy - your boyfriend's friend - is pretty much playing games. "he didn't even mention the idea of the two of us dating." but "we started getting touchy, then i find out he tells my boyfriend lies about my boyfriend"...does this really sound like boyfriend material?
My suggestion is that you stay single for a while until you find a guy that you really like that likes you back.
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Well, you know that him being dishonest to you is wrong. And it's hard to be in a relationship with someone you don't trust, so I think you already know the answer to your question. He hid it because he knew it was wrong. It's definitely not fair of him to make this group about you on facebook. It's really rude and completely shady that he would keep it available for his friends to see but hidden from you. I think that you should confront him about it again. Tell him that you know that he had the group about you, because you could see it before he made it private. (don't even mention that your friend showed it to you.) And see what he says. If he still denies it, tell him that you know he's lying and that you're upset that he's hiding it from you. Tell him that it also upset you that he's posting personal stuff about your relationship for everyone to see, and that it's really unfair that he doesn't even admit it to you that it exists, on top of that. If he still denies it, then you need to give him an ultimatum - he needs to tell you the truth, or a breakup is in his near future.
Best of luck!
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Thank you very much for responding to my question on if I think this guy i have a good connection with is wanting something deeper. It made me feel much better. He asked me to hang out this week after school and this weekend which is a good sign i believe.
No problem! I wish you the best of luck, and thank you for your follow up!
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I started talking too a guy, A, about 8 months ago. He lives in another state then I do, but we've been making it work. He's a little bit closed off, just like I am, but there's something about him I just can't give up. He's in the same career I am, and that's music. He's very sweet and not normally my type. Though he tours all the time, I still get to see him when I can. We have a connection I've never felt before. I'm crazy about this guy.
But then about 4 months ago, I met this guy, B, through friends and he's been amazing. We spend so much time together. He's the same age as A, has the same career as I do, but doesn't really tour. He lives near by me. He's going to school and doing music. He's got a good head on his shoulders and has a back up plan in life.
Both of these guys are the same age. Have the same career, although A is more successful then B is. And I'm crazy about both of them. I know that I can make it work, long distance with A, but I don't know if I should just stay with B. I feel like B is the safe bet, and A is a risk. But it's a game between my heart and my head and I don't want to feel like I settled for anyone. I need serious help with this. I want to choose because I feel terrible seeing both of them.
Please give me your input.
-Anndie
I think that deep down you know which one is right for you. Please, don't ever "settle." You have to be with the guy that you're crazy about, because in the end, nothing less is going to compare. Go for the guy that you are most compatible with, but also the one that you have the strongest feelings for. I'm sure that there are qualities in each of these guys that keep you drawn to each of them respectively, but you have to think of them as people. Which person do you WANT to be with, is a different question than Which person SHOULD you be with. That's the key - you have to think about about who you WANT to be with rather than who you feel as though you SHOULD be with. From my own experience, you have to take a risk, because otherwise your relationship will be nothing but "comfortable." And it's nice to be comfortable with someone. But imagine how much better it would be feel to be "beyond" comfortable... to be head over heels, always-on-your toes, completely and utterly in love. I can't tell you who to choose, because I'm sure that both of these guys are great for you in different ways. But, I think you know what I'm getting at. Best of luck!!
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Okay so there is this guy i was set up with by one of my best friends. We finally met up without her and to both of our surprise it wasn't awkward at all. We were totally comfortable and had so much in common and think the same way. Ten minutes after my good friend called me and said she talked to him a second ago and he was raving about me and how he had never met anyone like me. This was great to me. He immediately texted me and for the past week we've been texting throughout the whole day every day and he always wants me to text first and said he wudnt treat me like shit like the rest of them. i am worried though like every girl ill be used, what are some signs that he wants a relationship?
It definitely seems like he sees you for something deeper than a one-night stand. It sounds like you two have an emotional connection that is obviously not easy for him to see in other girls (he said he's never met anyone like you.) and that's what I think makes this seem like it could turn into a relationship.
