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I'm Marcia. Somehow, even though I'm only 15, I've changed enough over the past year for my entire lifetime. I've been through a lot, and I've seen a lot. I've dyed my hair horrible colors, I've gained & lost best friends. I've had idiot boyfriends and amazing boyfriends. I've fallen for friends, I've had my heart broken, and I've done the stupidest things. Almost anything you can think of, I've been through it. I never seem to do the right thing on the first try myself, but I learn from that- that's probably why I'm good at giving advice. I want to be a psychitrist when I'm older, and I think this is as close as I can get for now (:
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have you ever had your heart broken?? lol your info says you have :[ what did you do to fix it? im pretty messed up right now..

Yesssss I have. I don't really know. I get over those things pretty quickly. Usually, I just have an extreme drama fit and bitch to my friends.

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soooo the boy i like does not like me. it sucks. what should i do to get him to like me?

Don't do anything to 'get' him to like you. Ha, either it makes the situation worse, or even if he ends up liking you...it's for the wrong reasons. So if he really doesn't like you for you, I would just move on.

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whats a good age to have sex.....
im 16. i want to do it. i just dont know if im ready.

Ehh I think the only right age to have sex is the age when you find someone that you trust and really care about. And I think if you were ready, you would know it and there would be no question about it.

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its my best guy friend. he's the most amazing guy in the world. he has the most respect for women i've ever seen in a guy his age. we're good friends and he has no idea i like him. he does these little things that make me want him even more, for example if i'm upset and about to cry about something he holds my face and presses his forehead up against mine and just tells me not to worry because he loves me. but he means it as a friend. when we're that close i've always wanted to kiss him but here's the problem. he likes one of my friends and she likes him back. he's planning on asking her out and being as sweet as he is, this is how he's going to do it. he's surprising her at work with a rose and is going to ask her out. to make my situation worse, i'm the one who told him exactly what to say and he was really appreciative about it. i was happy that i made him happy but i was sad that he was going to ask her out. they're not even going out yet and they fight everyday. i know that when they start going out and he has problems with her he's going to come back to me. so how can i show him i dont want to be his therapist anymore i want to be his girl?!!

Honestly, just tell him how you feel. It sounds like you two already have something there, and if you get it out in the open there would be more of a chance. I always end up being the go-to girl as well, and I know that it stinks. But I've found that when I take a chance and tell the guy how I feel, things change. Just give it time, and I'm sure he'll realize that what he needs has been in front of him the whole time.

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uhh i think im falling for my best friend again and im scared. i dont want to like him in this way because we are such great friends and i dont want either of us to get hurt. [i got hurt so much the last time i liked him] hes in school and we dont go to the same one anymore but i still see him occasionally and we talk daily. i love the guy to death and if anyone did anything to hurt him id kick their ass. ok well hes bi, he told me, which im totally cool with. but like i dont know i think that im falling for him and i havent seen him in over a month but i will thursday and im so scared that i like him. he has a tendecy of flirting with me in particular so i can never tell if he likes me. hes always told me that he only likes me as a friend but then again hes never seen me in a bathing suit lol. i need help. please someone help me out here. i dont know what to do and im pretty sure he doesnt like me. what could have changed in all this time?


Yikes, this is a tough situation. But I can honestly say that I have been in your shoes. If your friend flirts and stuff all the time, it's likely that nothing has changed and that's just what it is again. But I know it's so hard not to fall for someone that you care about so much, and that you know cares about you. I think that if your friendship means that much to you and you don't want to mess it up, you should stay just friends. But, sometimes you have to take risks, you know? Just tell your best friend how you feel, and I am sure that he will understand.

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15/f
Ok well i have two best friends. Let's call them Anna and Austin. Well, I've liked Austin for the longest time and he likes me. Like we reeeeally like each other. The only problem is that our best friend Anna, who I've been best friends with for 10 years, likes Austin too. And me & Austin really act like we're dating. We just don't kiss in front of Anna. And she's telling us that if we want to be together, then we should because she'll get over it. But I can tell that she's lying. And I really want to go out with him and actually have the promise of a relationship, but i don't want to hurt Anna. And some of my other friends that I've talked to about this situation, keep telling us to go out for goodness sake because they've known for months that something was going to happen. And know its finally so ridiculously close, and the biggest road block is in the way. I just want to know what to do because I can't wait until Anna gets over him to go out with him, because that could take months. Help?!?!