Could there be potential for a relationship? Yes. You met a guy that you get along great with, and he raved about you to his friend. You have a lot in common and he sees something unique in you that he doesn't see in anybody else. You two have been talking all day everyday. This means that he is more than likely interested in you. Will there be a relationship? It could go either way.
Why does he always want you to text first? That seems a little strange. Maybe he's insecure and thinks that he likes you more than you like him, and therefore he would feel better about the situation if you took initiative to talk to him first. I think you should let him know that you really like it when he talks to you so that maybe he will feel more comfortable talking to you first.
Did he treat girls badly in the past? If he did, that's not a good sign. But, sometimes players can change when they meet the right girl, and it sounds like you could be more than "just another girl" to this guy. Were you the one that was mistreated in the past? If so, it doesn't mean that all guys will treat you like that. Lots of guys are like that, but there are a few in this world that really do treat the girl they like extremely well. Hopefully you've found one that will treat you how you deserve to be treated. Only time will tell, but give him a chance and don't assume that he is just like all the rest. Who knows?! You may have found a real keeper.
I'd say that for now, you should keep talking to him each day and make some more plans to spend time together and get to know each other better. Go out with him a few more times, and if things go well and you're still not sure of how he thinks of you, sit him down and ask him about where you stand. Sometimes being straightforward is the best way to find out what he wants from you. Hopefully things will come naturally from there. Good luck!
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I'm 20/f, my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 3 years. We've had our ups and downs, but we've always worked out. Basically, he's done a lot of crap to me that I just put up with.Anyway, I found out that he cheated on me a couple of weeks ago. (He had sex with another girl;I don't know her) And now I can't figure out what to do. I know it seems obvious..I have always said I would dump somebody in a minnesota minute if they cheated on me, but I never expected this. Like I said, we've been together for 3 years. He is the only guy I've ever slept with, and I love him.
But I keep going back and forth about what to do, because I still love him and want to be with him, but at the same time, I can't get over him betraying me like that. All I can think about is how he was intimate with someone else, and it's driving me insane!
Plus, I don't trust a word he says now. I found out on my own about him cheating, and he denied,denied,denied until I finally drug it out of him cause he knew I knew. So now even if he just says he's going to walmart my mind starts spinning..
anyway, advice please!
is 'once a cheater,always a cheater' true?
should I even be trying to work this out?
help!
You've been with him for a long time, but if he's cheated on you, especially going all the way with someone else, then that means that he's not committed to you, and no wonder you can't trust him anymore. A relationship without commitment and trust is destined for failure. No matter what he says, he cheated on you, and that is WRONG. It's pretty hard to take something like that back - Especially since he lied to you about it until he had no choice but to tell the truth because he knew that you knew.
Has he come to you on his hands and knees begging you for forgiveness? It doesn't sound like it, and even if he did, I think you deserve even more than him begging for your forgiveness. You deserve for him to show you how much he loves you and for him to show you how he wants to be with you and ONLY you. And apparently the way that he shows he loves you is by sleeping with someone else, which means that he's doing a pretty bad job in showing you that he truly loves you and that he's committed to you. If you want this relationship to last, and you said that you do, you will have to work WITH him to work it out. You're going to have to communicate with him, and tell him how you feel about what he did. He's going to need to learn that he needs to earn your trust back if he expects you to be even remotely at peace with your relationship.
I think that the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" can be true or false. It depends on a lot of things - but if he cheated on you, it means that his heart is not with you 100%. It means that he's not committed to his relationship with you. Ask yourself - Is this the kind of relationship that I want? Is this the kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with, or any more of my life with, for that matter? Do I really want to be with a guy that I don't trust that feels like he can go off and have sex with another girl and think that he can get away with it?
I think you need to end things with him and eventually aspire to find a guy that you CAN trust. I know that it will be one of the most difficult things that you've ever had to do, but remember that respect for yourself comes first. I know that this guy was special to you and that you have a long history with him in your life, but is this relationship with him really worth sacrificing your self respect?
I wish you the best of luck and hope to hear how your situation turns out.
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k my boyfriend of two years and i have been rocky any way right now like we are fighting. well things were going good again until i go on facebook and see these pictures of these girls who are 15 16 with him but they were at his friends house and his friends little sister and her friend were taking pix now there were two that were just of the girls and him and he sees nothing wrong with them yet everytime i ask him who he is with its boys that he chills with and these were taken the other night and he said he told me but i think id remember him telling me that hes with a girl especially one im not to happy with. every time i see these i want to break up with him am i being stupid? and when something like that happends i want to approach it in a diffent way instead of straight bitching at him. idk what to do any more.
I don't necessarily think that just because he has pictures with them on facebook that he's interested in them, though. It's more than likely that these girls are the ones who want to hang around with him (younger girls love being around older guys) and are excited that he was there and therefore want to brag about their encounter with an older guy on facebook. They probably took the initiative to take the pictures and he just happened to be there to pose with them. Happens all the time. It's more than likely just an attempt to brag to their friends or make themselves seem more mature. He probably was just hanging out with his boys when the sister and her friends showed up and started getting in on the action. Trust me, my sister is 15, she tries to hang out with my boyfriend and his friends all the time. It's an attention thing. The younger girls like showing off that they talk to older guys. They probably don't even like your boyfriend, and even if they do, he's with YOU. You've been with him for two years, that has to count for something. I think that you should wait this out and see what happens. Don't throw away your relationship until you are absolutely positive that he isn't committed to you anymore - like if you find out that he's flirting with these girls or anything more serious than a couple pics. (As long as that's the only reason you were thinking of breaking up with him.)
I don't think you're being stupid. It's normal to feel uncomfortable when you see your boyfriend with other girls, especially when things aren't going so well for the two of you. When my boyfriend and I were on the rocks, I felt awful when I saw how happy he was when he was with his friends, and it was even worse to see him talking to another girl. I know how you're feeling. But you're right about how you should be approaching it in a different way as opposed to yelling at him. Don't accuse him of anything; try and be chill about it but also be direct in telling him that it's bothering you. Don't let this bottle up because then you'll be more likely to resent him and lash out later. What to do right now? Try and talk about how you feel with him - without getting mad but still being honest. Make sure he knows how you feel but don't be too harsh because that could push your relationship over the edge. Maybe he doesn't even know that this is hurting your feelings, and that's why you need to communicate with him in a calm, cool and collective way. If he is a jerk after all of that, or if anything more drastic happens, then I'd say it's time to end things. Hopefully everything will work out!
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im in high school and i had a crush on this guy ever since freshman year and i am a junior now. so his sister is a freshman this year and i have a study hall with her. so she asked me who i would ask to sadie hawkins and i said no one and she suggested i take her brother. she was pretty enthusiastic about it actually. the weird part is, is that she and i never talked before and i find it odd she told me to ask her brother. i wasn't planning on it but now i think i might ask him. should i ask him since i technically got the sister approval
To ask or not to ask?...It depends. This is definitely good news that his sister thinks of you two as a potential couple, but do you think that he does? It's possible that his sister knows something you don't know, (who knows, maybe he's had a crush on you for two years now too, and that's why his sister brought it up!) or maybe her suggestion that you should ask him was totally at random. She could have even been going around seeing if many different girls would ask her brother to the dance since she knows no one has asked him yet. Since it could go either way, I think you should try and feel him out before you ask him - try and figure out where he stands with you before you ask. Basically all I'm saying is see how he reacts when you strike up a conversation with him. Does he seem like he's into you, or is he not very responsive? Since you like this guy, I wouldn't want you to get hurt. I'm not trying to discourage you, though!! If you feel like you have nothing to lose in asking him, then go for it! But otherwise, I'd try and decode his actions to see if he's interested before somewhat randomly asking him out.