If I were in your situation, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings either. I think the best thing to do would talk to Anna about it, and tell her to be absolutely and completely honest. Nothing's ever going to be figured out unless she tells you how she really feels. Maybe the best thing would be for you and Austin to actually start dating, so Anna can get over him. If Anna's giving you permission to date him, she can't really get mad. Also, I'm sure if you really don't want to date Austin because of the chance of hurting Anna, you could wait until you're sur she's over him. I'm sure if Austin really cares about you, he'll understand. Hope that helps :)

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Last night, my boyfriend and I went to his cousin's house. His cousin was there with this girl [she was wearing a skirt]. My boyfriend & I were sitting on a different couch than his cousin & the girl. Well from where we were sitting you could basically see up her skirt if you looked real hard. I look over at my boyfriend and he's like staring right up her skirt. It really pissed me off what do you think the proper way is to deal with this? Of course he denies it but I know he was.

I don't think it's really a big deal. Guys do stuff like that all the time, but it's not like it means anything. But if it's really bothering you, just tell him it made you uncomfortable, and you'd appreciate if he wouldn't look at other girls.



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so ive been best friends with this one boy for like 5 years. we like think of each other as brother and sister. but now i feel like i really, really like him. maybe even in love with him. im scared that it would ruin our friendship if we date and then breakup. but I REALLY HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM! what should i do?



I think if you really care about your best friend in that way, then you should tell him. It's possible that he feels the same way, and just never wanted to say anything about it. Of course, if you guys did date and it didn't work out, it would probably be slightly awkward. But I think if you're confident that your friendship could survive something like that, then go for it. I know, it's a really tricky situation...But it's likely if you're smart about everything, it'll work out for you in the end. :]


Good luck!

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Hey my problem is thats my best friend is going out with this really nice guy but when we went to the fair( I show a horse) she saw this guy that got kicked out of our school for sexual harassment and now she has been walking around holding hands with him but she hasnt even broken up with her boyfriend yet what should I say to her!

thx
kj



If I were you, I would be wondering why my best friend is ditching her boyfriend that's a perfectly nice guy for some random boy that's obviously bad news. I would probably tell her just that, too. Just make sure you're nice about it.


Hope that helped :]

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14/f

is it weird that i dont have a boyfriend? and that ive never had a boyfriend? i feel like theres something wrong with me cause a lot of ppl at my school are dating and no boy has ever even told me me they like me. whats wrong with me???



I think it's completely normal that you don't have a boyfriend, and there's nothing wrong with you just because you do not have a boyfriend. I'm fourteen also, and yes, I've had a few boyfriends...But I wish that I hadn't. It really just made things complicated and caused me to do some things I didn't want to do. It's likely that most of the couples at your school are only dating because they think it's what they're 'supposed' to do. Basically, don't worry about it. I'm sure you're a gorgeous and fun girl that any boy will be lucky to have. Just give things time, & wait until you're ready :]

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how will i know if someone close to me love some body else than thier husban

I think you know you love somebody when they're all you think about, everything reminds you of them, etc. Also, you know you're in love with someone if you can honestly trust them with anything, and you know there's nothing they could do to make you feel differently about them. But if you're married, or the person you think you love is married, I would really think about things. Love is a crazy thing, and sometimes it's mistaken for just a whole bunch of like. So, before you make any moves, just make sure it's the right thing & you're really in love. I don't know if I understand what you're asking, exactly, but I wish you all the best & I hope I helped you :]

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there is this guy, i think that am inlove with. every time i seens him ,i get this frightful feeling. i also think that he feel the same way about me, but he try hiding it. do u think that, we could end up haveing a relationship? am 28year and i live in Gaudeloupe



Yes, I'm sure you two could have a relationship.
Maybe you should try showing him how you feel more, because guys definately can't read minds.
If he's in love with you & show him you're in love with him, then he'll eventually come along and tell you how he feels :]

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am a very bad dreamer. i don!t no why i offent dream of bad things witch some time come true.so why do u think that happen to me why i dream am 30 year and i live in gaudeluope


I think you have bad dreams because you're stressed, or just dealing with something bad in your life. But I don't think that your dreams and what actually happens to you are related to each other. Maybe just relax & give yourself some time off, and your dreams will get better :]

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see, there is this boy at my school. me and him are close and once in a while, i would go to his house and we do some things that i would never do. now i know he is a flirt. also are basketball teams scrimage each other often. now he is going after my teammate he will never see again behind my back and they both talk about me to each other... plus my teammate goes out with my brother! and when school starts back up, he will want to go back to messing around with me... wat should i do?