Good luck and hope it works out!!
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hi i have been friends with this guy for about 2-3 years and he has liked me and i knew it... but that was about a couple of years ago... and i thought he went off me i have never reall as in REALLY loved him... but he went out with one of my sorta ish friend but she is not really my friend and they never worked out like at all!!
now he says he likes me... and idk if i feel the same... but he makes me feel good about myself and has always been there for me.. and we are really friends...
should i give him a chance...
or should i wait....
or should i stay friends ?
please help me please i really need some advise
thanks
A relationship has to be solid on both ends, and since you're not really sure what you want, it's probably not a good idea to jump into a relationship with him. Don't date him just because he likes you and wants to be with you - you have to truly want to be with him too if you want to have a real relationship.
I suggest that you tell him that you see him as "just a friend," but if you are in fact attracted to him and are beginning to consider the idea of him being more than a friend to you, take things slow and maybe try hanging out together alone (or if you already hang out alone, you could try going on a date.) Make sure you don't lead him on though, because that could put a lot of tension on your friendship - and this sounds like a good friend that you don't want to lose. Good luck!
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This is quite a long story. please bear with me.
17/f
There's this boy. he and i have been pretty close friends for more than 5 years. When we were younger, we had a little crush on eacother, but we were young, and nothing ever came out of it. A few years after that, when we were about 14, we started talking and i was convinced we were going to end up together. That year, i went on vacation, and when i came back, he had a girlfriend. (ive always hated this girl, just throwing that in there). I was upset with him for a while, but we weren't actually dating or anything, so i did the mature thing and didnt make a big deal out of it. We stayed friends since then.
now here's the "good" part. About a year ago, he and i were talking, and he told me that he's always (and stil has) had feelings for me. (He's still with the same girl from earlier in the story). So when he told me this, i got very excited because i still liked him too. A few months after he told me this, i moved to a new school an hour away. We've been talking since i moved, which was 9 months ago.
A few months ago, probaly in like, june, he tells me he wants to leave his girlfriend of 2 years, because 1. Things between them havent been so great, and 2. he wants to be with me. So since then, we've been talking every night for hours. He still hasnt broken up with her because he doesn't want to hurt her (so he tells me). he always tells me how sorry he is that he can't man up and leave her for me, and i know it sounds like a bunch of crap, but i believe him. A few weeks ago, we met up to hang out. And we kissed. While he still has a girlfriend. I feel super guilty because he still has a girlfriend, but i strangely don't regret it at all. In fact, i think id do it again.he just left for college 5 hours away. His girlfriend is clueless that he and i are even talking.
Am i "the other woman"? Does that make me a bad person? I can't take this anymore, its way too much stress. But i REALLY want to be with him. help?? Thanks so much
Well, yes, you pretty much are "the other woman." It doesn't make you a bad person to be his girl on the side - but it's definitely not something to be too proud of, because this guy is being a cheater.
He's also not putting forth any effort to be exclusive with you right now, and that isn't fair to you. I can only imagine how much you like him; and being a teenage girl, I respect and understand that you like him a lot. I know exactly how it feels to fall hopelessly for someone. But I will tell you from experience that it's never going to be what you want it to be as long as there's another girl besides you in the picture.
I really think you need to respect yourself and say to him, "Listen, if you really like me, you would be exclusive with me. I know that you're afraid of hurting your girlfriend, I understand that you guys have been together for the longest time, but you're lying to her, and that's WORSE. You know I have strong feelings for you, and if you have any of the feelings you say you have for me, you will be with me and only me, or else i can't talk to you anymore." instead of letting him have his way with you.
I can understand that he's been with her for a long time and doesn't want to hurt her, but what he's done/doing is truly wrong to his girlfriend, and to you. He's misleading his girlfriend to think that he is still committed to her when he's really not. How would you feel if you were in his girlfriend's position, and you thought that he was dedicated to you, but he was secretly kissing another girl and telling another girl that he has feelings for her and that he's going to break up with you for her? And how do you know that he doesn't say what he says to you to other girls?
To be honest, I don't think that this guy is worth it. He's dishonest to his girlfriend, so why would you want to start a relationship with a guy like that? I know that he's earned your trust, and that you believe that he's a good guy, but his girlfriend apparently thinks he's a good guy too and that he's dedicated to her, even though he's not at all - because he's slyly convinced you of the same thing. And this isn't the first time he convinced you that he wanted to be with you; he did it before when you were 14 - and he got away with it then just like he is now. I really hope that you will reevaluate your feelings for him and decide if this is really worth all that you're putting into it.
If you really think that he's genuine about his feelings for you, and you're willing to risk the fact that he could possibly do what he's done to his girlfriend to you too, I would give this guy two options: either break things off with the other girl for good if he expects to have ANYTHING with you, (even if it's just another hookup!) or stay with his girlfriend and quit messing with you. It's really not fair what he's doing, and even though it might seem like it's going good now, he's been dragging this "thing" on with you for too long. If he hasn't made a move and dumped his girlfriend by now, it doesn't seem too promising that he randomly will find the courage to do it later unless you give him an ultimatum: you or his girlfriend.
Now, maybe you don't even expect a relationship with him because he's five hours away, I don't know. You didn't really say. But if that's what you were hoping for or that's what you want to eventually happen, you definitely need to confront this guy and tell him how you're feeling. If you want to be more than a notch on his guy's bedpost, that is.
Good luck with this guy, and I hope you will remember that no matter how much you like a guy, respect for yourself comes first - you deserve to be the number one (and ONLY) girl that your guy has feelings for.
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I'm a 19 year old female, and I should be over this sort of thing. I'm very shy, and super sensitive about everything that happens to me. I probably read too much into things like little comments, but I can't help it. I instantly think that everyone hates me (even though I know they have no reason to). I can't take criticism. When I don't see my boyfriend for a day or 2 or if he doesn't call me, I feel sad and I cry because I feel like he doesn't love me since he hasn't called. If hes talking to someone else I feel like hes talking and whispering something about me, then I get sad and ignore him. If he yells at me because he says I want too much attention. I will cry, If he talks to me about it later then Im happy. I don't want him to leave me. There's been times when I think hes ignoring me because I just want to spend time with him. I have tendencies to become jealous very, very quickly; I get cry over everything; I push away my friend because I over react to everything. I get jealous when he talks to other people and ignores me. I dint want him all to myself, but I want him to spend more time with me. I get emotional over the most ridiculous things. I have now hurt my relationship with him, and I am at a loss for what to do. I need help. I get sad when he looks at other women or when I see one from his job, because I think he might like them. I just keep thinking he might wanna be with them, because they are pretty and have acne and scars. I don't bother him 24/7 and Im not always knocking on his door.
I dont get mad about things and throw tanturms, Im just mostly sad.
Then there are examples like today at the store, it was packed to the brim with people and screaming kids. It was all I could do to get out of there without losing it completely, and when I was at the register I asked the cashier if I could have 20 quarters for my 5 dollar bill and she refused saying that only place I can do that is to go to a casino. As a result, as soon as I got in my car I burst into tears. I don't even know why! She wouldn't give me quarters, big deal?
AM I really emotionally immature?