Honestly, this guy just sounds like a player. If he's messing around with both your teammate, AND your brother, and then still expects you to want to mess around with him, then he's crazy. I don't really think anyone deserves to be treated like that.


Hope that helps :]

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Does anyone know of some songs that are kinda sad, saying that youll miss your loved one bc they are leaving?..

my boyfriend is leaving for college friday, and Im not sure when he can first come home, and I just want a song to help say what I cant..



When You're Gone by Avril Lavigne is a good one, but it's extremely sad.
If you want something less sad, then Thunder by Boys Like Girls is a good one. It's a favorite of mine :)

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hokayy.
here goes.
i like a guy.
everyone tells me i shouldnt.
cause hes a major player.
but he understands me like no other.
ive hung out w/ him a couple times.
it was hella fun.
my closest friends say go for it.
everyone else says no.
but next time i see him.
im gonna tell him how i feel.
i get mixed signals though.
now hes no virgin.
hes gonna be 15 in a couple days.
i turn 14 in january.
:D
i just dont know.
help?



Well, if your close friends, the ones that know you best say to go for it, maybe you should give it a try. It sounds like you and this so-called player have a lot of fun together, and like things could work. But before you get into anything, just make sure you know what your putting yourself up for, and be prepared to maybe be hurt by this guy. Who knows, maybe he could change.


Good luck :]

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okay so like if you read my other questions, there is this guy who i like, i kissed him, and we have been talking ever since ((online)). which is like a few days. and i think he likes me but i could be wrong. i dont know. i think that its going to be awkward between us. we only hang out when we are with other ppl and i hardly talk to him. i just dont know like how to talk to him and all...i need advice.

Things are always somewhat awkward after you kiss someone you aren't dating, but it probably won't be too bad. Especially since this guy sounds like he actually likes you, if he's talking to you and everything. Maybe you should try hanging out with him, just the two of you, so you can get over the awkwardness quickly, and have time by yourselves to get to know each other.


Hope that helps :]

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hi,how do i say to my girlfriend 2 dress nice so she can meet my parents with out been rude?..im 17 by the way


Honestly, I don't think you need to say anything at all because most girls would be nervous to meet their boyfriend's parents, and would plan on looking really nice anyway.
But if you really think you have to mention it, I would tell her that your parents are really critical, or something like that. But make sure you tell her that YOU don't care how she dresses, because you like her no matter what :]

Hope that helped :]

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uhhh well i have this friend and i think that i might have fallen in love with her but im not sure. She likes me as a friend, but i think i like her more then that. I really do not know if i should tell her, or how to tell her.



This is kind of a tough situation, because it could go either way. You could tell her, and she could either tell you she feels the same, or it could just make things feel weird in your friendship. Or, you could not tell her and never know how she feels. Sometimes, you just have to take a risk for something that you really want. So I think that if you really, really like this girl, you should go for it & tell her. It may make things weird for a while if she doesn't feel the same, but I'm sure it would blow over. You'll never know until you try.

Good luck :]

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Okay, so to understand me i am going to have to go back in time and get some background and it might be long but please, i need the help. I am going to use some fake names otherwise it could get confusing.
SOO;; towards the end of the school year my bestfriend, Jason, told me that this kid Steve said i was hott so Jason said he would talk to me about him and see what i thought about him. I told Jason that i thought steve was realllly cute. So me and steve started to talk and then school was about a week till over for summer. Steve ended up telling me that he liked me and i told him i liked him too. THen STeve said "Wouldnt it be weird though since summer is coming and we will barely see eachother" but i had figured we woulda hung out. ((which we didnt)) everytime i would try he couldnt. So the entire summer has gone by and i still havent seen him and i havent talked to him in about 2 weeks or so. something like that. THen, whenever i will try and talk he doesnt talk back, like texting. So i have no clue if he doesnt like me or what. i think he may like this other girl...but i have no idea. i really need some help.
**sorry its longg =[ **



Well, I think if Steve is avoiding you and everything, he probably isn't interested in dating you. But I'm sure it's just because he's a boy, and doesn't know how to deal with things other than to ignore them. It probably has nothing to do with you at all, so I wouldn't worry about it much. I think Steve was right though, to break things off before summer. Because things probably would've gotten a lot worse than they are already. But like I said, I wouldn't worry about it. Summer's almost over! I would go out and find some new cute boys :]

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