I am 18 female, and I can relate to a lot of the things you described. I am also very sensitive, have a tendency to cry a lot, and overreact to things more than I should. I also often take things for more than they're worth, and over-analyze what people say and do, just like you said you do. I don't think you are immature, I just think that you are a very emotionally-driven person. I have the same problem as you, so I haven't exactly figured out a fool-proof way to correct my overactive emotions, but all I can say is that we should probably just give ourselves a break and just chill out. Not everyone can understand our sensitivity, and we have to ease up on it or else the people we're close to may start pushing us away. Our emotions are not necessarily a bad thing, though. I think that it makes us a lot deeper than most people, and I would rather be emotionally overactive than shallow. As far as your boyfriend calling you emotionally immature, I think that a lot of it has to do with a lack of confidence. Be confident in your relationship with your boyfriend. If you really don't trust him, then it's not a good relationship for you because trust and honesty are key points of any relationship. But if there's no proof that he's done anything relationship-threatening, just give him the benefit of the doubt and find something to keep yourself busy instead of worrying about what he's up to every moment. The confidence theory goes for your friendships, too. And yourself. I have a hard time taking criticism too, because I always take it personally. But just remember that there's nothing wrong with you, and believe that you are a good person and you will be able to overcome your emotions.
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alright so i like this guy james and were in a couple classes together and during our math class like ill look over at him and he'll be looking at me and he looks away really fast and we always just end up staring at each other and looking away haha, but then in another class like i walked into the room and his friend gordan tapped his shoulder and looked at me and james hit him and looked at me and then looked away.. weve talked a couple times but i dont know how to approach him and ask if he likes me? my friends say it seems like it but i dont know.. i have his s/n and i was thinking of just IMing him but we dont talk so i dont know what to say? do you think he might like me? what should i say to him or how should i find out if he does besides just asking because im kinda shy around guys i like..
It does seem like he likes you. He probably feels the exact way you do; you feel shy and afraid of what he's going to say or do if you approach him. So you should approach him! Just make small talk with him and you'll be fine. Since he's in your math class maybe you can talk to him when you walk out of the class if you don't sit near him. Find excuses to say something simple to him, it doesn't have to be anything special, just talk for the sake of it. :)Pretend he's one of your friends for a second if you get stuck and feel uncomfortable or shy. I/ming him is a good idea too. Good luck
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i really like this guy at my summer day camp. we're both counselors but i'm 14 and he's 15. he's so cute. i knew him from last year because my best friend was going out with his best friend..our best friends met at this camp that i'm going to now. well i don't think he really likes me very much i mean i'm kinda flatchested compared to the other girls at camp i guess.. and im kinda boring i guess..plus he was totally checking out my friend. ive talked to him tons of times but i'm pretty sure he only thinks of me as a friend. my friend (who he was checkin out) doesnt like him and she doesnt know that i like him although it's kind of obvious that i do..at least i think so. well i'm not really sure what my question is but yeah theres my story!! ok well if anyone has any advice for what i should do to get the guy (or maybe i shouldnt even try...i mean i'll only see him at camp, well i guess...i mean he lives like a half hour away and i obviously cant drive and my parents arent going to jump up to take me to a guys house or invite him to my house! ;] but then again im going to be at this camp for the rest of the weekdays in the summer and that would be a great oppourtunity to hang out with him.) okay thankss!
♥ Laurennn ;]
maybe once he finds out that the friend of yours that he likes isnt interested, he will notice you a little more and even start to like you as more than a friend. i think you should maybe flirt with him a little bit so that he knows you like him. since your friend made it clear that she doesnt like him, that means hes fair game. so go ahead and chat him up, become friends, get his number or screenname, and ask him out! since its day camp you can then chat him up while youre at camp, and then on weekends or after camp on the days you go. well whatever you do, good luck! hope this helped! =]
♥ ray
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well im going out with this guy.
and i have been wanting to DATE him for about 2 years now. and now that i have him ;; im kinda bored b.c when i was wanting him. i always had somthing to do. and now that i have him i feel like there nothing else to want so what can i do now.
the relationship is amazing its just.. you know werid b.c i got everything i wanted and i feel like theres. nothing else to want. and now i dont know what i should do?
I think you should tell him exactly what you posted! He'll understand and then you can both decide together where you want the relationship to go.
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I am 17 years old and have never had a bf. People in my senior class make fun of me behind my back because of this. I even heard one rumour that I was a lesbian. I'm not a lesbian, I do like guys but I'm really shy and most of the guys in my class are really immature and just want sex, not a meaningful relationship. I've also made the decision not to have sex, or make love until I get married. Some of the girls in my class have slept with over 14 guys, and act like it's no big deal. Sometimes I get so depressed I feel like crying. The fact that tomorrows Valentines day is just going to make me feel worse. Do things ever get any easier for girls like me? Or does it just get worse when I go to college and into the work force? I'm beginning to feel like I'm the only person left with values.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm 14 and haven't ever had a boyfriend...but yeah. That's my problem, not yours, haha.
Anyways, my advice is that having a boyfriend shouldn't be all about having sex anyways..a boyfriend should be someone who brings out the best in you and someone you really care about. There's nothing wrong with you if you aren't dating someone! Like Brunette Baby Cakez said below me, I think you are also waiting for the perfect man. And, it doesn't matter if you're single on Valentines' Day..hanging out with your girls can be even MORE fun than doing something with a guy who only wants to get in your pants. You sound like a really cool person who wants to have a nice relationship, so I can almost guarentee that you will find a great guy who loves you for WHO YOU ARE!
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Well, my ex boyfriend broke up with me a month ago and we were in love and we still like eachother ALOT but he has another girlfriend and i like this guy (Adam) but i feel like i am cheating on Ryan(my ex) because i like Adam but i still spend alot of time with Ryan and hang out with him and we act like we're going out but he has a girlfriend i like this guy named Adam but i dont know i feel like i am cheating on Ryan what should i do even though we're not going out!! I rate high!
If Ryan has a girlfriend, then why can't you have a boyfriend or hang out with other guys? I wouldn't worry about it if Ryan has a girlfriend. If you're REALLY concerned, then I would just talk to your ex and ask him if he still has feelings for you. You should also be sure to tell him how you feel about him. As for the other guy, Adam, just go with it and if a relationship emerges then just do what feels right..if you think you are still in love with Ryan then let Ryan know, but if you want to be with Adam then I would suggest forgetting about Ryan. And you are definetley not cheating on Ryan since you're not technically dating Ryan OR Adam. Hope I could help & Good Luck;; ♥ Rachel
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ok well my boyfriend and me have been going out for awhile now. and he had this really good friend that he always hangs out with. well i recently went on vacation for a week and he hung out with his bestfriend all week and weekend while i was gone. so this was my first weekend home and i went to our highschool football game and his friend is not allowed in them she he went to the movies and my boyfriend isnt gonna be home all weeekend so i wont get to see him.
i dont want to break there friendship up i just want my boyfriend to do things with me and not jsut come to my house.
what should i do?
Well is his best friend a girl? You weren't really specific..but..
Okay, so he hung out with his bff while you were gone. He probably just missed your company. Ask him if he wants to go to the movies or do another activity, just the two of you instead of hanging at eachother's houses. Hold his hand. Smile at him as much as possible. Flirt. Enjoy yourself. And when his friend comes along - (if she's a girl) go on a double date with her and her boy. (If she's single - pair her up with one of your guy's friends or one of your guy friends). Vice versa if his best friend that he's been hanging out with is a guy..find one of your girlfriends to pair up with him. While his bud is busy with someone else, you and your guy can spend some quality time together.
I hope I could help you :]
♥ Rachel
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I am extremely lonely. I feel as though there is no one left for me. I recently stoped talking to my "crush" because everything changed romanticly between us. I feel as though in my town, there is no one new, everyone has someone, and all the good ones are taken. I hate this feeling. I hate being lonely, I hate `seeing all these couples in school and having no one.
I feel the same way. You just have to forget about it and think of the other things you love like your favorite sports, activities, and your friends & family. Basically: Pretty much -Boys are all really shallow and stupid. (if you find one who isn't - please let me know! haha) If you don't take your mind off of wishing you had a boyfriend, you'll miss out on being a kid and having fun you can have without a guy. Another tip - hanging out with your (girl) friends will take your mind off of the situation and you'll have fun at the same time! Good luck :)
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